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dimanche 7 mai 2017
What Will the Game of Thrones Spinoff Be About? We Have Some Ideas
When you have a show like Game of Thrones that has met such monumental success, it means the moment the end of the show is in sight people will start talking about a spinoff. There's already been confirmation from HBO that a spinoff (or FOUR) is coming, so don't worry - it's going to happen. Now all that's left to reveal is what the new series will be about. As Melisandre would probably say if Westeros had internet, "The night is dark and full of theories."
1. A Prequel Series
It's not exactly a spinoff, but this option seems likely (it's the one idea that's already been brought up by HBO) and no surprise - a prequel to season one of Game of Thrones would have a ton of material to work with. It would also likely include events that have been referenced on the show, like Robert Baratheon's rebellion and Jaime Lannister killing the Mad King. It would also be an opportunity to both bring back characters we know (like Ned and Catelyn Stark) and introduce some we've only heard about, like Rhaegar Targaryen, the guy who started it all by falling for Lyanna Stark.
This show wouldn't necessarily have a happy ending - we know how the Rebellion ends. Lyanna Stark dies, Rhaegar dies, and poor baby Jon Snow is doomed to a life of shame as a bastard. Then again, is that any less depressing than how Game of Thrones usually goes? Eh, we'd love it all anyway.
2. A Sequel Series
The specific events of this spinoff option are a bit harder to predict, since technically we don't know how Game of Thrones will end, but let's face it: does it seem likely that EVERY detail will be nicely wrapped up? Perhaps a sequel will follow the new king (or queen) of the Seven Kingdoms and the fallout from whatever events lead them there. Or perhaps there will be even more questions raised by seasons seven and eight of Game of Thrones that could open up possibilities for a sequel. Only time will tell.
3. Very Early Westeros History
Thanks to Bran Stark, we've gotten some references in the show to what went on in Westeros way back in the day - before Robert's Rebellion, before anyone we know on the show was born, and before their great-great-grandparents were even born. The Children of the Forest, the First Men, and the beginning of the White Walkers are all part of the early history of Westeros, and those stories would be enough for their own whole show. Sure, there would probably be fewer elaborate costumes and grand cities, but it would be interesting to know more about how the wheels were set in motion to build the world of Game of Thrones that we know.
4. The Tales of Dunk and Egg
With all the hype around George R.R. Martin working on The Winds of Winter, you might be surprised to learn that A Song of Ice and Fire isn't the author's only Westeros-related work. His series The Tales of Dunk and Egg is set decades before A Game of Thrones and centers on a knight named Ser Duncan the Tall and his squire Egg. Egg is just a nickname, though - this squire later becomes none other than King Aegon V Targaryen, ruler of the Seven Kingdoms and the younger brother of Aemon Targaryen. Game of Thrones fans already know the name Aemon Targaryen; when Jon Snow meets him at the Wall, he is known as Maester Aemon. There are already multiple books in this series and it isn't finished yet, so there's plenty of material to work with for a spinoff.
5. A House-Centric Spinoff
Want to know more about Valyria, that dilapidated Targaryen city that Tyrion and Jorah sailed through on their way to Meereen in season five? Or what Jaime and Cersei's mother, Joanna, was like? Or what it was like for the three wildly different Baratheon brothers - Robert, Renly and Stannis - to grow up together? A spinoff centered on the history, relationships, and, of course, scandals of one specific house could give more backstory to people and places we've only gotten hints about in Game of Thrones.
6. A Character-Centric Spinoff
It would be fun to follow one character after the events of the Game of Thrones series finale. Where does Arya Stark fit into the future of Westeros? Or Brienne of Tarth? Or the great (and frankly underused) Podrick Payne? This kind of spinoff could even focus on a very minor character's adventures during the series. Who wouldn't want to know more about how Lyanna Mormont comes to be the biggest tiny badass in Westeros? And everyone's favorite Baratheon bastard Gendry is returning this season; we need more details about what he's been up to all this time, right?
13 Habits of Highly Effective (and Sane) Stay-at-Home Moms
Staying at home with your children can be one of the best gifts you can get, and give, but it's easy to lose sight of how wonderful an experience it can be. Instead of falling into the complaining trap, adopt a few of these habits that highly effective (and sane) stay-at-home moms put into practice every day.
These Hacks Will Forever Change the Way You Drink Wine
Wine expertise isn't earned by accidentally picking that nice Rosé at the supermarket. Wine is a very difficult subject to master - a realization that can be exaggerated when interacting with a wine expert (or sommelier, as they're called). They do an excellent job of pointing you toward wines you might like, accompanied with hints of bruised self-esteem. Thankfully, sommelier and host Whitney Adams serves up drinking knowledge with little fuss and buckets of accessibility. On her YouTube channel, Adams provides weekly, nonsober insight, ranging from wine basics (like how to read a wine label) to more obscure drinking subjects (like the Jura region in France).
Adams is a wealth of wine information and wants to help us drink wine better. "I myself am a lazy b*tch and I think a lot of my viewers are too," she says. "People like when wine doesn't seem so scary. I try to make it a little more approachable and everyday, because wine should be enjoyed with ease." To help us drink better, I spoke with Adams about ways to hack wine drinking. As Adams says, these tips are guaranteed to give "maximum results with minimal effort." I like that.
13 Celebrity Couples Who Said "I Do" on National Television
When it comes to celebrity weddings, there is no such thing as too over the top. In fact, some famous pairs even go as far as to televise their nuptials. Kate Middleton and Prince William's wedding was reportedly watched by 2 billion people worldwide, while others, like Carmen Electra and Dave Navarro and La La and Carmelo Anthony, dedicated an entire series to their big day. Here's every celebrity couple who said "I do" on national television.
13 Habits of Highly Effective (and Sane) Stay-at-Home Moms
Staying at home with your children can be one of the best gifts you can get, and give, but it's easy to lose sight of how wonderful an experience it can be. Instead of falling into the complaining trap, adopt a few of these habits that highly effective (and sane) stay-at-home moms put into practice every day.
The 8 Dramatic Stages of Telling My Latina Mom About My Tattoos
I had been wanting a tattoo of a heart on my wrist since I was a teenager, so on Feb. 14, 2015 (I didn't realize it was Valentine's Day), while I was away in college, I decided I was going to take the plunge. It cost me $20, and five minutes later I was officially "branded," as my mom would say, for the rest of my life.
My mom didn't see my tattoo until a month later when I was home for Spring break, but when she did, she practically fainted and then went in for the kill. The Dominican slayer in her came out instantly, because she was pissed - and I mean, pissed.
Eventually, she got over it, and when she spotted my second tattoo years later (a small elephant I got on a whim while on vacation in Thailand.), it wasn't as bad. Though she did call me a heathen - I'd like to point out, both of them are smaller than the size of a quarter.
If your mom is Latinx and you love getting inked, you probably relate to my struggle. There's a reason memes and videos of Latinx telling their moms about their tattoos are popular. If that's the case, keep scrolling for eight dramatic things that happen when you tell your mom you got a tattoo.
Which Is Healthier: Tofu or Tempeh?
Whether you're a vegetarian or not, everyone can benefit from regularly eating meatless meals. Non-GMO soy products are easy and healthy sources of protein that you can use as an alternative when trying to cut back on meat. They can also be added to recipes like smoothies or desserts to increase the protein.
Tofu is probably the most popular soy product, but tempeh shouldn't be overlooked. Check out this chart below to see how they compare.
| Tofu | Tempeh | |
|---|---|---|
| How it's made | By curdling fresh, hot soy milk with a coagulant | By fermenting cooked soybeans with a mold |
| How it's sold | Five-inch-size blocks, in five varieties: silken (used for creamy dishes), soft (great for soups), firm, and extrafirm (the last three are great for stir fries); packaged in water to help it stay moist | Flat rectangular pieces about eight inches long |
| Appearance | White, smooth, and wet | Brownish in color and dry; can see whole soybeans |
| Consistency | Soft, smooth, and spongy | Firm and chewy |
| Flavor | Has hardly any taste on its own, but when added to recipes, takes on the flavor of whatever you're making | Has a slight earthy, sweet taste |
| Calories in 1/2 cup | 97 | 160 |
| Protein (g) in 1/2 cup | 10.1 | 15.4 |
| Fiber (g) in 1/2 cup | .5 | 3.5 |
Although a little higher in calories, tempeh is less processed than tofu, and it's healthier in general because it contains more protein and fiber than tofu. If you've never tried tempeh, you can find it at most health food stores (it's refrigerated). Incorporate this soy product into your recipes by crumbling it up and adding it to soups, salads, casseroles, or pasta sauces. Tempeh adds a chewy consistency to your dishes along with extra protein and fiber.
Either way, both offer a healthy dose of protein for vegetarians and meat-eaters alike. Try this colorful Mexican quinoa salad featuring tempeh. If you're not quite a fan of the tempeh texture and you prefer tofu instead, try this tofu scramble with kale and sweet potatoes.
What Will the Game of Thrones Spinoff Be About? We Have Some Ideas
When you have a show like Game of Thrones that has met such monumental success, it means the moment the end of the show is in sight people will start talking about a spinoff. There's already been confirmation from HBO that a spinoff (or FOUR) is coming, so don't worry - it's going to happen. Now all that's left to reveal is what the new series will be about. As Melisandre would probably say if Westeros had internet, "The night is dark and full of theories."
1. A Prequel Series
It's not exactly a spinoff, but this option seems likely (it's the one idea that's already been brought up by HBO) and no surprise - a prequel to season one of Game of Thrones would have a ton of material to work with. It would also likely include events that have been referenced on the show, like Robert Baratheon's rebellion and Jaime Lannister killing the Mad King. It would also be an opportunity to both bring back characters we know (like Ned and Catelyn Stark) and introduce some we've only heard about, like Rhaegar Targaryen, the guy who started it all by falling for Lyanna Stark.
This show wouldn't necessarily have a happy ending - we know how the Rebellion ends. Lyanna Stark dies, Rhaegar dies, and poor baby Jon Snow is doomed to a life of shame as a bastard. Then again, is that any less depressing than how Game of Thrones usually goes? Eh, we'd love it all anyway.
2. A Sequel Series
The specific events of this spinoff option are a bit harder to predict, since technically we don't know how Game of Thrones will end, but let's face it: does it seem likely that EVERY detail will be nicely wrapped up? Perhaps a sequel will follow the new king (or queen) of the Seven Kingdoms and the fallout from whatever events lead them there. Or perhaps there will be even more questions raised by seasons seven and eight of Game of Thrones that could open up possibilities for a sequel. Only time will tell.
3. Very Early Westeros History
Thanks to Bran Stark, we've gotten some references in the show to what went on in Westeros way back in the day - before Robert's Rebellion, before anyone we know on the show was born, and before their great-great-grandparents were even born. The Children of the Forest, the First Men, and the beginning of the White Walkers are all part of the early history of Westeros, and those stories would be enough for their own whole show. Sure, there would probably be fewer elaborate costumes and grand cities, but it would be interesting to know more about how the wheels were set in motion to build the world of Game of Thrones that we know.
4. The Tales of Dunk and Egg
With all the hype around George R.R. Martin working on The Winds of Winter, you might be surprised to learn that A Song of Ice and Fire isn't the author's only Westeros-related work. His series The Tales of Dunk and Egg is set decades before A Game of Thrones and centers on a knight named Ser Duncan the Tall and his squire Egg. Egg is just a nickname, though - this squire later becomes none other than King Aegon V Targaryen, ruler of the Seven Kingdoms and the younger brother of Aemon Targaryen. Game of Thrones fans already know the name Aemon Targaryen; when Jon Snow meets him at the Wall, he is known as Maester Aemon. There are already multiple books in this series and it isn't finished yet, so there's plenty of material to work with for a spinoff.
5. A House-Centric Spinoff
Want to know more about Valyria, that dilapidated Targaryen city that Tyrion and Jorah sailed through on their way to Meereen in season five? Or what Jaime and Cersei's mother, Joanna, was like? Or what it was like for the three wildly different Baratheon brothers - Robert, Renly and Stannis - to grow up together? A spinoff centered on the history, relationships, and, of course, scandals of one specific house could give more backstory to people and places we've only gotten hints about in Game of Thrones.
6. A Character-Centric Spinoff
It would be fun to follow one character after the events of the Game of Thrones series finale. Where does Arya Stark fit into the future of Westeros? Or Brienne of Tarth? Or the great (and frankly underused) Podrick Payne? This kind of spinoff could even focus on a very minor character's adventures during the series. Who wouldn't want to know more about how Lyanna Mormont comes to be the biggest tiny badass in Westeros? And everyone's favorite Baratheon bastard Gendry is returning this season; we need more details about what he's been up to all this time, right?
Which Is Healthier: Tofu or Tempeh?
Whether you're a vegetarian or not, everyone can benefit from regularly eating meatless meals. Non-GMO soy products are easy and healthy sources of protein that you can use as an alternative when trying to cut back on meat. They can also be added to recipes like smoothies or desserts to increase the protein.
Tofu is probably the most popular soy product, but tempeh shouldn't be overlooked. Check out this chart below to see how they compare.
| Tofu | Tempeh | |
|---|---|---|
| How it's made | By curdling fresh, hot soy milk with a coagulant | By fermenting cooked soybeans with a mold |
| How it's sold | Five-inch-size blocks, in five varieties: silken (used for creamy dishes), soft (great for soups), firm, and extrafirm (the last three are great for stir fries); packaged in water to help it stay moist | Flat rectangular pieces about eight inches long |
| Appearance | White, smooth, and wet | Brownish in color and dry; can see whole soybeans |
| Consistency | Soft, smooth, and spongy | Firm and chewy |
| Flavor | Has hardly any taste on its own, but when added to recipes, takes on the flavor of whatever you're making | Has a slight earthy, sweet taste |
| Calories in 1/2 cup | 97 | 160 |
| Protein (g) in 1/2 cup | 10.1 | 15.4 |
| Fiber (g) in 1/2 cup | .5 | 3.5 |
Although a little higher in calories, tempeh is less processed than tofu, and it's healthier in general because it contains more protein and fiber than tofu. If you've never tried tempeh, you can find it at most health food stores (it's refrigerated). Incorporate this soy product into your recipes by crumbling it up and adding it to soups, salads, casseroles, or pasta sauces. Tempeh adds a chewy consistency to your dishes along with extra protein and fiber.
Either way, both offer a healthy dose of protein for vegetarians and meat-eaters alike. Try this colorful Mexican quinoa salad featuring tempeh. If you're not quite a fan of the tempeh texture and you prefer tofu instead, try this tofu scramble with kale and sweet potatoes.
3 Holistic Spa DIY Recipes Featuring Authentic Thai Ingredients
One of the best parts of spending my honeymoon in Thailand was experiencing the spas! Southeast Asia is known for having an amazing spa culture - where you can walk into any place on the street and supposedly get an amazing hour-long massage for just $20. But since it was my honeymoon, I am beauty obsessed, and I knew my dollar would go far, I opted to get my treatments at some of the more upscale spots. (YOLO!)
The most impressive spa I visited during my week in Thailand was the Secret Garden Spa at the Four Seasons Koh Samui. The name totally makes sense: from the front, the spa looks like a one-room shop. But go out the back, and there is a massive jungle terrain with huts. In each hut, treatments are offered. It feels like you're getting massaged in your own little villa.
What also made this experience so cool is that the Secret Garden Spa either grows on site or locally sources Thai ingredients and incorporates them into treatments. These were many of the same ingredients I was eating in authentic Thai food - coconut milk, lemongrass, kaffir lime, ginger, and turmeric. For example, I booked the Kala Coconut Massage, which involves a masseuse using warm coconut oil and a smooth coconut shell on my muscles. My husband got a massage that incorporated Thai spices being sprinkled on his back.
Since Koh Samui isn't the easiest place to get to, the Secret Garden Spa director Stephanie Arveux is sharing ways to make your own Thai spa at home. Here, she sheds light on why three Thai ingredients - coconut, kaffir lime, and ginger - have beauty benefits. She also cooked up three easy DIY recipes you can try.
12 Times Game of Thrones Sneakily Foreshadowed the Future
Game of Thrones is one of those shows that you really do have to watch from the beginning (and not just because Jason Momoa is only in the first season). There are so many details that seem random or offhand at face value but then make sense or explain something several episodes or even seasons later. Here are 12 of the times Game of Thrones perfectly foreshadows what's to come.
What It's Like to Get Married at Disney World (Spoiler: It's as Dazzling as You'd Expect)
If you're a Disney-obsessed bride-to-be who's long considered having a magical park wedding of your own, prepare to start planning by the end of this article. We've seen weddings decked out in Disney details, but we finally got to speak with a bride who got married at the Most Magical Place on Earth. And it gets even better - newlyweds Taylor Drane and Tyler Norman get to share their big day with millions of viewers on Freeform's Disney's Fairy Tale Weddings. Airing on Sunday, May 7 (at 8/7 Central), the 90-minute special will feature three couples, including Taylor and Tyler and their full wedding. Spoiler: Tying the knot at Walt Disney World is as incredible as you'd imagine.
Before getting married, the two dated for about seven years beginning the Summer before college. They met at the country club where they both worked as pool servers and decided to start dating a few weeks before leaving for their separate schools. Their fling naturally formed into a relationship once they both realized they didn't want to be with anyone else. The distance between them over the years wasn't enough to keep them apart, and once they got engaged, she immediately booked an appointment with Disney's Fairy Tale Weddings. When I asked whether her now-husband is as big of a Disney fan as she is, Taylor laughed. "He will admit that he never ever predicted getting married at Disney World," she said. But because the two were born in Florida, they had visited the parks plenty of times apart and together before the idea of a Disney wedding even came up. "I would obviously hint at it and he'd be like 'OK.'"
While they didn't head into their first meeting with Disney having any expectations, Tyler ended up being sold on how low-maintenance the entire process would be. "He really liked how it could reduce the stress of planning a wedding and the idea of coming down for a day to plan a wedding from beginning to end," she said. "It was really nice; we went down six or seven months before our wedding and we had our tasting that morning, and that afternoon for about three hours, we planned our whole wedding. And the day was fun!" Taylor said. A one-and-done planning process? Heck, I'm even considering having a Disney wedding now. And for the remaining months leading up to your nuptials, you simply iron out minor details over email. Unsurprisingly (it is Disney after all), Taylor shared how amazing and helpful Disney's Fairy Tale Wedding planners are. "They stick with your budget and they tell you the truth, and let you know this is what you can get for what you want to spend," she said. "You walk out of your planning session even more sure that you made the right decision."
"Some of the details at my wedding I didn't know were possible; it exceeded my wildest dreams, really. It could not have been a more perfect wedding."
Taylor had always dreamed of having a Disney wedding, especially during Christmastime. Their ceremony was held at Epcot while the party continued with a reception at the Atlantic Dance Hall along the boardwalk. She wanted her wedding to highlight the gorgeous holiday decorations that adorned the park, so she didn't want to take away from its beauty with any more special touches. "Growing up, [Christmas] was my favorite time of year and was what made me fall in love with Disney," Taylor said.
Though the wedding planning process was surprisingly not stressful in the slightest, they couple did decide last minute that they wanted to include a choreographed dance. So, a week before their wedding, they met with a choreographer in Orlando who saved the day with a fun routine to the Bee Gees. Their reception still featured the more traditional father-daughter and mother-son dances, and after the couple finished their first dance as a married pair, the two got down and got their guests pumped. While Taylor admitted that neither her nor Tyler are professional dancers, she said that they love dancing and wanted to revolve their wedding around it. Their choreographed number served to open up the dance floor to the rest of their guests.
Now, their wedding wasn't just a half-day event like your typical wedding. Their guests arrived the Friday before their Monday nuptials, which gave everyone the entire weekend to fully enjoy the parks together. "We basically did a pub crawl around Epcot," Taylor said. "If somebody wanted a margarita, we went to Mexico, or got a beer from Germany. I didn't realize my wedding was going to be a three-day celebration, but I kind of hoped it would be that way." The bride's favorite part of her whole experience? Her magical portrait session before the park opened to the public (see the photos here). Oh, and she was wearing the live-action Cinderella gown from Alfred Angelo's official Disney Fairy Tale Wedding collection.
"It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience because here you are in your most favorite dress, with your husband, and you're taking pictures in front of Cinderella's castle with the sun beginning to rise, and it's just surreal," she said.
If you have any remaining doubts about getting married at Disney World, don't. When I asked if her experience was as magical as we'd all expect, she answered, "I would say it was more because everything went so smoothly. I was anxious right before they opened the doors, but that was it. Once they opened the doors and I saw Tyler, all the anxious energy went away, the little that I had. I would say I was expecting it to be supergreat and magical, but because there wasn't that much stress, I was able to live in the moment and be as happy as I could be."
Get a glimpse of the couple's beautiful wedding!
Asia Kate Dillon Is the Change-Maker the Beauty Industry Needs
In a Donald Trump presidency era, where many social issues seem to be moving backwards in time, it's more important than ever to celebrate the change-makers breaking barriers. Actor Asia Kate Dillon is one of those leaders, whose initiatives to normalize nonbinary gender identity in Hollywood are rewriting history. (FYI, nonbinary gender means a person is not exclusively male or female and would usually use the pronoun "they" instead of "him" or "her.")
Asia is credited for playing the first genderqueer character in a mainstream TV show for their role of Taylor Mason in Showtime's Billions. Off-screen, Asia also identifies as genderfluid.
"My assigned sex is Female," Asia recently clarified on Twitter. "My gender identity is Non-binary. Anatomy and biology are complicated. I said sex, only as in anatomy . . . Sex is between legs. Identity is between ears."
This year, Asia made headlines when they submitted their name for an Emmy Award and choose "actor" instead of "actress," because the former is a more gender-neutral word. The public move to push gender boundaries prompted MTV to combine previously male-and-female-separated categories at the MTV Awards, and Asia will take the stage to present the award for best actor in a movie.
"I'm proud of MTV for joining the conversation about breaking down binaries," Asia told W. "Binaries, whether it be man or woman or black or white, they were created to separate us, to create an us and a them. Without binaries, there's only us. Which means we're actually all equal. So to be presenting the first acting award in history that is based solely on performance and not on sex or gender identity is a historic moment and it's a moment that will go down in history, and that is a history I share not only with my family, friends and coworkers, but with all the trans, nonbinary and gender-nonconforming people, particularly people of color, who have been leading the way for change long before I was born."
But that is not the only reason we want to watch Asia. They're also a beauty inspiration - rocking a badass shaved head, seriously gorgeous eyebrows, flawless skin, and unique tattoos. If their career keeps up (Asia has also appeared in Orange Is the New Black, Younger, and Master of None), landing a beauty campaign is only a matter of time. Oh, and if you were wondering, Asia told Ellen DeGeneres their romantic partner identifies as male.
Keep reading to see more reasons why Asia is our latest beauty idol.
Back to Basics - How to Reach Out to New Contacts and How to Politely Follow Up
Last May, I left my job and started my own production and digital strategy company. Ever since then, I get a lot of questions about how to initially reach out to new people or companies and how to follow up. Here are a few of my tips to expand your network!
On Initial Reach-Out
If there's a company you want to contact because you think you could work together or you think it's your dream company, go to LinkedIn first (if you're not on LinkedIn Premium, sign up for that first so you can send InMail, then keep reading).
First, find out if you know anyone who works there in any department and reach out (they'll eventually lead you to the right place; people love passing things off their inbox), or find a friend to introduce you to someone who works there. It is very important that you don't ask for or mention a job when reaching out unless you are vying for a specific position. This is just a research call, and nobody wants to feel like they're being hassled for a job. Also, nobody likes being pitched to over email unless they explicitly asked you to send a pitch. You want to establish some sort of friendly relationship first because people like to work with nice, capable people they can relate to, and after one initial informational meeting, that usually becomes YOU!
If you know no one, start at the top! Worker bees are probably going to be less interested in helping a fellow worker bee (just a fact of life), and it takes a lot of chutzpah to reach out to the top of the ladder, so people don't really do it. So try! And then work your way down.
Which reminds me - the most important tip in finding out what you want to do with the rest of your life, or even just your next project, is: do your research. So many people say to me "But (sigh) I don't know what I want to doooo." Guess what? You're not alone; most people don't, especially in this new landscape where positions and titles aren't as clear-cut as they used to be. So reach out to companies or people with specific job titles that interest you, have a meeting, find out what they do on a daily basis, and then decide if it's a job you might want to do. Informational meetings are not only great for figuring out your next step but also for building your network. You never know when what you're going to do in the future might cross with the random person you had coffee with on the roof of Petit Ermitage.
But back to reaching out! I recommend something like this:
In the subject line, mention your job title (Producer/Showrunner), and if you can, establish where you worked (for example, I worked at Condé Nast and POPSUGAR, so I write that).
In the body, write something like this: "Hi there, I wanted to see if I could chat with you and get a sense of the landscape at [where contact works]. I'm a [insert job title], formerly of [insert impressive workplace here], so I thought there might be some natural synergies there. Looking forward to hearing from you!" Then hit "send" and wait!
Which brings me to . . .
On Following Up
If you've done a LinkedIn InMail, I say you can wait two weeks to say, "Hi, just checking that you got this! Can't wait to chat." After that, you get no more immediate chances. If you really want to circle back a few months later, go for it (by that time their business plan might have changed and they might have a different outlook), but otherwise, find someone else at the company and go back to reaching out!
If you've gotten ahold of their email and sent one, you can wait one to two weeks to say, "Hi, just checking you've got this." After that, you must wait until you have information to add. Like, "Hi! I just wanted to circle back with you! I've just finished [enter fantastic project]. I look forward to meeting with you!" Then you A) don't seem desperate and B) are able to show off what you've been up to. Having work generates work, so showing off you're a hot commodity makes others want you. It's the same as dating - just apply it to clients!
Sometimes it can get frustrating feeling like people aren't getting back to you, but I promise you someone somewhere will circle back if you use these tips. And if they don't? Guess what: those are the clients/companies/people you don't want to date anyway. Someone else will surface in their place and snatch you up.
And just a tip from the other end . . . Sometimes I don't get back to someone right away because I don't need their services, but the second I need them, I get them on speed dial. I don't think this is necessarily the best behavior ever, but I think it's how a lot of people operate. My point is this: networking is less about someone having work for you right now and more about planting the seed so that when they do need your service, you come to top of mind. Which you will if you continue to follow up correctly!
People Are Using Actually Using Little Flowers as Eyeliner
Today's WTF-but-I-kind-of-LOVE-it beauty trend hails from MAC artist Ellie Costello (@makeupisart_x) who is giving the idea of botanical beauty a literal life. On her Instagram, she's been sharing images of her floral eyeliner art, which Seventeen has dubbed terrarium eyes ("a living garden on your face!"). She has adhered everything from roses to gipsofila and forget me nots on her lids. She even used pink petals and made them faux lashes! It's avant garde and takes Spring beauty to the next level. Keep reading to see some of our favorite looks!
Harry Potter Fans! These 25 Embroidery Hoops Are Better Than Hogwarts Portraits
There's a new way to express your love for all things Harry Potter - embroidery hoops. These unique cross-stitch masterpieces are popping up everywhere, and they look amazing as home decor. We rounded up our favorite Harry Potter-themed options so that you can flaunt your fandom in style. Take a look!
These Will Be the 31 Chapter Books That Turn Your Little Reader Into a Bona Fide Bookworm
POPSUGAR has joined Thrive Global in celebration of Screen-Free Week, May 1-7, 2017. Check out our Digital Detox Challenge and inspiration for offline activities like this post.
If your child has started to become more attentive at story time - or maybe he's starting to prefer reading on his own - it may be time to slide a few chapter books onto the bookshelf. Picture books and short stories are wonderful, but chapter books build the foundation for young readers as they help to further develop language and literacy.
Read through for 31 chapter books that are going to turn your little reader into a bona fide bookworm in no time.
14 Gorgeous Dresses Under $100 to Get You Through Spring
After you've finished your annual Spring cleaning session and packed away all of your Winter jackets and puffers, you're probably left wondering what to do with all of that empty space? Go shopping and fill it back up with the latest trends and Spring essentials, of course.
Dresses are the perfect way to update your wardrobe for the Spring weather. They're easy to slip on when you're crunched for time and they're a breeze to wear. From a slinky slip dress to a pom-pom-lined number, we're covering the best styles you need to know this Spring. The best part? All of these 14 dresses are under $100, which means you look and feel like a million bucks without having to break the bank.
I May Never Know if I Was Sexually Assaulted
All my life, these flashes have played in my mind like a choppy, hand-cranked silent film. I was in high school when the snippets suddenly began to make sense. I was no more than 3 or 4 years old. There was the crowded street in China - so blurry in my mind it could have been rendered in watercolor. There was the lucid flash of a stranger's hand grabbing mine and then the unmistakable image of my tiny hand being placed around his penis. But perhaps the most distinct image in this foggy vignette is the white substance that followed me home and somehow ended up on my mother's black dress.
The question remains: were these "flashes" memories of an incident that actually took place, or did my unreliable young brain create them? Was I sexually assaulted?
Sexual abuse survivors often have flashbacks of their assaults, triggered by the elements of daily life, that force them to relive the horrifying experience all over again. Experts recommend recognizing your triggers and avoiding them to the best of your ability, so as to prevent future flashbacks. But what if you're not sure that your assault even happened, so all you do is relive the maybe-incident in your mind repeatedly, voluntarily? What exactly does that do to a person?
The uncertainty of whether or not I was sexually abused has gnawed at me my whole life, along with a dizzying swirl of contingent questions that rotate in my head, like "Why didn't my mom stop the assault? How could she be so oblivious? Did anyone else on the street see this happening?" But the most significant portion of this mystery that I am aching to solve is how it has affected me as a person throughout my life and into adulthood.
To help me put together the pieces of this puzzle, I enlisted the help of three experts who work with sexual assault survivors every day, including those who have trouble remembering their incidents. I would like to contribute to the important conversation by allowing others in a similar situation to feel less alone and to provide them with some answers.
Can Sexual Assault Be Forgotten?
According to Josie Torielli, assistant director of intervention programs at the New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault, these "forgotten" incidents happen "quite often." Though there aren't exact statistics for how many people have repressed memories of their sexual abuse, most sexual assault counselors and therapists have worked on such cases. "Forgetting" your sexual abuse is especially likely for young children "due to the developmental processes of the mind," Torielli says.
The uncertainty of whether or not I was sexually abused has gnawed at me my whole life.This is true for all memories formed before a certain age - apparently, I refused to eat when I was a toddler, which I find inconceivable given my current appetite, but my mom swears it's true - but when there's trauma involved, your brain works overtime to "protect" you from these harmful memories and reliving the experience.
"In simple terms, our brains only allow us to experience what we are able to withstand," says Lindsey Pratt, a psychotherapist in New York City who specializes in sexual trauma and abuse. "This is one of the reasons why repression of traumatic childhood memories is so common, as children are not as well equipped to cope or make sense of fear, panic, anger, shame, or sadness as adults may be."
When trauma occurs, the brain goes into survival mode and activates a chemical called catecholamine, which is used to engage your fight-or-flight response. "Catecholamine also interferes with and impedes the encoding of memory," Torielli says. As a result, your brain locks these traumatic memories away in a special place, the limbic system, and pretty much throws away the key.
Pratt explains: "Theories on memory repression posit that trauma memories, including those which have been repressed, get 'stuck' in the limbic brain. They are then unable to integrate into the more logical, developed portion of the brain responsible for functional working memory, the prefrontal cortex, which is where our more 'normal' memories are stored."
In other words, memories of the pony at your fourth birthday party live in the prefrontal cortex, which you can access at any time, while memories of any kind of trauma live in the limbic system, which can be buried so deep you'll need a psychological excavation team to help you unearth anything.
The Problem With Repressed Memories
"Unfortunately, there's no external, objective database to check our memories against."Even though some experts have offered a scientific explanation for how and why your brain redacts certain incidents from your life transcript, others are not so quick to fully accept these explanations. Vanessa Marin, sex therapist and creator of A Survivor's Guide to Reclaiming Your Sex Life After Abuse, pointed out that this is a controversial topic within the psychotherapy community.
There have been a slew of cases over the last few decades that revealed that "repressed memory" therapy, which bubbled in popularity in the '90s, led to false memories and accusations. The issue was brought to the forefront when repressed memories were used to convict accused sexual abusers in court, only to have the alleged victim later recant their accusations. Some experts assert that, at the end of the day, there just isn't enough empirical evidence supporting the theory of repressed memories, even if it sounds completely plausible.
After all, memory in general can be a fickle and elusive beast.
"What we know about memory is that it is extremely malleable," Marin explains. "Each time we retrieve a memory, we have the capacity to alter or reframe it in some way."
Great. As if my brain weren't unreliable enough with regular memories from adulthood (I once blew the easiest job interview question ever when I was asked what my favorite bands were and my mind blanked), it seems all but impossible to know whether or not I should trust the fragments that flash in my mind of a supposed trauma that potentially occurred decades ago.
"Unfortunately," says Marin, "there's no external, objective database to check our memories against."
The Effects or Lack Thereof
Not knowing whether the sexual assault took place is agonizing on its own, but the real crux of my conundrum is the effects. If I was indeed sexually assaulted, how has it shaped me as a person and how has it influenced the course of my life? And can studying the effects help me figure out what happened?
According to my panel of experts, the effects come in all shapes and sizes.
"Trauma survivors usually experience symptoms of dissociation (numbing) or activation (hyperawareness)," Torielli says. "But sexual assault survivors can experience any kind of response. We often indicate that any response to sexual assault is normal."
And often, these effects can be similar to those felt by survivors who do not remember their abuse.
"Since repressed memories are still a part of a person's memory store, they may be triggered without a visible cause," Pratt explains. Triggers can include "certain sounds, smells, or locations," and their corresponding psychological responses can include "sweating, racing heart, or panic attacks with no logical precursor."
I have never experienced any of these visceral fear responses, but what about long-term effects?
Pratt adds: "[The survivor] may also have difficulty regulating emotions, such as anger or sadness, and the long-term impact can sometimes result in either hypersensitivity to emotions or the opposite effect, a flattening of emotions, as a subconscious means to cope with triggering situations."
My Evidence Is Inconclusive
It's been almost 30 years since the assault occurred, if it did indeed occur. What transpired in that period of time amounts to a normal life, by all outward appearances. I'm a writer. I have a healthy number of friends, close ones. I've had normal relationships with a motley bunch - no identifiable patterns, no underlying threads connecting these men, nothing sinister beneath the surface. They've ranged from cocky creative types to reliable computer nerds. I've never been abused by any of them, and I've never felt unsafe with any of them - or any man, for that matter. None of them have ever called my emotional behavior into question. In fact, I would dare say that my emotions are pretty even-keeled, save for the occasional bout of PMS. Plus, I seem to have an objectively normal relationship with sex.
Sex has never been a "thing" for me. It's not something I take very seriously or very lightly; it's just something people do. It's pleasurable, but also awkward, messy, and sometimes it's the root of all your problems. Sex sits on a sliding scale of importance, shrinking and expanding, appreciating and depreciating, depending on where I am in my ongoing adventures in existence. Sex is putty in my hands. It doesn't define me. I define it.
So . . . mystery solved?
When trauma occurs, the brain goes into survival mode.Then again, I do possess some traits that could potentially stem from my repressed abuse. For example, right after moving to the States at age 5, I struggled with an extreme reluctance to inform adults of any sort of discomfort. I remember falling down and scraping up my face in first grade and being in extreme pain, but when my teacher asked me if I needed to go to the nurse's office, I hesitated and said no. This seems like a pretty plausible case of minimizing or disassociation, or it could be explained by my shaky English at the time.
Perhaps the most convincing evidence of sexual assault in my past is my tendency to feel irrationally guilty in any given situation. I feel intense guilt over everything, from not saying hi to a co-worker in the hallway to under-tipping by one percent to breaking up with people, even when they really deserve it. In fact, I'd much rather be dumped than have to do the dumping because the guilt stays with me for months.
In fact, one more fragment that I "remember" is feeling guilty after the supposed incident. I remember feeling guilty for ruining my mom's lovely dress with the mysterious white substance. So maybe there's something to mine there. But then again, my guilt could be a product of being raised by very traditional, strict Asian parents, for whom nothing is ever good enough.
Moving On and Feeling Safe
I may not be any closer to knowing what my flashes amount to, whether a strange man on the busy streets of China actually put my hand on his penis and ejaculated onto me, but I have learned something absolute and far more important: sexual assault does not have to define me. The one thing that each and every expert I spoke to agreed on is that help is available and there's a multitude of options for every type of survivor.
"Healing and recovery cannot take place in isolation," Torielli says. "Survivors need support and to feel heard and understood." For her, that means helping survivors create a new narrative to allow the person to gain some control over the trauma. "The goal of treatment is never to erase the traumatic event, but to allow equal access to all the other parts of self," she says.
Pratt also helps her patients to reframe the story, to help them say, "I may have been victimized as a child, but I am safe now. I have created meaningful relationships and I am a survivor."
Marin has more universal advice that everyone, no matter their experience, should heed: "It's important to be extremely kind and gentle with yourself." For her clients who have gone through something traumatic like sexual assault, she helps them to create healthy and happy relationships with sex again. "It's important to shape your sex life in a way that meets your specific needs." Amen to that!
Sexual assault is an immeasurable experience. No matter what circumstances surround the assault, every instance of it is unfathomably awful, even if the instance is "forgotten." If it happened to you, it still happened to you. And everyone has the right to heal however they see fit. If you think you might have been abused but can't recall the incident, it is your prerogative if you want to take it upon yourself to search for the key that your brain threw away all those years ago. If trying to remember will help you to move forward, then get digging. But if you feel anxious about what you could potentially unearth and you're fine not knowing for sure, then that is also your choice. Either way, you should not feel ashamed for what has happened to you, and you are not alone.
What I have learned from my own personal excavation attempt is that it may be time for me to stop looking for that key. In talking to my team of experts, I've realized that I am extremely lucky to have come out of my potential trauma, and the stress of not knowing, unscathed. I haven't let my "flashes" of sexual abuse define me.
I never ended up confronting my mom about the flashes, and I don't think I will. The possibility of learning the truth from her is not worth the potential pain that might come with it, and I'm certainly not going to let this maybe-incident color my judgment of her as a mother. So I'm going to let my memories, flashes, figments of my imagination - whatever they are - stay hidden, and instead, I'm going to unlock something else, door number two. That door leads to a life without wondering, a life in which I focus on the happy and healthy things that I know for certain happened throughout my life. I think it's the life that 4-year-old me would have wanted to have.
14 Gorgeous Dresses Under $100 to Get You Through Spring
After you've finished your annual Spring cleaning session and packed away all of your Winter jackets and puffers, you're probably left wondering what to do with all of that empty space? Go shopping and fill it back up with the latest trends and Spring essentials, of course.
Dresses are the perfect way to update your wardrobe for the Spring weather. They're easy to slip on when you're crunched for time and they're a breeze to wear. From a slinky slip dress to a pom-pom-lined number, we're covering the best styles you need to know this Spring. The best part? All of these 14 dresses are under $100, which means you look and feel like a million bucks without having to break the bank.
These Will Be the 31 Chapter Books That Turn Your Little Reader Into a Bona Fide Bookworm
POPSUGAR has joined Thrive Global in celebration of Screen-Free Week, May 1-7, 2017. Check out our Digital Detox Challenge and inspiration for offline activities like this post.
If your child has started to become more attentive at story time - or maybe he's starting to prefer reading on his own - it may be time to slide a few chapter books onto the bookshelf. Picture books and short stories are wonderful, but chapter books build the foundation for young readers as they help to further develop language and literacy.
Read through for 31 chapter books that are going to turn your little reader into a bona fide bookworm in no time.
7 Signs of a Woman Who Will Never Stop Loving You
Dating in the 21st century is a flurry of delirious anticipation. There's the potential to meet your future spouse on a number of online platforms at any time - I actually met my current boyfriend on Tinder! - with a simple one-sentence message. On the other hand, the never-ending options sometimes make for a trying dating experience, because sifting through dozens and dozens of interests can mean missing the perfect connection. So when you FINALLY settle with someone you really, really love . . . it's all the sweeter.
At the moment, I'm in exactly that sort of relationship. My guy is by far the best boyfriend I've had - he's an unwavering support system, he's got a heart of gold, and his affection is limitless. I'm the kind of girl who commits 100 percent in a partnership, so in the spirit of loyal ladies everywhere, here are seven signs the woman you're with will never stop loving you.
13 Things You Should Stop Saying to Your Kids Now
Sticks and stones may break kids' bones, put a parent's words can truly hurt them. In moments of anger and frustration, we tend to say things to or around our children without thinking of the consequences. There are some, like our favorite four-letter word, that evoke laughter from kids. And there are other, less humorous phrases that can make kids cry, lower their self-esteem, and potentially ruin their relationship with a parent. Though it may take some extra effort, here are a few phrases you should stop saying to your children (along with some compelling reasons why) immediately.
What 1 Woman Wishes She'd Known Before Trying to Lose Weight - Learn From Her Mistakes
I was no stranger to the freshman 15 in college - in fact, I experienced something closer to the freshman 30. It wasn't until I saw a photo of myself heading into my sophomore year that I realized I was carrying quite a few extra pounds and that it was time to do something about it. It took me a very long time to lose the weight (we're talking not until after graduation), all because I thought I knew what I was doing. Boy, was I wrong. Here are four things I wish I'd known at the start of my weight-loss journey.
Get That Spoon Out of the Jar!
While peanut butter is full of heart-healthy fats, it's not void of calories - one tablespoon contains 105. I found myself spooning it straight out of the jar, wondering why my jeans weren't any looser. This is important to remember with all healthy foods: just because they aren't considered junky doesn't mean you can eat as much as you want. Be aware of portion sizes when it comes to whole grains, nuts, seeds, and health-food-store snacks.
No Meat, No Dairy
My two roommates in college were tall, skinny, and vegan, so I thought eating a plant-based diet was the key to dropping pounds. I may have ditched animal products, but I ended up eating tons of pasta, bread, french fries, dairy-free ice cream, and vegan chocolate cupcakes instead. Had I focused on fresh fruits, veggies, legumes, and whole grains, a vegan diet might have helped me reach my weight-loss goal, but my junk-food vegan diet actually caused me to gain weight.
How About a Walk?
Walking is definitely a better workout than just sitting on the couch, so I thought strolling through the mall and walking to class would do the trick. But walking isn't a major calorie burner like running. When it comes to losing weight, you need to burn or cut out 3,500 calories a week to lose a pound. A 30-minute walk only burns around 122 calories, which is well under the 500 it takes to affect a weekly weigh-in. If you want to lose weight, you'll need to kick up the intensity and the length of your workouts.
Time to Dig In
After hitting a Step class with my college roommate, we'd hit the dining hall and fuel up. We worked out, so we deserved it, right? Little did I know I was undoing all the good I had done and actually eating way more than I had burned, which was making the scale numbers go even higher. If you need a little workout reward, don't do it with food. Download some new songs on iTunes, pick up a fitness mag, or buy yourself a new top to motivate you to get to the gym.
Before House of Cards Comes Back, Brush Up on How Season 4 Ends
In the midst of a real-world political climate that's often stranger than fiction (to say the least), can we even really be surprised by what happens on a show like House of Cards anymore? Well, probably yes. The show's fifth season drops on Netflix on May 30, and just in case you forgot how insane the end of the fourth season is, here are a few reminders. Just in case this isn't stressful enough, there's always the season five trailer to watch again!
Once Upon a Time: Emma and Hook's Wedding Is Even More Magical Than We Expected
Once Upon a Time fans: we hope you're sitting down for this. We've been shipping Captain Hook and Emma Swan ever since their first encounter in season two, and now they're finally tying the knot! So far, ABC has only released two stills from their wedding (which will double as the musical episode), but we also managed to grab a few GIFs from the episode's preview.
While Hook looks dapper in his fitted tux, it's the Savior who really steals the show in her Grace Kelly-inspired gown and veil. And just look at how happy the Charmings look walking her down the aisle! The fate of the show might be unclear, but we've never been more sure of Emma and Hook's love for each other. Is it possible that these two lovebirds will finally get their happy ending? Guess, we'll just have to tune in on May 7 to find out.
Wedding Music: 50 Upbeat Recessional Songs
Need some help planning out the music for your wedding? Not only do we have a complete guide, but we also have suggestions for songs for all aspects of the wedding. We gave you ideas for the processional, which is when you walk down the aisle. Now it's time for the companion piece: recessional songs! Also known as when you walk back up the aisle after saying "I do," the recessional signifies that it's time to celebrate. We have 50 ideas that will work for you, whether you want a classic or modern feel, whether you love Dean Martin or Beyoncé.
Before House of Cards Comes Back, Brush Up on How Season 4 Ends
In the midst of a real-world political climate that's often stranger than fiction (to say the least), can we even really be surprised by what happens on a show like House of Cards anymore? Well, probably yes. The show's fifth season drops on Netflix on May 30, and just in case you forgot how insane the end of the fourth season is, here are a few reminders. Just in case this isn't stressful enough, there's always the season five trailer to watch again!
37 Times Tina Fey and Amy Poehler Were Tighter Than Sisters
It goes without saying that Amy Poehler and Tina Fey have one epic friendship. Ever since their early days on Saturday Night Live, the hilarious pals have charmed us with sweet, endearing, and laugh-out-loud moments both on screen and off. Keep scrolling to see their friendship through the years with a mix of pictures, GIFs, interviews, and some of their best back-and-forth banter ever.
Once Upon a Time: Emma and Hook's Wedding Is Even More Magical Than We Expected
Once Upon a Time fans: we hope you're sitting down for this. We've been shipping Captain Hook and Emma Swan ever since their first encounter in season two, and now they're finally tying the knot! So far, ABC has only released two stills from their wedding (which will double as the musical episode), but we also managed to grab a few GIFs from the episode's preview.
While Hook looks dapper in his fitted tux, it's the Savior who really steals the show in her Grace Kelly-inspired gown and veil. And just look at how happy the Charmings look walking her down the aisle! The fate of the show might be unclear, but we've never been more sure of Emma and Hook's love for each other. Is it possible that these two lovebirds will finally get their happy ending? Guess, we'll just have to tune in on May 7 to find out.
13 Ways to Refresh Your Florals For Spring
Remember the scene in The Devil Wears Prada where Miranda Priestly deadpans, "Florals? For Spring? Groundbreaking"? While we don't necessarily agree with that statement 100 percent (hey, when better to wear colorful floral prints?), they can get a little repetitive and feel worn out. A great alternative to this dilemma? Vacation prints - think palm tree leaves, beachy stripes, and fun prints like flamingos.
Since vacations are meant to put you in a relaxed state of mind, we say your wardrobe should say the same thing, too. Leave the form-fitting dresses and flowery prints at home and update your wardrobe with these 13 pieces that say you're out of office, even if you're not actually lounging at a resort.
16 Beauty Products That Use the Prickly Power of Cactus
Let the rave around products with cactus begin! The plant is going to be your new favorite ingredient in anything and everything you put on your body and hair.
"Cactus contains a large amount of linoleic acid, which is a fatty acid that stimulates healthy cell turnover; vitamin E, which helps skin retain moisture; and flavonoids, which are anti-inflammatory. It's soothing, reduces inflammation, and keeps the skin better hydrated," says Joanna Vargas, celebrity facialist and founder of Joanna Vargas Skin Care Collection and Salon, located in New York City. Her pick for best cacti? Prickly pear, because "it contains the most antioxidants." Find 16 buys that use the ingredient ahead.
13 Things You Should Stop Saying to Your Kids Now
Sticks and stones may break kids' bones, put a parent's words can truly hurt them. In moments of anger and frustration, we tend to say things to or around our children without thinking of the consequences. There are some, like our favorite four-letter word, that evoke laughter from kids. And there are other, less humorous phrases that can make kids cry, lower their self-esteem, and potentially ruin their relationship with a parent. Though it may take some extra effort, here are a few phrases you should stop saying to your children (along with some compelling reasons why) immediately.
Wedding Music: 50 Upbeat Recessional Songs
Need some help planning out the music for your wedding? Not only do we have a complete guide, but we also have suggestions for songs for all aspects of the wedding. We gave you ideas for the processional, which is when you walk down the aisle. Now it's time for the companion piece: recessional songs! Also known as when you walk back up the aisle after saying "I do," the recessional signifies that it's time to celebrate. We have 50 ideas that will work for you, whether you want a classic or modern feel, whether you love Dean Martin or Beyoncé.
37 Times Tina Fey and Amy Poehler Were Tighter Than Sisters
It goes without saying that Amy Poehler and Tina Fey have one epic friendship. Ever since their early days on Saturday Night Live, the hilarious pals have charmed us with sweet, endearing, and laugh-out-loud moments both on screen and off. Keep scrolling to see their friendship through the years with a mix of pictures, GIFs, interviews, and some of their best back-and-forth banter ever.
What 1 Woman Wishes She'd Known Before Trying to Lose Weight - Learn From Her Mistakes
I was no stranger to the freshman 15 in college - in fact, I experienced something closer to the freshman 30. It wasn't until I saw a photo of myself heading into my sophomore year that I realized I was carrying quite a few extra pounds and that it was time to do something about it. It took me a very long time to lose the weight (we're talking not until after graduation), all because I thought I knew what I was doing. Boy, was I wrong. Here are four things I wish I'd known at the start of my weight-loss journey.
Get That Spoon Out of the Jar!
While peanut butter is full of heart-healthy fats, it's not void of calories - one tablespoon contains 105. I found myself spooning it straight out of the jar, wondering why my jeans weren't any looser. This is important to remember with all healthy foods: just because they aren't considered junky doesn't mean you can eat as much as you want. Be aware of portion sizes when it comes to whole grains, nuts, seeds, and health-food-store snacks.
No Meat, No Dairy
My two roommates in college were tall, skinny, and vegan, so I thought eating a plant-based diet was the key to dropping pounds. I may have ditched animal products, but I ended up eating tons of pasta, bread, french fries, dairy-free ice cream, and vegan chocolate cupcakes instead. Had I focused on fresh fruits, veggies, legumes, and whole grains, a vegan diet might have helped me reach my weight-loss goal, but my junk-food vegan diet actually caused me to gain weight.
How About a Walk?
Walking is definitely a better workout than just sitting on the couch, so I thought strolling through the mall and walking to class would do the trick. But walking isn't a major calorie burner like running. When it comes to losing weight, you need to burn or cut out 3,500 calories a week to lose a pound. A 30-minute walk only burns around 122 calories, which is well under the 500 it takes to affect a weekly weigh-in. If you want to lose weight, you'll need to kick up the intensity and the length of your workouts.
Time to Dig In
After hitting a Step class with my college roommate, we'd hit the dining hall and fuel up. We worked out, so we deserved it, right? Little did I know I was undoing all the good I had done and actually eating way more than I had burned, which was making the scale numbers go even higher. If you need a little workout reward, don't do it with food. Download some new songs on iTunes, pick up a fitness mag, or buy yourself a new top to motivate you to get to the gym.
16 Beauty Products That Use the Prickly Power of Cactus
Let the rave around products with cactus begin! The plant is going to be your new favorite ingredient in anything and everything you put on your body and hair.
"Cactus contains a large amount of linoleic acid, which is a fatty acid that stimulates healthy cell turnover; vitamin E, which helps skin retain moisture; and flavonoids, which are anti-inflammatory. It's soothing, reduces inflammation, and keeps the skin better hydrated," says Joanna Vargas, celebrity facialist and founder of Joanna Vargas Skin Care Collection and Salon, located in New York City. Her pick for best cacti? Prickly pear, because "it contains the most antioxidants." Find 16 buys that use the ingredient ahead.
You'll Want to Splurge on Trisha Yearwood's New Summer Barbecue Foods
Williams-Sonoma has collaborated with Trisha Yearwood for a brand-new exclusive food collection. These pantry shortcuts are intended to "make Summer fun, easy, and of course, delicious," says Trisha in a behind-the-scenes video. "It revolves around food, and family, and friends. What's better than than? Mmm-hmm." Though the five new products won't be out in stores until May 19, you can order them online now . . . and for a limited time at 20 percent off. Woo-hoo! Now, if these products are out of your price range, don't worry. You can still cook Trisha's recipes - I've included them all here. The best part is, they are all simple and straightforward.
13 Ways to Refresh Your Florals For Spring
Remember the scene in The Devil Wears Prada where Miranda Priestly deadpans, "Florals? For Spring? Groundbreaking"? While we don't necessarily agree with that statement 100 percent (hey, when better to wear colorful floral prints?), they can get a little repetitive and feel worn out. A great alternative to this dilemma? Vacation prints - think palm tree leaves, beachy stripes, and fun prints like flamingos.
Since vacations are meant to put you in a relaxed state of mind, we say your wardrobe should say the same thing, too. Leave the form-fitting dresses and flowery prints at home and update your wardrobe with these 13 pieces that say you're out of office, even if you're not actually lounging at a resort.
Baby Blue, Sheer Rainbow(!), and 10 More Nail Polish Shades to Wear This Spring
That time of year is finally here: the moment when we can peel off sweaty socks and boots in favor of breezy sandals. And that means that a fresh pedicure - and coordinating manicure, naturally - is long overdue.
Instead of sticking to standard reds, pinks, or beiges, you ought to consider one of the hottest hues we're seeing in this Spring's color palette. Baby blue is one of the most popular shades of the season, as are several takes on green and teal. However, if you're still obsessing over the unicorn beauty trend, there's plenty of magical iridescence to incorporate into your nail look, including a lacquer infused with real crystals and a top coat that adds an antiqued patina to any color.
Keep reading to see the shades you'll want to wear all season long.
Prada's Resort Collection Is Made of Lingerie and Sport Socks
The Prada Resort 2018 collection, called "Osservatorio," was revealed in Milan. It's the first Cruise lineup designer Miuccia Prada's ever offered us from the fashion house, and it certainly did not disappoint. Delicate silk dresses were fastened with thick black belts at the midriff or otherwise decorated in sequins, balanced at the bottom by knee-high sport socks and a new slingback Prada sneaker that's bound to impress so many street style stars (perhaps like Susie Lau, who sat front row).
The spindly straps of book-sized clutches wrapped around the models' arms in the accessory department, but Prada's signature '50s-inspired fur sleeves were a funky enough touch on their own. Scroll for a glimpse at a new meeting of the feminine and the athletic below.
You'll Want to Splurge on Trisha Yearwood's New Summer Barbecue Foods
Williams-Sonoma has collaborated with Trisha Yearwood for a brand-new exclusive food collection. These pantry shortcuts are intended to "make Summer fun, easy, and of course, delicious," says Trisha in a behind-the-scenes video. "It revolves around food, and family, and friends. What's better than than? Mmm-hmm." Though the five new products won't be out in stores until May 19, you can order them online now . . . and for a limited time at 20 percent off. Woo-hoo! Now, if these products are out of your price range, don't worry. You can still cook Trisha's recipes - I've included them all here. The best part is, they are all simple and straightforward.
13 Nourishing Oil Treatments That Give Life to Natural Hair
Oils have been coveted by beauty junkies for complexion cleansing, body hydration, and DIYs (to name a few!), but naturalistas especially know how they can work wonders on damaged hair. Tresses that have been tortured with excessive heat styling or suffered from drying products can benefit from these nourishing must haves. Beauties with natural hair can rely on them to add shine, soothe the scalp, tame flyaways, or even use as an intensive treatment.
To save you time, we rounded up our favorite oils for natural tresses. Read on to find out why they are worthy of "holy grail" status.
This $6 Rimmel Liquid Lipstick Is Better Than Most Designer Formulas
Glosses may be getting trendy again, but I'm not ditching matte liquid lipstick anytime soon. Just try to pry it out of my hands! I'm completely sold on the matte moment: it looks both sophisticated and edgy, and usually results in a durable, long-wearing application. So, as a flat-finished lipstick aficionado, I was psyched to get the exclusive first look at Rimmel London's newest formula, Stay Matte Liquid Lip Colour ($6).
My first observation was how easy it is to work with. Some matte liquid lipsticks dry lightning fast, leaving you mere seconds to perfect your application before your look sets. However, this mousse-like texture stays creamy and pliable for around five minutes (which I appreciated, as that generous amount of time felt damn luxurious). I used the precise, chisel-tip doefoot to line my lips first, then filled in using the broad side of the applicator.
Because the Stay Mattes don't dry insanely rapidly, its finish is far from being that superflat, dry, crusty finish that too many matte liquid lipsticks have. Instead, this leaves your pout with a velvety look. My lips reminded me of the beautiful silkiness of fresh rose petals when I tried Heartbeat, a fuchsia shade. Though that was my favorite, it comes in 14 hues, including neutrals, brights, and edgier tones like sapphire, slate, and black.
You should also know that even after several hours, this liquid lipstick feels majorly comfortable, a plus in a longwear formula. I have yet to put it to an aggressive test, but Rimmel London claims this lipstick will last for up to 12 hours, ideal for those of us so busy we forget to even brush our hair in the morning. Quite honestly, this is one of the best products of its kind that I've ever tried and outperforms many prestigious products, but at a fraction of the price.
By now, you're likely ready to stock up! Good news: the Stay Matte Liquid Lip Colour is officially launching in July, but Rimmel London is doing an early access, online pop-up sale with Ulta Beauty on May 6. At just $6 apiece, buying all 14 shades doesn't seem totally unreasonable. Keep reading to get a peek at them all, then shop the virtual pop-up on May 6 here.
Baby Blue, Sheer Rainbow(!), and 10 More Nail Polish Shades to Wear This Spring
That time of year is finally here: the moment when we can peel off sweaty socks and boots in favor of breezy sandals. And that means that a fresh pedicure - and coordinating manicure, naturally - is long overdue.
Instead of sticking to standard reds, pinks, or beiges, you ought to consider one of the hottest hues we're seeing in this Spring's color palette. Baby blue is one of the most popular shades of the season, as are several takes on green and teal. However, if you're still obsessing over the unicorn beauty trend, there's plenty of magical iridescence to incorporate into your nail look, including a lacquer infused with real crystals and a top coat that adds an antiqued patina to any color.
Keep reading to see the shades you'll want to wear all season long.
13 Rainbow-Infused Embroidery Hoops For Unicorn-Lovers
Embroidery hoops and unicorns are both pretty magical, so why not put them together? We rounded up our favorite options that will fill your walls with good vibes. What's not to love? Check out all the unicorn goodness.
It Has Come to This: Your Nipple Color is Your Perfect Lip Shade, Apparently
I'm spinning http://pic.twitter.com/urjZ8XfaZz
- cakedfacehijabi (@crayon_chomper) May 1, 2017
It's 2017, so this headline does not phase me. Maybe in 2014 I would be surprised to hear that the color of your nipple is a great hack for finding your perfect lip shade, but not today. We've seen it all: the Kylie Jenner shot glass challenge, using household items like a heel to contour, and one ballsy makeup lover using her boyfriend's testicles to apply foundation. (Which I have so many concerns about. I don't want to smell like balls, thanks.)
Unlike these other internet trends, though, this one actually seems useful to me. I sit here, glancing at my nipple at the office while my coworkers look at me with genuine concern. Am I inspecting a mole? Did I drop a piece of food down my top? Did I just get pierced? No, my curious colleagues, I'm simply trying to decide if my nipple color is more of a Pillow Talk or Angel.
This discussion began after someone tweeted a screenshot of an episode of The Doctors in which they discussed whether or not your nipple is your best lip shade. It was also reported that the color of your top lip is also the same shade as your nipple. This is enlightening, because I was of the opinion my bottom lip was also the shade of my top lip - apparently not!
The internet obviously felt some type of way about this.
just read that your nipple color is your most suitable lip shade and im kinda dumbstruck rn
- mellow chelle (@michellexgeorge) May 2, 2017
@crayon_chomper Someone create a lip line with products using every nipple color and make bank and bless up 🙌🏿
- Moyo 👑 (@movaughan97) May 1, 2017
I just saw that your nipple color is your best lip color...... so what do I do, whip out my tit in Sephora & say here match me?????
- Lacy Imry (@lacymimry) May 4, 2017
This paints a whole new picture when it comes to color matching. If I were in the market to make a beauty line, I'd create a slew of lip liners with names like "Are-hola," a bronzy-tan shade, "The Booby Trap," a pinky-beige, and "Simply the Breast," a deep mahogany.
Also, for what it's worth, may I kindly suggest you do not bust out your nips for the employees (and the free world) at Sephora? They have to deal with enough. No pictures either. If you must, blow up a photo of your nipple so you can only see the shade and it is does not look recognizable as your actual areola.
And in case you're wondering, turns out Pillow Talk is in fact my ideal shade. Thanks, Charlotte Tilbury!
It Has Come to This: Your Nipple Color is Your Perfect Lip Shade, Apparently
I'm spinning http://pic.twitter.com/urjZ8XfaZz
- cakedfacehijabi (@crayon_chomper) May 1, 2017
It's 2017, so this headline does not phase me. Maybe in 2014 I would be surprised to hear that the color of your nipple is a great hack for finding your perfect lip shade, but not today. We've seen it all: the Kylie Jenner shot glass challenge, using household items like a heel to contour, and one ballsy makeup lover using her boyfriend's testicles to apply foundation. (Which I have so many concerns about. I don't want to smell like balls, thanks.)
Unlike these other internet trends, though, this one actually seems useful to me. I sit here, glancing at my nipple at the office while my coworkers look at me with genuine concern. Am I inspecting a mole? Did I drop a piece of food down my top? Did I just get pierced? No, my curious colleagues, I'm simply trying to decide if my nipple color is more of a Pillow Talk or Angel.
This discussion began after someone tweeted a screenshot of an episode of The Doctors in which they discussed whether or not your nipple is your best lip shade. It was also reported that the color of your top lip is also the same shade as your nipple. This is enlightening, because I was of the opinion my bottom lip was also the shade of my top lip - apparently not!
The internet obviously felt some type of way about this.
just read that your nipple color is your most suitable lip shade and im kinda dumbstruck rn
- mellow chelle (@michellexgeorge) May 2, 2017
@crayon_chomper Someone create a lip line with products using every nipple color and make bank and bless up 🙌🏿
- Moyo 👑 (@movaughan97) May 1, 2017
I just saw that your nipple color is your best lip color...... so what do I do, whip out my tit in Sephora & say here match me?????
- Lacy Imry (@lacymimry) May 4, 2017
This paints a whole new picture when it comes to color matching. If I were in the market to make a beauty line, I'd create a slew of lip liners with names like "Are-hola," a bronzy-tan shade, "The Booby Trap," a pinky-beige, and "Simply the Breast," a deep mahogany.
Also, for what it's worth, may I kindly suggest you do not bust out your nips for the employees (and the free world) at Sephora? They have to deal with enough. No pictures either. If you must, blow up a photo of your nipple so you can only see the shade and it is does not look recognizable as your actual areola.
And in case you're wondering, turns out Pillow Talk is in fact my ideal shade. Thanks, Charlotte Tilbury!
Michelle Obama's Dress Will Tell You Exactly Where She's Going
When Michelle Obama's on business, she chooses designs that are tailored. You'll find her accessorizing with a structured leather bag and perhaps a strand of pearls. But when she's headed on vacation, Michelle lets loose. Forget the tidy hairstyle - she's rocking a wide headband and oversize shades. And when it comes to her dresses, they've all got a bit more movement, a bit more color, and a casual touch.
Whether they're made of linen or lace, or extend to the ground like some of her boho-style maxis, Michelle's vacation looks are bold enough to put a smile on your face. What might make you even more ecstatic, however, is shopping similar silhouettes ahead of your next getaway. Though you might not be jetting off to Honolulu on Air Force One with the Obamas, choosing a breezy outfit that's been FLOTUS-approved will always be on point. Scroll to get started.
This Is the Reason Pizza Makes You So Happy
DiGiorno conducted a pizza experiment, bringing in facial recognition and emotion-tracking software along with data scientists to discover what about pizza makes us happy. The study discovered something unexpected. Partygoers expressed the most happiness from the anticipation of pizza. The charts show a surge in happiness when the experimentees could smell the pizza baking in the oven and see the pizza coming out of the oven. In fact, they acted 20 percent more joyful than they did actually eating the pizza. This makes sense considering other studies have proved that anticipating experiences makes people happy. This sure does shed a whole new light on the term "delayed gratification."
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