Healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is one which helps to keep and improve people's health and well-being.Many governments and non-governmental organizations have made big efforts in healthy lifestyle and health promotion.
Mental Health
Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
Public health
Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
Health
Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
jeudi 11 mai 2017
These 9 Dragon Products Will Make You Forget All About Unicorns
Dragons are badass animals. So if you're a powerful chick, the fire-breathing creature is obviously your spirit animal. We found some fun products with dragon details - you'll want to get your hands on this stuff. Take a look!
Everything You Need to Know About Netflix's Anne of Green Gables Reboot
If you grew up reading Lucy Maud Montgomery's Anne of Green Gables novels, or watching one of the many made-for-TV movies, or going to see a stage production of the classic story, Netflix has exciting news! The streaming service turned production giant has rebooted the tale, and season one is premiering this week. But before we get to that, let's dive into the basic details of what you need to know before the show debuts!
The Story
Anne Shirley is a quirky, brilliant, 13-year-old orphan living on Prince Edward Island (that's a Canadian province just north of Nova Scotia, FYI) in the 1890s. When she's mistakenly sent to live with a brother and sister in their 60s, she winds up changing their lives and transforming their small town.
The Cast
Amybeth McNulty, who briefly appeared in the 2015 movie Morgan, scored the coveted role of Anne. Geraldine James (Rogue One: A Star Wars Story) and R.H. Thomson (Chloe) will be playing Marilla and Matthew Cuthbert.
The First Look
The Full Trailer
The Premiere Date
The eight-episode first season of Anne will appear on Netflix on May 12!
20 Pan Dulce Products So Sweet You Won't Be Able to Resist Them
If you can't resist the sweet taste of Mexican conchas or pan dulce and are looking to declare your love in more ways than simply eating them daily, then you'll appreciate all of the products inspired by the treat we've found. You can physically show your love with a throw pillow, shirt, earrings, rings, and even a bath bomb. Keep scrolling and get ready to be in concha heaven.
Everything You Need to Know About Netflix's Anne of Green Gables Reboot
If you grew up reading Lucy Maud Montgomery's Anne of Green Gables novels, or watching one of the many made-for-TV movies, or going to see a stage production of the classic story, Netflix has exciting news! The streaming service turned production giant has rebooted the tale, and season one is premiering this week. But before we get to that, let's dive into the basic details of what you need to know before the show debuts!
The Story
Anne Shirley is a quirky, brilliant, 13-year-old orphan living on Prince Edward Island (that's a Canadian province just north of Nova Scotia, FYI) in the 1890s. When she's mistakenly sent to live with a brother and sister in their 60s, she winds up changing their lives and transforming their small town.
The Cast
Amybeth McNulty, who briefly appeared in the 2015 movie Morgan, scored the coveted role of Anne. Geraldine James (Rogue One: A Star Wars Story) and R.H. Thomson (Chloe) will be playing Marilla and Matthew Cuthbert.
The First Look
The Full Trailer
The Premiere Date
The eight-episode first season of Anne will appear on Netflix on May 12!
20 Pan Dulce Products So Sweet You Won't Be Able to Resist Them
If you can't resist the sweet taste of Mexican conchas or pan dulce and are looking to declare your love in more ways than simply eating them daily, then you'll appreciate all of the products inspired by the treat we've found. You can physically show your love with a throw pillow, shirt, earrings, rings and even a bath bomb. Keep scrolling and get ready to be in concha heaven.
Last-Minute Gifts: $15-or-Less Mother's Day Etsy Finds
If you're still searching for the perfect gift for your mom, we've found a few budget-friendly gifts that will make her feel loved. From sparkling jewels to heavenly scented soaps, these handmade gifts from Etsy crafters are a unique way to show Mom she is special. And these gifts are also inspiration for Mother's Day DIYs that are easier than you think to pull off. What are you waiting for? Keep reading to find the perfect gift for your mom!
13 Mom Dates For Mother's Day
This Sunday is Mother's Day - how will you celebrate your mom? If you're lucky enough to be spending the day with her, maybe you should think outside the brunch box. I came up with 13 mother-daughter activities, or what I like to call mom dates, you can organize for Mother's Day. Whether it's high tea or taking advantage of unexpected things your community has to offer, here are some imaginative ways to spend the day with your mom.
PSA: If We Pool Our Money, We Could Buy Jackie Kennedy's Cartier Watch - Who's In?
Sure, you could treat yourself to a brand-new Cartier watch, or you could bid on Jackie Kennedy's engraved Tank, a signature item she wore for years beginning in 1963. The timepiece was a gift from her brother-in-law Prince Stanislaw Radziwill, whom she called "Stas." It was a celebration of the 50-mile Palm Beach hike President John F. Kennedy encouraged Americans to take on. "Stas to Jackie 23 Feb." is scrawled on the back of the gold design, along with the start and stop times of the hike.
While it would mean a lot to own a memento like this one to begin with, the square shape of the watch and its slick black band also lend a vintage touch to any outfit. Of course, knowing the special story behind a Cartier design comes with a price, and the watch is expected to sell at anywhere from $60,000 to $120,000 when it goes up for auction on June 21 at Christie's.
Scroll for a closer look at Jackie's watch, along with the painting that will accompany it (a piece of original artwork Jackie made and gifted to Stas after the hike). Then catch another glimpse of Jackie wearing her timepiece with a simple ribbed turtleneck, further encouragement to place your own bid on the timeless artifact this Summer.
12 Times Game of Thrones Sneakily Foreshadowed the Future
Game of Thrones is one of those shows that you really do have to watch from the beginning (and not just because Jason Momoa is only in the first season). There are so many details that seem random or offhand at face value but then make sense or explain something several episodes or even seasons later. Here are 12 of the times Game of Thrones perfectly foreshadows what's to come.
PSA: If We Pool Our Money, We Could Buy Jackie Kennedy's Cartier Watch - Who's In?
Sure, you could treat yourself to a brand-new Cartier watch, or you could bid on Jackie Kennedy's engraved Tank, a signature item she wore for years beginning in 1963. The timepiece was a gift from her brother-in-law Prince Stanislaw Radziwill, whom she called "Stas." It was a celebration of the 50-mile Palm Beach hike President John F. Kennedy encouraged Americans to take on. "Stas to Jackie 23 Feb." is scrawled on the back of the gold design, along with the start and stop times of the hike.
While it would mean a lot to own a memento like this one to begin with, the square shape of the watch and its slick black band also lend a vintage touch to any outfit. Of course, knowing the special story behind a Cartier design comes with a price, and the watch is expected to sell at anywhere from $60,000 to $120,000 when it goes up for auction on June 21 at Christie's.
Scroll for a closer look at Jackie's watch, along with the painting that will accompany it (a piece of original artwork Jackie made and gifted to Stas after the hike). Then catch another glimpse of Jackie wearing her timepiece with a simple ribbed turtleneck, further encouragement to place your own bid on the timeless artifact this Summer.
Later, Cronuts! These Rose-Shaped Doughnuts Are the Next Big Dessert Trend
So far this year, the dessert gods have graciously shone down, delighting us with one picture-perfect treat after another. Roses have started infiltrating the dessert world in the form of gorgeous ice cream cones and a variety of other intricately designed edible goodies, but the latest addition to the trend is rather unexpected: rose-shaped doughnuts! That's right; these "doughflowers" swap out the basic circular shape for an intricate rose-inspired form, and the results are pure, Instagrammable perfection.
These rosy dough creations just started blossoming at New York City's Doughnut Plant, where they're sold for $5 each. Made with yeast, doughflowers are available in a choice of three mouthwatering glazes: strawberry (which is made from fresh berries), Italian blood orange (which contains orange blossom water), and, of course, rose (which is "richly perfumed with rose water and crushed edible petals"), according to The New York Times. OK woah - does it get any better than these babies? We bet Belle from Beauty and the Beast would totally be into them.
Keep scrolling to drool over these rose-shaped treats, which are sure to become Instagram's next big thing in no time.
Later, Cronuts! These Rose-Shaped Doughnuts Are the Next Big Dessert Trend
So far this year, the dessert gods have graciously shone down, delighting us with one picture-perfect treat after another. Roses have started infiltrating the dessert world in the form of gorgeous ice cream cones and a variety of other intricately designed edible goodies, but the latest addition to the trend is rather unexpected: rose-shaped doughnuts! That's right; these "doughflowers" swap out the basic circular shape for an intricate rose-inspired form, and the results are pure, Instagrammable perfection.
These rosy dough creations just started blossoming at New York City's Doughnut Plant, where they're sold for $5 each. Made with yeast, doughflowers are available in a choice of three mouthwatering glazes: strawberry (which is made from fresh berries), Italian blood orange (which contains orange blossom water), and, of course, rose (which is "richly perfumed with rose water and crushed edible petals"), according to The New York Times. OK woah - does it get any better than these babies? We bet Belle from Beauty and the Beast would totally be into them.
Keep scrolling to drool over these rose-shaped treats, which are sure to become Instagram's next big thing in no time.
The 11-Year-Old Prince of Norway Dabs, Generally Has No Chill During Royal Ceremony
Image Source: Getty / Patrick van Katwijk
King Harald V and Queen Sonja of Norway celebrated their 80th birthdays this week with a string of massive events in Oslo. Despite the high-profile guest list - which included Prince Carl Philip and Princess Sofia of Sweden and Prince Albert and Princess Charlene of Monaco - it was the couple's 11-year-old grandson, Prince Sverre Magnus, who stole the show with his antics on the balcony of the Royal Palace. On Tuesday, Sverre was either really bored or really excited by the giant crowd of well-wishers that formed in front of the palace, because he started acting pretty extra while up there with the rest of his family. A video on Twitter showed the young royal throwing peace signs (innocent enough) before hitting a dab for the fans (and you thought the dab was over, huh?)
MEDIA: The Prince of Norway during a royal ceremony http://pic.twitter.com/yAGpUJH2XX
- The Spectator Index (@spectatorindex) May 11, 2017
Even though the adults didn't notice or seem to mind Sverre's stunts, his cousin, Leah Isadora Behn, was not having it; the 12-year-old looked visibly annoyed with him, even trying to force his arms down and keeping her arms crossed like, "Here we go again with this guy." Dab on, Sverre Magnus. Dab on.
12 Times Game of Thrones Sneakily Foreshadowed the Future
Game of Thrones is one of those shows that you really do have to watch from the beginning (and not just because Jason Momoa is only in the first season). There are so many details that seem random or offhand at face value but then make sense or explain something several episodes or even seasons later. Here are 12 of the times Game of Thrones perfectly foreshadows what's to come.
Here's Your First Peek at Fall's New TV Shows!
This is a hugely exciting time for TV addicts: shows are being canceled and renewed left and right, new Summer series are beginning to roll out, and networks are unveiling their plans for the Fall. Fox and The CW have already made some big announcements about the new shows they've greenlit for the 2017 to 2018 season, and we can't wait to sink our teeth into them. Lucy Hale, Adam Scott, Emily VanCamp, and more stars are coming to primetime! Take a look, and check back as we update this post with more news in the coming weeks.
29 Times Prince Royce Showed Off His Superhot Muscles and We Got Weak in the Knees
Prince Royce is known for his sexy lyrics and swoon-worthy singing voice, but his buff physique is our new obsession. The 28-year-old bachata singer, whose romantic performance at Premios Juventud took our breath away, has recently been spending a lot of time in the gym - and his supertoned biceps are proof of all his hard work.
Lucky for us, Prince Royce loves sharing his progress with his millions of Instagram followers. Whether he's snapping a quick mirror selfie in the weight room or wearing a muscle tee on stage, his feed is seriously an endless source of fitspiration (read: eye candy). Keep scrolling for a look at his hottest pictures yet (adorable dimples very much included).
29 Times Prince Royce Showed Off His Superhot Muscles and We Got Weak in the Knees
Prince Royce is known for his sexy lyrics and swoon-worthy singing voice, but his buff physique is our new obsession. The 28-year-old bachata singer, whose romantic performance at Premios Juventud took our breath away, has recently been spending a lot of time in the gym - and his supertoned biceps are proof of all his hard work.
Lucky for us, Prince Royce loves sharing his progress with his millions of Instagram followers. Whether he's snapping a quick mirror selfie in the weight room or wearing a muscle tee on stage, his feed is seriously an endless source of fitspiration (read: eye candy). Keep scrolling for a look at his hottest pictures yet (adorable dimples very much included).
Here's Your First Peek at Fall's New TV Shows!
This is a hugely exciting time for TV addicts: shows are being canceled and renewed left and right, new Summer series are beginning to roll out, and networks are unveiling their plans for the Fall. Fox and The CW have already made some big announcements about the new shows they've greenlit for the 2017 to 2018 season, and we can't wait to sink our teeth into them. Lucy Hale, Adam Scott, Emily VanCamp, and more stars are coming to primetime! Take a look, and check back as we update this post with more news in the coming weeks.
The 11-Year-Old Prince of Norway Dabs, Generally Has No Chill During Royal Ceremony
Image Source: Getty / Patrick van Katwijk
King Harald V and Queen Sonja of Norway celebrated their 80th birthdays this week with a string of massive events in Oslo. Despite the high-profile guest list - which included Prince Carl Philip and Princess Sofia of Sweden and Prince Albert and Princess Charlene of Monaco - it was the couple's 11-year-old grandson, Prince Sverre Magnus, who stole the show with his antics on the balcony of the Royal Palace. On Tuesday, Sverre was either really bored or really excited by the giant crowd of well-wishers that formed in front of the palace, because he started acting pretty extra while up there with the rest of his family. A video on Twitter showed the young royal throwing peace signs (innocent enough) before hitting a dab for the fans (and you thought the dab was over, huh?)
MEDIA: The Prince of Norway during a royal ceremony http://pic.twitter.com/yAGpUJH2XX
- The Spectator Index (@spectatorindex) May 11, 2017
Even though the adults didn't notice or seem to mind Sverre's stunts, his cousin, Leah Isadora Behn, was not having it; the 12-year-old looked visibly annoyed with him, even trying to force his arms down and keeping her arms crossed like, "Here we go again with this guy." Dab on, Sverre Magnus. Dab on.
The Best Topshop Dresses Under $100 to Shop Right Now
Topshop's quickly becoming my favorite fast-fashion retailer - and not just for jeans. My love for browsing the brand's high-waisted skinnies eventually led me to other categories, namely the dresses. I discovered an array of options in the season's trendiest prints or cuts. For Spring, the brand has already released asymmetrical cold-shoulder dresses, silky slips, and ruffled-up minis, all of which are super affordable. To prove my point, I curated a list of the best pieces under $100 every fashion girl can shop right now. If you weren't a fan of Topshop before, you will be now.
A Celebrity Stylist Reveals How to Get the Best Beach Waves of Your Life This Summer
For most, when they hear the words "effortlessly sexy hair," beach waves come to mind. But unless you're particularly handy with hot tools (or just blessed with perfectly tousled texture), achieving that look is not quite as simple as it looks.
There are a couple of issues at play here. If you have straight hair, you might relate to our eternal struggle to appear as if we just stepped off a boardwalk rather than looking like a sea witch. And even if you have exactly the right curls naturally, you could still be screwed over at the salon. No matter where you go, practically every stylist has a different definition of beach waves (and god help you if you don't bring a celebrity photo for reference). You never know if you'll hit the jackpot or end up looking far more matronly than marvelous.
To ensure you end up with exactly the sexy, lived-in look you're craving, we consulted Chris Appleton, Color Wow ambassador and the mane man of Kim Kardashian, Jourdan Dunn, and more celebrities. He outlined four different types of hair textures and revealed exactly how they should be styled (step by step!) for beach waves. Not only that, but he also provided the lingo women need to say while in the salon chair to get the stylish strands of their dreams. Read on!
The Best Topshop Dresses Under $100 to Shop Right Now
Topshop's quickly becoming my favorite fast-fashion retailer - and not just for jeans. My love for browsing the brand's high-waisted skinnies eventually led me to other categories, namely the dresses. I discovered an array of options in the season's trendiest prints or cuts. For Spring, the brand has already released asymmetrical cold-shoulder dresses, silky slips, and ruffled-up minis, all of which are super affordable. To prove my point, I curated a list of the best pieces under $100 every fashion girl can shop right now. If you weren't a fan of Topshop before, you will be now.
A Celebrity Stylist Reveals How to Get the Best Beach Waves of Your Life This Summer
For most, when they hear the words "effortlessly sexy hair," beach waves come to mind. But unless you're particularly handy with hot tools (or just blessed with perfectly tousled texture), achieving that look is not quite as simple as it looks.
There are a couple of issues at play here. If you have straight hair, you might relate to our eternal struggle to appear as if we just stepped off a boardwalk rather than looking like a sea witch. And even if you have exactly the right curls naturally, you could still be screwed over at the salon. No matter where you go, practically every stylist has a different definition of beach waves (and god help you if you don't bring a celebrity photo for reference). You never know if you'll hit the jackpot or end up looking far more matronly than marvelous.
To ensure you end up with exactly the sexy, lived-in look you're craving, we consulted Chris Appleton, Color Wow ambassador and the mane man of Kim Kardashian, Jourdan Dunn, and more celebrities. He outlined four different types of hair textures and revealed exactly how they should be styled (step by step!) for beach waves. Not only that, but he also provided the lingo women need to say while in the salon chair to get the stylish strands of their dreams. Read on!
This Painting Sums Up Married Life in the Most Hilariously Sweet Way
While peeing the other day - bathroom door wide open - and recounting my day to my boyfriend of almost five years, I had to ask myself an honest question: is the romance dead in my relationship? After a few seconds of thinking about how incredibly comfortable I am being myself around him, about how he knows that I hate flowers except sunflowers, and how he picks out my favorite flavor of gum and brings it to me just because he's thinking about me while buying a lock at the hardware store, I realized the romance isn't dead, it's just different than it used to be. And I kind of like it more.
Anyone who is married or in a long-term relationship knows that true love means something different to everyone, and while it's not always pretty, that doesn't mean it isn't just as wonderful. An Imgur user posted a painting her husband made for her when she commented on the fact that he had never painted them together, and the image sums up married life in a nutshell. I love the realness of the photo, probably because I can relate to pretty much everything happening in it (seriously, wearing pants at home is completely pointless). Check out the hilariously sweet (and accurate) image.
I ask my husband if he realises he has never actually painted us both in the same painting...
Missouri State Congressman Claims "Homosexuals" and "Human Beings" Are Different
Believe it or not, there is an American state senator who genuinely does not understand the definition of human being. Missouri state Representative Rick Brattin, revealed that he believed there is a "distinction" between human beings and people who are gay during a debate over a bill protecting the state's LGBTQ community from discrimination.
In Missouri, citizens can legally be discriminated against based on their sexual orientation. On May 8, state legislators attempted to pass an amendment banning sexual-orientation-based prejudice when Brattin expressed his concern over the proposal.
"When you look at the tenets of religion, of the Bible, of the Quran, of other religions, there is a distinction between homosexuality and just being a human being," Brattin told the House floor. According to The Kansas City Star, Brattin has yet to clarify his statement, although it aligns with his previous push for teaching creationism in public schools.
Brattin's inadequate understanding of elementary biology is not the first time he's demonstrated his supreme ignorance. He was also one of the notorious congressmen who once tried to establish a differentiation between "rape" and "legitimate rape" as it related to an antiabortion bill he proposed. The bill would have required pregnant women to receive the father's written consent before obtaining an abortion except in cases of "legitimate rape" (whatever that means).
Adding insult to injury, the Missouri state legislature passed Senate Bill 43, a law that would make it harder to sue for discrimination. It would force citizens to explicitly prove that bias lead to a dismissal rather than just contributing to it. The fate of the bill now depends on Republican Governor Eric Greitens.
Missouri State Congressman Claims "Homosexuals" and "Human Beings" Are Different
Believe it or not, there is an American state senator who genuinely does not understand the definition of human being. Missouri state Representative Rick Brattin, revealed that he believed there is a "distinction" between human beings and people who are gay during a debate over a bill protecting the state's LGBTQ community from discrimination.
In Missouri, citizens can legally be discriminated against based on their sexual orientation. On May 8, state legislators attempted to pass an amendment banning sexual-orientation-based prejudice when Brattin expressed his concern over the proposal.
"When you look at the tenets of religion, of the Bible, of the Quran, of other religions, there is a distinction between homosexuality and just being a human being," Brattin told the House floor. According to The Kansas City Star, Brattin has yet to clarify his statement, although it aligns with his previous push for teaching creationism in public schools.
Brattin's inadequate understanding of elementary biology is not the first time he's demonstrated his supreme ignorance. He was also one of the notorious congressmen who once tried to establish a differentiation between "rape" and "legitimate rape" as it related to an antiabortion bill he proposed. The bill would have required pregnant women to receive the father's written consent before obtaining an abortion except in cases of "legitimate rape" (whatever that means).
Adding insult to injury, the Missouri state legislature passed Senate Bill 43, a law that would make it harder to sue for discrimination. It would force citizens to explicitly prove that bias lead to a dismissal rather than just contributing to it. The fate of the bill now depends on Republican Governor Eric Greitens.
An Exclusive First Look at Tarte Clay Play Palette Featuring 12 New Contour Shades
Match point: Tarte. You can thank the brand - known for creating natural beauty products before "organic" was a buzz word - for making your dream Summer palette. We're excited to exclusively break the details about Tarte's Clay Play Face Shaping Palette (launching on tartecosmetics.com on May 21 for $46).
This is truly the ideal palette for you - and everyone in your Summer share house. Clay Play contains 12 new shades, which can be used universally on brows, eyelids, cheeks, nose, and for the overall complexion. There are nine neutral-to-smoky matte eye shadows that can be intensified or sheered out. Dunes and Smoke will likely work on most brows, while Journey can be the base of your trendy pink eye look, and Solstice is one of those dream highlighters. Three big tins of contour powders cater to a bevy of skin tones. Expect the same creamy, silky powder textures and long-wear capabilities the brand is known for.
What makes this palette extra special is that the powders are all infused with Amazonian clay. The ingredient helps to remove surface oil while hydrating cells (basically, it's balancing!), so it actually makes your skin better while you wear it.
Plus, how chic is that tortoiseshell packaging? Expect more Amazonian-clay-infused launches coming this Summer.
HIIT or LISS: What’s Better For Your Heart?
The following post was originally featured on Fit Bottomed Girls, which is part of POPSUGAR's influencer network.
Boy, do I love me some cardio. And you should to. Think about it: of all the muscles in your body, none is as important as your heart. It's the only muscle that never gets to stop contracting . . . well, at least not if you wanna stay alive.
It's a pretty well-known fact that heart disease is the leading cause of death in this country. According to the surgeon general you should be getting 150 minutes per week of moderate exercise (like brisk walking or bicycling) or 75 minutes per week of more vigorous exercise (like running or group fitness classes) or some equivalent mix of both.
For years, the debate over whether HIIT (high intensity interval training) or LISS (lower intensity steady state) is better has raged on. When asked, I always say it depends on what your goals are.
If your goal is to build a powerhouse of a heart then listen up, I'm about to break it down for you - strictly in terms of heart health.
What You Need to Know About HIIT
HIIT workouts, also known as or interval training or metabolic conditioning, involve short bouts of high intensity (hard) work followed by a periods of rest. HIIT is mostly anaerobic which means that during exercise your body is fueled primarily by stored carbohydrates rather than relying exclusively on oxygen. By doing HIIT exclusively as your cardio work, you might believe that your heart is fitter than it actually is because when you venture outside of the aerobic (oxygen-fueled) zone, you're not actually getting the full cardiovascular benefits.
Additionally, due to the intensity, a HIIT-only diet can actually strain your cardiovascular system and stress out your heart out. Too much HIIT can also negatively affect your nervous system and trigger symptoms that look and feel like anxiety - elevated heart rate, sleep disturbances, lack of focus, agitation and restlessness - all of which just continue to stress your heart out.
The Benefits of LISS
LISS is a term used to describe an activity that's performed at a consistent, steady effort for an extended period of time. The intensity is lower and that's what allows you to maintain the activity for longer without the need for rest in the middle of the workout.
Since LISS keeps your heart rate in the aerobic zone, it's fabulous for conditioning your heart and improving blood pressure and circulation. Because of this, LISS causes your resting heart rate to decrease - a signal that you're heart doesn't have to work so hard just to pump blood to the rest of your body and keep you alive.
LISS is much easier on the body so it's excellent for beginners and can be done more frequently than HIIT without stressing out your ticker more than it's able to bounce back from. The point of LISS is to place just enough strain on your heart to make it have to adapt and get stronger but not so much that it freaks your heart out.
The Verdict
HIIT and steady state cardio are both great ways to get fit. In a perfect world, you'd include a little of both but if you could only pick one and your goal was purely heart health, I'd suggest LISS. While HIIT certainly has its pros - shorter workouts and awesome metabolism-boosting effects - but when it comes to heart health, nothing beats the aerobic benefits of LISS.
Now, I know that LISS isn't nearly as glamorous as HIIT, but if you needed another reason to include a little more LISS in your life, here you go: in order to do HIIT, your ticker has to be strong enough to recover between high-intensity bouts . . . this is a function of your aerobic system. In other words, by doing LISS you strengthen your heart in ways that will ultimately improve your performance during your HIIT workouts because those hard efforts rely heavily on your aerobic system to get your heart rate back down during rest intervals.
HIIT or LISS: What’s Better For Your Heart?
The following post was originally featured on Fit Bottomed Girls, which is part of POPSUGAR's influencer network.
Boy, do I love me some cardio. And you should to. Think about it: of all the muscles in your body, none is as important as your heart. It's the only muscle that never gets to stop contracting . . . well, at least not if you wanna stay alive.
It's a pretty well-known fact that heart disease is the leading cause of death in this country. According to the surgeon general you should be getting 150 minutes per week of moderate exercise (like brisk walking or bicycling) or 75 minutes per week of more vigorous exercise (like running or group fitness classes) or some equivalent mix of both.
For years, the debate over whether HIIT (high intensity interval training) or LISS (lower intensity steady state) is better has raged on. When asked, I always say it depends on what your goals are.
If your goal is to build a powerhouse of a heart then listen up, I'm about to break it down for you - strictly in terms of heart health.
What You Need to Know About HIIT
HIIT workouts, also known as or interval training or metabolic conditioning, involve short bouts of high intensity (hard) work followed by a periods of rest. HIIT is mostly anaerobic which means that during exercise your body is fueled primarily by stored carbohydrates rather than relying exclusively on oxygen. By doing HIIT exclusively as your cardio work, you might believe that your heart is fitter than it actually is because when you venture outside of the aerobic (oxygen-fueled) zone, you're not actually getting the full cardiovascular benefits.
Additionally, due to the intensity, a HIIT-only diet can actually strain your cardiovascular system and stress out your heart out. Too much HIIT can also negatively affect your nervous system and trigger symptoms that look and feel like anxiety - elevated heart rate, sleep disturbances, lack of focus, agitation and restlessness - all of which just continue to stress your heart out.
The Benefits of LISS
LISS is a term used to describe an activity that's performed at a consistent, steady effort for an extended period of time. The intensity is lower and that's what allows you to maintain the activity for longer without the need for rest in the middle of the workout.
Since LISS keeps your heart rate in the aerobic zone, it's fabulous for conditioning your heart and improving blood pressure and circulation. Because of this, LISS causes your resting heart rate to decrease - a signal that you're heart doesn't have to work so hard just to pump blood to the rest of your body and keep you alive.
LISS is much easier on the body so it's excellent for beginners and can be done more frequently than HIIT without stressing out your ticker more than it's able to bounce back from. The point of LISS is to place just enough strain on your heart to make it have to adapt and get stronger but not so much that it freaks your heart out.
The Verdict
HIIT and steady state cardio are both great ways to get fit. In a perfect world, you'd include a little of both but if you could only pick one and your goal was purely heart health, I'd suggest LISS. While HIIT certainly has its pros - shorter workouts and awesome metabolism-boosting effects - but when it comes to heart health, nothing beats the aerobic benefits of LISS.
Now, I know that LISS isn't nearly as glamorous as HIIT, but if you needed another reason to include a little more LISS in your life, here you go: in order to do HIIT, your ticker has to be strong enough to recover between high-intensity bouts . . . this is a function of your aerobic system. In other words, by doing LISS you strengthen your heart in ways that will ultimately improve your performance during your HIIT workouts because those hard efforts rely heavily on your aerobic system to get your heart rate back down during rest intervals.
10 Things to Know About 13 Reasons Why's Christian Navarro, aka Tony
Christian Navarro is the up-and-coming actor stealing our hearts right now. The 25-year-old plays the part of Tony in Netflix's hit 13 Reasons Why, and we are in love with him just as much as you are.
Tony might be a very mysterious character on the Selena Gomez-produced show, but we are cracking the door wide open on the man who plays him. With only little Instagram stalking on Christian, we learned everything you need to know about your new crush. Keep scrolling to learn more about this hottie and what he's all about.
This Is What Nars's New Orgasm Lipstick Looks Like on Diverse Skin Tones
Before there were viral Peach Palettes, there was Nars Orgasm blush. The shimmery pink-peach shade is probably the most famous blush - ever! - and it's known to look good on just about everyone. Plus, it gives you that post-romp "afterglow" look.
This Summer, the iconic shade is expanding its empire (there's already a multiuse stick, lip gloss, and liquid illuminator in the hue) to include liquid blush and a lipstick. Here, we're going to discuss the latter.
While Orgasm Lipstick doesn't launch until May 15 ($28), we got advance samples to test. The formula is just as creamy and nourishing as other Nars lipsticks, and it's decently longwear and pigmented.
But would it be like the sisterhood of the traveling lipstick and complement most complexions? Four POPSUGAR editors - with skin tones ranging from pale to dark - swiped on the shimmery peach-pink to see if it's as universally flattering as its sister powder blush. Keep reading for our reviews!
Excuse Us While We Relish Cole Sprouse and Lili Reinhart's Adorable Friendship
The Riverdale cast is filled with some adorable friendships, but we have a soft spot for Cole Sprouse and Lili Reinhart. Together they make up the show's biggest couple, Jughead and Betty, and their offscreen bond is just as endearing. Whether they're goofing off on set or taking family trips to the beach together, it's clear these two have a special connection. There have been rumors that these two are a couple in real life (fans of the show have been shipping them hard), but we'll soak up their sweetest moments no matter what their status is.
Shop These Amazing Pieces at Net-a-Porter Without 1 Pang of Guilt
Net-a-Porter is a luxury fashion destination, so you might think of it as the go-to online retailer for high-end designer items. But there's plenty you can find at a lower price point, and many of these pieces are also part of exclusive collaborations, like the company's latest flirty, feminine offerings from Ganni. That means you're shopping unique separates that have been curated by trustworthy experts.
But you can also browse the likes of J. Crew, Madewell, and even Draper James on Net-a-Porter. And when you do, you'll be cementing your relationship with a site that's constantly updated (every Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday FYI) with a fresh round of selects from the hottest brands - both up-and-coming (like Monse and Ganni) and old favorites (Net-a-Porter was one of the first multi-label sites to sell Prada). Scroll for the must-haves on our under $300 list this season, and don't regret one single purchase.
17 New Shows to Have on Your Radar This Summer
I live for cheesy, soapy, reality TV in the Summer, but there if you prefer something scripted, there are a handful of new options hitting the small screen this Summer. The major networks all have something in the works, but Netflix is already emerging as a major player. In addition to debuting new seasons of hits like Orange Is the New Black and House of Cards, the streaming site has five major new shows that we can't wait to see. Take a look to find your new favorite Summer series.
Hailey Baldwin's Bikini Might Just Be the Most Flattering on the Internet
So many women swear by neon bikinis. "They make you look tan!" they say. And while electric-colored two-pieces might not be for everyone, Hailey Baldwin certainly makes a case for her own Solid + Striped version. The supermodel wore the brand's sporty Elle top and bottom in Pop Azalea, a shade that definitely looks bright against clear blue waters.
You could attribute it to the way the sunlight's hitting her skin, but Hailey's got an undeniable glow going on. Of course, we're not suggesting this particular swimsuit will turn you into a gorgeously tanned goddess, but we can't say we're not intrigued by all that hot pink. Scroll for another look at Hailey in the suit, then get in on the neon trend and shop the exact version along with similar options ahead.
Excuse Us While We Relish Cole Sprouse and Lili Reinhart's Adorable Friendship
The Riverdale cast is filled with some adorable friendships, but we have a soft spot for Cole Sprouse and Lili Reinhart. Together they make up the show's biggest couple, Jughead and Betty, and their offscreen bond is just as endearing. Whether they're goofing off on set or taking family trips to the beach together, it's clear these two have a special connection. There have been rumors that these two are a couple in real life (fans of the show have been shipping them hard), but we'll soak up their sweetest moments no matter what their status is.
10 Awesome Travel Websites to Find the Cheapest Flight
We're all familiar with the fun and excitement that comes with planning your next big vacation. But one of the best parts of the planning process is when you manage to find an amazing deal on your flight. I'll never forget when my sister and I spied $200 round-trip flights from New York to Barcelona on Airfare Watchdog via Twitter a few years ago. This steal allowed us to plan the ultimate Eurotrip right before I moved back to Houston. Ever since then, I've never booked a flight without first shopping around for deals. Here are 10 sites to help you get the biggest bang for your buck.
Airfare Watchdog: No surprise that this would be my first pick, huh? Created by a consumer travel journalist, Airfare Watchdog does the work for you, often tweeting the best sales to and from certain cities.
Google Flights: This one makes the search process quick and painless, allowing you to look at a month-by-month calendar of the best deals and also allowing you to group together multiple airports in one city.
Adioso: If flexibility is your middle name when it comes to choosing your dates travel, this one is for you. Adioso allows you to plug in a detailed search description ("London for two weeks in late Fall," for example) before it works to find you a match.
The Points Guy: In addition to providing the expected flight deal information, this website offers travel news, hotel reviews, and even advice on the best airline point systems and credit cards.
Hipmunk: What makes this site unique is that it allows you to search for flights with the lowest level of "agony," with regard to flight duration, number and length of stops, optimal times for arrival and departure, and, of course, price.
Yapta: There's nothing worse than when you give up and book that pricey flight only to finally see it go on sale in the days that follow, are we right? Yapta notifies you when this happens, and, per the airline's policy, allows you to rebook and hopefully recoup the difference.
Momondo: Sometimes it's only half your flight that's showing up as an amazing deal, and it can turn into a headache looking for the other leg on another airline at a reasonable price. Momondo takes care of this for you, eliminating the hassle while keeping convenience in mind.
GTFO: Short for "get the flight out," this website and its corresponding app are the spontaneous traveler's dream match. If you're able to plan a weekend getaway at a moment's notice, this is where you want to start your search for the best deal.
Jet Radar: If you flat-out just love to travel and are eager to see as much of the world as you can, head over to this website, which allows you to compare the best prices between several destinations before you ultimately make your decision.
Southwest Airlines: It's my go-to for domestic travel, and as a loyal devotee, I've been able to quickly rack up points and enjoy many a free flight. In addition to frequent flash sales where one leg of your flight ends up being less than $100, direct flights are often cheaper than those with connections, and the airline offers two free checked bags and has no cancellation fees.
21 Tiny Matching Tattoos For Sisters Who Are BFFs
Sometimes you get really lucky and your sister happens to be your best friend as well. The perfect way to show your lifelong bond is with a cute little tattoo. We have tiny ink ideas so that you and your sister can show your love for each other in an understated way. Check out our favorite options.
This Is What Nars's New Orgasm Lipstick Looks Like on Diverse Skin Tones
Before there were viral Peach Palettes, there was Nars Orgasm blush. The shimmery pink-peach shade is probably the most famous blush - ever! - and it's known to look good on just about everyone. Plus, it gives you that post-romp "afterglow" look.
This Summer, the iconic shade is expanding its empire (there's already a multiuse stick, lip gloss, and liquid illuminator in the hue) to include liquid blush and a lipstick. Here, we're going to discuss the latter.
While Orgasm Lipstick doesn't launch until May 15 ($28), we got advance samples to test. The formula is just as creamy and nourishing as other Nars lipsticks, and it's decently longwear and pigmented.
But would it be like the sisterhood of the traveling lipstick and complement most complexions? Four POPSUGAR editors - with skin tones ranging from pale to dark - swiped on the shimmery peach-pink to see if it's as universally flattering as its sister powder blush. Keep reading for our reviews!
A Letter to My Baby on Our First Mother's Day
Dear Baby,
This is my very first Mother's Day. Actually, it's our first Mother's Day. Before you, I would have seized any chance to celebrate me - I loved birthdays, I never minded being the center of attention. I'm a Leo, after all. But I can't take all the credit this time. I wouldn't have this holiday without you, for it's you who made me a mom. Mother's Day isn't about me. It's about you and me. Us.
Before you were ever born, for nine long months, it was me alone who carried you.
The day you came into this world, the moment we met, it was all about you and me, too. Sure, Daddy was there, but it was my arms - prickly and warm from the rush of adrenaline - that held you first. It was my bare chest that you needed to rest upon. It was my heart beating that helped regulate yours.
Your first few weeks, others got to hold you. But it was my body that sustained you. It was my milk that kept you growing, ounce by ounce. Pound by pound. It was still about you and me.
Soon, you started to take a bottle, and others got to feed you. But it was me who spent every waking moment with you. It was me who read you books and played with your toys as you watched, curious. It was me who noticed the slightest of changes - a glance held longer than usual, an arm extended by will and not just reflex. It was you and me.
After a few months, I went back to work, and someone else got to spend those days with you. But it was still me who would be at your side at all hours of the night, whenever you stirred. It was me who would wake up to the softest of rumblings to soothe you. It was me who was there with you at 3 a.m. when the world was dark and everyone else was asleep. You and me.
But then, you began to sleep through the night. After a few evenings, stretches of six hours then eight hours and then 10 hours, you no longer needed me there. And I cried.
I cried because I had to accept that it wasn't always going to be about just you and me. Of course, of course you'd still need me. But, with every passing day, week, month, it became clear that you were gaining independence. That you won't be a baby much longer.
Soon, you won't need me to carry you. You'll start to crawl, then walk, then run. When I'll try to hold you tight, you'll wriggle free, eager to explore the world outside my embrace. Soon, you won't need me to change your diapers. You won't need me to dress you. You'll want to pick out your own clothes. You won't need me to feed you. I haven't yet begun to mash up tiny slices of apple or cut up your chicken into bite-size pieces, but soon even those tasks will pass us by. You won't need me to read to you. You'll be able to sound out the words, and soon comprehend them, on your own. Eventually, you won't need me to listen to your stories, answer your questions, solve your problems. Of course you'll still want me to, I hope, and I'll oblige, but we'll both know you can do it on your own.
I only have so much longer when it's still really just you and me. In no time, your life will be filled with family, friends, classmates, teachers, and confidantes.
So this Mother's Day, our first Mother's Day, I'm not going to sleep in, however much I could use the rest. I'm not going to take Daddy up on his offer of a spa day, however much I could use the break. I'm going to be right here, holding you tight. Just you and me.
Love,
Mommy
Shop These Amazing Pieces at Net-a-Porter Without 1 Pang of Guilt
Net-a-Porter is a luxury fashion destination, so you might think of it as the go-to online retailer for high-end designer items. But there's plenty you can find at a lower price point, and many of these pieces are also part of exclusive collaborations, like the company's latest flirty, feminine offerings from Ganni. That means you're shopping unique separates that have been curated by trustworthy experts.
But you can also browse the likes of J. Crew, Madewell, and even Draper James on Net-a-Porter. And when you do, you'll be cementing your relationship with a site that's constantly updated (every Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday FYI) with a fresh round of selects from the hottest brands - both up-and-coming (like Monse and Ganni) and old favorites (Net-a-Porter was one of the first multi-label sites to sell Prada). Scroll for the must-haves on our under $300 list this season, and don't regret one single purchase.
Hailey Baldwin's Bikini Might Just Be the Most Flattering on the Internet
So many women swear by neon bikinis. "They make you look tan!" they say. And while electric-colored two-pieces might not be for everyone, Hailey Baldwin certainly makes a case for her own Solid + Striped version. The supermodel wore the brand's sporty Elle top and bottom in Pop Azalea, a shade that definitely looks bright against clear blue waters.
You could attribute it to the way the sunlight's hitting her skin, but Hailey's got an undeniable glow going on. Of course, we're not suggesting this particular swimsuit will turn you into a gorgeously tanned goddess, but we can't say we're not intrigued by all that hot pink. Scroll for another look at Hailey in the suit, then get in on the neon trend and shop the exact version along with similar options ahead.
Katy Perry Almost Gets Swept Up by a Wave in Mexico, Manages to Hold Onto Her Drink
Katy Perry jetted off to Mexico this week for a tropical vacation with a group of friends. The "Bon Appétit" singer, who recently spoke out about why she won't respond to Taylor Swift's "Bad Blood," looked amazing in a printed two-piece and sunhat when she hit the beach in Cabo San Lucas on Wednesday. In addition to taking a dip in the ocean, Katy also posted hilarious photos of her and her friends on Instagram as they almost got swept away by a wave. In the slideshow of snaps, the newly single star, who split from Orlando Bloom in February, sips on a drink from a coconut as the water rushes over them. She also read a book about Hillary Clinton, who she heavily supported during the presidential election, while sitting on a rock. "@CNN don't judge a book by it's cover," she wrote.
Katy Perry Almost Gets Swept Up by a Wave in Mexico, Manages to Hold Onto Her Drink
Katy Perry jetted off to Mexico this week for a tropical vacation with a group of friends. The "Bon Appétit" singer, who recently spoke out about why she won't respond to Taylor Swift's "Bad Blood," looked amazing in a printed two-piece and sunhat when she hit the beach in Cabo San Lucas on Wednesday. In addition to taking a dip in the ocean, Katy also posted hilarious photos of her and her friends on Instagram as they almost got swept away by a wave. In the slideshow of snaps, the newly single star, who split from Orlando Bloom in February, sips on a drink from a coconut as the water rushes over them. She also read a book about Hillary Clinton, who she heavily supported during the presidential election, while sitting on a rock. "@CNN don't judge a book by it's cover," she wrote.
13 Reasons Why's Dylan Minnette and Katherine Langford Tease Season 2
13 Reasons Why has become a pop culture phenomenon, so it makes sense that the show's young stars just landed the cover of Entertainment Weekly. Now that Netflix's hit has secured a second season, Dylan Minnette and Katherine Langford are being bombarded with questions: How will the show continue past season one? Will Hannah be involved? What's going to happen to Bryce? While we need to wait for the issue to hit newsstands, there are a few advanced quotes about what's coming from creator Brian Yorkey and Thirteen Reasons Why author Jay Asher.
"For people who aren't in high school, this show is a peek at what high school is like nowadays," said Yorkey. When asked about the show's vivid portrayal of what bullying really looks like for today's teens, he said: "It was supremely important that we do everything we could to tell the truth." Asher agreed, saying, "If the book or TV show can get people talking about these uncomfortable things, that's beautiful."
Underwhelmed? Good thing we have a ton more details, plus a video of the two stars! Here's a small version, and you can see the original over at EW.
The 15 Most Refreshing Cocktails Made With Your Favorite Summer Produce
Summer produce is great for cooking, but it's also perfect for using in cocktails. What better way use up your fresh strawberries, watermelon, and basil than in refreshing cocktails you can serve during happy hour all season long? Discover the 15 most cheers-worthy cocktails starring your favorite Summer produce ahead.
Yes, Actually, Kids Should Get Participation Trophies
In the fourth grade, which was an impressive and vaguely depressing 23 years ago, my class was spending a week doing show and tell. I'm sure this was supposed to help with public speaking and encourage class camaraderie, yet all I could focus on was what I was going to bring. Other kids may have labored over what special toy or memento they were going to take to class, but I knew immediately what prized possession would be presented: my participation trophies and medals. Of course, I didn't call them that at the time.
Tacking on the phrase "participation" is a favorite of modern pundits, used in hopes of deprecating snowflakes, millennials, and anyone else they consider soft. As a millennial, albeit an old one, I'm disinclined to believe that trophies and medals somehow ruined our society. In fact, I would argue that they are helpful; at least, they were with me.
Designed to encourage kids from struggling communities to feel better about themselves and participate in sports, participation trophies and ribbons had a massive boost in the '80s and are ubiquitous today.
When I was about 5 years old, my stepmother encouraged my dad to sign me up for soccer. I had never played sports before, unless you count ultracompetitive Candyland, and I would say that my first season of soccer wasn't super successful. I spent a large amount of time practicing handstands in the field, making daisy chains, and playing patty cake. My favorite part was the after-game Kool-Aid and orange slices, and I did score a goal, but like all great athletes it was for the other team.
Still, at the end of my season, despite not doing anything remarkable, I was presented with a medal. The ribbon was red, white, and blue (natch) and the fake-gold medal was embossed with a soccer ball surrounded by laurel leaves. I can still remember how it felt as I would run my fingers over the relief and how heavy it was. I loved it and as soon as I got home I had to find a place for it to be properly displayed.
My stepsisters were older, and thus so cool that I wanted to be like them. I would spend hours staring at their trophies that were mounted in the living room. Some of them were huge, practically half of my 5-year-old self, but all of them looked beautiful. I liked how strong and powerful the statue-athletes looked, as if these plastic people could accomplish anything. Those coveted statues and my tiny medal were enough encouragement for me to try T-ball in the Spring.
Over the years, I consistently played soccer, T-ball, tennis, and basketball, and ran track, all to varying degrees of success. In high school, my participation trophies got subbed out for a letterman's jacket, which I wore with so much obnoxious pride it was a little silly. My own trophy shelf was full and I had developed a love of sports, something that as a bookish girl I wasn't likely to explore on my own.
Working on a foundation of a lifetime of sports, as an adult I run consistently and enjoy rock climbing and yoga. For the past 27 years, I can honestly say that I've made sports, exercise, and health a valued part of my life.
This should be not just supported but also rewarded.
Some people love to admonish trophies and anything that acknowledges participation. However, it's not just showing up that we are rewarding. At a young age, we are expecting that a child is able to show up to games and practices, follow the instructions of a new adult, cooperate and play with others, and communicate effectively, all while learning a challenging new physical skill. This should be not just supported but also rewarded.
As kids get older, the challenge of showing gets substantially harder. They have to start learning to create a delicate work/life balance all while playing against other kids that are starting to show real talent and skill. There has to be time set aside for homework, chores, and social events during a season, a skill that many adults are still working through during busy times of their life.
A lot is mentally expected of an athlete at any age. Beyond learning how to work with a team, they also need to learn how to control their own emotions. It takes a lot to learn how to lose and win, how to deal with challenging interactions when something was unfair, and how to block all of it out and do it again the following week. Despite my cartwheels in the field my first season of soccer, it turns out that I am super competitive. That is a trait that, while helpful, needed to be worked out so it had a positive outlet. Sports taught me perseverance and acceptance, both positive characteristics that would serve me well later on in school and the work force. My participation trophies didn't teach me to be a unique snowflake who expected handouts; my participation trophies helped me value hard work.
My participation trophies helped me value hard work.
Frustratingly, people disapprove of children for expecting trophies and ribbons for completing a task, but when was the last time someone signed up for a race and didn't expect something at the finish line? It doesn't matter the distance - people are going to be upset if they aren't greeted with at least a medal, shirt, or beer when they're finished running. I asked my dad once why he runs so many marathons and he told me he does it for the shirts. Essentially, those marathon shirts are participation ribbons for adults that are socially acceptable to wear around society. If it's acceptable for adults, why do we not afford the same benefits for children?
Participation trophies aren't destroying society and a whole generation; in fact, they help make our children stronger and confident. In a few short years I will begin signing my son up for sports, and while there is no guarantee that he'll do well at them or enjoy them, but if he puts himself out there, then he's more than earned his medal.
Ashley Graham Wears 1 Trustworthy Corset Over 3 Different Dresses
Ashley Graham had quite the day promoting her new book A New Model: What Confidence, Beauty And Power Really Look Like. She made trips to The View and Good Morning America, and then she signed copies of her autobiography in a sheer design. But Ashley's interview style was most notable as it involved two simple pieces: a neutral dress and a Fleur du Mal corset. In fact, Ashley worked this combination three different times in 24 hours, alternating her slip as she traveled from spot to spot.
From an olive green silk Nili Lotan number to an August Getty mockneck midi, it's tough to pick a favorite variation of this look. But one thing remains constant: the game-changing waist belt that elevates Ashley's supersimple dresses. Ashley even offered her followers a quick lingerie tip on Instagram while showing off her outfits: "Tip for wearing a strapless bra - go down a size only in the band. Keeps the girls lifted without suffocating them," she wrote.
Scroll to catch a glimpse of Ashley's transformation throughout the day, then shop her quick-change separates. It seems these will earn you a whole week's worth of ensembles - at least if you take Ashley's advice.
A Letter to My Baby on Our First Mother's Day
Dear Baby,
This is my very first Mother's Day. Actually, it's our first Mother's Day. Before you, I would have seized any chance to celebrate me - I loved birthdays, I never minded being the center of attention. I'm a Leo, after all. But I can't take all the credit this time. I wouldn't have this holiday without you, for it's you who made me a mom. Mother's Day isn't about me. It's about you and me. Us.
Before you were ever born, for nine long months, it was me alone who carried you.
The day you came into this world, the moment we met, it was all about you and me, too. Sure, Daddy was there, but it was my arms - prickly and warm from the rush of adrenaline - that held you first. It was my bare chest that you needed to rest upon. It was my heart beating that helped regulate yours.
Your first few weeks, others got to hold you. But it was my body that sustained you. It was my milk that kept you growing, ounce by ounce. Pound by pound. It was still about you and me.
Soon, you started to take a bottle, and others got to feed you. But it was me who spent every waking moment with you. It was me who read you books and played with your toys as you watched, curious. It was me who noticed the slightest of changes - a glance held longer than usual, an arm extended by will and not just reflex. It was you and me.
After a few months, I went back to work, and someone else got to spend those days with you. But it was still me who would be at your side at all hours of the night, whenever you stirred. It was me who would wake up to the softest of rumblings to soothe you. It was me who was there with you at 3 a.m. when the world was dark and everyone else was asleep. You and me.
But then, you began to sleep through the night. After a few evenings, stretches of six hours then eight hours and then 10 hours, you no longer needed me there. And I cried.
I cried because I had to accept that it wasn't always going to be about just you and me. Of course, of course you'd still need me. But, with every passing day, week, month, it became clear that you were gaining independence. That you won't be a baby much longer.
Soon, you won't need me to carry you. You'll start to crawl, then walk, then run. When I'll try to hold you tight, you'll wriggle free, eager to explore the world outside my embrace. Soon, you won't need me to change your diapers. You won't need me to dress you. You'll want to pick out your own clothes. You won't need me to feed you. I haven't yet begun to mash up tiny slices of apple or cut up your chicken into bite-size pieces, but soon even those tasks will pass us by. You won't need me to read to you. You'll be able to sound out the words, and soon comprehend them, on your own. Eventually, you won't need me to listen to your stories, answer your questions, solve your problems. Of course you'll still want me to, I hope, and I'll oblige, but we'll both know you can do it on your own.
I only have so much longer when it's still really just you and me. In no time, your life will be filled with family, friends, classmates, teachers, and confidantes.
So this Mother's Day, our first Mother's Day, I'm not going to sleep in, however much I could use the rest. I'm not going to take Daddy up on his offer of a spa day, however much I could use the break. I'm going to be right here, holding you tight. Just you and me.
Love,
Mommy
Yes, Actually, Kids Should Get Participation Trophies
In the fourth grade, which was an impressive and vaguely depressing 23 years ago, my class was spending a week doing show and tell. I'm sure this was supposed to help with public speaking and encourage class camaraderie, yet all I could focus on was what I was going to bring. Other kids may have labored over what special toy or memento they were going to take to class, but I knew immediately what prized possession would be presented: my participation trophies and medals. Of course, I didn't call them that at the time.
Tacking on the phrase "participation" is a favorite of modern pundits, used in hopes of deprecating snowflakes, millennials, and anyone else they consider soft. As a millennial, albeit an old one, I'm disinclined to believe that trophies and medals somehow ruined our society. In fact, I would argue that they are helpful; at least, they were with me.
Designed to encourage kids from struggling communities to feel better about themselves and participate in sports, participation trophies and ribbons had a massive boost in the '80s and are ubiquitous today.
When I was about 5 years old, my stepmother encouraged my dad to sign me up for soccer. I had never played sports before, unless you count ultracompetitive Candyland, and I would say that my first season of soccer wasn't super successful. I spent a large amount of time practicing handstands in the field, making daisy chains, and playing patty cake. My favorite part was the after-game Kool-Aid and orange slices, and I did score a goal, but like all great athletes it was for the other team.
Still, at the end of my season, despite not doing anything remarkable, I was presented with a medal. The ribbon was red, white, and blue (natch) and the fake-gold medal was embossed with a soccer ball surrounded by laurel leaves. I can still remember how it felt as I would run my fingers over the relief and how heavy it was. I loved it and as soon as I got home I had to find a place for it to be properly displayed.
My stepsisters were older, and thus so cool that I wanted to be like them. I would spend hours staring at their trophies that were mounted in the living room. Some of them were huge, practically half of my 5-year-old self, but all of them looked beautiful. I liked how strong and powerful the statue-athletes looked, as if these plastic people could accomplish anything. Those coveted statues and my tiny medal were enough encouragement for me to try T-ball in the Spring.
Over the years, I consistently played soccer, T-ball, tennis, and basketball, and ran track, all to varying degrees of success. In high school, my participation trophies got subbed out for a letterman's jacket, which I wore with so much obnoxious pride it was a little silly. My own trophy shelf was full and I had developed a love of sports, something that as a bookish girl I wasn't likely to explore on my own.
Working on a foundation of a lifetime of sports, as an adult I run consistently and enjoy rock climbing and yoga. For the past 27 years, I can honestly say that I've made sports, exercise, and health a valued part of my life.
This should be not just supported but also rewarded.
Some people love to admonish trophies and anything that acknowledges participation. However, it's not just showing up that we are rewarding. At a young age, we are expecting that a child is able to show up to games and practices, follow the instructions of a new adult, cooperate and play with others, and communicate effectively, all while learning a challenging new physical skill. This should be not just supported but also rewarded.
As kids get older, the challenge of showing gets substantially harder. They have to start learning to create a delicate work/life balance all while playing against other kids that are starting to show real talent and skill. There has to be time set aside for homework, chores, and social events during a season, a skill that many adults are still working through during busy times of their life.
A lot is mentally expected of an athlete at any age. Beyond learning how to work with a team, they also need to learn how to control their own emotions. It takes a lot to learn how to lose and win, how to deal with challenging interactions when something was unfair, and how to block all of it out and do it again the following week. Despite my cartwheels in the field my first season of soccer, it turns out that I am super competitive. That is a trait that, while helpful, needed to be worked out so it had a positive outlet. Sports taught me perseverance and acceptance, both positive characteristics that would serve me well later on in school and the work force. My participation trophies didn't teach me to be a unique snowflake who expected handouts; my participation trophies helped me value hard work.
My participation trophies helped me value hard work.
Frustratingly, people disapprove of children for expecting trophies and ribbons for completing a task, but when was the last time someone signed up for a race and didn't expect something at the finish line? It doesn't matter the distance - people are going to be upset if they aren't greeted with at least a medal, shirt, or beer when they're finished running. I asked my dad once why he runs so many marathons and he told me he does it for the shirts. Essentially, those marathon shirts are participation ribbons for adults that are socially acceptable to wear around society. If it's acceptable for adults, why do we not afford the same benefits for children?
Participation trophies aren't destroying society and a whole generation; in fact, they help make our children stronger and confident. In a few short years I will begin signing my son up for sports, and while there is no guarantee that he'll do well at them or enjoy them, but if he puts himself out there, then he's more than earned his medal.
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