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jeudi 14 juin 2018
I'm Mexican-American, but I Won't Call Myself Chicana
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My family was nothing out of the ordinary when I was growing up. My parents came to the US in their teens from their respective homes in Mexico, crossing the border illegally, only to become US citizens in the '80s under the Reagan administration. I was born in North Hollywood, CA, and was raised in nearby San Fernando. When I was around 4 years old, my mother worked shifts at the McDonald's drive-through at 5 a.m. when she was pregnant with my younger brother. My father worked landscaping and delivered Domino's pizza over the weekend up until I was about 10 years old. Every month was another baptism, communion, birthday party, quinceañera, or wedding with my very large Mexican family (I have roughly 75 cousins. No, seriously. My dad and I counted.). My aunts and uncles all came into this country under similar circumstances; one of my father's brothers also delivered Domino's pizza to make a living.
I still can't seem to bring myself to identify with one specific label: Chicana
My middle and high schools, like the neighborhood, were predominately Latinx, specifically Mexican-American. Most of my classmates were first-generation, and some of them were Mexican immigrants themselves. Friends, bullies, crushes, and even teachers weren't too different from me. We were almost all, in one way or another, a product of the Mexican-American experience, whether that meant having parents who crossed the border or simply growing up with Univision playing in the background 24/7. It wasn't until after college that I began meeting more people who weren't Angelenos. To this day, people who I meet for the first time in the city (I now live in Koreatown, a mere 30 to 40 minute drive from home) still tell me how rare it is that they meet someone who is actually from LA. Little do they know they're unicorns for me, too.
Because so many of the friends, coworkers, and acquaintances I've met in the last several years do not look like me, I've felt I've had a responsibility to share my upbringing with them. I was in my mid-20s the first time I described myself as first-gen, a term that wasn't a thing where I grew up since everyone just assumed you were one. Because of our political climate, I feel more inclined to self-describe as a Mexican-American, first-gen, or - as one of my protest signs once read - "The proud daughter of Mexican immigrants." But while I'm glad to share my family's story, I still can't seem to bring myself to identify with one specific label: Chicana.
The Meaning of Chicano and Chicana
Merriam-Webster defines the word "Chicana" as an American woman or girl of Mexican descent. By dictionary definition, yes, I am Chicana, but growing up the word seemed, at least to me, to have a different connotation.
While historians can't pinpoint the word's exact origins, Chicano - or the female Chicana - has been widely used to describe Mexican-Americans in the US since the early 20th century. For a while, the word was a pejorative, used to describe Mexican-Americans of low social standing. Chicanos reclaimed the word during the Mexican-American civil rights movement in the '60s, also known as the Chicano Movement, which was led by a new generation of Mexican-Americans, mainly in California and Texas, who demanded better labor conditions for migrant farmers, political empowerment, and school reform. Two of the movement's most prominent leaders were Cesar Chavez and Dolores Huerta, who cofounded the United Farm Workers of America, the country's first farmers union and a major win for the labor movement.
My hometown is widely proud of its Chicano history. We have a mural dedicated to Chavez, and our local cafes will usually have at least one piece of Chicano art hanging on the walls. My teachers taught us about Chavez's legacy in middle school, and the university I went to - also in the valley - has a Chicana/o studies department. Yet, the word to me meant more than its Merriam-Webster definition; it meant you were a woke Mexican-American, one willing to fight for la raza, or the race. Students at my school who identified as Chicano/a seemed well-versed in the injustices faced by our people, both past and current, and dedicated to combating them. Because of this, Chicano/a seemed more than just a label or term. It was a way of living, and so self-identifying as one meant you weren't just Mexican-American, but a proud, activist Mexican-American.
Whether it was immigrant rights, or just a deeply felt appreciation of Chavez's and Huertas' efforts, proud Chicana/os I've come across always seemed to be self-aware. I was not - or at least not to that extent. I was never involved in any student protest or political demonstrations growing up, and any time I learned something else about the Chicana/o Movement, I merely took in the knowledge without applying it into my daily life. I felt some guilt over this, but like many teens my interests didn't include activism or politics, but mostly music, magazines, Harry Potter and, well, boys (16-year-old me would have done poorly on a Bechdel Test.) Also, because the community I grew up in was predominately Mexican-American, I rarely witnessed discrimination towards Latinxs. In fact, white kids were more likely to be the outcasts. While TV and film told a different story, everyone in the community I grew up in pretty much looked the same. Because of this, I was more or less ignorant about the the Latinx struggle. Don't get me wrong, it's not that I didn't care, it's just that it never resonated with me the way it did with some of my classmates.
While I do now, as an adult, participate in protests, and have created content bringing awareness to immigration rights, I do not feel my political activism can compare to that demonstrated during the Chicano Movement. Therefore I do not feel comfortable identifying as Chicana, and gravitate more to the labels Mexican-American and Latina. Even though I am, by definition, Chicana, I do not feel a personal connection to the word, nor do I feel my experience as a Mexican-American reflects that of the Chicano Movement or Chicano culture.
How Do We Shape Our Own Identities as Mexican-Americans?
I spoke to Gabriel Gutiérrez, department chair of Chicana and Chicano studies at California State University Northridge - which happens to be my alma mater - about the history of the word. Like me, Gutierrez also believes the word is more than its dictionary definition. However, he also believes the evolution of the term extends beyond the Chicano Movement. According to Gutierrez, for some people, the term has cultural connotations. Because we are Mexican-American, there is the expectation of being equally as Mexican as we are American, therefore making some of us desperate for a label that embodies our particular experience.
"You're going to have folks who identify with the term as sort of an alternative between Mexican and American identities," Gutiérrez told me. "In part because of the notion or the idea or the experience of not being considered, or not considering yourself, authentically Mexican or authentically American."
While self-identification can play a huge role in the Latinx community, just because a person gravitates to one label more than another doesn't mean the term itself is more or less accurate. In Mexico, some people choose to identify with their home state as opposed to their birth country. For example, someone might be more inclined to call themselves Michoacána than Mexican, identifying more closely with the state of Michoacán as opposed to just Mexico. Not one label is necessarily better than the other; it's just the way am individual feels more comfortable identifying. Because there are so many layers to a person, there are are multitudes of ways someone can identity, especially if you add heritage into the equation. And as Gutiérrez pointed out, our identity is not always fixed, but is often fluid. "In reality, many people experience multiple identities as they go through life," he explained. "So, the first realization might be a response to something they see in the news ,or a response to a particular law. Basically, the deeper of understanding in that regard, then the more types of identities come to form along those lines."
Gutiérrez also said that while some people do use Chicano/a as a literal term to mean born of Mexican parents, some people call themselves "Chicano/a" as a way to show pride. Like the activists of the Chicano Movement, some people might use the term to reclaim their heritage - something Mexican-Americans have historically been made to feel ashamed of, either by cultural prejudices or institutionalized racism.
"You have folks from kindergarten and on who are being taught to be be ashamed of their parents, or be ashamed of who they were," Gutierrez explained. "[They were taught] to not want to speak Spanish, and so that was inverted in a sense where people were looking at a combination of expression . . . of self-affirmation."
The struggle for self-affirmation and belonging is one I've personally dealt with most my life, and something I still have trouble grasping even in my late 20s. I used to envy the American families depicted on TV, wishing I came from a home that was uncomplicated, that allowed me to see my father on the weekends, and didn't come with the pressure of having to know two cultures and languages equally. I am ashamed to admit this now, but there was a lot of embarrassment that came with growing up Mexican-American - at least for me. Whether it was embarrassing myself with my broken Spanish or feeling left out because I didn't grow up watching Seinfeld or Friends, being a young, Mexican-American woman was so conflicting, I'd sometimes resent my own culture.
Looking back now, I've realized that this pressure, though sometimes enforced by family members and classmates, was really my own doing. Though I won't ever get the years I wasted stressing over the ideal Mexican-American woman I felt I had to live up to back, I can instead live my life subscribing myself to labels and identities I feel most comfortable with. As of now, those labels don't include the word "Chicana," and that's just fine. It should not be taken as an insult or a diss to those who do choose to embrace the term, but for what it is: my own personal, genuine self-reflection. On top of the many rights my people fought for, I have a feeling they also fought for the freedom of proudly and freely determining your own identity - and that's good enough for me.
18 People Who Are in Line For the Presidency If Trump Is Removed From Office
If you're suddenly curious as to who becomes president in case President Donald Trump resigns, dies, or is impeached, take a look at the 18 people in line for succession. Called the Presidential Succession Act, the law has a long history of changes, with the last one taking place in 2006.
The first iteration of the Presidential Succession Act in 1792 stated the Senate president pro tempore would be next in line after the vice president. On July 18, 1947, President Harry Truman signed the Presidential Succession Act of 1947. This act changed the line of succession in two ways; first it reinstated the Senate president pro tempore and speaker of the House to the succession plan. Secondly, it also placed the speaker of the House right after the vice president instead of the Senate president pro tempore. The last change to the act came in 2006, when the USA Patriot Improvement and Reauthorization Act of 2005 added the secretary of Homeland Security to the list.
In Trump's administration, here's the full line of succession.
- Vice President Mike Pence
- Speaker of the House Paul Ryan
- Senate President Pro Tempore Orrin Hatch
- Secretary of State Rex Tillerson
- Secretary of the Treasury Steven Mnuchin
- Secretary of Defense James Mattis
- Attorney General Jeff Sessions
- Secretary of the Interior Ryan Zinke
- Secretary of Agriculture Sonny Perdue
- Secretary of Commerce Wilbur Ross
- Secretary of Labor Alexander Acosta
- Secretary of Health and Human Services Tom Price
- Secretary of Housing and Urban Development Ben Carson
- Secretary of Transportation Elaine Chao
- Secretary of Energy Rick Perry
- Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos
- Secretary of Veterans Affairs David Shulkin
- Secretary of Homeland Security John Kelly
The only caveat here is that Secretary of Transportation Elaine Chao isn't eligible since she was born in Taipei, Taiwan, and is therefore not a US-born citizen. While it's still uncertain whether or not we'll need to refer to this list in the future, at least we know who we can expect.
Help! My Kids Won't Stop "Phubbing" Me and I Seriously Can't Stand It
It's seriously one of the most annoying things on the planet: you're trying to have a serious conversation with one of your kids and they don't make eye contact with you once. Why? Because their eyeballs are literally glued to their phones. And while you may want to snatch your tween's iPhone right out of their hands then and there, Dr. Frank J. Sileo, PhD, a licensed psychologist and children's book author based in Ridgewood, NJ, has some answers to our burning questions about this new - and annoying! - phenomenon that will help to save your sanity.
How common is phubbing?
"Phubbing spans all generations," Dr. Sileo told POPSUGAR. "It seems like everyone is engaging in phubbing more and more. If you pass any school, take a look at the students - most of them are on their phones texting or checking social media."
And while new types of handheld technology have made our lives so much easier, growing up with the world at your fingertips certainly has its pitfalls for younger generations. "Teens are heavily reliant on their digital devices. According to the website stopphubbing.com, it's estimated that 87 percent of teens would rather communicate via text than face to face. I have had patients tell me that they text their friends even though they are sitting next to them or are in the same car."
Why is phubbing so problematic?
"Phubbing is a learned behavior and is seen as the norm for teenagers. Phones have become their lifelines and their social connectedness," he said, adding, "Teens exhibit a high degree of 'fear of missing out.' It's problematic because it can eventually lead to declines in important relationships later in life."
What's more, kids who develop the habit will have a lot more to lose in the politeness category, which can be an especially negative trait once they go off on their own.
"One of the first things parents need to do to combat phubbing is to take a look at their own behavior."
"They come across as less polite, inattentive, and distracted. When we are focused on our phones, we are not looking at people and not reading their facial expressions. Kids need to learn social skills, the importance of eye contact, and the nuances of facial expressions. Non-verbal behavior can be more powerful than words."
Can phubbing actually be detrimental to your child's well-being?
The short answer? Yes, especially in terms of their mental health. "Anxiety and smartphone use seem to often go hand in hand, according to research completed at The California State University. Light users didn't show increasing anxiety without their phones. Moderate users began showing signs of increased anxiety after 25 minutes without their phones. Heavy users showed increased anxiety after just 10 phone-free minutes," explained Dr. Sileo. "The study found that younger generations are more likely to feel anxious if they can't check their texts, social media, and other mobile technology regularly."
Additionally, cell phones can quickly become a crutch for those who are uncomfortable in social settings. "It can serve as a security blanket for teens," he said. "They use the phone as a distraction and it can also be used to avoid feelings of being socially neglected or ostracized. Some kids may phub not to be rude, but to escape feelings of loneliness and rejection."
What can I do to stop my kid from phubbing?
"One of the first things parents need to do to combat phubbing is to take a look at their own behavior," said Sileo. "We are our children's role models. Ask yourself: do I find myself on the phone or computer and tell others around me that I'm multi-tasking? Are you consistently saying, 'I just have to take this call or email from work?'"
He goes on to explain that if you don't model appropriate behavior and set boundaries as parents, you really can't expect your children to follow suit.
"When you do make excuses, you are modeling phubbing and creating a double standard," he said. "You aren't multi-tasking, you are acting rude and distracted. If one person in the family is allowed to use their phone, this opens the door for others to do the same. If not addressed, kids will think it's socially acceptable. There's a rippling effect."
Because of this, Dr. Sileo encourages parents to set boundaries when it comes to using digital devices. "You can have a 'no device' policy at dinner or other important times. You can collect digital devices at the end of the day to be returned after the morning routine is completed. Kids need boundaries in many areas of their lives, as they help with social relationships, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and providing a sense of security."
Add These 7 Wellness Apps to Your Daily Self-Care Routine ASAP
Our busy schedules don't always allow us to drop into a much-needed yoga class, but that's no excuse to make your personal wellness any less of a priority. Luckily, there's an app for almost everything - including for yoga, meditation, mindfulness, and overall self-care. Ahead are some of our favorite tools to help you live a healthier and happier life.
32 Sexy GIFs From Tumblr That Will Fog Up Your Screen
Tumblr is a whole other world when it comes to all things sexy and passionate. It's home to pages dedicated to NSFW content, from steamy GIFs to straight porn. We've selected a range of hot and heavy scenes within the first zone for your viewing pleasure that we promise won't disappoint. If you're particularly new to adult entertainment, we suggest these 32 GIFs ahead as a good place to start.
We Don't Know If We're More Floored by This Hawaiian Wedding Venue or the Bride's Gown
This is what destination wedding dreams are made of. Australian couple Alana and Nick officially became husband and wife at Maui's Haiku Mill, a stunning, lush venue that turned out to be a memorable holiday location for them and their guests. "We figured we met overseas, were engaged overseas, let's get married overseas, too!" Alana told their photographer.
The couple met on a tour while sailing through the Croatian Islands and decided to wed in Maui, where they got engaged. Nick proposed at sunrise and arranged a Champagne breakfast and engagement photo shoot to follow. He really planned a romantic day out with a picnic lunch by the water and an evening spa trip.
On their big day, the bride completely stole the show. Even though the wedding venue itself will floor you, you won't be able to keep your eyes off of Alana's gorgeous gown. See the photos now!
Every Disney Fan Should Complete This Incredible, Edible Bucket List
If you are planning a vacation to Disney World, the abundance of food options across all four parks can be overwhelming, but rest assured that these 28 foods have been well-researched and reviewed in person so you know everything here is 100 percent worth your money (and the calories). While a few iconic treats have made the list (like the Mickey pretzel and Dole Whip), some are a little more obscure (pork nacho fries, anyone?). Expect this list to be a little sweet, partially covered in gooey cheese, and just a tad bit spiked, for those partaking. No Disney trip is complete without scouting out the best foods!
Recharge and Relax: Our Favorite Healthy Hotels and Resorts
Vacations are meant for relaxing, but sitting around all day can get boring pretty quickly. Whether it's a morning yoga practice on the beach, a spectacular hike, or biking through wine country, choosing a fitness-minded hotel or resort definitely has its perks. Planning your own vacation? Consider one of these fit destinations.
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15 Supplements This Well-Experienced Traveler Swears By
For as liberating and exciting as modern travel may be, it definitely takes a toll on your body. Going the distance brings jet lag, new foods, unusual environments, and sometimes stress. Regardless of whether you're staying close to home or getting off the grid, maintaining your well-being should always be at the top of the to-do list. Building up your immune system predeparture and maintaining personal health while on the road doesn't have to be difficult. Habitual jet-setters and world wanderers should keep reading for the 15 best vitamins and supplements that every traveler should have on hand.
40 Sexy GIFs So NSFW They'll Get You Fired
Warning: this is not for the faint of heart. And it goes without saying (but I'll say it anyway), that it's the epitome of NSFW - unless you work here. OK, now that that's out of the way, read on, if you dare. Gird your loins for 40 of the most outrageously sexy GIFs of all time. And yes, Charlie Hunnam's bare butt will make an appearance (or two). They progressively get sexier, so let's begin with the sexual tension . . .
Only Stream These Movies on Netflix If You Like Drop-Dead Sexy Guys
Sometimes you just really want to watch superhot guys being sexy and shirtless - and we support that. In fact, we support it so much that we've rounded up 75 movies available on Netflix that feature the most smoldering eye candy around for a shameless movie night in. Some of these characters are being romantic, some are showing off their guns (and abs) in action movies, and some are pure evil (in a really hot way), but what they all have in common is, well, we want to jump their bones. I can't vouch for the quality of all these movies, but the actors starring in them aren't ugly. Pass the remote . . .
A Catholic Cardinal Majorly Condemned Trump For His "Immoral" Immigration Policy
On June 13, Catholic Cardinal Daniel N. DiNardo publicly criticized President Donald Trump's immigration policy and its horrific impact on immigrant families. According to CNN, since May, hundreds of children have been separated from their parents after attempting to cross the border. How would DiNardo describe the behavior toward these families? Well, he put it plainly and simply: it's immoral.
After being caught at the southern border, children are torn away from their mothers while they breastfeed, daughters are taken from their fathers, and many parents don't know where their children end up. These families are separated while the parents await prosecution, and the children are handed over to the Health and Human Services Administration For Children and Families in the meantime.
DiNardo condemned the Trump administration's zero-tolerance policies at the US Conference of Catholic Bishops' general assembly, where he serves as president, and affirmed the belief that families are instrumental to the function of society. He reminded the government of the "irreparable harm and trauma" young children can be exposed to when separated from their parents.
"While protecting our borders is important, we can and must do better as a government, and as a society, to find other ways to ensure that safety," DiNardo stated. "Separating babies from their mothers is not the answer and is immoral."
It appears DiNardo took a note out of Pope Francis's book by advocating for these families and vocalizing his opposition. The next move is Trump's.
We're Not Kidding - These 30 Stylish Vacation Clothes Are All Under $30 on Amazon!
There's no worse feeling than being stuck on vacation in uncomfortable clothes you're sick of. This Summer, as you plan your next getaway, treat yourself to comfortable and cute pieces you'll actually be exited to wear. You can save your money for vacation too, because we shopped on Amazon and it's filled with an array of affordable finds. From relaxed trousers to breathable shorts and the perfect dresses, all these picks are less than $30. Keep scrolling to plan your whole new travel wardrobe.
Whether You Want to Hike or Relax, Here Are 50 States of Beautiful Beaches
When I go to the beach, it's to relax and get some sun. When some of my friends go to the beach, it's to grab a kayak and get out on the water. Everyone has their different agendas when they hit the beach, so it's a good thing the US has plenty of options for providing a whole host of activities. This selection of the best beaches in every state doesn't necessarily include all relaxing beaches or all beaches filled with adventure, but each one has something great about it that makes it worth visiting. Next time you hit the road for vacation, consider making a stop at one of these beautiful locations.
Everyone Can Fly First Class in Their Lifetime: Here's How
If you're flying to a different country, first class is the way to go. Fold-flat seats, top-shelf cocktails, chef-curated fare, and other luxuries await. Rather than arriving sleep-deprived and a little disheveled, your international vacation begins rested, fed, and ready to tackle the sights.
But let's cut to the chase - first-class tickets are also incredibly expensive. We're talking typical fares ranging anywhere from $3,000 up to $10,000+ for a round-trip flight. So unless you're a celebrity or international businessperson, you might think seat 1A is simply out of reach. But fear not! Luckily, it is possible to snag a first-class seat without burning thousands of dollars. With some help from travel experts, here are our tips for securing a first-class travel experience without maxing out your credit card. Another glass of Champagne, please?
- Miles, miles, miles. Save them! You can find excellent deals on first-class seats with miles. Even if you're not an avid traveler, it is possible to rack up enough miles over time. Remember that with most airlines, your miles will expire if there isn't any account activity in a predetermined amount of time. If you fly at least once or twice a year, you'll be good to go. To avoid the risk all together, consider an airline without a mileage expiration date (like Delta).
- Get carded. Consider a travel credit card with a generous sign-up bonus. Saving 120,000 miles for a round-trip first-class ticket to Europe might sound steep if you don't fly a lot, but when you get half of them simply by signing up, it feels much more attainable.
- Hunt for special offers. Most credit cards will run temporary promotions that double (or more) the standard sign-up bonus. And don't limit your search to only airline credit cards. Many cards have partnerships with airlines and will allow you to transfer your points into miles. Some even offer airport lounge access - totally worth it if you're a frequent flier.
- Can I charge that? Amie O'Shaughnessy, founder and CEO of Ciao Bambino, reminds travelers that unexpected things can be charged. "Choose the card that has the most airline relationships and at least offers one-to-one conversions for points to miles, and charge everything on it. Property tax, DMV fee, doctors, home and personal service providers - everyone takes cards these days, so take advantage of that. Miles can accumulate fast."
- Make a transfer. Check to see if your current credit card allows you transfer points into miles. Clem Bason, CEO of goSeek.com and the former president of Hotwire, advises researching the transfer policies first, as it's favorable for some airlines and less so for others.
- Get creative with Google Flights. Rob Harper of Costa Rican Vacations suggests opening up your search to find the best deal. "Rather than selecting an arrival city, search best price on business/first class by selecting the region. For example, if you're heading to Spain, rather than searching for business class flights to Madrid or Barcelona, use the "Search Europe" feature to see if you can simply get to the continent on a cheaper first-class rate. Then, you can just take a 'puddle jumper' to your primary destination."
- Keep your eye on the deals. Bason recommends regularly checking for sales year round. "The big international airlines typically have [sales] once or twice a year. American and British Airways are famous for it. When those airlines launch the fare sale, use Google Flights to scan travel dates to find the best prices."
- Go through a travel agent. Alex Dalton of Travel With Alex, Inc. advises, "Look for an agency that has a preferred relationship with a consolidator that does international first-class travel. They have access to deals that can blow away published fares. The consolidator won't work with the public, so you have to use a travel agent to get those deals."
- Go cruising. If you're planning on setting sail once you arrive at your destination, ask the cruise line if they can offer any special rates on first-class airfare. Dalton adds, "The cruise lines strike deals with airlines to get reduced business and first-class tickets to sell to their clients that sail with them."
- When all else fails, just ask! Mery Calderon of Kuoda Travel encourages travelers to remember the power of a smile. "If you're a frequent flyer on a particular airline, but don't have top status, try your luck at asking! Show up early, look presentable, and request a complimentary upgrade. A sunny attitude and little luck can go a long way (and yes, it does happen!)."
5 Overlooked Reasons Marriages Fail
Marriage success is not attained by luck. It requires hard work and patience, as well as a lot of reflection. By being mindful of how satisfied you are in your relationship in addition to being aware of how your partner feels, you'll be able to stop problems before they make a heavy impact. The reasons marriages fail aren't always so obvious, either, which is why you need to be tuned in at all times to be able to identify any issues. If things aren't so smooth with your husband or wife right now, here are five possible reasons to not overlook.
1. You forgot about friendship.
Remember when your husband or wife was once your best friend? You spent hours talking about almost everything and felt so lucky that you married someone you loved hanging out with. So, what happened? Over the years, life and its responsibilities got in the way and you lost sight of what was once a significant pillar of your relationship. You stopped being friends in place of being partners, parents, or housemates.
2. You expected it to keep working without any effort.
Marriage will always require work, especially the longer you've been together. Just because you two aren't fighting doesn't mean there isn't room for improvement. Remaining comfortable for too long isn't the best for relationships, either. You need to change things up occasionally even before things are looking stagnant to keep things fresh and exciting. Maintaining intimacy is also an important factor in making a marriage last since the connection two people share during sex goes beyond physical.
3. You forgot who they fell in love with.
No one is the same person they were at the altar, but it's important to remember the characteristics your partner loved you for in the beginning. Not everyone can continue being that spontaneous adventurer, but if spontaneity is what first hooked them, suggest fun activities for you to do together on a whim. Just because we all grow up doesn't mean we have to lose who we were. And I'm not talking about your crazy party-going days - there are ways to channel your fun-loving spirit without having to relive those exact memories. It's healthy to remind him or her that you still have some of their favorite qualities.
4. You let things go unaddressed for too long.
Marriages don't fail overnight. Chances are that the signs were there for years but neither of you had the courage to bring it up or didn't think it was important enough to discuss. When you continuously sweep things under the rug, it will eventually accumulate to be something larger. Good communication is a huge reason relationships are successful. Issues are addressed as soon as they appear and don't resurface down the road. If you're unhappy in your relationship, for example, how will things get any better if you keep that to yourself?
5. It was wrong from the start.
Maybe you both rushed into things or you fell more in love with how he or she looked on paper than who they really were. When you set yourself up for failure, your marriage doesn't miraculously become a dream partnership. That's not to say that there aren't exceptions, but you'll have that much more difficulty over the years when you already have obstacles right off the bat. It's important to not stay in your marriage for the wrong reasons, either.
10 Student-Teacher Relationships That Cross the Line
At what point does it become acceptable for a student to date a teacher? It's obviously a no-no if the student is underage, but some colleges have banned student-teacher sex completely, even between consenting adults. For years, the topic has fascinated filmmakers and viewers alike. Some are particularly racy takes on these scandals, like the film A Teacher, while other affairs are explained more easily - Drew Barrymore is an undercover reporter in Never Been Kissed, therefore technically fair game ( . . . still a little shady). Here are student-teacher liaisons that cross the line from cute to questionable.
39 Mother-Daughter Tattoo Ideas to Show Mom How Much You Care
Your mom is one of your very best friends - sure, you got in little squabbles over SOs and eye makeup when you were 13, but years later, you couldn't be closer. You're so thankful for the lady who brought you into this world, and nothing compares to the bond you have with her. To seal your appreciation for each other, you've decided to get matching ink. Congrats! Here are 39 ideas to fuel your mother-daughter tattoo inspiration . . . because there's no one you love more.
The 10 Best Places to Go For Moms Who Want to Vacation All by Themselves
I was kayaking around Anacapa Island off the coast of Ventura, CA. The setting was stunning, but I was more focused on what - or rather, who - wasn't there: my 2-year-old daughter, Lucy, who was over 3,000 miles away in New Jersey with her babysitter. I felt guilty when I initially decided to go on the trip, but there was no way I could say no. I had always wanted to visit, and while the islands are family friendly, I knew Lucy wouldn't be up for things like hiking or kayaking. Besides, I didn't want to take the trip for her. I wanted to take the trip for myself.
I'm a single mom, and I don't have family nearby. That meant I needed to hire a babysitter for three days. I went back and forth about going a ridiculous number of times, but as I sat on the water, the waves lapping at my kayak, I was so thankful. Sure, I missed Lucy, but I hadn't realized how much I had missed myself. I hadn't kayaked since well before she was born, even though I used to lead kayak expeditions when I was in college. I had missed allowing my thoughts to unfold without interruption. I had missed letting myself set the schedule.
When I came back, I felt happy to see Lucy and happy in my own skin. I felt more energized, more relaxed, and absolutely certain that a solo mom trip isn't bad - it's wonderful. To be totally honestly, I think that alone time made me a better parent. It made me more aware of my own needs, more appreciative of the bond Lucy and I have, and thankful that the "old" me is still there. And I can't wait to plan another trip, so if you're also in need of a little getaway, keep reading for 10 of the best places you can travel to - all by yourself.
85 Types of Kisses Everyone Should Experience at Least Once
This Summer, maybe you'll get lucky enough to have the kiss of a lifetime. To give you an idea of how you should make the most of the season of sandy kisses and Summer lovin', we bring you some of our favorite kissing GIFs - from sweet and innocent to hot and heavy - for every relationship status. Think of it as your kiss bucket list. Here are 85 examples of the best kinds of kisses. Let's get smooching!
If These 22 Things Described Your Relationship, You Should Be HAPPY You Broke Up
Nobody ever jumps for joy after going through a breakup - we're not going to pretend that you should in any way be celebrating the end of your relationship with Champagne and toasts. Even when everyone around you says that you made the right choice, it can still be hard to let go. I'm speaking from legitimate experience when I say that I get it. When you're still reeling from the breakup, and after you put so much into the relationship, it's easy to begin to question why you're letting it go and moving on. These are the 22 signs that you did in fact make the right choice to end things - read 'em and rest a little bit easier, then start making moves to move on!
- You always feared that they would leave you.
- You had more admiration for other couples than you did yourself and your SO.
- When you think back on what the relationship was like, the bad memories come up first.
- Jealousy was a major dynamic between the two of you.
- They made you feel bad for the things you're interested in.
- You didn't feel like they supported your career goals.
- You lost friends because of the relationship.
- There was a constant struggle for superiority; the two of you were never equals.
- Either of you would divulge that they missed the "old version" of the other.
- You didn't feel comfortable around their family, or vice versa.
- You felt like you had to hide an aspect of who you are to maintain their approval.
- Either of you had to vie for affection.
- You or they were constantly worried about what the other was doing when you were apart.
- Even small conflicts turned into tumultuous arguments.
- There were double standards - things that one of you could do that the other couldn't.
- Either of you were continually threatening to end the relationship.
- The relationship more often felt draining than it did uplifting.
- Your friends and family think the two of you are better off apart.
- You depended more on others for emotional support than you did your significant other.
- You often found yourself lashing out at your partner, sometimes without really knowing why.
- Your lives never fully (or easily) melded together.
- You were more often worried about your future together than you were excited for it.
Help! My Kids Won't Stop "Phubbing" Me and I Seriously Can't Stand It
It's seriously one of the most annoying things on the planet: you're trying to have a serious conversation with one of your kids and they don't make eye contact with you once. Why? Because their eyeballs are literally glued to their phones. And while you may want to snatch your tween's iPhone right out of their hands then and there, Dr. Frank J. Sileo, PhD, a licensed psychologist and children's book author based in Ridgewood, NJ, has some answers to our burning questions about this new - and annoying! - phenomenon that will help to save your sanity.
How common is phubbing?
"Phubbing spans all generations," Dr. Sileo told POPSUGAR. "It seems like everyone is engaging in phubbing more and more. If you pass any school, take a look at the students - most of them are on their phones texting or checking social media."
And while new types of handheld technology have made our lives so much easier, growing up with the world at your fingertips certainly has its pitfalls for younger generations. "Teens are heavily reliant on their digital devices. According to the website stopphubbing.com, it's estimated that 87 percent of teens would rather communicate via text than face to face. I have had patients tell me that they text their friends even though they are sitting next to them or are in the same car."
Why is phubbing so problematic?
"Phubbing is a learned behavior and is seen as the norm for teenagers. Phones have become their lifelines and their social connectedness," he said, adding, "Teens exhibit a high degree of 'fear of missing out.' It's problematic because it can eventually lead to declines in important relationships later in life."
What's more, kids who develop the habit will have a lot more to lose in the politeness category, which can be an especially negative trait once they go off on their own.
"One of the first things parents need to do to combat phubbing is to take a look at their own behavior."
"They come across as less polite, inattentive, and distracted. When we are focused on our phones, we are not looking at people and not reading their facial expressions. Kids need to learn social skills, the importance of eye contact, and the nuances of facial expressions. Non-verbal behavior can be more powerful than words."
Can phubbing actually be detrimental to your child's well-being?
The short answer? Yes, especially in terms of their mental health. "Anxiety and smartphone use seem to often go hand in hand, according to research completed at The California State University. Light users didn't show increasing anxiety without their phones. Moderate users began showing signs of increased anxiety after 25 minutes without their phones. Heavy users showed increased anxiety after just 10 phone-free minutes," explained Dr. Sileo. "The study found that younger generations are more likely to feel anxious if they can't check their texts, social media, and other mobile technology regularly."
Additionally, cell phones can quickly become a crutch for those who are uncomfortable in social settings. "It can serve as a security blanket for teens," he said. "They use the phone as a distraction and it can also be used to avoid feelings of being socially neglected or ostracized. Some kids may phub not to be rude, but to escape feelings of loneliness and rejection."
What can I do to stop my kid from phubbing?
"One of the first things parents need to do to combat phubbing is to take a look at their own behavior," said Sileo. "We are our children's role models. Ask yourself: do I find myself on the phone or computer and tell others around me that I'm multi-tasking? Are you consistently saying, 'I just have to take this call or email from work?'"
He goes on to explain that if you don't model appropriate behavior and set boundaries as parents, you really can't expect your children to follow suit.
"When you do make excuses, you are modeling phubbing and creating a double standard," he said. "You aren't multi-tasking, you are acting rude and distracted. If one person in the family is allowed to use their phone, this opens the door for others to do the same. If not addressed, kids will think it's socially acceptable. There's a rippling effect."
Because of this, Dr. Sileo encourages parents to set boundaries when it comes to using digital devices. "You can have a 'no device' policy at dinner or other important times. You can collect digital devices at the end of the day to be returned after the morning routine is completed. Kids need boundaries in many areas of their lives, as they help with social relationships, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and providing a sense of security."
5 Reasons to Stop Being a Screen Time Cop
Parents fret about their kids spending too much time with digital devices, but many don't realize that their efforts to limit screen time can backfire. Experts have reversed earlier guidelines about screen time, and recent research suggests that strict time-based rules can be harmful.
Most notably, last Fall the American Association of Pediatrics backed down from their famous 2x2 screen time rules: no screens in the first two years, and no more than two hours a day for children 2 and older. After 20 years and a digital revolution, now they suggest a bigger picture "family media plan" rather than narrow time-based rules. Common Sense Media and Lisa Guernsey from New America also suggest this more balanced, holistic approach that takes into account family context and the media content kids are engaged with.
Lurking beneath this new consensus is the reality that many parents have faced for decades. Clocking screen time is not only difficult, but can cause negative family dynamics. Here are five ways that time-based rules can backfire, and how parents can approach things differently.
1. Your Kids Resent You
Screen time rules are a source of tension. Some kids may be just fine with time limits on their screens, but I expect most kids resent them. Parents have described to me how their kids respond with anger and even violence. Kids know their parents are just as tied to their digital devices as they are. As kids enter their tween and teen years, parents are an easy target for resentment, especially when enforcing rules that seem hypocritical.
You shouldn't cave just because your kids hate your rules. But there are more reasons you should rethink time-based rules.
2. Kids Don't Learn Self-Control
Kids are growing up with more and more access to media and technology at earlier ages, and sooner rather than later, they need to make wise media choices themselves. Just as with food, parents need to be in control in the wee years. But when kids start going to school and hanging out with friends, they need to be equipped with their own internal compass.
Psychology Today notes that screen time rules can inhibit kids' ability to "self-regulate," which is another way of saying that they aren't learning to make their own choices about media. The longer parents play time cop, the longer it takes for kids to learn self-control.
3. Screen Time Is Less Productive
I learned my lesson about screen time rules one Summer when my daughter was 12. Irritated at her excessive YouTube viewing, I started clocking her screen time for the first time. She learned to spend her limited screen time on the most inane videos she could find. When I suggested she go online to work on a project or do research, she would innocently remind me that she was out of screen time.
Time-based rules don't take into account the quality or content of the time on screen. Media researchers Sonia Livingstone and Alicia Blum-Ross suggest focusing on quality rather than quantity in evaluating kids' screen time. Activities like online research, coding, and digital creation take a tremendous amount of time and focus. Time-based rules are too blunt an instrument in an era when screens are how kids access creative tools, knowledge, and social connection.
4. Less Together Time
When parents take the role of time cop, they are less likely to be engaged in shared online activities with their kids. Parents put themselves in the position of saying no to media rather than developing shared digital interests.
Why not watch a movie or play games with kids rather clocking their solo time on computers and tablets? Cooney Center at Sesame Workshop advocates for "joint media engagement," and it has lots of stories of how old and new media can bring families together. For non-gamer parents, it can be challenging to find a point of connection, but it can be worth the effort. Researchers at Arizona State University have been studying how families can bond through video games and have some parent guides that can help.
5. Parents Are Set Up For Failure
In their study of parenting with digital media, Livingstone and Blum-Ross found that screen time rules were a source of guilt and worry for parents, "a rod with which to beat themselves." Now that even the experts who pushed time-based rules are backing off from them, parents should give themselves a break.
Rather than being time cops, the AAP suggests parents be "media mentors," and offers a toolkit to help. Common Sense Media also has helpful tips. My own research suggests ways that "connected" parents can help their kids find productive digital learning experiences.
There's no silver bullet or single strategy that's going to work for all families, and the new consensus seems to be that the devil is in the details. It isn't about giving up on guiding kids' media choices, but about taking into account content and context and not relying as much on unilateral time-based rules.
Mimi Ito is director of the Connected Learning Lab at the University of California Irvine, and Co-Founder of Connected Camps, a nonprofit offering online camps and mentoring for kids. She received Ph.D.s in education and anthropology from Stanford University. and is a learning scientist specializing in kids and technology.
Dua Lipa Won't Go Anywhere Without Her Favorite Arm Candy
We already knew Dua Lipa had impeccable style, but how does she cultivate it? When she isn't steaming up poolside in a red hot bikini, the musician seems to seek out her wardrobe staples and stick to them. Take her accessories for example. It's not hard to see that when Dua falls in love with a bag, she gives it the time it deserves. The artist has even gone as far as to say that every time "something significant happens," she treats herself to a designer handbag. And considering her recent success, that makes for quite a few handbags!
There is one, however, that seems to get more air time than the rest of her collection: her Roger Vivier Madame Viv' Diadem Hotfix Dots bag. The black bag, curiously sprinkled with crystals, packs just as much star power as she does, and though the bag is relatively formal, Dua uses it to accessorize every ensemble, from athleisure to evening dresses. Keep reading to see just how Dua wears this style and exactly how you can emulate the look.
Ashley Graham's 21 Sexiest Bikinigrams Deserve Your Full, Undivided Attention
It's no secret that Ashley Graham can rock the hell out of, well . . . just about anything. Whether it's a skintight dress, a simple pair of leggings, or a leg-baring miniskirt, she's always down to put her curves on display, and the same holds true when she strips down in a swimsuit. The supermodel has a knack for finding the most flattering swimwear on the face of the planet, likely because many of the suits she wears are from her Swimsuits For All collection (which you should most definitely check out if you haven't).
Ashley has a dizzying number of swimsuits in her closet, but all of her two-pieces have one major thing in common: they flaunt and accentuate her curves rather than hide them, and gosh darn, we're so here for it! If you're in the mood for a dose of body positivity, scope out Ashley's hottest bikinigrams ahead and then admire her best one-piece looks right after. You may want to grab a squeegee and some Windex because these snaps are so sexy, they just might fog up your screen.
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The Ultimate Travel Bucket List For Water-Lovers
Being near water equals instant relaxation for some of us, so a swimmable destination is much preferred when vacationing. You can't really call a trip a success if you're not pruney the entire time, can you? If you, too, are basically a mermaid IRL, we've rounded up some of the most incredible spots around the world that will give you your fix of H2O. Picturesque beaches and once-in-a-lifetime experiences only begin to describe what's ahead. Check out 35 places around the world that make up the ultimate water-lover's bucket list.
The 35 Sexiest Man Selfies of 2018 Are So Hot, Your Computer Screen Will Shatter
Feeling a little thirsty these days? Us too. Gather around friends, because it's the best time of the year. Annually, we carefully select the hottest man selfies on Instagram for your viewing pleasure. It's a job we take seriously - there's a lot of staring and voting involved. This is definitely our best year yet with 35 smoldering guys - some are models, some are regular dudes, and some are just so hot we don't care what they do. We put them all in one convenient place for your viewing pleasure, so sit back and enjoy the eye candy. If you're a good friend, you'll share it all with your BFFs too.
12 Teen Novels With Positively Imperfect Stories About Sex
True story: I lost my virginity in a car parked alongside a dark and creepy cemetery. As I hustled to get dressed, two police cars pulled up alongside of us. We got a sternly worded lecture from two patrol officers, narrowly avoided receiving a traffic ticket and were sent home in a way that was beyond awkward and embarrassing.
When I began working on my YA novel, Fat Girl on a Plane, I knew a couple of things. I wanted the book to be sex positive, but I also wanted it to capture the ungraceful and bumbling aspects of first sexual encounters that sometimes get glossed over. For me, it was important to present sex in a way that was free from shame, that was appropriately consensual, and that included the use of protection. I also wanted to make sure teen readers knew that your first time might not be the best ever because, for most people, sexual experiences tend to improve with more experience.
Luckily, I am not alone. The YA community has been busy creating many incredible, sex-positive stories. Here are some of my faves, along with a couple of upcoming releases that I'm looking forward to.
My Secret to a Great Marriage? Travel Without Your Kids
Marriage advice. I don't like people dishing it out. No relationship is like the other, so how could advice be applicable to everyone? But I'm going to break my own rule and say something more couples need to hear: you and your partner should go away every year without your kids. It may sound like an obvious suggestion, but you'd be surprised how many couples have never been away from their kids . . . like, ever. Constantly being together isn't healthy for anyone, including your kids. Here are my top five reasons traveling with only your partner is often the difference between a mundane marriage and an "I want what that couple has" marriage.
1. Sex.
The difference between a partner and a friend is this. And if there's one area of marriage that tends to suffer the most after kids, it's sex. Whether it's because of postpartum body changes, mind-numbing exhaustion, hormone changes resulting in less drive, or babies and toddlers in your bed, sex becomes, well, a little less sexy. But you know what can really help solve this? A hotel room, a tropical climate backdrop, and the notion that the only thing on the agenda for the next few days is drinking wine, eating decadent food, talking without interruption, and having nobody else to tend to (read: no vomit to clean). It's amazing how easy it is to slip back into the mindset of, "Oh my God, I'm actually attracted to my partner," because the daily grind can easily blur that.
2. Conversations that don't focus on your kids.
You occasionally sneak in snippets of your days to each other in between bedtime routines and couch pow-wows while watching Netflix, but you've really only scratched the surface (if you were listening that intently to begin with). Going out for date nights is a good start, but, in my opinion, it takes a few days away to properly remember that you two are people outside of kids. When my husband and I go away, we talk about the kids constantly for the first 36 hours, and then all of a sudden, we forget. And it's glorious. The health of the family is only as strong as the parental unit, no matter what that looks like, and when my husband and I aren't having meaningful conversations that don't involve our kids, I find that our overall family health suffers.
3. Exploring new things.
Remember when you first met and everything was exciting? And everything they said was funny, witty, and clever? Tack on a few years of marriage, general life stress, and a bunch of kids, and that excitement dissipates. When you travel to a new place with only your partner, suddenly everything (even mundane activities) becomes just a touch more exciting. And yes, it's fun to travel as a family and explore, which you should do often, but it's really fun to explore with only your partner. You might even remember why you married them in the first place or, at the very least, laugh (even if only occasionally) at their jokes again.
4. Your kids are better for it.
I realize that to even have the opportunity to get away for a week or a few days with only your partner requires a certain village of love surrounding you. But I'm willing to bet your parents, siblings, close friends, nanny, in-laws, etc. have a vested interest in the health of your marriage. People who love you want to help, and I don't know many grandparents who aren't clamoring for more undivided grandchild time. My mom says she now understands the reason for having kids is "to get to the grandkids" (thanks, Mom). But in all seriousness, you leaving your kids for a few days and having them live their best life with other people who love and care for them is a great experience for them as well.
5. Travel is good for the soul.
When we stay in our own bubbles, it's easy to forget there's a whole world out there full of different people, different perspectives, and beautiful ideas worth seeing and knowing about. When you travel and can be fully present without a bunch of kids tugging on your leg, you allow yourself the capacity to invite new experiences into your life, which you then take back home.
So, there you have it. The only marriage advice I will ever dish out. Every time my husband and I get away together without our kids, we come back appreciative, grateful, reenergized, and excited to reenter our blissful chaos with our kids. We make a point to get away for at least four days every year, just us. We don't have a perfect marriage, but I dare say we have a really great one. And I definitely think it's because we prioritize and value our time just as much as family time.
9 Spots Around Disney World That Make the Best Photo Backdrops
Let's be real, half the reason you're going to the Most Magical Place on Earth is for the 'gram. Because you didn't really go if you don't post pictures, right? Instead of spending precious time searching for the perfect photo spot, we've found the best walls at Disney World for you. Check out nine awesome backdrops that will take your Instagram game to the next level.
This Tiny Farmhouse on Wheels Makes 250 Square Feet Look Lavish
If the tiny home movement and Fixer Upper fandom had a lovechild, it would be this 250-square-foot mobile farmhouse, built by Handcrafted Movement founder Matt Impola. With more than a decade of construction experience, Matt's new venture focuses on creating one-of-a-kind pieces that celebrate ingenuity, sustainability, and craftsmanship. Accented with warm wood tones, a concrete backsplash, buckets of white paint, and even a farmhouse sink, the tiny mobile home captures the modern rustic aesthetic we can't seem to get enough of.
Take a look to see the innovative yet stylish ideas Matt packed into this sweet little home!
Carnitas, Al Pastor, Barbacoa: Here's the 411 on Mexican Meats
The beer-drinking backdrop of a hot afternoon or evening would pair perfectly with a festive Mexican feast of tacos and grilled meats. But with a menagerie of Spanish monikers from carnitas to carne asada, taco meat terminology can get a bit confusing. Here's the breakdown of Mexican meats:
- Carne asada: Grilled, marinated pieces of beef (typically sirloin or rib) served inside burritos and tacos.
- Carnitas: Shoulder of pork that's been seasoned, braised until tender with lard and herbs (oregano, marjoram, bay leaves, garlic), pulled apart, and then oven-roasted until slightly crisp, then eaten alone or used as a filling for tacos, tamales, tortas, and burritos.
- Al pastor: Crisp-thin shavings of vertical spit-roasted pork, marinated with guajillo chiles and achiote, then served on tortillas. Pastor means "shepherd," the name given to Lebanese merchants who immigrated to Mexico City in the early 1900s, bringing the concept of shawarma with them.
- Cochinita pibil: Whole suckling pig or pork shoulder that's marinated in citrus with achiote, then wrapped in banana leaves and roasted. Historically, it's buried in a pit with a fire at the bottom.
- Barbacoa: Traditionally, beef cheek and head that's covered in leaves from the maguey plant, then slow cooked over a wood fire in a pit in the ground. In America today, it also refers to spicy, shredded, slow-braised beef that's been made tender, then pulled apart.
Got all that? What Mexican meat goes in between your tortillas?
These Lightweight Carry-Ons Will Make Traveling a Breeze This Summer
No one wants to be the overpacker who is stuck lugging a heavy suitcase through the airport. It's easier said than done, but packing light is totally possible. Editing your wardrobe and rolling things into perfect tube shapes to maximize space takes some practice, but once you have these hacks down, you're ready to roll. All you need is a lightweight carry-on. We rounded up a list of our favorites, so all you have to do is shop. Find your perfect match ahead.
These $20 Floats Aren't Just Affordable, They've Got Enough Room For You AND a Friend
In case you hadn't noticed, pool float season is underway, which means it's time to stock up on your favorite inflatable lounger before some quality afternoons in the sun. If you're looking for a float of your own, but don't want to hurt your wallet, Aldi has some affordable, on-trend picks.
For a limited time, the superstore brand is offering the Intex Mega Island for $20 as part of its weekly deal. Yep, you read that price right. That's not the traditional $45-$145 price tag you might expect to see attached to a float this size. Have you been enthralled by the idea of a giant unicorn float or maybe a flamingo one? Well you could grab both, plus the giant swan float, if your heart desires.
These floats aren't just financially friendly, they're pretty damn big, too. They claim to fit two adults comfortably, so pick a pal and lounge away. From what we can tell, these floats are only available in stores, so if this deal entices you, don't wait! Quantities are limited and these floats are sure to go fast, so keep reading to see the individual floats, and visit your local Aldi when you're ready to snatch one up for yourself.
44 Quote Tattoos That Will Change Your Life
Words change your perspective and inspire you to do amazing things. Nothing is more moving than a perfect quote that encapsulates a sentiment that means something special to you. We've rounded up some of the most beautiful and motivational quote tattoos that will change your life for the better.
How to Not Eat Complete Sh*t When You Are Ridiculously Busy
I know I'm not alone in the struggle to eat real food while surviving a crazy busy day. Many of us can relate to getting up too early and staying up too late, trying to squeeze in a workout, weeding through a constantly clogged email inbox, furiously typing 100 WPM, trying not to neglect friendships and relationships, and remembering to breathe. But the most essential thing to the success of a day is fuel . . . and M&M's, frozen mac and cheese, and endless cups of coffee aren't sustainable forever. As I'm entering my late 20s and my metabolism is beginning to resemble a sloth's movement, I'm more than ever attempting to find the easiest and most delicious ways to eat real food. Here are some of my ideas:
Breakfast
I try to eat breakfast away from a computer. It may be my only meal of the day that's not in front of a screen. Since I'm up really early, I usually end up eating two breakfasts (one savory at 6 a.m. and one sweet around 10 a.m.).
- Whole plain Greek yogurt with berries is a filling option. I love berries because they are delicious and don't require cutting! I also love tossing puffed brown rice on top for textural contrast.
- Mornings in the office are all about avocado on whole-wheat toast. If I'm at home, I'll top a fried egg on there. In the office, sliced hard-boiled egg is another great topper.
- Microwaveable oatmeal with peanut butter and banana tastes like cookies and only takes about five minutes to make.
Lunch
Oh, lunch! How neglected you typically are! Though I wish I could get my sh*t together enough in the a.m. to pack a perfect mason jar salad, I just don't. So here's what I do instead:
- Here's what I throw in my bag: prewashed greens (I love the kind with herbs for a little somethin' extra), a whole avocado, a lemon, and either smoked salmon or shredded chicken (that I totally buy by the cupfuls from the Whole Foods salad bar or steal the leftovers off of Sunday night's rotisserie chicken at my parents' house). I keep salt, pepper, and olive oil at my desk so I can quickly whip up a lemony vinaigrette. When I'm really strapped for salad fixings, I turn to the snacks at work - a mini wheel of cheese and a handful of almonds go a long way.
- Microwaveable meals like this edamame rice are really easy to throw together and taste so fresh and light.
- I rarely have leftovers, but when I do, it's usually soup, like this green pea soup. It makes for a satisfying lunch; I just make sure to pack it properly and bring in some soup toppings like fresh herbs.
Snacks
There are so many snacks in the office - which can totally derail my plans to eat well. I try to avert my eyes from the Oreos and chips (and the mini Snickers, which are my kryptonite) to focus on these beauties:
- Radishes, persian cucumbers, and baby carrots don't really require much prep, other than a quick rinse. I dip them in store-bought hummus or homemade hummus if it's something I've recipe developed.
- Freeze-dried fruit lasts a while and is nice to have on hand when a crunchy craving hits. My favorites are cherries and raspberries.
- Jerky! My office has turkey jerky readily available, but when I plan ahead, I opt for Krave Chili Lime beef jerky.
Dinner
I'm currently taking a nighttime coding class, so I don't get home until 10 p.m. But even before those days, I would hit the gym and get home at 8 p.m. At that point, I'm starving and need something near immediately, so these are my go-tos:
- Tolerant Red Lentil Rotini is my most favorite pantry staple. Because I'm not home often, I don't usually keep raw meat available, and this gluten-free pasta has 21 grams of protein per serving! Ten times out of 10, I eat pasta like so: with olive oil, parmesan, and chili flakes. And if tender greens are in my fridge, I throw them in the pasta water during the last minute of cooking.
- The lovely Nicole Perry introduced me to this one-pan salmon recipe. It's chock-full of crispy cabbage and kale, it comes together in a flash, and it's easy to clean up. I make it on my weekend nights home.
- Millet-lentil salad dressed with whatever herbs and veggies I have on hand is another dinner staple. And bonus: the leftovers pack up nicely for lunch too.
6 Secrets Real Estate Agents Know About Kitchen Remodels
So you're finally ready to renovate your dated kitchen, but unsure what upgrades will see a return when it comes time to sell. Katharine Tuckerman, a seasoned real estate agent in Manhattan's Upper East Side with Brown Harris Stevens, says that this room can make or break a deal, because buyers know they will "spend all their time in the kitchen!"
First and foremost, "people really lean towards light and bright kitchens," she says. And although there are so many fun opportunities for customization and colors in a remodel, Katharine confirms the adage that "a neutral palate is always a safe call." Of course, it's not quite that simple! While buyers often anticipate "making minor adjustments," some specific design choices have major selling power, or will just make the space "show much better," as Katharine puts it. From countertops and cabinetry to lighting and appliances, she gives us her winning formula for a kitchen renovation that will rock the MLS!
Move Over, Nashville - 18 Reasons to Check Out Chattanooga Instead
Move over, Nashville - there's a new kid in town . . . Chattanooga, TN . . . and it's ready to charm the sh*t out of you. Chattanooga is a delight-inducing destination for the Spring and Summer. A small, Southern-charm-packed city, Chatty is filled to the brim with so much delicious food (and drink), you won't know what to do with yourself. MoonPies and Lil Debbie were created here, so you know it's doing something right. A pretty pedestrian walking bridge, homemade doughnuts, and street art galore, oh my! 'Nooga, as lovingly referred to by the locals, remains a bit of a hidden gem, but not for long. It's been overshadowed by its talented brother city, Nashville, but is currently bursting onto the popular-city-destination scene with gusto. With a perfectly placed riverfront setting and the fact that it's pedestrian-, foodie-, and cocktail-loving-friendly, Chatty is also an outdoor enthusiast's paradise. Good thing, too, as you'll need somewhere to work off all those enticing Chattanooga culinary treats. Stay, drink, explore, eat, and . . . did I mention eat? You may have to roll yourself onto the plane afterwards, but it'll be well worth it.
How Long Can an Opened Bottle of Wine Really Last?
How long can an opened bottle of wine really last? To answer this question, I spoke with wine educator Collin Lilly during a trip to Andretti Winery in Napa Valley, CA. Although he claims that his response is completely subjective, here are his thoughts on a wine's life span. "I believe that when you are grabbing a bottle of wine, you're making a personal investment and you need to drink that entire bottle that night," said Collin. "Because one thing that is happening with wine when you've consumed half the bottle or more, there's now a gap of air that's filling the bottle. Over time, when it's exposed to too much air, the phenols (or components that affect the wine's taste) will dissipate and become negative flavors."
So should you let a bottle sit out for a day or two? "No, it won't be worth your money. The wine is continuing to age at an accelerated rate." When you open a bottle, it's best to drink it within four to six hours of opening without compromising taste. The wine will change slightly during that time of oxidation but in a positive way. After 24 hours, he doesn't believe it to be good. Although leaving a bottle out for a couple days won't cause it to spoil and make you sick, you will taste a perceivable difference even after just a day. The flavors will die out and eventually turn into an unpleasant taste after two to three days. But again, what you find acceptable will differ from what others can handle.
To slow down the aging process, be sure to recork the bottle and refrigerate it. The rate of oxidation will also depend on the type and age of wine. But to avoid any disappointment, drink it within the same day if possible. And when it comes to cooking with wine, the same rules apply, according to Collin.
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