Healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is one which helps to keep and improve people's health and well-being.Many governments and non-governmental organizations have made big efforts in healthy lifestyle and health promotion.
Mental Health
Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
Public health
Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
Health
Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
mardi 27 décembre 2016
11 Things to Do With Your Kids in the Snow
While half of the country is under a Winter heatwave right now, the other half is being blanketed with snow. And with every inch that comes down, you're likely to hear homebound kids begging to go outside and play in the snow.
If it's been a while since you've done anything but complain about the snow, or if you're looking to shake up your snow day routine, we've rounded up 11 fun activities for the entire family. So bundle up, and head outside - you won't regret it!
Mark Hamill Is "Devastated" by the Loss of His Onscreen Sister, Carrie Fisher
Carrie Fisher's death shocked the world on Tuesday, and while many celebrities have been reacting to the news on social media, her Star Wars costars have been hit especially hard. Mark Hamill has known the actress for decades, starring as her onscreen brother in the original trilogy, then again in The Force Awakens. Shortly after news broke of Fisher's death, Hamill tweeted a black-and-white photo of the two of them, commenting, "no words #Devastated."
Fisher suffered a heart attack on Dec. 23, and Hamill had posted a collage on Instagram that said "Dear Santa: All I want for XMas is for the Force to be strong with Carrie," along with a handful of tearful hashtags, "#CarrieChristmas #SpaceSiblings #StarWars."
Over 100 of the Hottest Swimsuit Moments of 2016
Stars have been getting in on the swimsuit fun all year long. To kick off the New Year, celebrities like Jessica Simpson and Gwyneth Paltrow escaped to Mexico, while Kylie Jenner, Bella Hadid, and Irina Shayk made a splash on Instagram with their supersexy swimsuit snaps. Even during the cold Winter months, a handful of stars including Jennifer Lawrence and Hilary Duff had no problem flaunting their fit figures in barely there two-pieces. Although the year is coming to a close, that hasn't stopped Gisele Bündchen or Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen from slipping into swimsuits. And let's not forget Ashley Graham.
7 Ways Latinas Can Make Their Voices Heard in 2017
The unexpected outcome of the 2016 presidential election may have felt discouraging for many voters, including Latinas who rallied together against Donald Trump's many shocking comments about immigration and women. If you felt a wave of apathy in the aftermath of the election, you are not alone. Now that the proverbial dust has settled, however, it's especially important to stay engaged and involved. Ahead, we've listed seven ways to do that.
1. Participate in your local Latinas Represent chapter.
Latinas Represent is the byproduct of the National Hispanic Leadership Agenda, Hispanas Organized for Political Equality, and Latino Community Foundation of Colorado. The coalition works toward increasing Latinx representation in American politics. While Latinas Represent does give female leaders the tools they need to run for office or influence public policy, it also offers regular civilians a place to share the issues that affect them. To engage with other Latinas in your area, check out Latinas Represent's many chapters. If you're not represented on the map, then consider starting your own!
2. Contact your elected officials.
In November of 2016, a former congressional staff member went viral with her helpful guide to contacting representatives and actually making them listen to you. All of her advice is definitely worth a read on Twitter - however, she ultimately said the most effective method is to actually just make the calls. For more information on how to contact them, click here.
3. Share your story with COLOR.
The Colorado Organization for Latina Opportunity and Reproductive Rights (COLOR) is a pro-choice, sex-positive movement that fights for reproductive rights and the overall physical and mental well-being of Latinas. If you're willing, you can share your own so-called "reproductive justice" story with COLOR. The organization will only use your first name.
4. Mark your calendar for Nov. 6, 2018.
Despite the unexpected outcome of the 2016 presidential election, Latinx voters still had a strong influence on many local and state-level races. For example, Mexican-American Democrat Catherine Cortez Masto won the Senate race in Nevada. While these victories from the 2016 election are great, the midterm elections on Nov. 6, 2018, will provide Latinx voters with another opportunity to make their voices heard.
5. Become a sponsor for ELLAS.
Embracing Latina Leadership Alliances, or ELLAS, is a program that helps low-income high school students excel both in and outside of the classroom. For $950, you can sponsor a student and help them attend workshops relevant to their interests and pursuit of higher education. You can also get involved by becoming a volunteer or speaking at a workshop. While ELLAS is not an explicitly political organization, investing in the next generation is certainly a way to influence politics in the years to come. They are the future, after all.
6. Attend a local town hall meeting.
Town hall meetings serve as effective (yet slightly less formal) spaces for residents in the area to air their grievances and propose solutions. While these types of meetings don't have a direct effect on the nation at large, they are still important and can improve your day-to-day life. To attend a meeting, find out who your senators and representatives are and monitor their websites or Twitter accounts for any announcements on upcoming meetings.
7. Run for political office.
If you've ever considered a career in politics, check out She Should Run. Following the presidential election, the organization launched an incubator program that has since encouraged over 4,000 women to run for elected office. She Should Run helps women define their brands, stand up to sexism, and connect with other women in the program so that they can grow their respective networks.
3 Easy Tea-Infused Hair DIYs You Can Do For Gorgeous Curls
If you're familiar with the benefits drinking tea, you won't be surprised to learn those same properties also translate to hair care. Tea has so many amazing topical benefits that you can easily find it on a list of ingredients in an OTC product promising air growth - sometimes, with a hefty price tag. Fortunately, I've got a few tea-infused recipes that will satisfy your DIY-loving heart and, most importantly, please your hair. So grab a kettle and get ready to nourish your scalp and strands with these antioxidant-rich recipes.
The Best, Most Chilling Horror Movies of 2016
We're nearing the end of 2016, so it's time to look back and take stock. As avid fans of the horror genre, one of the most exciting parts of each new year is the slate of upcoming horror movies (a few of which have come out this Fall). As you might very well know, though, not all horror films are created equal. In fact, good quality horror movies are often very few and far between. To help you narrow down your ever-growing list, we've picked out a few highlights from the year that will give you a good scare.
The Star Wars Cast Reacts to Carrie Fisher's Death: "We've Lost Our Princess"
The "force is dark" with the Star Wars fandom right now. On Dec. 27, Carrie Fisher, who is best known for her portrayal of Princess Leia, passed away at the age of 60 after suffering a heart attack on Dec. 23. Since the news broke, stars from the franchise have been taking to social media to express their sadness and memories of the actress. Her onscreen brother, Mark Hamill, tweeted a black-and-white photo of the two writing, "no words #Devastated," while Harrison Ford shared a statement following her death. Star Wars: The Force Awakens's Lupita Nyong'o, Billy Dee Williams, and Warwick Davis also expressed their condolences on social media. See their reactions below.
Who's the Hottest Male Doctor on Grey's Anatomy Right Now?
Now that Grey's Anatomy is officially on Winter hiatus, we're looking for ways to pass the time. To help ease the pain of the unbearable wait until 2017, we thought we'd settle a debate once and for all: who's the hottest male doctor on the show? Now, it's no secret that Grey's is jam-packed with sexy men in scrubs, but only one can take the title. Still drowning in the piercing eyes of Jackson Avery? Or have newcomers like DeLuca or Riggs found a place in your heart? Get your vote on, stat.
All of Shay Mitchell's Sexiest Swimsuits Have One Thing in Common
It's no secret that Shay Mitchell is fond of traveling. The Pretty Little Liars star is constantly uploading photos of her envy-inducing vacations and dishing on her adventures in her YouTube series, Shaycation, which has over one million subscribers.
So when it comes to gearing up for a fun Summer getaway, she makes sure to pack her go-to - and very sexy! - swimsuit style, which may not come as a total surprise after scrolling through her feed. "I'm a huge fan of one-pieces . . . I love them," she told us. "I love bright colors, and there are so many amazing options to choose from as far as swim is concerned."
Keep scrolling to look back at some of her best swimwear moments, then shop the looks.
- Additional reporting by Samantha Sutton
What to Do If You Always Break Your New Year’s Resolution Within the First Few Days
You know how the gym is always ridiculously crowded during the first week of January and then quickly trickles down to the people who are there year-round? It happens to the best of us. A study showed that the number one resolution last year was to lose weight, and only eight-percent of people who make a resolution at all actually achieve it. If you always abandon your resolutions before January is out, it's easier to fix than you think.
Step 1: Reevaluate Your Resolution
Did you bite off more than you could chew? Did the resolution just sound good at the time? Time to push reset! Remember, your goal doesn't have to start at the stroke of midnight. But this time, really think about what part of your life needs an overhaul and go from there. You can also give yourself mini-resolutions to do each month.
Step 2: Make Sure It's Something You Really Want
The only way that New Year's resolutions can be successful is if you're in the right mindset. Whether you want to lose weight, shave time off your running pace, or up the weight on the bench press, motivation is key. If you choose a resolution you really want to accomplish instead of something you think you should be doing, it's much easier, rewarding, and fun to work towards it.
Step 3: Redesign Your Resolution
Even if you still want to cut your usual five desserts per week down to two, the secret for your success may be to start off slow. For the first week, decrease your desserts to four times a week, then three the following week, and so on. Pretty soon you'll be able to get down to only have sweets once in a while without missing it much!
Step 4: Set Mini-Goals
Maybe come December 31, 2017, your hope is to have officially said goodbye to 40 pounds. Ambitious? Yes. Impossible? Absolutely not. But it can be hard to keep the end in sight when it's a whole 365 days away. So plan to be down 10 pounds by March or even one pound a week. Hitting mini-victories along the way will keep you focused and motivated.
Set 5: Keep Your Eye on the Prize . . . Literally
Nothing says "I did it!" like a new outfit. But if clothes aren't high on your wishlist, choose something fun that will keep you determined through the year. Maybe you'll finally treat yourself to a full-body massage or that tech gadget you've had your eye on. No matter what it is, keep it in the back of your mind for the day you can officially become a part of that eight percent who actually tackles their resolutions.
The 33 Best Movies That Hit Netflix in December
Getting tired of the current selection on Netflix? First off, make sure you've checked out all the new titles that came in November. Now, if none of those float your boat, we've got great news. There are a ton of movies, shows, and Netflix originals that popped up on the streaming service throughout the month of December. Captain America: Civil War is just the tip of the iceberg! Take a look, make sure you've noted all the titles that are expiring in December, and look ahead to the new movies coming in January.
Kaia Gerber Hits the Beach For a Fun Day in the Sun With Her Dad
Cindy Crawford and her gorgeous family escaped some of the country's chilly temperatures this week when they jetted off to Miami for some holiday fun in the sun. In addition to grabbing brunch with Rande's mom Ellen, the model's look-alike daughter, Kaia, had an adorable day in the sand with her dad. Kaia, who looked adorable in a neutral-colored bikini with black accents, was spotted laughing and running around with Rande Gerber on the beach on Christmas Eve. And on Tuesday, the 15-year-old model shared a dreamy beach photo to celebrate reaching one million Instagram followers and looking ahead to 2017. We already can't wait for more family vacations from this crew.
What to Do If You Always Break Your New Year’s Resolution Within the First Few Days
You know how the gym is always ridiculously crowded during the first week of January and then quickly trickles down to the people who are there year-round? It happens to the best of us. A study showed that the number one resolution last year was to lose weight, and only eight-percent of people who make a resolution at all actually achieve it. If you always abandon your resolutions before January is out, it's easier to fix than you think.
Step 1: Reevaluate Your Resolution
Did you bite off more than you could chew? Did the resolution just sound good at the time? Time to push reset! Remember, your goal doesn't have to start at the stroke of midnight. But this time, really think about what part of your life needs an overhaul and go from there. You can also give yourself mini-resolutions to do each month.
Step 2: Make Sure It's Something You Really Want
The only way that New Year's resolutions can be successful is if you're in the right mindset. Whether you want to lose weight, shave time off your running pace, or up the weight on the bench press, motivation is key. If you choose a resolution you really want to accomplish instead of something you think you should be doing, it's much easier, rewarding, and fun to work towards it.
Step 3: Redesign Your Resolution
Even if you still want to cut your usual five desserts per week down to two, the secret for your success may be to start off slow. For the first week, decrease your desserts to four times a week, then three the following week, and so on. Pretty soon you'll be able to get down to only have sweets once in a while without missing it much!
Step 4: Set Mini-Goals
Maybe come December 31, 2017, your hope is to have officially said goodbye to 40 pounds. Ambitious? Yes. Impossible? Absolutely not. But it can be hard to keep the end in sight when it's a whole 365 days away. So plan to be down 10 pounds by March or even one pound a week. Hitting mini-victories along the way will keep you focused and motivated.
Set 5: Keep Your Eye on the Prize . . . Literally
Nothing says "I did it!" like a new outfit. But if clothes aren't high on your wishlist, choose something fun that will keep you determined through the year. Maybe you'll finally treat yourself to a full-body massage or that tech gadget you've had your eye on. No matter what it is, keep it in the back of your mind for the day you can officially become a part of that eight percent who actually tackles their resolutions.
Kate Middleton's Bound to Repeat These Looks in 2017
In the past year, the Duchess of Cambridge has really shaken things up when it comes to her wardrobe, and it makes us excited to see what she has in store for 2017! In the past 12 months, she has chosen edgier and more contemporary designers, as well as new shapes and styles. She has dared to bare a little more skin and experimented with bolder colors and prints. Here we take a look at the outfits and designers that we hope will inspire her further in the year to come . . .
These Are the Hottest Celebrity Selfies of 2016
While 2016 has turned out to be (for some) a truly terrible year, one thing has shone bright amid the darkness of general despair: supersexy celebrity selfies on Instagram.
From Victoria's Secret Angel Adriana Lima's nearly naked bathroom shot, above, to Selena Gomez's zoomed-in pout, there are a handful of unforgettable photos we simply can't end 2016 without mentioning. Ahead, discover our picks for the 20 hottest star-studded selfies of the year. Then, admire all your favorite celebs without makeup.
If You're Looking For Luck in 2017, Pay Attention to Your Underwear Color
As 2016 comes to a close, the general consensus is that it wasn't quite the greatest year ever. Violence, politics, celebrity breakups - in short, the world is due for some luck, that's for freakin' sure. So please don't blame us if, momentarily, we buy in to some superstition, paying attention to the teeniest, and often overlooked, detail in our New Year's Eve outfit: underwear color.
Legend has it that what you've got on when the ball drops sets the tone for the next 365 days. Want to bring in more dough? Yellow's your go-to. Tired of Tinder? Wear red for love. Keep reading for all six shades of underwear that just might make 2017 pretty lucky. At the very least, it doesn't hurt to try!
Who Is the All-Time Best Couple on Grey's Anatomy?
Over the years, we've seen countless couples fall in love on Grey's Anatomy. There are, of course, those iconic couples who were wrenched apart by the cruelty of fate, like the Post-It-bound Meredith and Derek and the doomed Izzie and Denny. Then, of course, there are those couples who seem like they really might make it (we're looking at you, Jackson and April). The list goes on and on, and we could go over everyone, but we suddenly had a conflicting thought: who is the most iconic Grey's couple of all time? Who will we always swoon over, no matter what? We've picked out 10 of the most beloved pairs on the show, and now you have the unfortunate task of selecting just one. Best of luck.
Zsa Zsa Gabor's Official Cause of Death Has Been Revealed
Legendary Hollywood actress Zsa Zsa Gabor passed away at age 99 on Dec. 18. After TMZ initially reported that the star suffered from a heart attack and was later pronounced dead at the hospital, her official cause of death has now been revealed. According to a death certificate obtained by the website on Tuesday, the Hungarian actress suffered a stroke, or cerebrovascular accident, on Dec. 10 before falling into a coma and dying of cardiopulmonary arrest at LA's Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center. The documents also state that coronary artery disease and cerebral vascular disease were contributing factors.
The Beverly Hills socialite, who was known for playing herself in her 60-year career in TV and film, had been ill for the last few years. Her colorful life also included a marriage to Conrad Hilton, Paris's grandfather, from 1942-1947. The two had a daughter, Francesca, who died in Jan. 2015 at the age of 67. Zsa Zsa, who would have turned 100 in February, is survived by her ninth husband, Frederic Prinz von Anhalt.
Celebrities React to Carrie Fisher's Death With Shock and Sadness
On Dec. 27, Carrie Fisher passed away at the age of 60 after suffering from a heart attack on Dec. 23. Since the news broke, stars have been taking to social media to express their sadness and memories of the beloved Star Wars actress. Her onscreen brother, Mark Hamill, tweeted a black-and-white photo of them together, writing, "no words #Devastated." William Shatner, Sarah Paulson, and Elizabeth Banks wrote a few touching tributes, while stars like Anna Kendrick shared their shock with fans. Keep reading to see them all here.
What Carrie Fisher's Death Means for Star Wars: Episode VIII and IX
The unexpected death of Carrie Fisher has left many of us devastated - from her iconic role as Princess Leia to her various other movie roles, she was a true star. The news has also left us with questions, mainly what will happen with Leia in the upcoming Star Wars films?
Yes, Rogue One proved the digital effects team can recreate the young Princess, but Leia is older in the new Episodes. Carrie Fisher reprised the role for 2015's Star Wars: The Force Awakens, and she is returning for Episode VIII as well. Filming concluded on Episode VIII in July of 2016, so unless reshoots are needed, Fisher already shot all her scenes. Unfortunately, filming on Episode IX isn't beginning until 2017, and both Fisher and Mark Hamill were expected to return. This means that Leia's storyline probably won't be wrapped up tidily in Episode VIII, and the writers will either need to figure out how to explain Leia's absence, or recast her. Since it's highly unlikely they'll recast her, the writers probably come up with a story about why she's no longer around.
Back in January, Episode IX director Colin Trevorrow hinted that Leia and Luke would have large roles in the film, saying that he wanted "to find new places that we can take those characters." Unless he was lying, this means that neither Luke or Leia will die in Episode VIII, making whatever they do for Episode IX a dramatic readjustment. Let's just hope they don't continue as planned, only with a CGI figure in place of Carrie Fisher.
We'll have to wait and see, but one thing is certain: the Star Wars universe won't be the same without Fisher's Leia.
The Most Heartbreaking Films That Had Us Crying Through 2016
This year has been a pretty tough year all around. Despite the fact that movies are supposed to be an escape from reality, the world of cinema is not without its heartaches. Case in point: some of this year's biggest movies were also some of the most heartbreaking. La La Land may be a precious musical love story, but it proves not all love comes easy. Queen of Katwe and Loving emerge from the crop as movies based on true stories, which means we'll get a glimpse at the very real heartbreak of historic events. All that's really just the tip of the iceberg. Keep reading to see what else opened the floodgates this year.
Carrie Fisher's Daughter Billie Lourd Will Return for Episode VIII
Image Source: Getty
We were stoked when we heard Billie Lourd had joined the cast of Star Wars: The Force Awakens. Sure, she's the daughter of the late Carrie Fisher (aka Princess Leia), but she's also an impressive young actress. She's one of the biggest scene-stealers on Scream Queens, and she's poised for stardom. We were really happy that she would be sharing in her mother's Star Wars legacy, but the question is: who does she play?
The credits say her character is Lieutenant Connix, but you wouldn't glean that from the movie. In fact, if you want to see her, you'll have to be looking pretty closely. Leia is now a general, in command of a massive army. Within that army is Lieutenant Connix. By my estimation, she has approximately one line. Well into the film's third act, she appears onscreen and says, "General, are you seeing this?" It's kind of cool that she's addressing her own mother (the layers!), but we were really hoping for more than just a cameo. Of course, I've only seen the movie once, so it's entirely possible she says something like, "We've been hit!" or "I see them!" and I just missed it.
Image Source: Disney
See this picture? Lieutenant Connix is not in it, but she's somewhere in this control room. That's not all, though. Lourd also confirmed that she would reprise the role during a recent chat as a part of AOL's Build Series. "Lieutenant Connix is back," Lourd said. "You might not know her name, but you should now . . . Connix is back and better than ever." Looks like we're in for a real treat when Star Wars: Episode VIII drops at the end of next year.
Week 1 Shopping List: Clean-Eating Plan
You can't cook clean if you don't have the ingredients! Here's the shopping list for Week 1 of our Clean-Eating Plan. Click here for a printable PDF of the list that you can take with you to the store.
Money-saving tip: Be sure to shop the bulk-bin section of your grocery. Chances are high you can find many ingredients there, including nuts, spices, and whole grains. This way you can purchase just the amount you need.
Be sure to check out the Week 1 Rundown - it's your cheat sheet of what to make, prep, and save for the week.
Eva Longoria's Most Hilarious Interviews Will Leave You Wishing She Was Your BFF
The scripts were great, but there's a bigger reason Eva Longoria's most famous characters, Gabrielle on Desperate Housewives and Ana Sofía on Telenovela, are so memorable: Eva is a comic genius.
We know this because even without rehearsed lines, in interviews, she's hilarious, recounting stories about messing up, working with male telenovela divas, and even referencing what might be Friends' best episode ever. Scroll ahead to watch all those and more moments in a ranking of Eva's funniest interviews in the past few years.
Week 1 Shopping List: Clean-Eating Plan
You can't cook clean if you don't have the ingredients! Here's the shopping list for Week 1 of our Clean-Eating Plan. Click here for a printable PDF of the list that you can take with you to the store.
Money-saving tip: Be sure to shop the bulk-bin section of your grocery. Chances are high you can find many ingredients there, including nuts, spices, and whole grains. This way you can purchase just the amount you need.
Be sure to check out the Week 1 Rundown - it's your cheat sheet of what to make, prep, and save for the week.
14 Sweet Photos of Gary and Carrie Fisher Together
Today is a sad day, because famed actress Carrie Fisher has died. While we mourn her loss, we remember her iconic roles and all the positive influence she had on the world. But we also mourn for Gary, Carrie's therapy dog. Wherever Carrie went, her faithful French Bulldog wasn't too far behind.
Carrie announced in 2000 that she was bipolar, and Gary helped her manage the disorder. He accompanied her to all the events her career brought her to and got to hang out with some of the coolest celebrities, not to mention Carrie herself.
Gary tweeted his sadness this afternoon after news broke of Carrie's death, and pet-lovers the world over have flooded Gary's account with warm thoughts for him. As our message of condolence to Gary, we're sharing 14 of our favorite photos of him and Carrie together.
Who Is The CW's Most Iconic Couple?
The CW has some amazing TV couples, and we want to know your favorite! Are you obsessed with Oliver and Felicity's ever-changing romance on Arrow? Will you have a hard time choosing between The Vampire Diaries' two biggest love stories? We've limited the poll to couples on current shows, but even though Beauty and the Beast wrapped its final season this year, we still can't get enough of Vincent and Catherine. Throw your support to your favorite couple here! The poll will close on Dec. 27 at 11:59 p.m., so vote now!
Takeout Fakeout: 10 Restaurant-Inspired Dishes to Make Tonight
We don't like to put words into others' mouths, but we have a sneaking suspicion that "it's not delivery, it's DiGiorno homemade" will quickly become your motto after a brief perusal of our homemade versions of takeout superstars. Whether your go-to order is a fully loaded burrito, soothing miso soup, California rolls, or something in between, chances are we've got a recipe for your favorite fix, so click on through and get inspired.
It Looks Like Kanye West Got a Big Box of Rainbow Hair Dye For Christmas
Kanye West has certainly had an interesting last few weeks. After the "Famous" rapper canceled the European leg of his Saint Pablo tour and was photographed hanging out with President-elect Donald Trump in NYC, he was spotted out in Santa Monica sporting an interesting new 'do. Kanye made his way through a parking garage after catching a movie at the ArcLight Cinema the day after Christmas, wearing an oversize coat, camouflage pants, and a rainbow-colored buzz cut. The outing comes a few days after he enjoyed a date night with wife Kim Kardashian. The two are reportedly both in counseling to help them deal with their tumultuous year. Who knew Kanye could pull off pink, orange, and yellow hair so well?
My Son, the Bully
Women's fiction writer Brenda Janowitz got the call no parent wants to receive. Here, she shares her experience with learning that her son was the school-bus bully.
"There was an incident on the bus," the bus counselor told me. The words every parent dreads. A million thoughts flooded my mind: Did my child get hurt? Did someone dare touch a hair on my perfect 5-year-old's head? Did someone tease him? Was he crying? Was he OK?
It was the first week of kindergarten.
My 5-year-old son had been teased on the camp bus this past Summer, and it broke my heart to think of other kids taunting my baby. Over the Summer, some of the older girls on the bus had been bothering my son with questions, singing silly songs about him. The bus counselor had quickly told the girls to stop the behavior, and the whole thing was over as quickly as it began. He went the rest of the Summer incident-free.
But now it was happening again.
"Your son and another 5-year-old called one of the other kids names," the bus counselor told me.
"My son?" I asked. Surely I'd misunderstood. My son was the one who was bullied, wasn't he? There was no way he was the bully.
But he was.
"Yes, your son and another 5-year-old bullied a fourth grader. They made him cry."
"A fourth grader?" I asked. I immediately did the math in my head: if my 5-year-old was in kindergarten, that made this other boy 9 years old. Two 5-year-olds bullying a kid almost twice their age?!
The bus driver filled in the rest of the details: all of the boys on the bus were joking around with each other, having fun, but then all of a sudden, the 9-year-old began getting upset. The 5-year-olds didn't realize it (because, you know, they're 5), and they continued joking around, calling the 9-year-old silly names. He began to cry.
I looked to my son as the bus counselor recounted the incident. He hung his little head down, and I knew that there was no mistake; he'd done it.
I assured the bus counselor and the bus driver that I would take care of it at home. The bus counselor told me that since the other child was reduced to tears, she'd have to report the incident. Her report would go to my son's teacher, the principal, and remain in his file.
The first week of school and my son was already reported to the principal and had a permanent record. The perfect start to the school year.
I talked to my son about name-calling. I reminded him of the incident over the Summer and we talked it through. He remembered how those girls on the camp bus made him feel, and no, he did not want to make someone else feel that way. I punished him - taking away the things he holds most dear (television, video games, and dessert for that evening).
We talked about the importance of apologizing, and not doing it again.
"I tried to apologize," my son explained to me. "But he wouldn't accept my apology."
"So, you didn't really apologize," I said.
"I tried, but he had his back turned to me."
"Did he hear you?" I asked. My son shrugged. He didn't know.
"Well," I said. "Then, we'd better apologize again."
We immediately got into the car and drove around the corner to the boy's house to apologize again. The short car ride was peppered with questions: Why do I have to apologize again? (To make sure he heard you, to make sure he knows that you are sorry.) What if he doesn't accept it again? (The apology is as much for you as it is him. If you offer an apology and he won't accept it, then at least you know that you've done the right thing.) If he won't accept my apology, does that mean that he's really a bully? (Nice try! But he's the one who was hurt. If he won't accept your apology, it might just mean that he's not ready to forgive yet.)
My son rang the bell - seemingly a million times, though it was probably just a few. I was just as anxious as my son. My palms began to sweat. I began to doubt my plan of action. What if the boy was still crying? What if the incident was worse than I'd been told? What if the parents were really angry and it was too soon to show up at their home uninvited?
The 9-year-old answered the door, happy to see my son. He'd been playing with his brother and uncle, who invited us in. (Thankfully, the boy was no longer crying and, seemingly, no worse for the incident.) My son, suddenly looking much younger than his five years, said: "I'm sorry I called you names. I won't ever do it again."
The boy shrugged and motioned for my son to come over and check out his toys. They began playing and I took a very long overdue breath.
"I really am sorry about this," I told the boy's uncle. "My son has never done anything like this before. In fact, over the Summer, he was the one who was bullied."
"You know," he said. "When you have boys, sometimes they'll be the ones being bullied, and sometimes they'll be the bully."
I smiled and wondered: would I rather have my kid be the bully or the one who was bullied? After all, when he's the one bullied, he hasn't done anything wrong. But then again, if he's the one being bullied, he's the one coming home in tears. I was teased mercilessly as a child for having buck teeth, for not having the right clothes, and then for being a "Jewish American Princess" once I did. Those experiences stayed with me. Even now, as an adult. On the outside, I'm a married mom of two kids with a successful career, but on the inside, I'm still that little girl with the overbite and wrong clothing.
"Wouldn't it be better if there was just no bullying on the bus?" I asked.
The uncle laughed out loud. He looked at me with an "are you serious?" sort of look, and I couldn't help but laugh along with him.
And I suppose he's right - kids are going to be kids. They're at a stage where they're learning to socialize. They're learning to interact with each other. And there's always going to be bullies, as much as the schools do to prevent it. But we parents have a responsibility at home to teach our kids the right way to behave, the right way to treat our friends. The right way to apologize and to actually mean it.
The next day when he came home from school, with a pit in my belly, I asked my son the question I didn't want to ask. The one thing I didn't want to hear about. I asked him how the bus ride was.
"I sat next to the boy I bullied!" he said, excitement in his voice. "We're friends now! Can we make a playdate?"
"Sure," I said. "But let's call him by his real name."
I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship. They now sit next to each other on the bus every day, and he's all my son can talk about. We've had a bunch of wonderful playdates. They plan to both dress up as ninjas for Halloween.
And best of all: my son even calls him by his proper name now.
How Filmmakers Recreated Young Princess Leia for Rogue One
Warning: Major spoilers for Rogue One!
Of all the sly references to the original Stars Wars films within Rogue One, there's one that you absolutely cannot miss. As the story wraps up, you see that the end of Rogue One flows seamlessly into the beginning of Episode IV - A New Hope. We find ourselves face to face with none other than Princess Leia, who receives the plans to the Death Star. It's a close-up shot, and while you don't see her long enough to study her, it definitely looks like an actual actress, and not a digitally re-created version of the late Carrie Fisher. Turns out that it's a combination, though it's not as obvious as the CGI job on the late Peter Cushing as Grand Moff Tarkin. So, who does play the Princess?
It's Norwegian actress Ingvild Deila, enhanced with CGI. The day the movie opened, she confirmed via Twitter, "As a Star Wars fan I am incredibly thrilled, grateful and honoured to play Leia and be part of this beloved and amazing universe." You may not recognize her, seeing as her biggest part was a bit role in Avengers: Age of Ultron, but you can watch her demo reel . . . and read her profile via her agency. Also, here's a picture of her from two years ago:
Had a great week in Cambridge and Peak District with @OForshawSwift @benjaminjabbott and an amazing crew! http://pic.twitter.com/rhhmzUcB8b
- Ingvild Deila (@Ingvild_Deila) August 17, 2014
Kelsea Ballerini's Fiancé Designed Her an Engagement Ring to Sing About
Country singer Kelsea Ballerini got engaged on Christmas morning. But if the notion itself isn't special enough, just zoom in on the sparkler she's wearing on her finger. Kelsea's fiancé, musician Morgan Evans, helped design the halo of diamonds that Kelsea's been showing off to the world.
"I had the ring custom made with a diamond I picked from a local designer here in Nashville. I wanted it to be classic and beautiful, like her," Morgan told People Style.
While the engagement ring is definitely beautiful, we'd call it a step above classic. The design features stones of all different sizes that come together in perfect harmony. In fact, we can't wait to see Kelsea flash the piece on the Grammys red carpet in February. Read on to see if you don't agree, then shop inspired jewels that'd make anybody stop and stare.
25+ Slang Words in Spanish You Need to Know
The nuances of Spanish exist well beyond any dictionary. As if the language weren't hard enough to learn, our daily speech is full of words that have been completely redefined as slang. And to make matters even worse, those terms vary widely from country to country and even town to town - sometimes family to family.
Here, we rounded up some of the most loved and colloquially used words and phrases from across Latin America. The great part is that this slang is frequently used in more than one country! Consider yourself in the know.
Did we miss any of your favorites? Let us know in the comments below.
16 Memes That Totally Capture the Hot Mess of 2016
As 2016 (finally) draws to a close, most of us can agree that this year felt like the year that would not end. It was a year full of terrible moments and deaths and one that we hope to never experience again. Of course, people on the internet feel the same way and have created some hilarious memes that might be the only good thing that comes out of this year. Check out our favorites ahead and say good riddance to 2016.
This Cooking Hack Will Forever Change the Way You Make Spaghetti
If you're anything like me, cooking spaghetti involves completely guessing the proper amount for a serving. I'll stand at the pot of boiling water and grab a handful (. . . plus a little more for good measure) and think to myself, "That looks right; we'll find out!" But now that I've discovered this ingenious hack, I'll never go back to my uncertain ways.
The easiest way to measure out a perfect single serving of spaghetti is to use the hole in the center of your spaghetti spoon. Just take a handful of spaghetti and see if it fits, filling in the extra space as needed, until the bundle fits tightly in the space. And voilà, you've got a perfect amount just for you. Of course, if you're cooking more than one serving, just repeat the process as needed.
Who knew that hollow center served such a purpose?! Since you'll probably already be using that spoon to grab your spaghetti noodles, it's even more convenient that you can measure with it, too. Making a solo spaghetti dinner has never been easier.
The Best Recipes of 2016 - So Far
We've nearly reached the end of 2016, and that means we've conjured up a lot of recipes for you to try. While there's a seemingly endless number of new breakfast, lunch, dinner, and dessert recipes to bookmark, only a handful deserve a spot on a list of the best. Based on popularity among our readers, these are the best recipes of the year, so far. Consider this list your 2016 cooking bucket list, and pick out your own personal favorites the next time you want to whip up something special in the kitchen.
17 of the Most Badass Princess Leia Moments From the Star Wars Films
This week, the seemingly never-ending list of celebrities who have died in 2016 got a little longer when iconic movie star Carrie Fisher passed away. While the actress leaves a large trail of exceptional work in her wake, it's hard to hear her name without thinking about her most memorable role: Princess Leia in the Star Wars films. To pay proper tribute to the late Fisher, we're remembering the unforgettable character and all the gumption and sarcasm she brought to the original trilogy.
What's The CW's Best Show of 2016?
The time has come to throw your support behind your favorite show on The CW! Do you live for the undead on The Vampire Diaries and The Originals? Will you have trouble choosing between Arrow and The Flash? Or are you more of a Jane the Virgin person? Then again, there are new series to consider as well. No Tomorrow and Frequency are both great, but are they great enough to earn your vote? The poll will close on Dec. 27 at 11:59 p.m., so vote now!
10 Iconic Carrie Fisher Roles That Aren't Princess Leia
Carrie Fisher will forever be known as Princess Leia from the Star Wars films, but she did so many other things over the course of her decades-long career. Fisher, who passed away on Tuesday after suffering a heart attack on Dec. 23, was born Hollywood royalty. The daughter of Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fisher, she began acting in 1975 and continued all the way up to 2016. Fittingly, Star Wars: Episode VIII will be her final film. While we'll forever be in her debt for giving us Leia, let's take a look at some of her other iconic roles.
1 of These 3 Super Cool Lipstick Looks Is Your New Year's Eve Party Makeup
There's never been a better time to fully experiment with new makeup techniques than New Year's Eve! With glitz and glitter in abundance, trade in your basic red matte lip for one of these three shiny, shimmery, and holographic lip trends.
This Victoria's Secret Model Found a Bikini That Will Stand the Test of Time
There are certain bikinis that everyone wants but eventually lose their appeal over time. Those with staying power (like a simple string design or a flattering one-piece) are a safe bet to invest in. While plenty of supermodels and influencers popularized the Kiini suit in 2016, we weren't sure the craze would last. Nevermind that, Victoria's Secret model Izabel Goulart just proved the look is here to stay.
She joined her boyfriend, Kevin Trapp, on vacation in St. Barts wearing the unmissable crochet number in navy blue, styling it with flashy jewelry and a tassel pendant. Izabel's bikini bottom was particularly cheeky so that she could show off her toned booty on Instagram. Read on to take a look, then shop Izabel's swim style, since you can trust it to be timeless.
What I Did to Get (Permanent) Eyebrows on Fleek
It's a beauty woe that's all too familiar. It started in middle school, when I couldn't stand to look at the tiny feather boas sprouting above my eyes. Gwen Stefani was rocking pink parentheses, and I looked like Harrison Ford. I had to tweeze them. Because, you know, when you're in middle school you make responsible and wise decisions. Little did I know that tweezing was a gateway to overtweezing. I ended up looking like Clara Bow when all I wanted was a clean Audrey Hepburn.
Eventually I stared at my superskinny arches and realized that (believe me, I tried) there was little waxing or threading could do to help my already barely there brows. I watched YouTube videos of women filling in theirs like they'd been doing it since the dawn of man. But I wasn't exactly a makeup connoisseur. Probably more like a festival face-painter . . .
But I turned to makeup nonetheless - pencils for sketching my misaligned arches, powders for filling in those sexy bald spots, gels to keep unruly hairs in line, and waxes for building up color. Do you know how much time that takes? If I'm being honest, it takes up most of my morning routine. I could shave my entire body faster than it takes to create one perfectly arched brow.
After all that time each morning, I still found myself catching reflections of them in the rearview mirror. I looked like I'd passed out at a party too early and got attacked by a Sharpie. I had to switch up my morning eyebrow-creating routine. "Eyebrows" and "trial and error" are now so synonymous to me that I fear the bad brow days and cherish the good like loved ones.
While, naturally, perusing #eyebrowsonfleek on Instagram, I discovered microblading. The clouds opened above me, and light poured down on my thirsty arches. My brow-brush-wielding hands prayed for a paid vacation. So I decided to look into the technique.
This alternative tattooing method produces semipermanent results. However, unlike the block-like and harsh traditional eyebrow tats, microblading creates subtle, natural-looking brows by mimicking the strokes of eyebrow hairs.
Microblading requires a manual tool featuring several tiny needles in a row to deposit dye into the dermal second layer of the skin. The pen-like device yields amazingly natural-looking arches because the needles etch hyperprecise strokes that actually look like your brow hairs. Or, in my case, my would-be hairs.
Needless to say, I was intrigued, so when I got the opportunity to visit brow specialist Piret Aava for microblading, I decided to take the plunge and get my eyebrows tattooed. What? Tiny tattoos are in style. It's 2016. And I needed some fly eyebrows, stat.
We Dare You Not to "Aww" While Watching This Little Lion Find Her Roar
A "giggle-fit" can be described as: an uncontrollable bout of laughter brought on by something hilarious, adorable, or a combination of both. It can also be described as: what you're about to experience while watching this adorable toddler try roaring.
When dressed in her new lion costume for the first time, this ferocious little animal gave an attempt at an intimidating roar, at the behest of her (understandably) laughing mom. What resulted was just plain cute, and the farthest thing from scary. (Unless you count scary-sweet, which would definitely apply!) Give the video a watch, and you'll wish all zoos were this stinkin' adorable.
9 Ways to Boost Your Child's Confidence
No parent wants to see her child suffer from low self-esteem, but unfortunately we can't always get what we want. Too many children today are lacking in the confidence department, and as parents, it's our job to fill that void. So whether you have a son or daughter, toddler or teen, here are some helpful ways to raise your child's confidence (and keep it high).
Derek and Julianne Hough's Fun-Filled Holiday Will Make You Want to Join Their Family
Julianne and Derek Hough celebrated Christmas surrounded by family and friends this year. The siblings, who are gearing up to go on tour together, headed to their home state of Utah over the holiday break for a fun-filled ski trip. The Dancing With the Stars judge was joined by her fiancé, Brooks Laich, while Derek brought along his girlfriend and fellow dancer, Hayley Erbert. Julianne's close friend, Nina Dobrev, also joined the crew for the festivities. Aside from hitting the slopes, the group also documented their shenanigans in the lodge with a few funny videos on Instagram. See every moment below.
36 Engaged Celebrity Couples We Can't Wait to See Tie the Knot
We love seeing celebrities attend lavish parties and award shows, but the one thing that always tops it all is when they throw the biggest party themselves: their wedding! From firework displays to candy bars, stars usually cover all the elaborate bases when it comes to their nuptials. And with splits happening left and right these days, it's good to know that true love still exists. Since so many hot couples are currently on their way to the altar, we've rounded up all the ones we can't wait to see (hopefully) get married in the coming months. Cheers to a blissful year!
Watch Us the Duo's Impressive 2016 Mashup Before It Goes Viral
Us the Duo is back with another fun end-of-year mashup. After mystifying everyone with their medley last year, the husband-and-wife duo have put their own spin on the top hits of 2016, and we can't get enough. From Sia's "Cheap Thrills" to Fifth Harmony's always-catchy "Work From Home," the video has a little something for everyone. The couple has certainly been at the top of their game this year. Aside from touring with Pentatonix, they recently released a heartwarming new EP, Public Record, dedicated to their fans. Let's just say, we can't wait to see what they will do in 2017. In the meantime, sit back, relax, and let Us the Duo take you through a musical journey through time.
Decades of Diehard Britney Fandom - in GIFs
There are some things that only true, dedicated Britney Spears fans will understand. Her career spans decades, moving from plaid and pigtails to sequined bodysuits to the fierce look she has today. From the schoolgirl era to the VMAs stage, Britney's proven time and time again why she's a pop icon. To celebrate her icon status, let's take a trip down memory lane with the journey of being a Britney fan - in GIFs.
Carrie Fisher Dies at Age 60
Carrie Fisher has died at age 60, People confirms. The actress, best known for her role as Princess Leia Organa in the Star Wars franchise, passed away on Tuesday after suffering from a heart attack on Dec. 23. Shortly after Carrie's death, family spokesman Simon Halls released a statement on behalf of her daughter, Billie Lourd, saying, "It is with a very deep sadness that Billie Lourd confirms that her beloved mother Carrie Fisher passed away at 8:55 this morning. She was loved by the world and she will be missed profoundly. Our entire family thanks you for your thoughts and prayers."
Kendall Jenner's Christmas Dress Will Make You Rethink Your New Year's Eve Look
Just when we were ready to give up a typical New Year's Eve outfit for something unexpected - say a sophisticated jumpsuit or a coordinate set - Kendall Jenner celebrated Christmas Eve in a flashy mini. The glitzy David Koma number featured stones in a zig-zag pattern and a metallic color scheme. Kendall played up the sex appeal with Gianvito Rossi heels and an XIV Karats choker. The supermodel's look was absolutely head-turning, yet simple and body flattering. Read on to catch a look, then shop for similar designs if you're inspired to ring in the new year in an outfit with Kendall Jenner flair.
The 1 Shoe You Won't Be Wearing in 2017
Hate to break it to you, but it's time to break up with your classic stilettos. Look, it's not like we don't appreciate the height they lend us or their ability to elongate our legs when we slip into a favorite minidress. But enter 2017, and there are so many refreshed styles that can get the job done - and with notable flair.
In 2016, we slowly transitioned out of our shoes with a fine point, swapping them for block heels that planted us a bit more firmly on the ground. All of the silhouettes ahead are actually way more comfortable than a stiletto, and luckily, they're what everyone's wearing. Scroll to find your favorite replacement pair, or jump ahead to the category you already know you're into.
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