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samedi 9 juin 2018

How Hayley Kiyoko Lived Her Truth and Became the "Queer Savior" of Pop

When you identify as heterosexual, love songs, movies, and TV shows often seem to speak to your experience. You see your type of love prominently displayed in mainstream art and culture; rarely do you have to question if your experience is valid or real. You never have to swap out pronouns or imagine an alternate reality where the heroine falls in love with her best friend. This is often the reality for queer people - who find accurate and empowering representation hard to come by.

In a society that thrives on portraying a certain kind of love story, it's difficult to locate spaces where girls really kiss girls for no other reason than being interested in each other. This rings especially true in the music industry, where openly LGBTQ+ artists are few and far between. Many artists shy away from labeling themselves or refuse to address their sexuality altogether, a move that could impact their careers. Hayley Kiyoko, singer-songwriter and verifiable pop star, chooses to do both.

Dubbed "Lesbian Jesus" by her fans, the singer is known for synth-heavy pop beats and catchy songs that celebrate women who like other women. These odes to female love are often accompanied by stunning visuals. Kiyoko professes her love unapologetically, whether she's following a girl down the street or making out with her at a party. Her most popular video, for "Girls Like Girls," has amassed over 90 million views on YouTube. She has a cult following on Twitter and recently hit a million followers on Instagram. In other words: Kiyoko definitely has an audience who is ready and willing to join her.

Kiyoko is a girl who likes girls, but to her fans, she's so much more. A quick scroll through her retweets on Twitter illustrates her impact - from two fans who found love at her concert to queer girls who have learned to accept themselves just by seeing her perform. The significance of Kiyoko's openness is not lost on her fans, whom she largely credits with her success. It's not lost on her, either.

As an Asian-American woman, Kiyoko is already adding her voice to an underrepresented part of the entertainment industry. In 2017, she talked about her experiences being biracial. "As an actress, for example, I'm constantly going out for Asian-American roles and 'I'm not Asian enough.' They will flat out say that," she said. "Then I'll go out for open ethnicity roles and they will go, 'You're not white enough.' It's just part of who I am and what I look like." But it's the intersections of her identity that really help her shine. Last month, Kiyoko told Vice, "To see an Asian-American in the music industry, let alone [a] queer [Asian-American woman], is very rare. A younger version of myself needed someone like Hayley."

As an extension of her openness about her pride in both her sexuality and racial identity, Kiyoko is very vocal about her experience on social media, which is a testament to her continued celebration of herself and all of the communities she belongs to. Kiyoko uses self-love and pride in her identity to inspire her fans. Through her music, she creates a safe and supportive community, one that compels her fans to support each other, too. I recently caught up with the singer to talk about her evolution as an artist in the industry and how her sexuality has impacted her journey along the way.

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POPSUGAR: Growing up, it was rare to see openly LGBTQ+ pop stars - especially women. Did the fact that you didn't see people like you on stage influence your desire to pursue music?

Hayley Kiyoko: I wasn't like, "Oh, I don't have this; I'm going to do this." That was never a thought in my mind. I've always loved girls, and it's always been a part of who I am. I realized, as I started releasing music videos, that there wasn't [much of] that content. I think because I never had it, I never missed it. When I started creating music and telling stories, I started to realize that there was a gap that needed to be filled, and I could naturally be that. Because that's who I am.

PS: Your single "Girls Like Girls" is an unapologetic ode to women who love women - where did the inspiration for that song come from?

HK: That was just a moment of being in the recording studio. My cowriter asked me, "What's something that you're terrified to sing about?" That was the beginning of it. I opened up to her, and she was like, "Let's sing about it." I remember complaining to her about being vague with pronouns and being vague with my overall feelings. She was like, "Let's do something unapologetically you. Let's tackle it."

"You grow up wherever you are, and you're constantly looking for validation and somewhere to fit in. Everyone just wants to fit in somewhere."

PS: What was that like?

HK: It was the best process because I've always led with my heart. I like my art to speak for myself, and [I want] people to learn about me through what I put out there. It was the most ideal situation for me, to be able to share a story that's personal to me.

Directing the video, and then having it be received so positively - and also finding [out that] people like me - that was very encouraging.

You grow up wherever you are, and you only know the people you're surrounded by, and you're constantly looking for validation and somewhere to fit in. Everyone just wants to fit in somewhere. And you can get lost.

PS: What have the reactions from queer women to you and your music been like?

HK: That's been really emotional. I had an 11-year-old girl come to my concert - she'd just come out to her mom. And she felt comfortable being herself because I was myself. That was a beautiful moment. Just being able to see everyone's faces beaming with joy and pride and feeling that energy. Even if they're not out yet in their personal life, you can see them being lifted by the amount of support surrounding them. Creating that space and having that opening to become who you've always wanted to be is really exciting.

PS: Did you have a difficult time coming out personally?

HK: I always knew that I liked girls since I was really young. Obviously, everyone has their own personal experience with their family, but eventually my parents were comfortable with it. It just took time. A lot of times, people think it's just a phase. There are also parents who will be accepting of other people, but as soon as it's their kid, it becomes a whole other reality check. That can be hard.

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PS: Tell me more about the nickname "Lesbian Jesus." Where did it come from and how did it become so popular?

HK: I don't know who the culprit is, but it just spread like wildfire. Now I have my face photoshopped on candles. It's sweet. Obviously, I don't want to disrespect anyone, but I do feel that it's the highest honor, and I'm grateful for such an empowering nickname.

PS: What's the difference between Hayley Kiyoko "Lesbian Jesus" and Hayley who's at home watching HGTV or something?

HK: I'm the same person. I tend to be more relaxed when I'm performing and have way more energy than when I'm just chilling. I would say the only difference between the two is that I'm a little more chill.

PS: As a QWOC, it's so rare for me to hear women sing to other women - especially in a way that's sincere and doesn't invite male fetishization. How important has it been to create that space for women? How does it influence what you do?

HK: It's really important; that's why I'm doing this. There's not a lot of representation in the mainstream pop world. I want to be on the radio and sing about loving girls and have that be OK. Even if someone can't specifically connect lyrically, they can connect emotionally. For me, growing up, that's how I felt with the radio. I feel like my music is for everyone, and it can also be for specific people to have that story told. I think it's important to have that in the mainstream. I want to be riding with everyone else. Just because I'm gay, it doesn't mean I shouldn't be able to sing at the top of my lungs all over the world and be able to achieve those dreams.

PS: What was the creative process like for your new album, Expectations?

HK: I really just went for it. Every day, every month, going in and tweaking things. Really trying to find my sound and how I feel internally. Creating that sonically. For me, nature is such a heavy influence - and beats and rhythm and storytelling. It's like, cool, how do I create a song with a heavy hip-hop or progressive beat with nature and also create a visual? And on top of that have it be catchy? So, it's really playing with what that could be.

PS: You've been dubbed the "queer savior" of pop. How does that make you feel?

HK: Honestly, I just wanted to create music. And the fact that my music is able to help people love themselves more and connect is the biggest gift in the world. The people [who] are listening to my music and my fans are the reason things are changing. I'm just a portal, and everyone else is moving us forward. I'm very thankful for all of my supporters and people who are willing to discover me and give me a chance.

PS: Is there anything you would say to pre-"Girls Like Girls" Hayley? The one who was afraid to sing to the person she wanted to sing to?

HK: I would tell myself to not be afraid, and there are thousands of people just like you. I felt really isolated, and I didn't know any people like me. I would tell myself that there are.

The Tale Is a Searing Depiction of Real-Life Sexual Abuse - and a Must Watch

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Long before the #MeToo movement had a name, documentary filmmaker Jennifer Fox was working on The Tale. The film, which first premiered at the Sundance Film Festival before making its way to HBO on May 26, is the devastating true story of the sexual abuse she experienced as a 13-year-old girl. Starring Laura Dern as adult Fox, Isabelle Nélisse as the director at 13 years old, and Jason Ritter as her abuser, The Tale is a searing depiction of rape and the ways in which abuse can impact someone's life without them even realizing it.

The Tale is Fox's first narrative film, and it serves as a memoir of sorts, as well as a graphic depiction of what sex abuse can look like from a child's perspective. According to The Hollywood Reporter, a few difficult scenes in the film showing acts of abuse led some audience members to walk out of a few of the movie's screenings, but those who stayed often gave the film a standing ovation.

In an interview with the Los Angeles Times, Fox revealed that much of her adult life, she viewed the relationship she had with a 40-year-old man at the age of 13 as a consensual one. When she would recount the story of "Bill" and "Mrs. G" - the names she gives her running coach and her horseback riding instructor for the film - she would tell people that Bill was her first boyfriend. While she remembered the details of what happened to her, she saw it as she did when she was a child, not as an adult.

It wasn't until her mother found a story she wrote for her seventh grade English class and called her daughter concerned that Fox began reexamining the encounters she had with Bill. The director was 45 when she realized that she had been sexually abused, and using unique editing techniques, The Tale graphically reconstructs the abuse Fox suffered, as well as her adult awakening to the truth about her first sexual encounters.

As one of five children, Fox came from a loving home, but due to the busy nature of her family, she explained to the LA Times, she sometimes felt as if she didn't get enough attention. During the Summer she was 13, Fox attended a horseback riding program. She immediately became enamored with Mrs. G, a British woman and athlete, who gave Fox the attention that she craved.

The director told the newspaper that there was nothing she wouldn't do for the older woman. It wasn't long before Mrs. G began arranging time for Fox to spend private moments with Bill alone at his home. Later, Fox would realize that the couple was grooming her by showering her with love and attention, so that Bill could then take advantage of her sexually. As a child, she believed that kissing Bill and later having intercourse with him was an exchange for the "love" that the couple showed her.

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Fox explained to the LA Times that the sexual and physical encounters were "hell," but she believed what she was receiving in return was worth it. She said:

It was a kind of moment-to-moment torture. But I felt so strongly that what I was gaining on the other side was worth the price. And that's the problem with child sexual abuse - a kid can't make those choices, but as an adolescent, those are the boundaries you're pushing. You're trying to have agency. I was thinking: Whatever the price is, I don't know, but I'm willing to pay it because I am my own person.

When Fox turned the story her mom later found in to her English teacher, she says the teacher wrote on the paper, "If this is true, it's a travesty. But since you're so well-adjusted, it can't be true." It wasn't until her mother found it that the director confronted her past. She revisited the real Mrs. G, Bill, and talked to several of the other students from the Summer camp. Ultimately, she realized that what she had thought of as her first relationship had been abuse, and she became interested in capturing the complexity of her journey in the hopes that she might help others.

She told The Hollywood Reporter: "My goal was to understand the context of what happened and to help others. I'm a little bit resistant to the idea that 'Oh, you're doing film therapy. It's always a tough process working with any material and finding the depth of the story. So all film is therapeutic. I don't want to say it's special because its memoir."

According to THR, it took Fox 10 years to write the film and a decade and a half to produce it. In fact, The Tale was filmed two years ago, and the only reason it wasn't submitted for the 2017 Sundance Film Festival is because the director decided it needed to undergo more editing.

Fox has stated that she's not interested in exposing the identity of the real Bill and Mrs. G, but she does want her powerful film to become a talking point that can be used to educate people, as well as to prevent other young people from falling prey to such predators in the future.

Yes, Marvel's Cloak & Dagger Is a Love Story - Here's Why You Should Get Invested

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We've already dubbed Freeform's newest series, Cloak & Dagger, as Marvel's superhero Romeo and Juliet, and after watching the premiere episode, it's easy to see why. Tyrone, aka Cloak, played by 20-year-old Aubrey Joseph, and Tandy, aka Dagger, played by Disney Channel's Olivia Holt, have enough chemistry on screen to spark a house fire. As if that weren't enough, it looks like the show will follow the comics closely and give the two superheroes a love story built for the ages!

To bring any newcomers up to speed, in the first episode, Tyrone and Tandy meet as children after tragic events bring them together fighting for their survival underwater. It is here where they both get exposed to a yet-to-be-explained substance that gives them their powers. This storyline deviates from the comics a bit, as they first meet each other as runaways in the book.

After saving Tandy from a potential robbery, the two accept an offer for shelter and are held captive as lab rats for a new synthetic heroin, which is how they get their superhuman abilities. On the show, Tandy and Tyrone reunite years later as teenagers and discover that they now have haunting superpowers and piece it back to the earlier incident underwater.

While we don't get any explicit signs of a romance in the premiere - in fact, Tandy's currently dating Liam, played by Carl Lundstedt, and Tyrone's love interest is played by Noëlle Renée Bercy - we do get a glimpse of a future between the two in the upcoming previews, which show that nothing can keep them apart. That means we'll just have to keep watching to see how Cloak and Dagger's inevitable love affair unfolds.

Hereditary Will Keep You Guessing Until It Arrives at This INSANE Twist

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Warning: Huge, horrifying spoilers for Hereditary below!

Hear ye, hear ye! It's time to spoil the biggest horror movie of 2018! Yep, we're talking about Hereditary, the super f*cked-up feature that scared the living daylights out of everyone at Sundance. We've already broken down just how scary the film is, so hopefully you know whether or not you're going to see it. In the meantime, we're breaking down the biggest twist in the film. So, if you decided to sit this one out but you're morbidly curious, or if you simply love reading spoilers, here's a very basic rundown of what goes down.

The Setup

OK, before we get deep into spoiler territory, allow me to catch you up on the early parts of the film. At the very beginning, the matriarch of the Graham family dies. We open on the funeral sequence: the mother of the household, Annie (Toni Collette), seems to be pretty numbed by her mother's death. She lives with her husband, Steve (Gabriel Byrne), and her son and daughter, Peter (Alex Wolff) and Charlie (Milly Shapiro). While Grandma's death is the launching point of the film, the real action begins when we hit another unspeakable tragedy.

Shortly after Grandma's death, Peter decides to go to a party at his friend's place. Annie, noticing that Charlie has really withdrawn into herself since her grandmother's death, forces Peter to bring his sister along. At the party, Charlie accidentally eats a piece of cake that's filled with nuts (which she is allergic to). Don't ask me what a nutty cake is doing at a party - I don't know about teenagers these days. Charlie has a severe allergic reaction and her throat starts to close up. Peter frantically speeds to the hospital, trying to get her there in time. He swerves to avoid hitting some roadkill, right as Charlie sticks her head out the car window, trying to catch her breath. In some kind of freak accident, Peter's swerve perfectly aligns with a telephone pole, and Charlie is beheaded and killed instantly.

Still with me? I know. It's a lot.

Annie completely falls apart, and the rest of the family aren't in great shape either. At this point, the whole family begins experiencing strange apparitions. Annie thinks she sees her mother in the shadows of the house. Peter thinks he hears his sister. It's all very strange. Through a grief support group, Annie meets an old friend of her mother's named Joan (Ann Dowd). Joan has also lost a loved one.

Some time passes. Joan runs into Annie and tells her of a miraculous experience: she's met with a psychic medium, and she's managed to communicate with the spirit of her dead grandchild! Annie seems completely incredulous, but is flabbergasted when Joan shows her firsthand. Joan gives Annie the special ghost candle and an incantation that will allow her to communicate with Charlie.

The Twist

Annie tries the ritual for herself, and what do you know, she manages to communicate with Charlie. But as soon as she contacts the spirit, Charlie seems to be angry and malevolent. She begins to terrorize the family with horrifying nightmares and hauntings. Slowly, she drives her brother Peter insane. Annie goes to talk to Joan but can't seem to find her. That's when everything starts to reveal itself: Joan isn't home, but we see a big picture of Peter on her kitchen table, surrounded by candles. This isn't a story of spiritual connection and healing! This is some crazy demonic possession sh*t!

Annie knows something is up. She decides to root around in her mother's old things and discovers a book that mentions a figure called King Paimon. Apparently he's a demon who serves Lucifer, and he likes to have a male body as his human host. A lot of things click into place here: that spirit terrorizing the family wasn't Charlie's at all; it was the demonic entity, King Paimon, who's set his sights on claiming Peter's body. At the same time, Annie also discovers that the headless, rotting dead body of her mother is casually hanging out in the attic. Cool.

The Finale and the Aftermath

So, basically, everything devolves into chaos. Annie and Steve pull Peter out of school because he slams his face into a desk (because Paimon is terrorizing him). At home, Annie tries to convince her husband that Peter is in danger and that a lot of bad sh*t is about to happen. Steve thinks Annie has gone off the deep-end, and he doesn't believe a word she says. In order to ward off Paimon, she throws Charlie's old sketch book into the fireplace (it was the physical object she used in her ritual to contact her daughter beyond the grave). Then, for some inexplicable reason, Steve bursts into flames and dies.

In the final sequence, Annie gets possessed by Paimon. Peter wakes up and wanders around the house, and Annie literally crawls along the walls, stalking him. When he finally notices her, he flips out and runs up to the attic. His mother chases after him and starts viciously banging her head on the trapdoor in the ceiling over and over again when he escapes her clutches. (Yep, you read that correctly.)

Peter quickly realizes that the attic is filled with (naked) followers of Grandma's cult, who start to close in on him. Annie then seems to float into the attic, somehow, where she proceeds to saw off her own head with what appears to be a garrote wire. Peter loses it, and seeing no other option, jumps out the attic's glass window and appears to die (or at least lose consciousness) on the ground below. The worshipers drag his body up into Charlie's old tree house and complete the ritual. In the final sequence, Peter's body wakes up, and Joan breaks everything down for him.

Basically, the whole movie has been an attempt to summon King Paimon and put him in a human host. That human host is Peter. From context clues, it seems Charlie was supposed to be the original vessel, but Paimon did not like her female form. Thus, they needed to "correct" Paimon's desired body, and so we land on Peter. The previous ritual, performed by Annie, was to welcome Paimon into the Graham household and to make Peter available as the vessel. Peter looks around the tree house, which is filled with worshipers who bow at his feet. Joan places a crown on his head, and we cut to black.

How Is Ocean's 8 Related to All the Other Movies? Here Are the Connections

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We always knew Ocean's 8 was going to connect to the other Ocean's movies somehow. After all, the trailers for the film made it clear that the main character's name is Debbie Ocean, which isn't far off from the Danny Ocean (aka George Clooney) we meet in Ocean's 11, Ocean's 12, and Ocean's 13. And, I mean, we see Danny Ocean's grave as well. That's why it comes as no surprise that this film takes place in the same universe as all the other ones. But if you're wondering how exactly it fits in with its predecessors, we're happy to break it down for you. Here are all the ways, big and small, that Ocean's 8 connects to the original.

The natural starting place, of course, is the man himself: Danny Ocean. We learn very quick that Debbie is the sister of the deceased Danny Ocean, so there really aren't any questions about where she comes from. And, since Danny is dead and his grave is marked with 2018, we can assume this is the last movie in his original Ocean's timeline. Throughout the course of the film, Debbie also seems pretty skeptical about her brother's death. She even insinuates that he may be alive on more than one occasion. By the end, though, there's no sign of George Clooney, which makes us think Danny is gone for good. We like Debbie better anyway. (Sorry, Danny.)

But wait! There's more! While Danny seems to be gone for good, there are a couple other old ghosts from the past who pop up. We also get a visit from good ol' Reuben Tishkoff (Elliott Gould), who appears in all three previous Ocean's movies. And the Met Gala heist features one very special cameo by Shaobo Qin as Yen, the acrobat who really shines as the star player in each of the three other films. Without giving too much away, Yen's up to his old tricks again.

As far as the connections go, that's about it! It's worth noting that Matt Damon was set to make a cameo, but his spot ended up on the cutting room floor. Still, we can't help but wonder what will happen if Ocean's 8 gets a sequel. We imagine we may see a few more familiar faces (*cough* Brad Pitt *cough*).

After Watching Hereditary, We Looked Up That 1 Mysterious Name - Here's What We Found

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Warning: This post contains major spoilers for Hereditary! Read at your own risk.

After months of hype and teasing, we're finally laying our eyes on Hereditary, the 2018 horror movie that's scaring the ever-loving sh*t out of everyone who sees it. We've already taken a dive into how scary the movie is (and whether you can handle it), but now it's time to dig into the darkest (and most spoilery) parts of the film. Specifically, we want to zoom in on the mysterious figure that lurks in the shadows until the final, truly insane sequence. That's right, we're talking about King Paimon.

As a very brief recap, King Paimon is the demon who hangs around the Graham family throughout the film. In earlier parts of Hereditary, we witness paranormal occurrences - they're supposed "hauntings" in the homes of Joan (Ann Dowd) and Annie (Toni Collette) - and believe that they are the spirits of these mothers' dead children. Joan is the one behind all of this: she gives Annie an incantation and ritual that will supposedly allow her to commune with her daughter, Charlie. But as it's revealed later, Annie isn't actually communing with Charlie; the ritual is instead a way of welcoming a demon named Paimon into their home and giving him permission to enter a mortal vessel.

That's basically the bottom line of Hereditary. The dead matriarch of the Grahams, Annie's mother, seems to be involved in some kind of satanic, occultist, possibly Wiccan group that worships King Paimon. Their goal is simple: to find a human host whose body this demon can inhabit. At the end of the film, we learn that this group has been grooming Peter, Annie's son, to be this host.

So, what's the deal with King Paimon? There's a pretty good description of him in a book called The Lesser Key of Solomon, written by Joseph Peterson. The book is a collection of information from original manuscripts and fragments in the British Museum Library. A website called the Grimoire Encyclopedia has excerpted the book, which describes Paimon as a "Great King" who is "very obedient unto Lucifer." The passage describes in great length what Paimon is capable of:

"He hath a great Voice, and roareth at his first coming, and his speech is such that the Magician cannot well understand it unless he can compel him. This Spirit can teach all Arts and Science, and other secret things. He can discover unto thee what the Earth is, and what holdeth it up in the Waters; and what Mind is, and where it is; or any other thing thou mayeth desire to know. He giveth Dignity, and confirmeth the same. He bindeth or maketh any man subject to the Magician if he so desire it. He giveth good Familiars, and such as can teach all Arts. He is to be observed towards the West.

In this context, the "magician" is the person who invokes Paimon's spirit. The passage is enough to communicate why the individuals in Hereditary wanted to call upon him and worship him in the first place. He seems to hold great knowledge and wisdom, and can imbue his subject with great power. Other sources online, which may or may not be accurate (take them with a grain of salt), describe King Paimon as very friendly and willing to help those who win his respect. That's another reason why he may be the object of desire in Hereditary - he is supposedly benevolent, wise, and willing to help.

By the horrific end of the film, we know that King Paimon has been successfully summoned and that he is inhabiting Peter's body. We have to wonder, though: were all the terrors and horrible sacrifices worth it? I guess it depends on who you ask.

Not Even Thanos Can Stop Us From Getting Our Hands on These Captain Marvel Vans

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In a collaboration that seems like it would have happened long ago, Vans and Marvel have teamed up for a splashy collection of sneakers, apparel, and accessories. The collab includes pieces inspired by several Marvel characters, including Captain Marvel, Spider-Man, Black Panther, Deadpool, and more.

Since it is Vans, after all, the sneakers are definitely the standout pieces in the collection, with several different styles from the brand's classic slip-on sneakers to cool high-tops. In addition, there are a few unexpected sandal styles that could be good for outdoor activities this Summer (like saving the universe) or, you know, just hanging around the house. Ahead, see pictures of all the superhero shoes to come out of Vans's collaboration with Marvel.

The Reason Queen Elizabeth II Has Been Wearing Sunglasses Recently

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Queen Elizabeth II has been sporting a fresh pair of shades recently, but she isn't trying to make a fashion statement. As it turns out, the 92-year-old royal is recovering from cataract surgery. "I can confirm that the queen successfully underwent a short, planned procedure to treat a cataract last month," Buckingham Palace confirmed to People in a statement on Friday.

While most people would take a few weeks off of work to recover at home, the queen has actually been doing the opposite. Not only did she recently host a garden party at Buckingham Palace, but she'll also be accompanying Meghan Markle on her first solo royal engagement to Cheshire on June 14. But then again, Queen Elizabeth II isn't most people.

Pass the Smelling Salts, Because the Shirtless Men in These Music Videos Will Make You Faint

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We've seen some pretty sexy music videos over the years - 2018 has already given us lots of steamy clips - and we've noticed there's one ingredient that makes those mini-movies even hotter: shirtless men, obviously.

We compiled 25 of the sexiest music videos that just happen to have men proudly showing their strong bodies (and we mean, proudly!). Break out a fan and turn up the AC, it's about to get hot in here.

Ryan Reynolds Is Still No Match For His Savage Twin Brother, Gordon - Watch Their Awkward Interview

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Remember back in 2016 when Ryan Reynolds sat down for an interview with his twin brother, Gordon? Well, get ready, because the dynamic duo is back again - and yes, Gordon is still a savage. In celebration of World Gin Day on June 9, Ryan agreed to reunite with Gordon for another candid chat, and it didn't take long for things to go south. "It's like looking in the mirror . . . five years from now," Gordon quips before grilling the Deadpool 2 star about everything from his iconic superhero character to his Father's Day plans with daughters James and Inez. Gordon also takes a few swipes at Ryan's movie career and asks if he "invented gin" before taking a "wee nip" of the alcohol for himself.

Ryan didn't invent gin, but he is the recent owner of Aviation Gin and is releasing a limited-edition bottle for Father's Day. Slam the play button on the video above now and prepare to LOL hard.

Wondering If You Can Handle Hereditary's F*cked-Up Terror? Here's Our Take

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Note: this post is spoiler-free, so dive on in!

It's the horror movie you've been hearing about all year. Hereditary freaked everyone out at the Sundance Film Festival, and it hasn't slowed down since. Even the trailers are enough to send a chill down your spine. And with a rather compelling story on paper, we're sure you're more intrigued than ever. Now that the film is about to head into theaters for public consumption, we're sure horror fans and horror wimps alike are all wondering the same thing: how scary, exactly, is it? We're giving you our spoiler-free assessment of the twists, turns, and terrors Hereditary contains.

Before we dive in, let's cover the background information. We know that Annie Graham (Toni Collette) loses her mother at the beginning of the film. It's clear that this family has a history of mental issues, and with her mother gone, Annie begins to unravel in her own small ways. Slowly, over the course of the film, Annie and the rest of the family seem to lose their grip on reality. This uncertainty and insanity build until we reach a truly disturbing conclusion.

When I say there's a slow build in this film, I mean there's a slow build. In fact, the entire first half of the film is pretty quiet and mostly uneventful. There are a couple of shocking moments, and there's one very jarring and violent sequence, but on the whole, it's pretty tame. In fact, I spent most of this portion trying to figure out what kind of horror film I was watching. Is it a supernatural story? Are there ghosts and demons involved? Are all of the events just manifestations of Mom's crazy mind? This vagueness is actually what keeps you on guard and on the edge of your seat at first.

To be clear, this mysterious aspect of the film keeps you guessing until the last scene. Just when you think you've figured out what's going on, the plot takes another sharp turn. Finally, before we fade to black, we get the full scope of everything that has happened over the course of the past two hours. And even then, there are still some unanswered question.

Slowly, with each new scene, the tension and uneasiness stack in layers. There is really a turning point where everything kicks in, and all the pieces of the puzzle start to come together. The second half of the film is incredibly unsettling; a lot of sequences will make you grip your armrest, and the film does not shy away from violent moments. When it comes to body horror, Hereditary puts the gore right in front of your face and does not pan away.

Is Hereditary scary? Scary isn't the word I would use. This isn't the kind of film that will make your heart pound, and you won't be too scared to go to sleep. At the same time, it's very disturbing. So disturbing, in fact, that I was practically numbed out by all the distressing things that happen. It'll definitely stay with you. It's not an unpleasant experience to watch. I'd liken it to films like The Witch, Shutter Island, and Black Swan. They're just difficult to bear witness to, but they're not necessarily bad films.

Hereditary won't have you looking over your shoulder or glancing at shadows. But there are certainly some things you won't be able to unsee, things that will be burned into your brain for a long time. If you think you can handle it, godspeed!

11 Slang Terms That Are Officially Words - the Dictionary Says So

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Another day, another dictionary that's just starting to learn slang words we're already over saying. This time around, it's Dictionary.com, which recently added more than 300 new words, like sext and slay.

See which new additions are finally in the dictionary - and maybe consider giving them up if you don't want to look lame.

Did You Know Netflix Has Secret Movie Categories? Here's How to Find Them

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Your Netflix hunting just got so much better. Turns out, there are a ton of secret movie categories on Netflix, and there's an easy hack for finding them. To access one of the hidden categories, you'll just need to type out the following in your browser:

https://ift.tt/2hSdKdR

So, for instance, 67673 is the code for Disney, so to see all the movies in that category, you'd type:

https://www.netflix.com/browse/genre/67673

Cool, right? What's on Netflix has all the categories, which include very specific genres such as sci-fi thrillers (11014), foreign films from places like Scandinavia (9292), and even for children's age ranges from 0 to 2 (6796) and 11 to 12 (6962). Check out some of the ones that grabbed our interest here!

10118 - Comic Book and Superhero Movies
10702 - Spy Action and Adventure
11146 - Anime Fantasy
26 - Mockumentaries
10944 - Cult Horror Movies
1159 - Travel and Adventure Documentaries
6384 - Tearjerkers
29764 - Art House Movies
8646 - Slasher and Serial Killer Movies
75405 - Zombie Horror Movies
36103 - Quirky Romance
972 - Steamy Thrillers
1164 - British Crime Dramas Based on Books
2077 - Witty Independent Movies
502 - Gritty Political Thrillers
394 - Critically-Acclaimed Coming-of-Age Movies

9 Geeky Dresses You Need to Get in Your Closet This Spring

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As warm weather finally approaches, it's time to take out every single Spring and Summer dress you own. While we definitely appreciate a beautiful floral pattern on a dress, we're a bit more inclined to show off our favorite fandoms instead. Check out some of our favorite geeky dresses ahead and buy them before the season's already over.

In a State Plagued by Suicide, 1 Researcher Is Taking a Revolutionary Approach

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Michael Staley wants to find out why people die by suicide. His job and title reflect this unique quest: he's the psychological autopsy examiner for Utah, working in the state's Office of the Medical Examiner. The role was created to analyze the state's suicide problem by connecting the scientific data with the human - and Staley is the only person in America with such a job. He's embarking on a years-long, first-of-its-kind project to study suicide in the state and how it impacts marginalized communities like LGBTQ+ youth and Native Americans.

He does this through "psychological autopsies," conducting hours-long interviews with the deceased's family and friends, exploring and excavating the lives of suicide victims, to understand their problems and the circumstances that troubled them. He does this in the hopes of connecting suicide with lived lives - specifically connecting this to Utah's unique suicide troubles: the state has the fifth highest suicide rate in the country; suicide is the leading cause of death for kids ages 10 to 17, and Utah has the highest ratio of suicides to homicides.

A sociologist, Staley specializes in prevention. As a cisgender man who is gay, he knows all too well that queer persons are at a greater risk for suicidal ideation and other mental health issues. It's a constant source of friction, regardless of whether he is directly or distantly addressing the subject, as there are more questions about queer suicide than answers. His work can be morbid, a side effect of the subject that his personal life helps mitigate (Staley says his partner is "the bumper guard" to his daily tragedies), but in many ways, his dedication to the subject is the culmination of a life exploring the problem of premature deaths and why they happen.

"I devote the vast majority of my time to people who actually die by suicide," Staley explains to POPSUGAR. "And we don't know that queer people account for more of those deaths than the actual population." Staley provides two reasons for this nebulousness: there are no recordings of how many LGBTQ+ Americans die by suicide, and there are no set numbers on the queer populations, as they have routinely been left out of research like the US Census. There simply aren't accurate population counts for the community. "In general, in science we're not good at counting either of those things," he says. "We're working on it."

Staley can pinpoint where this interest began: during his teen years in rural Montana, where he attended a high school with only 320 students. In his four-year tenure, seven students died, some by suicide and some by other circumstances.

"I remember going to school and sitting there and the intercom going off, saying, 'So-and-so died,'" Staley recalls. "It kept happening over and over. One day the Spanish teacher completely fell apart, telling us, 'Would you please stop dying?' That's the most explanation that I got from anyone."

Staley's interest grew after taking a sociology class during his undergraduate studies at Carroll College in Montana. Suicide was a major focus in his sociological studies since the subject is considered the bedrock of the social sciences. "We were talking about the empirical, scientific understanding of suicide," Staley says. The draw of personalizing the science of people - and his professor's highlighting how to recognize suicidal behaviors in a person - captured him, illustrating how the discipline could create real change and possibly save lives.

After graduating with a degree in sociology, Staley pursued a PhD at the University of New Hampshire, where he studied the sociology of AIDS and infectious diseases. He eventually moved to Utah in 2014 to understand "safer sex practices - or the lack thereof" in the state's LGBTQ+ Latter Day Saint community, but he ended up being redirected to suicide. "What I ended up doing a lot of the time was dealing with mental health crises," he says. "I had to take two different people to the hospital - because they were suicidal - after they told me that they had plans."

"I remember going to school and sitting there and the intercom going off, saying, 'So-and-so died. It kept happening over and over."

Staley found - from firsthand and personal experience - that one of the sources of the problem is the tension between being queer and being Mormon, of living conservatively and living your truth.

"I was working with gay, bisexual, queer, and questioning young men," Staley says of his early Utah work, specifying that these were the persons who came to support groups he attended. "Young men have a harder time coping with their sexuality and the expectations of their communities. There's a religious conservatism here. You can't be LGBTQ and hold the highest calling in the church. Therefore, there's no way to move forward. There's this role conflict."

Suicide, in Staley's mind, is much more complicated than one environmental factor or one mental health issue. What he does know is that Utah has a unique problem, which is exactly why the state created the role he now fills; while there is no proof that these suicides are taking place among predominately queer or Mormon people (Staley, again, notes there isn't enough research or population counts to support this), this is an all too common misconception in the state.

"Look at the comments in the Salt Lake Tribune articles, particularly the ones where we talk about teenagers," he says. "They all quickly devolve into this really polar argument that it's all gay Mormons who are killing themselves. That, I think, is toxic."

Staley sees this opinion as dangerously myopic and a disservice to suicide prevention, as it oversimplifies an issue that lies at the intersection of many personal problems, and, again, highlights the research gap dedicated to LGBTQ+ populations in America.

"There's just so much contour to suicide," he says. "When we label the problem as a 'gay Mormon problem,' we will miss so many deaths. The deaths that come across my desk every day are not all LGBT people and are not all LGBT Mormons. Some of them are, but we're not yet at a place where we're systematically collecting data about either religion or sexual orientation and gender identity. Nobody is, in the country. We can't definitively say those things."

If there's anything that Staley's work points to, it's the resounding chorus minority communities have championed for years: everything is intersectional - even suicide. There isn't one or two smoking guns, no single Goliath to strike down, to rid communities of suicidal risk. If he had to point in directions of main culprits, he'd put his efforts on equipping men with emotional dexterity in addition to loosening the bonds of religion.

"Young men are miserable," he explains. "We do not teach our young men to emote in healthy ways. We teach them how to emote in extremely unhealthy ways: to be a man and suck it up. That's the worst emotional-intelligence building."

For religion, specifically Mormonism, the problem can be examined by contrasting the suicide rates in Utah vs. conservative Christian states in the South. "The suicide rates in those places are not astronomically through the roof like it is in Utah," he says. "Why would you have one high suicide [rate] in one place but not the other? I think that's because . . . there's something to the culture here in Utah that creates expectations, and we don't know what that is."

As pervasive as it is, suicide is still a subject that is so incredibly nuanced and abstract. But Staley is optimistic and knows that better suicide prevention will be developed by closely studying the issue, by using personal stories to build scientific solutions that can cater to specific communities, specific problems, and their resulting overlaps.

"My expertise is in research and is getting data out of people who are hurting," he says. "Let's address the pipeline between feeling hopeless and being suicidal. If we can do that . . . I genuinely believe we can re-engineer the way that we do prevention so that we're spending millions to save hundreds of lives. And that's where we need to be."

12 Stylish Phone Cases Because Your Mirror Selfies Need a Serious Upgrade

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When it comes to accessories, bags and shoes have taken a backseat to the one thing you'll never leave the house without: your phone. You literally carry it everywhere you go. It even shows up in your mirror selfies, so why not use it to reflect your own personal style? Ditch that old dirty case you've had for far too long and trade it in for something you'll covet. We rounded up a list of cool and chic choices that will rival your best handbags. From brands like Kate Spade, Clare V., and even Gucci, prepare to want them all. Take a look.

There's Something So Satisfying About This Guy's Perfectly Organized Artwork on Instagram

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If you're sick of scrolling through endless photos of latte art and sunsets on Instagram, we discovered the one account you need to start following for a much-needed change. Visual artist Adam Hillman specializes in assembling colorful masterpieces that are so incredibly soothing to look at. Seriously, just looking at them is sure to give you an eyegasm.

He transforms everyday items, from cereal and jellybeans to crayons and toothpicks, into true works of art. Each piece is perfectly organized in a way that will make any Type A person smile with delight. His intricate designs typically take up to three hours to construct, although some have taken him up to three days - talk about dedication!

We reached out to the creative mastermind to hear a bit more about what drove him to start crafting these aesthetically pleasing patterns back in 2015. "I'm inspired by websites like the Tumblr 'Things Organized Neatly', [the] subreddit 'Oddly Satisfying,' art historical movements like minimalism, and artists like Mondrian," he told POPSUGAR. He also takes time to consciously appreciate "the colors and pattern of everyday things."

Last year, Instagram "aesthetes" (a term for people who have a special appreciation for art and beauty) started noticing his one-of-a-kind work on social media, and his account skyrocketed from having fewer than 1,000 followers to more than 100,000 in 2016. Adam posts a different creation every few days, and also sells prints of his fun patterns on Society6. Sit back, relax, and read on to feel the soothing tranquility wash over you.

37 Sailor Moon Tattoo Ideas For Anyone Who Still Wishes They Were a Sailor Scout

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Sailor Moon fans are not the type to hide their love for the show. Whether it means using makeup inspired by the Sailor Scouts or attempting to dress like them, Sailor Moon fans will try anything. If you want to make your love a bit more permanent, look ahead to get some tattoo inspiration.

Fitbit's Latest Smartwatch Impresses on All Fronts, but Its Look and Price Are What Will Sell You

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If the Fitbit Ionic impressed you, just wait until you see the company's latest product. On April 16, 2018, Fitbit released its highly anticipated smartwatch, the Fitbit Versa. Advertised with a completely new, elevated look along with four-plus days of battery life, the newest addition to the Fitbit family is sure to please. So, as soon as I was able to get my hands on one, I immediately put the Versa to the test. My first impression: Fitbit finally nailed it with this one.

From an aesthetics standpoint, I was fully impressed by the Versa's softer clock face and its light weight. Fun fact: the Fitbit Versa is the lightest metal smartwatch in the US. Its similar look to the Apple Watch also makes it competitive on the design front. Opting for a square face with rounded edges (compared to the Ionic's more angular design) was completely intentional and designed with the female consumer in mind, according to Fitbit senior product marketing manager Kat Binder. She shared that considering 60 percent of smartwatch buyers are men, Fitbit wanted to tap into the female market this time around. In addition to releasing a black-on-black aluminum and gray-silver aluminum watch, Fitbit also offers a gorgeous rose gold one that will definitely sway skeptics.

Here are some key features of the Versa, many of which we've already known and loved on previous devices:

Battery life: There's no need to charge your smartwatch every night because you can enjoy the Versa for a minimum of four days straight. This also means you can wear it while you sleep (and comfortably, might I add), which leads me to . . .
Onscreen workouts: With the Versa, you have your own personal trainer right on your wrist. Three on-device workouts are included with your device (10-Minute Abs, Seven-Minute Workout, and Warm It Up), while a paid subscription gives you access to multiple trainers, additional workouts, and Fitbit Radio. Your Fitbit Coach will walk you through each move and continue to improve with feedback.
Auto sleep tracking: Your Versa gives you a deeper look into your bedtime habits by telling you how long you were in light, deep, or REM sleep. See your nightly sleep insights on the Fitbit app, which also explains the importance of each cycle. I learned that I wake up much more often than I should each night, which has encouraged me to switch up my bedtime routine.
Auto activity tracking: Thanks to the Versa's SmartTrack technology, you don't have to hit "start" in order for your workout to count. Your watch will automatically detect what kind of exercise you're doing without having to log activity yourself.
Integrated dashboard: The on-device dashboard was redesigned to allow for easy access to your health and fitness data right on your wrist. Now, you can glance at your seven-day exercise summaries, current and resting heart rate, daily stats, and more - all without having to go on the mobile app to find it.
Connected GPS: Your Fitbit Versa automatically tracks your running and biking pace, distance, and speed using your smartphone's GPS if it's nearby. This is the one downfall to the Versa as the Ionic features built-in GPS.
24/7 heart rate tracking: Similar to the Fitbit Ionic, the Versa uses PurePulse technology to provide you with your current and resting heart rate. The new integrated dashboard also allows you to see your seven-day resting heart rate trends on your wrist.
Water resistance: Feel free to take a bath with your Versa on or jump into the ocean (up to 50 meters) or pool - it's totally safe.
Phone-free music: You can store up to 300 of your favorite songs directly onto your smartwatch or stream music through Pandora or Deezer. The best part? It's compatible with Bluetooth devices, so you can hook up your wireless headphones without having to carry your phone on a run!

In addition to text/call notification and calendar alerts, you can take personalization to the next level with the various apps (hello, Strava!), the clock faces available, and numerous accessory bands, from stainless steel to leather. And if you're not yet convinced that the Versa is for you, let me just share the price point real quick. The Fitbit Versa starts at $200 (for the black, silver, and rose gold) and goes up to $230 for the special-edition smartwatches, which come in an exclusive charcoal woven and lavender woven band and feature Fitbit (wallet-free) Pay. In comparison to the Apple Watch Series 3 (starting at $329) and the Fitbit Ionic (starting at $300), the cost of the Versa is undeniably competitive.

As if all that weren't enough, coming this Spring are female health tracking and message quick replies for Android users. Ladies, soon we'll be able to get predicted ovulation dates, predicted period dates, menstrual reminders, cycle tracking, and other personal insights. But wait for it . . . you won't even need a Fitbit device to access this data as long as you have the Fitbit mobile app downloaded. As for you Android users, you'll soon be able to reply to texts on your wrist with quick preselected responses or with your own customized replies. Fitbit informed us that they're currently working on a solution for iPhone users.

Overall, the key difference between the Fitbit Versa and the Ionic comes down to looks and cost. The two devices are nearly identical in features, aside from the Ionic's built-in GPS. The Fibit Versa is an affordable option for fitness enthusiasts who want a smartwatch that's more fashion forward. If you don't mind bringing your phone along with you for its GPS, I'd say that the Versa is the way to go. Come on, you can't beat a $200 smartwatch.

We Uncovered the Best Travel Hair Dryers – Never Go Anywhere Without 1 Again

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What's the one thing you can't live without? For so many women, the answer is a hair dryer. It's a gamble to go on any vacation without your own. Although your hotel room might have one, it's too hard to say whether it will actually work on your hair. Don't take any chances on not being photo ready for your next trip. Find the one that is best for you and invest in one of these. You'll never leave it behind again.

OMG, Spotify and Hulu Announced a $13-a-Month Bundle Deal - and No, You're Not Dreaming

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Ladies and gentlemen, the streaming gods are truly shining down upon us. Spotify and Hulu are extending their heaven-sent partnership and offering a crazy-affordable bundle deal for music and TV addicts. Last year, the two brands teamed up to offer a $5-a-month package deal specifically for college students, and this new bundle - Spotify Premium, Now With Hulu - offers anyone, not just students, access to both Hulu's Limited Commercials plan and Spotify Premium through one $13-a-month subscription plan. Yes, that's certainly more than $5, but hey, we (unfortunately) can't be college students forever!

How much would you save if you took advantage of this joint plan? Let's break it down, shall we? Spotify Premium costs $10 a month, and Hulu's limited commercials plan is $8 a month. So that means every month, you'll save $5 - a.k.a. $60 over the course of one year. You can score a new pair of shoes with those savings!

The Spotify Premium, Now With Hulu deal will officially be available this Summer, but if you're already a Spotify Premium subscriber, you've got early access to the $13-a-month bundle starting now. On top of that, eligible Spotify Premium users can also try Hulu's Limited Commercials Plan for three months for just 99 cents as an intro to the package, if you're kinda on the fence about the whole Hulu thing. Learn more about this budget-friendly offering here, and get ready for your savings account to do a happy dance.

20+ Cute Butt Tattoos That Are Very Cheeky

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On an ass cheek isn't necessarily the first place you'd think to get a tattoo, but you'd be surprised just how subtle and sexy ink in that spot can be. From under the cheek to smack dab on the bum, these butt tattoos are cute, creative, and easy to cover up if you want to keep them your little secret!

The 15 Best Independent Bookstores in the US

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When it's time to hit the road for a vacation, there are two things that bookworms know to be true. First of all, you can never pack too many books in your suitcase and carry-on (although those overweight luggage fees are definitely not on our side). The other is that, no matter where we go, it would be straight-up sacrilege to not visit any and all renowned independent bookstores in the vicinity.

With no disrespect to chain bookstores, there's nothing quite as magical as an independent bookstore. Each has its own unique atmosphere, decor, selection, and claim to fame, but they all have one thing in common - when a bookworm steps inside, we immediately know that we could spend an entire day there.

Despite the rise of e-readers, there's no shortage of incredible independent bookstores in America. In fact, some of us (*raises hand*) have even planned trips just so we can visit certain indies. Luckily, many of them are located in popular tourist destinations like New York City, Los Angeles, and Chicago. So before you head out on your next trip, check out this list of the 15 best independent bookstores in the country.

19 Memes About Feeling Lonely That Are Way Too Real

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Sometimes, it's good to take a step back and laugh at yourself and everything going on in your life. So, if you're someone who's upset about being alone this Valentine's Day or just wishing you had someone to call your own, laugh away any sadness with these memes ahead. Some totally describe the joys of being by yourself, while others capture what it's like when your friends don't respond to your texts and leave you feeling lonely.

How to Know You've Truly Found Your Soulmate - and Should Hold on Tight

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When it comes to connecting with someone and finding your perfect soulmate, it seems like a dream come true. The concept of having that special person who's your counterpart would make this whole dating "thing" a whole lot easier. Yet it can be tough to determine whether the idea of a soulmate is factual or not. Is there a way to really know you've met "the one," and what might happen if you let him or her go? Luckily, we've got a few answers for you.

Do Soulmates Really Exist?

In a way, they do. You've just got to believe in the magical. "A soulmate is someone you connect with in a way that is deeper than you thought possible. You connect with him [or her] in a way that is romantic, but also strongly emotional. And this connection is far deeper than any connection you've had with anyone else," David Bennett, a relationship counselor and owner of Double Trust Dating and Relationships, told POPSUGAR.

How to Know You've Found Yours

"A soulmate treats you with kindness and generosity and brings out the best in you (and you in him or her). A soulmate is more than just a person who shares a certain percentage of things in common with you. In fact, a soulmate may not even have a lot in common with you, but you nonetheless are right for each other," he said.

It's an unspoken, unexplainable bond that holds the two of you together where you're happy and the best versions of yourselves. You know that it just feels right to be together.

What's more, a soulmate's love is unconditional. "A soulmate will treat you with kindness even when you may not deserve it, but [they'll] also assertively tell you what you need to hear if necessary. As I mentioned, soulmates bring out the best in each other, and do so with kindness, empathy, and honesty," he said. Plus, your underlying values mesh well together and there is a level of acceptance, added Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW.

"You've faced hardship together - whether it's the loss of a loved one, a job, or just setbacks - and have come out stronger together, [and] you challenge each other - you make each other think and can push each other while still being supportive," she said. You can also accept each others' quirks, where you feel comfortable with your partner and can be yourself.

Finding your soulmate is deeper than making a checklist of traits you like in someone and seeing if someone meets it. It's hard to define, but you know it when you see and feel it. "I'm not sure if I totally believe in the concept, simply because they are so rare and the term is clouded by 'in love' brain chemistry. But if you find someone you totally feel could be your soulmate, don't blow it by overthinking or pushing them away, because the evidence suggests a long-term relationship with a great person that lasts forever is extremely rare," he said.

Can You Be Wrong?

Sometimes you may think someone is a soulmate, and he or she turns out not to be. "It's also possible to find your soulmate and push him or her away because of your own personal issues. And sometimes your soulmate may let you go, because they may know that walking away could be the best thing for you in the end," said Bennett.

"If you believe you've found your soulmate, then you really should work hard to figure out why the relationship isn't working and then make changes if necessary," he said. It's worth holding onto if you both feel that you're meant to be.

For this to work, you both must feel that the other is his or her soulmate. "I would have a hard time being in a relationship where I believe my partner is my soulmate, but she doesn't believe it back. The concept of 'soulmate' requires a 'mate,' which by definition implies part of a pair. If your partner is hesitant to use the word 'soulmate,' that is one thing, but if you believe [they are] the one for you eternally, and to [them] you're just another person to date, I'd have serious questions," said Bennett. However, keep in mind some people don't like the word soulmate but still may see their partners in that way.

Is It Common?

"Based on the research related to divorce, cheating, and the reality of relationship satisfaction often diminishing over time, finding a soulmate seems pretty rare," he said. What's more, it might come up too early in the relationship to make it valid.

"From a purely scientific standpoint, the 'soulmates' concept is usually brought up early in a relationship, when the infatuated brain is filled with dopamine and other 'feel-good' chemicals that create euphoric feelings for each other (sorry to be a downer). As these chemicals fade, often so does the 'soulmate' label," he explained.

Did You Know Netflix Has Secret Movie Categories? Here's How to Find Them

By bolhaw 07:09 travel No comments

https://ift.tt/2hSdKdR

So, for instance, 67673 is the code for Disney, so to see all the movies in that category, you'd type:

https://www.netflix.com/browse/genre/67673

10118 - Comic Book and Superhero Movies
10702 - Spy Action and Adventure
11146 - Anime Fantasy
26 - Mockumentaries
10944 - Cult Horror Movies
1159 - Travel and Adventure Documentaries
6384 - Tearjerkers
29764 - Art House Movies
8646 - Slasher and Serial Killer Movies
75405 - Zombie Horror Movies
36103 - Quirky Romance
972 - Steamy Thrillers
1164 - British Crime Dramas Based on Books
2077 - Witty Independent Movies
502 - Gritty Political Thrillers
394 - Critically-Acclaimed Coming-of-Age Movies

9 Geeky Dresses You Need to Get in Your Closet This Spring

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In a State Plagued by Suicide, 1 Researcher Is Taking a Revolutionary Approach

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"I remember going to school and sitting there and the intercom going off, saying, 'So-and-so died. It kept happening over and over."

Staley found - from firsthand and personal experience - that one of the sources of the problem is the tension between being queer and being Mormon, of living conservatively and living your truth.

12 Stylish Phone Cases Because Your Mirror Selfies Need a Serious Upgrade

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samedi 9 juin 2018

The Setup

The Twist

The Finale and the Aftermath

Do Soulmates Really Exist?

How to Know You've Found Yours

Can You Be Wrong?

Is It Common?

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