Healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is one which helps to keep and improve people's health and well-being.Many governments and non-governmental organizations have made big efforts in healthy lifestyle and health promotion.
Mental Health
Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
Public health
Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
Health
Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
mercredi 16 août 2017
How to Make a Cramped Kitchen Feel Light and Open
Making the most of a cramped kitchen doesn't mean that beautiful design needs to take a backseat to efficiency. Designer and blogger Kristin Jackson used Home Depot's exclusive Martha Stewart Living™ Kitchen collection to transform her tiny space into a magazine-worthy masterpiece - all without adding a single square foot.
Making a Murderer: 7 Theories About What Really Happened to Teresa Halbach
If you haven't yet pressed "play" on the Netflix docu-series Making a Murderer, then you are likely unaware of the controversy surrounding the 2005 murder of Wisconsin photographer Teresa Halbach. However, if you're one of the many subscribers - including celebrities like Alec Baldwin, Lauren Paul, Mia Farrow, and Ricky Gervais - who binge-watched the entire series and found the results of the subsequent investigation disturbing, then you've come to the right place.
While public opinion on the case widely varies, one constant theme amongst viewers' reactions to the show is this: that the evidence used to convict former DNA-exoneree Steven Avery and his nephew, Brendan Dassey, of Halbach's murder simply doesn't add up. Seemingly planted clues, coerced confessions, and shady practices abound throughout the Halbach case, and the frustrating (and at times blatantly unjust) criminal proceedings left many Making a Murderer viewers with a sick feeling in their stomachs. While Avery and Dassey are now serving individual life sentences for their alleged crimes, tens of thousands of citizens feel that the convictions were undeserved and founded upon bias.
But all of this begs the question: if Avery and Dassey are not responsible for the death of Teresa Halbach . . . who did it? Fueled by the passion that only a stimulating Netflix binge and overwhelming mistrust of the criminal justice system can spark, viewers have bombardered the Internet with their own theories about Halbach's killer(s). Here are the ones that we think are worth considering - but beware, you'll only be left with more questions. If you're looking for more things to watch after this, we have those, too, and if you just want another season, we have good news.
Why Plans, Like Rules, Are Meant to Be Broken
My adventures rarely go as planned. Either I map everything out too rigidly - military-general style - and one missed bus tips everything out of order like a falling domino, or, more frequently, I create the framework of a plan and leave all of the little details to the fates. "Eh, I'll figure it out," I tell myself. And I do, though the end result is never quite what I imagined. In fact, it's usually even better. This year's Quatorze Juillet (also known as Bastille Day) is a perfect example.
The plan was fairly straightforward: head to Versailles in the wee hours of the morning, spend the day strolling through the chateau and gardens, then find a bottle of Champagne and watch some Louis XIV-inspired fireworks. Because fireworks and castles sound like a great combination, right? But for whatever reason, the bus that should have taken me from my home in the countryside to the station that morning never showed up, causing me to miss my train. And, of course, no other trains on the day's schedule had any spots left. There were some cheap seats to Paris that afternoon, though. And my return trip happened to connect in the City of Lights. And, to quote Sabrina, "Paris is always a good idea."
So I booked a ticket. On y va.
I should note that on Bastille Day, the Champ de Mars (that big, grassy stretch of land just beneath the Eiffel Tower) becomes the French equivalent of the Washington Mall on July 4: covered in patriotic humans waiting to see fireworks. So almost as soon as I hopped off the train, I headed that way (all right, I stopped for fries first, then I headed that way), which turned out to be a pretty good call. Even with five hours to go before le feu d'artifice began, I barely managed to find a spot to sit crisscross applesauce on the 60-acre field.
Then I waited. And waited . . . . Became increasingly hungry, a little chilly . . . . My legs fell asleep . . . . A few people stepped on my hands . . . . At one point, the man in front of me stood up to stretch, and my head was literally up his butt.
But then came the fireworks. The fireworks! I don't know that I've ever seen anything so magical in my whole entire life (including all eight Harry Potter films). They were colorful and glimmering, and the soundtrack - a blend of big-band jazz and modern pop - was so perfect, it made my heart sing. I never knew fireworks could bring tears to my eyes, but these guys did (about three separate times in 30 minutes).
And this? All of this magic and music and light and joy? This was a last-minute backup plan.
Sure, it's easy to dismiss my story as a lucky one-off, a situation in which there were really no wrong options. But truth be told, nearly all of my spoiled plans have ended in greater memories than their well-executed counterparts. Like the afternoon I got lost in Hyde Park and stumbled upon the Italian Water Gardens. Or the morning I went to the wrong box office looking for Shakespeare in the Park tickets and ended up seeing a play starring Daniel Radcliffe (Harry Potter himself! Whom I then met!).
Plans are helpful and sensible, and there's a reason we make them. But maybe - like rules - they are meant to be broken. There's so much to be discovered in the unexpected and unplanned, so much magic hiding in the corners of our travel itineraries. Why not seek it out?
Game of Thrones Fans Can Travel to This Castle For the Ultimate Winterfell Festival
Now that Winter is here, it's the perfect time to pack your warmest attire and head for your dream vacation waiting in Ireland.
Castle Ward, better known to fans as Winterfell, is an 18-century manor in Northern Ireland and serves as the backdrop for the Stark family home on the HBO show. Now, the castle is hosting a Winterfell Festival worthy of the King in the North, and fans can get in on some serious Game of Thrones action.
Not only can Thrones enthusiasts check out the setting for Winterfell during this immersive one-day festival, but they'll also be able to enjoy the King's Tournament Games, appearances from the dogs that play the Stark family's beloved direwolves, and see Boyd Rankin, who stared as Mikken and crafted Needle, as he showcases weapons that he made for the show. After working up an appetite from the jousting and archery, check out some medieval food, but we recommend staying away from any Frey family pie.
Tickets for the event cost $26, but that's a steal for your chance to be transported to Westeros - without the Army of the Dead marching dangerously close.
Making a Murderer: 7 Theories About What Really Happened to Teresa Halbach
If you haven't yet pressed "play" on the Netflix docu-series Making a Murderer, then you are likely unaware of the controversy surrounding the 2005 murder of Wisconsin photographer Teresa Halbach. However, if you're one of the many subscribers - including celebrities like Alec Baldwin, Lauren Paul, Mia Farrow, and Ricky Gervais - who binge-watched the entire series and found the results of the subsequent investigation disturbing, then you've come to the right place.
While public opinion on the case widely varies, one constant theme amongst viewers' reactions to the show is this: that the evidence used to convict former DNA-exoneree Steven Avery and his nephew, Brendan Dassey, of Halbach's murder simply doesn't add up. Seemingly planted clues, coerced confessions, and shady practices abound throughout the Halbach case, and the frustrating (and at times blatantly unjust) criminal proceedings left many Making a Murderer viewers with a sick feeling in their stomachs. While Avery and Dassey are now serving individual life sentences for their alleged crimes, tens of thousands of citizens feel that the convictions were undeserved and founded upon bias.
But all of this begs the question: if Avery and Dassey are not responsible for the death of Teresa Halbach . . . who did it? Fueled by the passion that only a stimulating Netflix binge and overwhelming mistrust of the criminal justice system can spark, viewers have bombardered the Internet with their own theories about Halbach's killer(s). Here are the ones that we think are worth considering - but beware, you'll only be left with more questions. If you're looking for more things to watch after this, we have those, too, and if you just want another season, we have good news.
30 Meaningful Tattoos in Spanish You'll Want Immediately
Any tattoo-lover knows the secret behind great ink is the story. Tattoos can represent your passions and loves or mark an important moment in your life - or even remind you of a pretty crazy night when you were feeling spontaneous and maybe a little tipsy. But if you're considering getting new ink, why not choose a design that embodies your cultural identity? Whether it's a quote to honor your Latin roots or a simple word that speaks to you, a permanent mark in Spanish is just the perfect amount of mysterious and meaningful. We rounded up some ideas (and included the translations) that will undoubtedly inspire you.
11 DIY Beauty Remedies Your Grandma Always Talked About That Actually Work
Every abuela has one: that wild concoction she whips up from ingredients in her kitchen and swears by every time you have a pimple, dry skin, unruly hair - you name it. As kids, most of us rolled our eyes and went along with it, but we've done a little digging, and it turns out maybe Grandma wasn't so crazy after all. Many of those beauty recipes actually work! Warning: do try these 11 practices at home for smooth skin and silky hair - or get these beauty buys that are also grandma-approved.
1. Using mayonnaise as a deep conditioner for healthy hair.
According to hairstylist Nathaniel Hawkins, this old-school method works because of the fat to protein ratio. "The oil softens the hair, making it shinier - and the protein in the eggs will make strands stronger." He recommends applying the treatment to dry hair, and leaving it on as a mask for 15-20 minutes. Shampoo twice, and condition afterwards. But, Hawkins notes, this treatment works best for hair that isn't fine or limp.
2. Dabbing nails in olive oil for a healthier look.
Nail expert Stephanie Stone debunked the myth (common in Dominican culture) that rubbing garlic on nails will make them strong (according to studies, it has no benefit). But, she says, applying olive oil (a popular DIY beauty ingredient in Puerto Rico) on nails and cuticles throughout the day is a great way to improve their health. "Keeping your hands and nails moisturized is key, especially if you're trying to repair damaged nail beds. I'd also recommend applying it lightly throughout the day instead of a full on soak. But consistency is key!"
3. Coconut oil as a body moisturizer.
"This one 100% works," says dermatologist (and Sofia Vergara's derm!) Dendy Engelman, M.D., of coconut oil for soft skin, a popular technique in many Latin American countries. "Coconut oil is mostly made up of saturated fats and medium-chain fatty acids, which help repair the skin barrier, trap water to hydrate skin, and also reduce inflammation. And recent studies show it's also a great treatment for eczema."
4. Adding honey to hair conditioner for softer tresses.
A custom common in Caribbean Latin America, honey is a natural moisturizer, which Hawkins says does work to help rehydrate your locks. And using unprocessed honey will give you an extra bonus: it's full of enzymes that will help create a healthy scalp and prevent dandruff.
5. Agua maravilla to fight blemishes.
Also known as witch hazel, this is common in many Latino families, especially from Puerto Rican and Dominican backgrounds. Engelman says it works because the mixture contains anti-inflammatory, astringent, and antibacterial properties. Engelman also recommends Dickinson's Original Witch Hazel Refreshingly Clean Towelettes ($6) to control blemishes and calm bug bites.
6. Washing hair with Coca-Cola for shine.
This is a long-time favorite technique among not just Latino families, but celebrities like Suki Waterhouse. Hairstylist Nunzio Saviano gives this traditional trick the thumbs up: "The acidity closes the hair cuticle, which makes it look healthy and shiny. But be careful: the sugar can leave your hair sticky, so you might need to rinse it out quickly. Apple cider vinegar is an alternative that might not be as messy!"
7. Beach sand as a skin exfoliant.
"Sand is essentially finely granulated rocks, so it's perfect to remove excess dry skin cells," Engelman says. "But because it's so abrasive, I'd only recommend you use it to exfoliate feet. It might be too harsh for other parts of your body."
8. Manzanilla grisi shampoo to lighten hair.
Saviano says that this traditionally Mexican and South American product - which contains Flor de Manzanilla and claims to both wash and lighten hair - does work, but he would use it sparingly. "This will maintain your tone and even lighten it at times, but if you use it too much, your color might become dull or even fade."
9. Grape skin paste for glowing skin.
Grapes are a gold mine, says Engelman. "They'll have a brightening effect over time because they contain vitamins B6, C, and A, and minerals like potassium, magnesium, selenium, and flavonoids, which act as antioxidants and remove toxins from the skin."
10. Sugar and lemon juice as an antiaging exfoliant.
According to Engelman, the sugar crystals act as an exfoliator, sloughing away dead skin, while the lemon juice helps peel away dead skin cells because of their content of alpha hydroxy acid (which is found in many antiaging treatments). Exfoliating is important, Engelman says, "because as we age, our skin doesn't shed as effectively. Plus, getting rid of dead cells helps your moisturizers penetrate better."
11. Avocado for healthy cuticles.
"Actually, rubbing avocado oil on cuticles is more effective than actual avocado," says Stone. But good news for avocado lovers: "Avocados in a healthy, balanced diet will help you see overall improvement in your hair, skin, and nails, too." Bring on the guacamole!
My Mom Was Latina, My Dad Isn't - 10 Annoying Comments I'm Tired of Hearing
As a multiracial woman with a Peruvian-born mom and a white American dad, I can say life can be a little bit complicated. Growing up, it definitely wasn't the "cool" thing to be multiracial, especially in small-town Oregon where I spent my high school years, so I didn't really start to embrace the Peruvian part of my identity until I got to college. And while I have always taken pride in being Latina - it certainly has come with some built-in perks, like being fluent in Spanish by preschool - the whole thing comes with its fair share of eye-roll-worthy moments. Cue that time customers at my high-school waitressing job assumed I didn't speak English because of the way I looked.
If this story sounds familiar, chances are this roundup of other annoying comments and struggles will be too. Keep scrolling for the most frustrating moments I've faced.
The 10 Best Bottles For Breastfed Babies
Breastfed babies don't only take their milk from the breast. While lactation consultants suggest waiting at least three weeks before introducing a bottle, breastfeeding mamas often abide by their own schedules. Finding a bottle that truly mimics the motion, flow, and feeling of the breast is often the hardest part of making the switch. We've put countless bottles to the test, and narrowed our list down to nine.
Check out our picks for the most breast-like bottles on the market, and let us know which one you (or your children) prefer.
The 13 Moms You Meet at the Grocery Store
For some, there is no greater joy than wandering up and down the aisles of their local grocery store. But add a child to that picture and it's an entirely different experience. While it's highly unlikely that you'll run into the future Queen of England at your local supermarket (but hey, you never know!), there are some other personalities you're sure to see. From the mom who's oblivious to what her tot is throwing into the cart to the one who is just there for the samples, read on to see the moms you're likely to find at your local store, Target, and even Costco.
6 Fascinating Facts About Hunter McGrady, the Woman Breaking Barriers in the Modeling World
Hunter McGrady is making a splash in the modeling world after being named Sports Illustrated's "curviest" model in this year's swimsuit issue. Not only is that a huge feat in itself, but at just 24 years old, Hunter has signed with Wilhelmina Models and booked campaigns with Lane Bryant, Forever 21, Torrid, and even Melissa McCarthy's clothing line, Seven7. To top it all off, Hunter is working hard to inspire women to embrace their bodies and love themselves for who they are. "I would love to just continue the message of body positivity and loving yourself and loving your body and knowing that you're worthy of everything," she told Teen Vogue in April. "Everything is available to you, and I just want people to hopefully feel confident, feel empowered that they can go out and everything is available to them." Hunter is certainly one to watch.
- She comes from a family of models. Hunter followed in the footsteps of her mother, grandmother, and aunt when she started modeling at 16.
- Her dad is an actor. Michael McGrady has appeared in a handful of TV shows, including Ray Donovan, American Crime Story, and Southland.
- She dislikes the term "plus-size": "It's almost a form of segregation. To me, it's like why can't I just be called a model?" she said in a March interview with Hollywood Today Live. "I do exactly what everyone else does and I think that's something that will happen and I'll make sure of that."
- She has a heart of gold. Hunter works with a charity called 1 Heart 1 Mission, which supplies orphans in Haiti with food, education, water, and clothes.
- She met her boyfriend on Snapchat. "He was on a date with somebody a few months before he even started following on me Snapchat, and she said, 'You have got to follow this model, Hunter McGrady,'" Hunter explained in a May interview. "So he followed me for a few months. I was in New York last March [2016] and he reached out to me and said, 'You want to get drinks?' I was like add me on Facebook. I didn't know what he looked like and he added me and he was super cute. I was like, 'Yeah, let's get drinks.'"
- She's more than just a pretty face. Hunter received a 4.0 grade point average while in school.
Daisy Duke Has Nothing on How These 15 It Girls Style Their Denim Shorts
Denim cutoffs have been a wardrobe staple for as long we as can remember. Just like the classic jeans and white t-shirt pairing, celebrities turn to their baby blues when the temperature starts rising. But after years of wearing trusty denim shorts, it can be tough to find fresh and innovative ways to style them. That's why turned to our favorite A-listers for a new dose of outfit inspiration. From Kendall Jenner's off-duty look to Selena Gomez's Western take, you'll have a crop of exciting ideas in no time.
13 Brazilian Brands You Need to Have in Your Beauty Stash
Brazilian wax, Brazilian hair treatment, Brazilian velaterapia -- there's a reason Brazilian comes before a lot of beauty procedures and products that have become popular in recent years. The South American country is proudly at the helm of beauty innovation, and that includes having more than a few national brands with serious cult followings. Straight ahead you'll find 13 of those beauty companies developing products women and men can't get enough of, from perfumes to skin care to body and bath necessities. You're sure to find a few new things to add to your beauty kit.
33 Hairstyles That Prove Kate Middleton Is the Princess of Good Bangs
The decision to cut bangs is a very big one. And Kate Middleton, who is known around the world for having gorgeous hair, has taken the plunge on numerous occasions. In fact, Kate's sported the style on and off for the past decade. She's worn her fringe long and short, straight-down and pushed to the side. Kate's a trendsetter in many realms, and one look at these 33 hairstyles proves that fringe is also her domain.
You Are Better Than a Smoky Eye - So Don't Ask For It Again
After being a makeup artist for over a decade, I can pretty much size you up the minute I see you coming. I can quickly assess you by your outfit, your bag, your hairstyle, and your jewelry and know immediately that you want only a tinted moisturizer. I know that, even when you say you want something more than that, you won't like it.
I know that you use retinol everyday without you telling me. I know that you have botox and fillers. I know that you only wear chapstick on your very chapped lips. When you say "Um yeah, I have an eye cream," with hesitation, I know that you are referring to the free Clinique sample that has been in your drawer for at least a year. I also know that you are compulsively plucking your brows that "just never grow!"
I don't judge. I really don't care what you do at home. Please, I am asking you to just be honest.
I can also tell as soon as you sit in my chair, if you can handle a lot of makeup or not. But without fail at least once a day, a preppy, non-makeup wearing woman will sit down and look me straight in the face and say "I think I would like a smoky eye."
I don't know who came up with this clever term, but if I ever meet him I will punch him in the face.
You don't want a smoky eye. You like the idea of it. You see Kim Kardashian on Pinterest and you fantasize about having this sultry look the next time you are attending a wedding or bar mitzvah. You imagine yourself as a much younger, sexier version of yourself, and you think that at the ripe age of 37 you are now ready to look like that sexy woman on Instagram with fake eyelashes and "contour" and black eyeliner rimming every inch of your eyeball.
Sometimes you have a Naked Palette from Urban Decay so you think you are edgy, but if you were to be honest you would admit you only use the lightest shades in the palette and the darker colors are untouched. You may have watched the tutorials on YouTube on "how to create a smoky eye," so you think you are ready for it.
You're not.
I know it.
You will have to learn the hard way.
"So do you normally wear a lot of eye makeup?" I ask innocently, while I prep your skin. I start with a soft fleshy tone on your lid and then I add a little bit of a darker tone. Never a true smoke color, because I don't want you to cry or run away. You will clutch the hand mirror and ask if you can look. I will let you.
I know. Please stop saying this. I don't even know how to make someone look like a clown. If you hired me to do clown makeup I would have to decline the job. I am not in the clown business. I am simply attempting to do what you requested me to do.
PS. We haven't created any "smoke" yet.
You will clutch your mirror and try to watch what I am doing, as you give me permission to proceed. I will add some dark brown or smoky color in your crease. I add some smudgy black liner and some mascara. You don't even have two layers of fake lashes on yet like a Kardashian. I see that you are clutching your hand mirror and your knuckles are white so I let you take a peek.
You don't. But you also don't look like yourself.
I ask if you would like me to take off some of the makeup and gently remind you that you are nowhere near the amount of makeup featured in the Instagram photo that you showed me when you first sat down. You sheepishly say that you would like to take off some of the liner . . . and maybe some of the dark shadow.
I take off the makeup.
You say "Maybe just do what you think looks best?"
Now we can get along.
I suggest a more realistic "eye look" that will allow you to feel comfortable while still making you look good. I say "Let's create a look that shows off your eye color and makes you look like a better version of yourself." The tension in your shoulders lessens and the grip on the hand mirror relaxes a bit."Yes, let's do that." you say with relief.
Because you are not Kim Kardashian, nor do you want to be. You will not be followed by the flashbulbs of the paparazzi and you will not spend your days taking selfies. You simply want to look like a better version of yourself and a "smoky eye" does not do that for most women.
You will leave with hydrated glowing skin and makeup that makes your blue eyes pop and your cheekbones glow. You are simply a better version of yourself, and you will walk out the door with your head held high and a little bit of a skip in your step.
You are better than a smoky eye. So don't ask for it again.
8 Things You Never Knew About Starbucks, Straight From a Former Employee
I spoke to a former Starbucks employee who worked there for about three years, and she gave me all the insider details I wanted to know. What's it really like to work there? Do baristas really rip off customers by intentionally underfilling lattes? What's the deal with the secret menu? Behold, her tell-all responses:
You can ask for light ice in your iced drinks to get way more for your money.
"If you order an iced drink, ask for light ice and you will get way more of whatever was in your cup."
And to save money on hot drinks, order it in a bigger cup.
That's right. You can order a grande latte "in a venti cup," and you'll basically be getting the larger drink for the smaller price. "Most baristas will be lazy and just make a lot of steamed milk and fill the bigger cup up all the way to the top."
The one thing that drives baristas INSANE is . . .
Saying, "Actually, can I get that cold?" after you've already ordered a hot drink. It's an inconvenience and someone has probably already started making your drink the way it was ordered.
Baristas are NOT asked to "underfill" lattes.
Although Starbucks faced a lawsuit for underfilling its lattes, this barista assures us that is not a company-endorsed policy for saving money. If your drink is less than impressive, the problem might be . . . you. She elaborated, "No one has ever said anything about that. I always filled my cups to the brim like we were told. But the truth is, most of the time if your drink sucks, you were probably rude to the barista and they didn't like you. So be kind!"
Employees receive great benefits.
"If you're full-time, you get dental and health insurance options. The one amazing thing I got from working there was my stock in Starbucks: over three years, I made about $400 when I finally sold my share."
If you love coffee, it's the best job.
You don't even have to be a morning person to enjoy working at Starbucks. "Making coffee is soothing, especially at 4 a.m. when all you want to do is stick your nose in the grounds and wake up." You also get to drink unlimited drinks - for free! This woman loved her Starbucks job and highly recommends working there: "I loved it very much. We were more of a family there," she said.
You CAN order from the secret menu, but it's discouraged.
You're probably aware that a not-so-secret Starbucks secret menu exists, but it's not something the company endorses. "Most of the time our managers didn't want us to make them because technically they're not on the menu. I didn't care about making them really, except when people got mad because it 'didn't taste the same as the other Starbucks.' Well, that would be because it's made-up, and there's no real way to make those drinks." So order your secret menu Frappuccinos with caution.
Starbucks really does donate all unsold food.
Ever wonder what happens to all those unsold pastries at the end of the day? Starbucks recently announced its plans to donate 100 percent of all leftover food to feed the hungry, and this former employee confirmed that her location has practiced this all along. "I know a lot of people think that's fake, but I personally packed the food and have seen it get picked up by different organizations. If you're in need of food, try asking your local Starbucks when they close."
5 Reasons Levi, Lapland, Is the Perfect Winter Wonderland Destination
Iceland has been a travel hotspot for its affordable airfare and stunning landscape, but it's time to consider a new destination. Austrian wedding photographer Cat Ekkelboom-White and her husband, Menno, documented their recent adventure in Levi, Lapland, instantly convincing us to take our own trip to Finland's northernmost region.
Situated above the arctic circle, Lapland spans across northern Norway, Finland, Sweden, and Russia. Through the months of October to April, snowfall creates a picturesque Winter wonderland that you thought only existed in holiday cards. In addition to their stunning shots, Cat also provided us with five more reasons Levi is the magical getaway you never know you needed. See them ahead!
1. Shorter Daylight HoursFor those who love to sleep in, look forward to lazy mornings snuggled up in your room. During peak Winter months, you only have a few hours of daylight from about 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. No sun means no need to wake up early! 2. Husky and Reindeer SleddingDrive your own sled across frozen lakes and in between snow-covered trees, all in complete silence. You'll be able to fully take in all the magic the scenery offers as the Huskies lead the way.3. Northern Lights You have a good chance of catching the aurora borealis (Northern Lights) from September to April on a clear night. Cozying up with a warm mug of tea under the stars and dancing auroras is truly an unforgettable experience. 4. Stunning SceneryThe landscape of Finnish Lapland is breathtaking to say the least, and not just because of the frigid temperatures. A frozen wonderland doesn't even begin to describe how beautiful your surroundings are. 5. It's Not as Hard to Reach as You Think There a number of international airports in Lapland, despite being in the wilderness above the Arctic Circle, many of which also offer direct flights to and from the UK and Germany. See the rest of their incredible photos!
10 Affordable Ways to Get the Bedroom of Your Dreams
If most of your decorating budget is going into the living room, you're probably panicking about your barren bedroom. Luckily, we've got your back. These affordable hacks only look expensive, so no one has to know you pulled it together on a shoestring budget. Check out our 10 favorite tricks for styling a dreamy boudoir.
Mom Claps Back to Stranger in Walmart Who Feels Sorry For Her "Having Her Hands Full"
Walking through Walmart with her three kids in tow, Courtney Lester came upon a total stranger who told her, "I feel sorry for you, you have your hands full with all those kids." Aside from the fact that the mom, pictured above, actually had her hands completely free at the time thanks to the baby carrier she was sporting, Courtney had more important points to make on the topic of "having her hands full" and the fact that this man felt sorry for her because of it.
"What you can't tell is that I lost two babies before being blessed with my last two, so if you want to feel sorry for me, there's the only reason why you should," she wrote in a post to Facebook. "My children are blessings. They aren't perfectly modeled citizens because, well, they're children. Sometimes they're loud, sometimes they misbehave, and sometimes they have complete meltdowns. However, you didn't even see that side of them. What you saw was a young couple with a 4-year-old singing a song, a 2-year-old sitting quietly in the buggy, and a newborn sleeping in his baby carrier. If that is your definition of having your hands full, I feel sorry for YOU."
The mom continued, opening up to admit there's truth in the fact that she's busy and always kept on her toes by her three little ones but that she's never viewed her children "as an inconvenience or a reason for someone to feel sorry for me," as this man suggested. She wrote:
Even on days when they won't listen, have meltdowns, and when it seems like nothing I do is good enough, I have never felt sorry for myself and I don't expect others to either. If having three kids automatically makes my hands full, so be it. But please, never feel sorry for me because my heart is more full than my hands could ever be.
No Surprise Here - Cindy Crawford's Malibu Home Is as Stunning as She Is
Cindy Crawford became an iconic supermodel thanks to her classic beauty, but today we learned that she has a classically beautiful home, too! In a new 73 Questions interview video with Vogue, Crawford gives a tour of her beachfront Malibu, CA, abode, and to call it stunning would be an understatement. Not only does the home have a perfect view of the water, but it also perfectly represents everything that Crawford embodies: understated elegance, refined features, and a few hints of her fun personality. Check out some of our biggest decor takeaways from the video, then watch the full interview beneath!
Some of the most notable decor features: Crawford's home has aged iron fixtures, extrawide doorways, dark wood accents, and white walls.
The most sentimental piece of decor: She displays framed artwork from her two kids in the kitchen.
What's in her kitchen? Crawford has a simple white kitchen with warm wood floors, a wood-topped island, professional-grade stainless steel appliances, and plain white dishes.
Something fans can replicate in their own homes: Crawford uses an unfinished wood breakfast tray and a wicker coffee carafe for entertaining.
A pleasant memory from the Crawford-Gerber home: Cindy's husband once snuck a grand piano into their house on Christmas morning.
How Cindy's family enjoys the outdoors: An outdoor firepit overlooking the ocean, surrounded by ocean-blue furniture to complement the outdoor living area. There's also an infinity pool and a round jacuzzi directly overlooking the ocean!
How she brings the outside in: Lots of potted plants all over the home, along with several floor-to-ceiling windows facing the ocean.
How does Crawford decorate her personal office space? During the video, you can see a camel-colored leather office chair, gold-framed photos from her modeling career in a gallery wall, a clear glass and warm wood desk, and some white built-in shelving.
How to describe her decor style: Crawford has a very classic interior design style, with nothing exceptionally trendy overwhelming the home - she used mostly neutral tones and dark wood and knows how to choose well-placed beams and solid-looking furniture.
Our favorite feature of the home: Either the wood-planked walkway up to front door with modern pond water fixtures on either side or the well-stocked bar in the living area.
21 Bold Kate Middleton Outfits That Probably Weren't Queen Approved
Based on her track record, it may be hard to believe Kate ever donned something that could raise eyebrows, but every once in a while we've caught her ditching her sophisticated brand of dressing for something a little more casual. From outings in lazy-day hoodies to laid-back blue jeans, we love seeing proof that sometimes Kate can mix it up.
While we may love Kate's foray into casualwear, we have a feeling the Queen wouldn't approve of these not-so-princessy pieces. Just try to imagine Queen Elizabeth donning the same sporty separates, sneakers, or funky hats - we all know, it just wouldn't happen. So while we're under the impression that it's basically impossible for Kate to wear a bad outfit, it's fun to imagine how the royals really felt when they saw these, ahem, nontraditional styles.
This Old Clip of Steve Bannon, Anthony Bourdain, and Neil deGrasse Tyson Is Crazy to See Now
The internet never forgets.
Steve Bannon, President Donald Trump's contentious chief strategist, appeared on an episode of Real Time With Bill Maher in 2011, and the segment reveals quite a lot about his beliefs. Alongside an all-star lineup of Neil deGrasse Tyson, Anthony Bourdain, and former Salon editor Joan Walsh, Bannon discussed the financial crisis that had nearly crippled America's economy at the time.
Speaking to how millennials encounter far more financial woes than their predecessors, Bannon describes why, exactly, that's so problematic. "We are literally taking away the most important, formative decade of a person's life," Bannon said. "That's why the crisis is not something to talk about that's going to come, the crisis is here today."
In order to fix this problem, Bannon said that Congress must be mobilized and chastised lawmakers for not doing enough. "We should call Congress back, we should get to work, people should roll their sleeves up, they should be working 18 hours a day to try to solve this," Bannon said in the video.
Given that Bannon seems to hold quite a bleak picture of America, his composure in the video is slightly surprising. Though beneath his cool temperament, it's apparent that his vision of "American Carnage remains. It's also concerning that Bannon does not seem to have a solution for the issues he describes since he is now a major influence on American policy.
In the same clip, Bourdain shared an anecdote that's representative of another issue facing the American workforce: the idea that many white Americans consider certain jobs beneath them. "I was an employer for 20 years as a chef," Bourdain said. "I cannot think of a single time an American-born kid ever walked into my restaurant, any restaurant I ever worked in, and asked for a job as a dishwasher, a cleanup person, or even an entry-level prep cook." Many Americans think they are "too good" for certain jobs, Bourdain said.
Bannon appeared to agree with Bourdain's suggestion - which is interesting, considering Trump's administration, led by Bannon, is so hellbent on ridding the United States of immigrants.
Bizarrely, deGrasse Tyson seems to predict Trump. Referring to Congress's inability to consistently agree, deGrasse Tyson suggests a "business person who knows how to make a hard but significant financial decision" be in charge. Welp, be careful what you wish for.
This 1 Company Is Making It Insanely Easy For Women to Start Investing
For far too long, women have been largely ignored in the world of investing - despite the fact that women are literally better investors than men. So what's the problem? Women - particularly millennial women - avoid investing for a variety of reasons, including but not limited to:
- "It's only for rich old white guys."
- "It's boring and confusing!"
- "I don't have enough money yet to get started."
- "I'm afraid of the risks."
According to Sallie Krawcheck, cofounder and CEO of Ellevest, there is a gender investing gap, and it is a major reason women typically retire with two-thirds of the money men have. By not investing, women are missing out on hundreds of thousands of dollars - possibly even more - over their lifetimes, and the reasons for not investing mainly boil down to the fact that women feel intimidated by it.
Ellevest, a female-focused digital investing platform, works to dissolve the intimidation factor, starting with a free financial plan to identify your goals and no minimum sum to start investing. Chatting with Krawcheck recently, I discovered why these excuses women have for not investing are just that - excuses.
Excuse No. 1: "It's only for rich old white guys."
Part of the problem with investing - and most things Wall Street-related - is that it has been aggressively targeted toward men with an overwhelming "maleness" to the language, marketing, and imagery associated with it. "The industry is really fundamentally male both in terms of the maleness of the leadership teams, the maleness of the financial advisers, the maleness of the investment managers, but also in the details of it - the jargon and the complexity of it really speak more to males than the research tells us it does to females," Krawcheck explained. "The language of the industry has been war analogies, work analogies, 'beat the market,' 'outperform,' 'pick the winners' . . . You know, CNBC is - really, a lot of their programming is based on sports programming. So once you become aware of it, it's simply in the atmosphere of investing. The industry symbol is a bull, which is a phallic symbol. I'm not sure how much more direct you can get that this industry is for men than to have the symbol of a bull."
"Men invest to make more money and women invest as a means to an end."
Excuse No. 2: "It's boring and confusing!"
These are two sides of the same coin: investing seems boring perhaps because you don't understand it much yet. But getting started is as simple as identifying a few things you want to do with your money someday and then asking an adviser to help you reach those goals. You probably already muse about your goals in some way or another on a daily basis: dreaming about what kind of house you'd like to buy, designing a cute logo for the small business you'd like to own, planning out your round-the-world sailing adventure. It all starts with a financial plan (for free) at Ellevest, and then "you get to play with it. 'What do I want to do? When do I want to do it? What if I want a condo instead of a house?' People tell us they have some fun with it." Nothing boring about getting playful with your dreams.
Excuse No. 3: "I don't have enough money yet to get started."
For some reason, there is a widespread misconception that you already have to be wealthy in order to invest, but it's simply not true. Some financial services will require a minimum amount to start investing, but Ellevest does not. It makes the idea of investing much more palatable if you feel like you can ease in with a few hundred dollars and then keep adding to your portfolio over time.
Excuse No. 4: "I'm afraid of the risks."
It's true that there is some risk involved in investing. For a risk-free financial game plan, you could stick purely to saving. But keep in mind that your investment plan doesn't have to include a very high risk factor. Moreover, if you can find industry professionals who have been doing this kind of thing for years, they'll adjust your risk level for you. As Krawcheck explained, "We adjust the risk based on the information you gave us and based on the timeline to your goal and . . . over time as your goal comes closer, we change your risk. We target everybody to get to their goals or better in 70 percent of market scenarios. . . . Seventy percent of the time you'll be there or better, 30 percent lower - sometimes just a little bit lower - because of the increased risk awareness that women have told us they have."
Bottom line: It's understandable if you haven't been interested in investing before - it has seemed like an almost exclusively male thing to do. But f*ck that noise. Money is power, and women have been financially disempowered for, well, forever. Let's start changing that narrative, shall we?
There's a Theme Park Inspired by The Little Prince, and We're Crying With Joy
Growing up, one of my favorite books of all time was The Little Prince, and I still feel the same way as an adult. The story transcends age; there is something for everyone in its message. After all this time, I still can't stop the tears that flow upon reading that final page, and I still think of quotes from the book that apply to so many aspects of my life.
Now, fans can relive the magic of The Little Prince at a theme park in Alsace, France. Le Parc du Petit Prince has rides and attractions inspired by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry famous book, such as The Snake ride (TOO SOON), 3D experiences exploring "planets," and even hot-air balloons representing The Lamplighter and The Drinker who the Little Prince encounters during his travels.
Guests can even meet foxes and sheep and see butterflies while they're at the park - the animals are all in reference to more of the story's plotline. There's a rose garden with a very "important" flower encased in the center under glass. See a video of the park and photos of the special location ahead.
Ditch the Coffee - Here's How Much Wine You'll Need For Every Upcoming Back-to-School Situation
Using coffee as a way to keep yourself ready and raring to go is a thing of the past. These days, we're turning to Mommy's grape juice to help us with the nitty-gritty scenarios, especially the situations back-to-school season gets us into. Waking up sleepy kids? Turn to your trusty Merlot. Buying enough colored pencils to construct a life-size replica of your child's school? Grab a bottle of your favorite Pinot Grigio. It's going to be a long school year, mamas.
Scroll through to find out approximately how much wine you'll need for every upcoming back-to-school situation on a scale of 🍷 to 🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷.
These Are the Chores Your Child Should Be Doing This Year Based on Their Age
If you're a mama who feels like she's doing literally everything around the house, including picking up after your very capable kids, we know how you feel. It makes some parents feel guilty to give their children mundane responsibilities like taking out the garbage, and some moms follow the "if I do it, it'll get done faster and better" mode of thinking. But the truth is, our children can - and probably should - handle more than we think.
We're not suggesting you turn your child into a regular Mrs. Doubtfire, but there are a bunch of tasks around the house that can be completed by children based on their age. If you're looking to set your kiddos up with a chore chart to help them learn about hard work and having responsibilities, there's something every child can help with.
Scroll through for a list of manageable household chores for kids based on their age.
Every Single Naked Dress Jennifer Lopez Has Worn Since 1997
You might think that Jennifer Lopez's streak of dresses with necklines down to her belly button and slits up to her thighs started with that famous Versace green dress she wore to the Grammys in the '90s, but let us tell you that after intense research, we've come to the conclusion the naked dress trend was started by J Lo much, much earlier.
The singer and actress was truly the pioneer of the barely there dress that has now invaded the red carpet, starting with no backs in 1997 and ending most recently with sheer gowns and jumpsuits that leave little to the imagination. Here, for your viewing pleasure, is every single naked dress (yes, every single one!) that J Lo has graced us with.
30 Badass Female Tattoo Artists to Follow on Instagram ASAP
If the sight of dainty body art sets your heart aflutter with the desire to get inked, then you're probably already following a few tattoo artists on social media. But finding the perfect source of inspiration for your next tat can be daunting, especially since it'll be on your body forever and there are so many styles to choose from.
A permanent piece of body art is worth traveling across the world for, so we've curated a look at the very best female artists in the business. Whether you're looking for minimalist floral pieces or geometric designs, these talented ladies are the best the world has to offer. So give them a follow and start planning your next piece; few accessories are lovelier than a well-done tattoo.
5 Steps to Packing the Perfect Carry-On Suitcase
Stylist Irma Martinez, who has worked with celebrities like Thalia, Sofia Vergara, Daisy Fuentes, and Eva Longoria, shares her most useful fashion secrets with POPSUGAR Latina.
As a businesswoman, I travel quite often. And with years of experience hopping on and off planes, I've mastered the art of carry-on packing for one main reason: airlines have lost my luggage on more than one occasion, leading me to learn - the hard way, unfortunately - that the last thing I want is to arrive at my destination with nothing to wear, then waste the first few days there fighting with an airline trying to get it back.
After a few of those unpleasant experiences, whether I'm traveling for a meeting, a vacation, or a personal matter, I always travel only with a carry-on. My suitcase will never get lost again, and there's the added benefit of never having to wait by crowded baggage carousels! Don't get me wrong. It's a challenge for sure, but I'm sharing my tips here so you can be an expert packer, too. You won't have to sacrifice style, I promise!
9 Beautiful Beaches Where Clothing Is 100% Optional
If you're one of those people who just loathes having tan lines, then may I suggest you check out a beach where clothing is completely optional? Yes, there are a slew of beaches across the world where nudity is celebrated and no one has a care in the world. You may even be surprised to know that there are some right here in the United States. If being free to bare it all sounds like the perfect way to spend your next vacation, consider one of these nine lovely locales.
This Boring Beige Living Room Is Unrecognizable After a Lowe's Makeover
In a dramatic episode of Lowe's original series The Weekender, designer Monica Mangin works her magic on a mind-numbingly boring living room. The builder-grade space hasn't been touched since the homeowners moved in two years ago, hence the beige walls, beige carpet, and little else in terms of furniture or architecture. Monica changes all that to stunning effect with a handful of DIYs and some surprisingly affordable furniture and decor from Lowe's. Check out the dramatic after shots and get all the makeover details ahead. Then, watch The Weekender episode for the complete story!
A Supermom Created This 400,000-Piece Hogwarts Castle Out of LEGOs, and We Are Speechless
As a complete Potterhead, I was always really proud of my LEGO Harry Potter figurine I keep at my work desk. It comes complete with a school trunk, Hedwig, and Harry clutching his wand. The trunk even holds tiny Galleons! Then I discovered Alice Finch's re-creation of the Hogwarts Castle. I silently tucked my poor little Harry out of sight, at least until the shock of her stunning LEGO creation subsided a bit. Finch's absolutely epic 400,000 piece structure puts every single LEGO creation ever built - my tiny, school-bound Potter most of all - to shame.
The mother of two built a LEGO Hogwarts castle so full of detail, only a true fan could have lovingly pieced it together with such success. "I did quite a bit of research in the books and movies looking for the smallest of details, things like the old-fashioned slide projector in Lupin's Defense Against the Dark Arts class, the location of the potions class, and the wood paneling in the charms classroom," she told LEGO blog The Brother's Brick.
Before BrickCon 2012, she spent a total of 12 months of work on the castle, and it is designed to be both "architectually accurate" as well as completely playable. I'd personally be torn between the strong desire to keep every aspect in perfect place, and an impulse to reenact every book using the pieces. Pretty sure the latter inclination would win out. Check out the photos of the castle . . . you won't be able to look away.
Missouri State Congressman Claims "Homosexuals" and "Human Beings" Are Different
Believe it or not, there is an American congressman who genuinely does not understand the definition of human being. Missouri state Representative Rick Brattin, revealed that he believed there is a "distinction" between human beings and people who are gay during a debate over a bill protecting the state's LGBTQ community from discrimination.
In Missouri, citizens can legally be discriminated against based on their sexual orientation. On May 8, state legislators attempted to pass an amendment banning sexual-orientation-based prejudice when Brattin expressed his concern over the proposal.
"When you look at the tenets of religion, of the Bible, of the Quran, of other religions, there is a distinction between homosexuality and just being a human being," Brattin told the House floor. According to The Kansas City Star, Brattin has yet to clarify his statement, although it aligns with his previous push for teaching creationism in public schools.
Brattin's inadequate understanding of elementary biology is not the first time he's demonstrated his supreme ignorance. He was also one of the notorious congressmen who once tried to establish a differentiation between "rape" and "legitimate rape" as it related to an antiabortion bill he proposed. The bill would have required pregnant women to receive the father's written consent before obtaining an abortion except in cases of "legitimate rape" (whatever that means).
Adding insult to injury, the Missouri state legislature passed Senate Bill 43, a law that would make it harder to sue for discrimination. It would force citizens to explicitly prove that bias lead to a dismissal rather than just contributing to it. The fate of the bill now depends on Republican Governor Eric Greitens.
Anna Faris Thanks Her Fans Following Her Split From Chris Pratt: "I Truly Love You"
Anna Faris has spoken out for the first time since initially announcing her separation from Chris Pratt earlier this month. The Mom actress shared a brief statement with listeners of her podcast, Anna Faris Is Unqualified, in her newest episode this week, saying, "Hey, dear listeners. I just want to thank you all so much for all the love I've been receiving, and I truly love you."
The remainder of the episode - a pretaped crossover edition with the hosts of My Favorite Murder - did not address the split in any way. Anna did, however, address heartbreak in a foreboding interview prior to the separation announcement. While promoting her upcoming book in Live Happy's October issue, Anna said, "Everyone has had their heart broken or screwed up a good relationship, and my hope is that people will walk away realizing that so many journeys are the same. My heartbreak is the same as someone else's and if I have to be vulnerable for people to get that, that's OK."
Meanwhile, Chris recently made his first official post-breakup appearance at the Teen Choice Awards on Aug. 13. Earlier that day, the Guardians of the Galaxy star was photographed without his wedding ring while taking his son, Jack, to church.
These Are the Best 8 Concealers, According to Celebrity Makeup Artists
Long nights, early mornings, and festive Summer evenings out can often lead to dark circles and blotchy skin. More often than not, concealer (and coffee) is your very best friend before heading out the door. But it can be pretty disappointing when your makeup coverage only lasts through two hours of your day. It can cake off or fade, exasperating the wrinkles or under-eye bags you're trying to hide.
So, we asked some of the top makeup artists in the business which concealers they rely on day in and day out, through countless photo shoots and on some of their favorite celebrity clients. Here are the concealers that they continuously go back to. Hopefully it will help you discover your new favorite magic eraser!
This Bride's Wedding Dress Landed Her in Vogue, but Wait Till You See What the Bridesmaids Wore
It's not every day we peel our eyes away from a stunning wedding dress to "ooh" and "ahh" over what the bridesmaids wore, but looking at photos from Annabelle Caufman Soudavar and Maximilian Moehlmann's big day, that's exactly what happened. While the bride's classic Carolina Herrera was no doubt breathtaking - especially when the lacy, fitted number was paired with a long, dramatic veil - the ladies who stood by her side wore different floral dresses, a fun, trendy choice that simply made us swoon.
Annabelle wanted it this way, though. "I had asked that they all select their own dresses with the direction that they should be pale, romantic, and floral," she told Vogue, which covered the chic East Hampton wedding. "I wanted everyone's individual style to come through, and for my friends to feel beautiful and like themselves."
The choice definitely paid off in the end: everyone looked so stylish, we're starting to wish we were in that wedding party! Scroll through for more views of Annabelle's gown, then check out what the bridesmaids - including fashion influencer Hannah Bronfman - wore.
Enrique Iglesias and Anna Kournikova Are Still Going Strong After 16 Years
Enrique Iglesias and Anna Kournikova have been dating since 2001. The two met when Anna was featured in Enrique's music video for "Escape" in the same year.
The couple briefly separated in 2013 but got back together and have been going strong ever since. They have settled down in Miami and despite the split rumors, Anna and Enrique continue to do their own thing and stay quiet about their relationship, which is probably one of the secrets to how they have been together for so long. She's a badass former professional tennis player, he has the voice of an angel, and together they make the couple of our dreams. It also doesn't hurt that both of them are smoking hot (cue the fan we need to cool us down). They are adorable, and whenever we see them out and about, our hearts skip a beat.
This Map Shows the Exact Path of This Year's Total Solar Eclipse
Image Source: Flickr user gsfc
If you're already counting down the days until you get to see the biggest solar eclipse of your lifetime on Aug. 21, then you'll want to check out this detailed map immediately. The total eclipse will be viewable in areas from coast to coast in the US, and the map below outlines the path of the moon's umbral shadow, in which the sun will be completely hidden by the moon. Already geeking out? Check out the best places to watch the eclipse, then scope out NASA's downloadable eclipse maps and dive into an interactive map where you can find detailed information state by state.
The Purpose of Life Isn't to Be Happy
The following post originally appeared on Medium.
The term "happy" was traditionally synonymous with good fortune.
It found its way into the English language around the 14th century, and it wasn't something that people actively pursued. It was thought that you either stumbled onto it or you didn't. It wasn't until the 17th century that the word began its association with pleasure and contentment.
Even the Greeks and the Romans who introduced us to Classical philosophy would have shrugged at the modern notion of happiness. To them, happiness was indeed the chief aim in life, but they had a very different definition of what the term actually meant.
Rather than seeing it as an emotional state, their idea of a happy life was built on something more. It wasn't an event. It was about a life lived in harmony with our own nature, including the acceptance of suffering and discomfort.
If you ask the average person today what they want out of life, the majority will tell you that they want to be happy. If you dig deeper into what they mean, they'll tell that they want to feel good and comfortable and be at ease.
On the surface, that sounds innocent enough, but the reality is that this pursuit of happiness is actually the cause of much of our misery.
The notion that pleasure and contentment are the solution to all of life's problems, and that once you acquire these states you have everything you need, is misguided at best and dangerous at worst.
There is more to life than happiness.
Why Not Happiness?
I consider myself a reasonably happy person. On most days, there is a general baseline that I don't deviate too far away from for too long. I'm quite fortunate in many ways, and I'm more than grateful for that.
I have enough. I don't need to be filthy rich. I don't care for fame. I've come to terms with the fact that comparing myself to others is a waste of time, and I don't want to get stuck chasing hedonistic temptations for the rest of my life. There is nothing more that I realistically need.
Yet, I write. And when I write, I want it to be good, and I want people to read it. I have my general ambitions, and there are things I want to accomplish. I work quite hard, and it's not always fun. But if I'm already content, why?
Because I know that if I didn't have any sort of desire for something more, then I would cease to feel content.
The reason is simple. The cause of my happiness isn't that I have enough, but it's that I have worked to get to a point where I have enough. It's not that I woke one morning not caring what someone thinks or deciding that hedonistic pleasures weren't important, it's that I spent a lot of time thinking those things were important, suffered for it, and then worked to make them unimportant. The difference is subtle, but critical.
My happiness isn't a product of me getting what I want. It's the byproduct of the different challenges I have proactively overcome to earn what I want. It's the expectations I have met or readjusted over time.
I need something to work at to get it. If I stopped pursing things tomorrow, my lingering happiness would escape. Over time, it would cease to mean anything, and I wouldn't be able to refuel it by simply wishing for more.
Due to its fleeing nature, happiness alone isn't enough.
Is Struggle Always Bad?
In many ways, humans can be characterized as biological algorithms. It's not an entirely perfect analogy, but it works quite well to explain our behavior.
We respond to stressors in our environment, which is the input, by manipulating ourselves through a process as to give us an edge that presents itself in the form of an output. Over the long-term, how well we do this determines our ability to thrive.
In the modern world, we have a lot of choice in terms of the exposure that we want to give ourselves to these stressors. Most of us could easily go through life trying to avoid significant challenges that arise in our environment, but that requires a form of escapism, and it's not necessarily a healthy thing.
You may be able to temporarily avoid a fight with your partner or to remove yourself from the desire to work towards a goal, but eventually, something will give. At some point, discomfort invites itself.
While happiness is best defined as a state of being content, we didn't actually evolve to be content. We evolved to strive and to struggle and to compete, so by nature, we don't get rewarded for being consistently happy.
Although some parts of society have taken these characteristics to their extreme in how they incentivize the systems and corporations around us, this intrinsic want for more isn't something we can just shut off. We need to be better and to make progress and to feel more than just enough.
This means chasing some ambition, taking on pain, and exposing ourselves to slight variances in emotional states. Doing these things in extremes isn't the solution, but deviating away from a comfortable median is what actually allows us to maintain a baseline that we can refer to as happiness.
Without struggling against something, enough would cease to be enough.
What's Your Story?
Happiness isn't obtained. It's earned. It's not the product. It's the byproduct.
For this reason, the idea that some serene state of bliss can be sustained with pleasure and contentment, although seductive, is misguided. Over the long-term, it takes more than that. It takes a sense of striving.
Gratitude is important, to be sure, and so is being well-adjusted enough to not seek out extrinsic motivators to provide a solution, but these things alone will only take you so far. The real secret is to live a story.
It's to create a narrative that appropriately incentivizes you to choose a level of discomfort and suffering necessary for sustaining a deeper fulfillment. That will actually keep you in motion. That's what makes the difference.
In Twilight of the Idols, Nietzsche wrote,
"He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how."
For the painter, it's the 10 years spent in front of the canvas practicing without any hope of a making a dime because she knows what it's like to look at a Van Gogh painting and feel something that can't be described.
For the entrepreneur, it's the sleepless nights and the gut-wrenching risks taken to bring a product to market because that's the kind of challenge and uncertainty that makes him better today than he was yesterday.
The narrative you tell will determine the kind of hurdles your life invites, and clearing these hurdles is ultimately what gives the emotions you feel any sort of real meaning. That's how their value is earned.
If you take care of the story, happiness doesn't need to be enough. You get something better. You get sustained fulfillment.
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5 Brilliant Tips For Sharing Teeny-Tiny Spaces
There are lots of benefits to living in a small space. Let's see: it's easier to maintain, there are cheaper utility bills, there's less temptation to accumulate clutter . . . as you can imagine, the list could go on. But to keep your attention, I'll cut it right there.
The tricky part to calling teeny-tiny spaces home, however, is the actual "living" aspect, especially when sharing these cramped quarters with someone else. I don't know about you, but when I first moved into a 400-square-foot studio with my significant other, so many skeptical thoughts rippled through my mind. As enthused as I was for this new chapter together, the lack of space had me worried, to say the least. Yet after much trial and error, my then-boyfriend-now-husband and I were able to uncover quite a few tips for making our itty-bitty apartment feel like home, all while preserving our relationship. What a relief, right?
So if you're about to move in with a new roommate or soulmate, go ahead and shed that weighing layer of anxiety, because here are five surprisingly simple tricks for making even the tiniest of spaces work.
1. Avoid mixed-messaging spaces
When I first entered college, my mom emphasized the importance of creating an oasis out of my dorm room. She encouraged my roommate and me to allow this room to serve as a place to find refuge after a long, tiring day, not be a multifunctional space where we lived, ate, worked, and slept. In doing so, our minds would understand and accept it was time to rest when entering that particular room.
After implementing this concept, we both found it to be extremely helpful and abided by this rule of thumb all throughout our college years of living together. Even today, my husband and I follow this piece of advice. By defining what purpose each area serves in our current one-room studio - i.e. the table is for eating, the bed is for sleeping (not working!), etc. - our minds aren't battling over what to do where and can then find relaxation much easier.
2. Expand your living room to outside
One of the key tricks my husband and I have uncovered for small-space living is to expand the "living" to outside the apartment. And by this, I mean eat dinner in a nearby park. Have happy hour on your stoop. (I can't begin to tell you how enjoyable a glass of wine is on a fire escape.) Catch up with friends as you discover hidden gems peppered throughout your neighborhood. Don't be afraid to stretch your living room beyond the physical four walls of your space. Chances are your neighbors are doing the exact same thing. Or at least, they should be!
3. Be transparent
No matter who you are sharing your space with, clear communication should always be your number one priority. As amazing as it would be for your roommate/soulmate to also be a mind reader, chances are he or she is probably not. That said, don't be afraid to drop your personal guardrails and become vulnerable. Trust me, you'll need to! By vocalizing your wants and needs upfront through open and honest communication, you both will have a better understanding of each other's expectations and can prevent a whole lot of unnecessary headaches and confusion.
4. Live by the powerful words of Aretha Franklin
I think you know where I'm going with this tip. Oh yes, r-e-s-p-e-c-t! In a small space, this tiny word can have so much power. When you are mindful of each other's boundaries and personal space - or lack thereof - you inadvertently create more room for good vibes and positivity and less for conflict. Just as with open communication, respect is the ultimate gateway for a happier home.
5. Embrace the coziness
At the end of the day, no matter how small the square footage might be that you're sharing, it's just a number. And you can either approach that number with excitement or dread. So why not embrace the coziness and enjoy it? See your space for what it is: your home. And not only your home, but your partner's home, too. When you think of it with that mindset, I guarantee you'll love every inch of your mini casa and be even more appreciative of the person you're able to share it with.
9 Costly Interview Mistakes That Can Lose You the Job Offer
So you think you're prepared for the interview by prepping for all the common interview questions. However, there are still some subtle nuances you may forget or not know about during the interview that can really cost you the job. Here are some red flags interviewers tend to watch out for.
1. You focus the interview around you.
Interviewers can pick up on a "me, me, me" mentality, so make sure that whenever you answer the question, you're not talking about what you want and instead talking about how you want to help the company grow. If you do want to talk about your needs, make sure it aligns with the company's success.
2. You don't take the time to think about your answer.
OK, so you got taken off guard. Many people jump to the first thing they think of because they feel like they need to respond ASAP. And oftentimes blurting what's on your mind isn't always the smartest or rational answer. Take the time to gather your thoughts, even if it means having a bit of silence. Don't worry about the pause in conversation turning off your interviewer, she will most likely appreciate you taking the time to think about your answer. And if you don't know the answer to the question, don't panic. Here's what to do you if you don't know how to answer a question.
3. You beat around the bush.
Get to the point! Sometimes taking winding roads to get to the finish line (or what you really want to say) can really lose the interviewer. Think in bullet points. When you first answer the question, respond in bullet points, then you can take more time to explain each one. Be succinct and your answers will be more memorable.
4. You don't understand the company and product.
If you don't understand the company or the product, it means you're not even doing the basic research you need for the interview. Why should they even consider you if you're not putting forward the effort? It'll seem like you don't have any passion for or interest in the company, which is a huge red flag. Your interviewer is taking the time out of her day to interview you and you didn't bother taking the time to do a bit of research? This alone can cause an immediate rejection.
5. You are kind of boring.
OK, you've checked off all your boxes and you're coming across a little too perfect and polished. Show some of your personality in the interview and let the interviewer catch a glimpse of the real you. Don't be afraid to do so - I'm sure they'll appreciate your authenticity. Don't just tell them what you think they want to hear, because that can sound a little too practiced.
6. You're begging.
You really need this job because your electricity is about to be shut off if you don't pay off your bill soon. That's important to you but not important to the company. They are hiring you based on their needs and not yours, so don't ever try to use your dire situation as a reason for them to hire you. Instead, show them why they actually need you and would be lucky to have you. Be confident, and it'll shine through.
7. You talk about salary and benefits before the interviewer brings it up.
Look, I know it's important to you, but let's not get ahead of ourselves here. Don't bring this up before your interviewer does or it'll do nothing to help your case and instead really annoy her. Your interviewer wants to see what you can do for the company, not what's in it for you. Plus, by asking about it, you're acting as if you already got the job, which can irk the hiring manager as well.
8. You say negative things about your former employer.
Yes, you may have had the boss from hell, but badmouthing her will just be bad form. It does not look professional, and it will cast a negative tinge on you as a candidate. You only have one chance to make an impression and first impressions are what stay in our minds during interviews.
9. You don't ask questions.
THIS. Hiring managers have told me that questions candidates ask can make or break the interview, so make sure you're asking all the right questions. The questions can show how serious you are about the job, how you care about the company, and how your mind works. The right and thoughtful questions can really impress the interviewer.
Alessandra Ambrosio Wore the 1 Monokini You Need to Show Off Your Curves
If you're after the monokini trend, look no further than Alessandra Ambrosio's display of chicness while vacationing with her girlfriends in Saint-Tropez. Back in the Summer, the Brazilian Victoria's Secret Angel posted an Instagram video featuring a peek at the Henna Blues Monokini One-Piece ($180) from her Ále by Alessandra swimwear collection.
Although we're understandably in awe of the fact that she's partying by a hot tub on a boat (seriously), we need a moment to take in how perfect the swimsuit she's wearing actually is. Adorned with a fun paisley pattern and edgy cutouts, the purple-hued suit is one that will never go out of style and always flatter your figure. Press play above to see it in action. Then, check out even more similar styles.
14 Stars Who Have Been In on the Braless Trend For a Long Time
When Kendall Jenner posted on her app about going braless, it caused a case of internet chatter. No one was exactly surprised, since she's been baring hints of her nipple ring through sheer tops for a while, but Kendall isn't the only one.
Stars throughout history have walked the red carpet in glamorous gowns without a bra, some making for buzzy moments (see Gwyneth Paltrow at the Academy Awards in 2002), while others, like Kate Moss and Jennifer Aniston, casually showed off the look on the street in nothing but a fitted tee. One scroll through the undeniably sexy looks here, and you'll definitely understand the allure, even if you're not ready to ditch your bra just yet.
You Need to See These Photos If Your Child Sits in a Car Seat
An awful car crash in Tacoma, WA, could have ended in serious tragedy last week, but due to proper car seat installation, two children - and their mom - are doing so much better than the photos suggest.
Kylee Barrett was taking her 5-year-old son, Kolton, to school one morning with her 2-year-old, Hunter, also in tow when the car hit a patch of black ice. As the car slid, Barrett swerved to avoid hitting another car head-on, which forced them into a tree that crushed Hunter's side of the car. The impact caused the seat to bend but absorb the force, which kept Hunter safe even though the car flipped upside down.
Had Hunter's rear-facing Safety 1st seat not been properly installed, this family could be dealing with much more than a totaled car, Hunter's broken left femur, and a few bruises and scrapes. Facebook user Heather Viers is using the photo of Hunter's crushed seat to spread the word about proper car seat use: "This specific seat retails for $100. It's NOT a 'nice' seat, but it further illustrates the point that you don't have to spend a fortune to keep your child safe. Get your car seats checked by a CPST. Use it properly every.single.time. The life of your child relies on it."
Barrett has started a GoFundMe page to help with some of the costs that insurance isn't covering but is mostly focused on sharing her story to inform other parents. She says even though she's sore and bruised, her kids are still here to drive her crazy, and she "couldn't be happier."
If you own a car and a car seat, you need to read through and see these photos for yourself.
This post was originally published on Jan. 19, 2016.
8 Stupid Ways Parents Waste Money
Yet another in the list of surprises you'll discover after becoming a parent: just how crazy-expensive kids are from the moment they exit the womb (seriously, wait until you see that postdelivery hospital bill). While you can't always control how much it's going to cost you to actually have a baby, there are money mistakes many parents, including myself, make (sometimes, again and again) that can be avoided.
From buying baby gear in bulk to overestimating my child's - and my own - desire to visit that local museum or zoo, here are eight ways I've wasted thousands of dollars since I became a parent. Learn from my financial mistakes, and your bank account will thank you.
- Buying baby shoes and other unwearable items. Baby shoes are adorable. So are tiny wool peacoats, glitter-covered headbands, 3-month-size skinny jeans, and baby cashmere sweaters. However, your little one will either never wear any of those items or spit up on them immediately, so save your money. Onesies, socks, comfy cotton leggings, and sweaters are more than sufficient, and your baby's cuteness speaks for itself. No need to amp it up with fancy, pricey garb.
- Making sure your baby has a new wardrobe every three months. Before I gave birth to my daughter, her closet was already stocked with a wardrobe for a newborn (she was eight pounds at birth and never wore a single item), a 0- to 3-month-old (she spent that entire period in a onesie and pajamas), a 3- to 6-month-old (she maybe added leggings and the occasional sweater to those onesies), and beyond. I packed up most of it, freshly washed and never worn. Hundreds and hundreds of dollars wasted.
- Purchasing season passes to every zoo/museum/play space the first time you visit. The first time you take your kid to the zoo or the science museum, you'll look at the entrance fee and think, "Wow, if we come back twice more, it would be cheaper to buy the yearly pass." Convinced you'll definitely be back at least that many times, you'll do it. Maybe one of these purchases will make sense (our season pass to a local arboretum with an awesome playground is tax-deductible and often used), but the rest? Our money stayed; we didn't make it back before our pass expired.
- Buying every baby gadget known to man. When you're shopping or registering for your first kid, you'll be confident that you need that swing, the bouncer, the exersaucer, and the most expensive baby carrier, car seat, play mat, and crib. You don't. If you're really smart, you'll borrow that baby gear from a friend to determine if your kids even like it before you make the financial commitment.
- Choosing nonfunctional furniture. After deciding it was time to ditch my son's crib, I spent more than a thousand dollars buying the single bed and adorable bedding I knew would look the best in his less-than-large room. After two weeks, my husband insisted I upgrade to a double, sick of trying to fit into a twin with a squirmy toddler, so I spent the same amount all over again. Also, when picking furniture, remember that cheaper pieces don't always end up that way if and when you have to replace them because they aren't sturdy enough to live up to your kids' abuse.
- Buying too many toys for holidays and birthdays. Your kid will be thrilled with three gifts from you, so don't buy 20. Who cares if grandma is more generous than Santa?
- Booking a Disney trip when your child is way too young. If you love Disney like I do, it can be extremely tempting to start booking your kid's first trip while they're still in diapers. Try to resist the urge. Between flights, hotel rooms, park tickets, stroller rentals, and food, this is an experience you want your kid to be old enough to remember. Save your pennies and splurge on your dream Disney trip when that day comes.
- Registering for classes when your kids are too young or uninterested. You know what's more frustrating than spending $200 for a dance class that meets seven times for a 2-year-old? Realizing that the class requires moms to leave and your child refuses to stay without you (and, soon after, realizing your kid's disinterest does not equal a refund for you). Do your research or, even better, wait until your child is old enough to express actual interest in a sport or activity before you drop the dough.
What are some other things you've wasted money on as a parent? Leave us a comment and weigh in!
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