Healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is one which helps to keep and improve people's health and well-being.Many governments and non-governmental organizations have made big efforts in healthy lifestyle and health promotion.
Mental Health
Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
Public health
Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
Health
Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
vendredi 31 août 2018
Victoria Beckham Just Blindsided Us With This Sexy Dress, So Forgive Us If We Forgot David Was There
Ahead of Labor Day weekend, we were treated to a special red-carpet appearance from Victoria and David Beckham. The two stepped out together to attend the UEFA Champions League draw in Monaco on Thursday, where David was presented with the UEFA Presidents Award. The event may have been all about celebrating David, but the red carpet is all about Victoria.
The designer looked stunning in a minimal black cocktail dress that wowed with plunging neckline. It might be understated, but that's the kind of look Mrs. Beckham does so well. Her style know-how is on full display, complete with all the right accessories: a pendant necklace and ankle-strap heels. The lesson? Make like "Posh" and remember a great little black dress never goes out of style.
Read on to see the look from every angle and shop a few similar options to add to your own closet.
These Are the 10 Most Flattering Trends to Rock This Fall
With Fall nearly here, you're probably ready to break out your favorite sweaters, jeans, and leather jackets. If your closet is in need of a style revamp, just look to the Fall fashion trends that designers, bloggers, and street style stars have already embraced. The best part? All of the season's biggest trends are not only stylish and fashion-forward but super flattering and easy to pull off, too.
From sexy side slits to chic plaid prints and sleek tailored suiting, these are the styles that are bound to look good on everyone regardless of body types, shapes or sizes. Click through to see all the universally flattering trends, then give your Fall wardrobe an upgrade by shopping the trendsetting pieces for yourself.
Kaia Gerber and Karl Lagerfeld's Collection Is Here, and It's So Good - See All the Pics
News that Kaia Gerber was launching a capsule collection with Karl Lagerfeld started buzzing just a few weeks after she made her runway debut. The highly anticipated collaboration is already on sale on Karl.com and Revolve.com.
"I have loved being a part of the creative process and working with Karl is a dream," Kaia stated in a press release. "I've always thought that he's a genius, so it's amazing that he's shown me some of his trade. It has given me a new appreciation for how hard designers work, and how much creativity and thought goes into every collection."
The Karl Lagerfeld x Kaia collection will be available on Revolve for two weeks before you can only get it on Karl.com. It features footwear, sunglasses, jewelry, and so much more. The collection features California-vibe pieces for day and more French-inspired pieces for night. Get your wallets ready!
These 14 Fall Pieces Are So Stylish, You'll Never Guess They're From Walmart
As you start prepping your Fall wardrobe, there's one retailer that might not immediately come to mind but is totally worth checking out: Walmart. The affordable store surprisingly carries a wide array of brands you know and love. We did the dirty work for you and searched the site for its best seasonal picks. From sweater dresses to faux leather jackets and chic boots, you're going to fall in love with these finds. The best part: everything is under $50, so you can get everything you want. Take a look.
8 Office-Appropriate Tops That Will Make You Actually Want to Go to Work in the Morning
We can't deny that shopping for work clothes feels daunting, but we're going to make it much easier on you. We rounded up our favorite office-appropriate tops from Nordstrom. These picks are stylish, comfortable, and well-made - there's not much more you could ask for. Take a look at these cute designs and treat yourself to a few new options.
14 Halloween Costumes For Girl Groups With Crazy-Good Style
Dressing up with your group of BFFs is way more fun than doing it solo on Halloween. Since you likely tag your girls in Kendall and Gigi's Instagrams all the time with the hashtag, why not let them inspire your costume? Grab your gal pals, pick your favorite group - whether it's the ladies from Orange Is the New Black or the supermodel set - and channel their most iconic outfits. Read on for 14 coordinated costumes to pull together now, all of which will score you and your crew major style points this year.
- Additional reporting by Olivia Caputo
Calling All Shoppers: 94 Crazy-Good Deals From the Best Labor Day Sales on the Internet
If you're smart, you'll get in on all the crazy Labor Day sales ASAP. We are shocked by how many items are discounted - you'll find shoes, jackets, tops, dresses, and plenty more. We curated a selection of the very best deals you can get online, so shop through them all and don't wait to buy what you want. You have just a few days to take advantage of it all!
Thousands of Shoes Are on Sale This Weekend - These Are the 20 Best Steals
We can rarely tear ourselves away from a good sale, and this weekend is no exception. As Summer comes to an end, brands and retailers are quickly slashing prices left and right so they can make room for new inventory. If you're looking for a new pair of shoes, now's the time to shop. We scoured the internet and uncovered more deals than we can even count. From brands like Manolo Blahnik to Tory Burch and Valentino, so many of our top choices are perfect for Fall, too. Hurry and shop before your size sells out.
7 Denim Dresses You'll Wear Constantly This Fall - All From Amazon and Under $17
If you don't own a denim dress, your closet is suffering. The fabric is sturdy, so you'll have the dress for years without any wear. Plus, denim is incredibly versatile and can be styled just about any way you desire. If you want to give the look a try, we rounded up our favorite affordable options from Amazon. You might like these picks so much, you'll need to buy a few.
Princess Diana's Staple Sunglasses Are Proof That Her Style Is Timeless
When it comes to shades, Princess Eugenie's preference is a sci-fi style while Meghan Markle loves her tortoiseshell sunglasses. Considering the number of British royals who own a pair of stylish sunglasses, you'd be forgiven for thinking they're part of some royal fashion rule. Unsurprisingly, the most fashionable style was reserved for Princess Diana, who had a penchant for oversize aviator sunglasses. Along with her endless collection of enviable handbags and blinding jewels, Diana often accessorized with this heavy masculine style, which, surprisingly, really suited her delicate features.
In fact, the contrast only reiterates what a risk-taker she was with her wardrobe. Keep reading to see all the times Diana styled this signature frame, then shop similar styles with a modern touch. You'll be neglecting your '90s tiny sunglasses in a heartbeat.
Hands Down, These Are the 15 Most Stylish Pieces You Can Buy on Amazon
It's no secret that Amazon is quickly becoming one of our favorite places to shop, even for clothes, shoes, and bags. The retailer has fast shipping and features a number of designers we know and love (plus a huge selection), but sometimes it can be overwhelming to shop. We went on a mission and unearthed Amazon's most stylish pieces, so all you have to do is shop. From leopard print coats to comfy sweater dresses and the boots you've been dreaming of, we found it all at every price point. Keep scrolling to see exactly what's on our wish list for Fall.
10 Plaid Blazers You'll Never Guess We Uncovered on Amazon - They're Too Good
Nothing screams Fall quite like having the perfect on-trend blazer. This season, don't get stuck in the same old one you've overworn; instead, treat yourself to something new. You don't need to break the bank to do so either. We shopped on Amazon because the giant retailer carries just about everything you could ever dream of, including stylish clothes. We rounded up a list of 10 chic plaid pieces we think you can't live without - take a look.
This Is the Coat You're Going to Live In All Fall
One of the most exciting elements of Fall fashion is the addition of jackets and coats to our daily routine. This season, we're spotting a resurgence of the ultimate classic, the trench coat. It's no longer just a preppy staple; the silhouette is popping up in fresh colors and fabrics to add sophistication to any kind of look you can dream up. We can't wait to wear all these pretty finds; just keep reading to shop our picks!
Behold: The Most Comfortable Travel Pants You'll Ever Own - and They're Only $49!
Sitting on a plane in uncomfortable jeans. . . it's happened to the best of us. This season, give up all those skintight pairs you're sick of and opt for comfy trousers you'll never want to take off. We recently discovered these Gibson x Hi Sugarplum! Hanalei Soft Jogger Pants ($49) on Nordstrom and are totally obsessed.
Made by the brand Gibson, in collaboration with lifestyle blogger Cassie Freeman, these one-of-a-kind trousers are a total suitcase necessity. The lightweight joggers are made from a superbreathable material that is ideal for traveling, especially to warmer climates. If you're headed to the beach, simply throw your favorite bikini and go-to sandals. Or wear them on a night out with comfortable wedges and a sexy blouse. No matter how to choose to style these versatile joggers, you can easily pack them in your bag or stay cozy and rock them on while you're en-route.
Available in both a faded black and light blue wash, at only $49 you can get both pairs. You'll never want to travel without them again.
20 Things You've Been Doing Wrong in the Kitchen Your Entire Life
Are you scrambling eggs, making chocolate chip cookies, and measuring pasta the right way? It might not seem obvious, but there are plenty of basic things you could be doing the "wrong" way in the kitchen. There's somewhat of an art to cutting a lime, cooking chicken, mincing garlic, and roasting crispy potatoes. These 20 helpful hacks will make you a serious cooking pro if you're not already. Keep reading to learn every cooking shortcut and tip that will save you time, stress, and sanity in the kitchen. You just might learn an unexpected tip you never knew you needed.
40 Boneless, Skinless Chicken Breast Recipes That Won't Bore You to Tears
Let's face it: boneless, skinless chicken breasts aren't exactly the definition of exciting. Prone to drying out, the lean dinner staple can also be pretty bland if underseasoned and overcooked. And yet they're a staple for good reason: they're convenient, reasonably economical, and can even be delicious (really!) when treated right. Keep reading for plenty of dinner ideas ranging from a Tex-Mex pasta casserole to lemony-bright chicken piccata to a memorable chicken, kale, and avocado salad. You're bound to find a new favorite to add to your rotation - and then can change it up again! - with these 40 recipes.
20 Things You've Been Doing Wrong in the Kitchen Your Entire Life
Are you scrambling eggs, making chocolate chip cookies, and measuring pasta the right way? It might not seem obvious, but there are plenty of basic things you could be doing the "wrong" way in the kitchen. There's somewhat of an art to cutting a lime, cooking chicken, mincing garlic, and roasting crispy potatoes. These 20 helpful hacks will make you a serious cooking pro if you're not already. Keep reading to learn every cooking shortcut and tip that will save you time, stress, and sanity in the kitchen. You just might learn an unexpected tip you never knew you needed.
40 Boneless, Skinless Chicken Breast Recipes That Won't Bore You to Tears
Let's face it: boneless, skinless chicken breasts aren't exactly the definition of exciting. Prone to drying out, the lean dinner staple can also be pretty bland if underseasoned and overcooked. And yet they're a staple for good reason: they're convenient, reasonably economical, and can even be delicious (really!) when treated right. Keep reading for plenty of dinner ideas ranging from a Tex-Mex pasta casserole to lemony-bright chicken piccata to a memorable chicken, kale, and avocado salad. You're bound to find a new favorite to add to your rotation - and then can change it up again! - with these 40 recipes.
There's a New Age Limit For Rear-Facing Car Seats, and It's Older Than You Think
The American Academy of Pediatrics recently announced new guidelines for age limits regarding rear-facing car seats. Although the group previously recommended that kids sit rear-facing until age 2, now the AAP is directing parents to keep their children rear-facing until they reach the seat's maximum height and weight limit, regardless of age. So what does that mean for moms and dads? Most little ones will stick with the rear-facing position until they're about 4 years old.
Natasha Young, a certified technician for the nonprofit organization Safe Kids Worldwide, told CBS that keeping kids in this position for a longer period of time is ultimately safer. "It's really important to keep them rear-facing as long as possible," she said. "Even if their children's legs are longer than the car seat, they can easily fold their legs up into the car seat and it's actually much safer for their legs."
Hopefully, the new recommendations will ensure that kids' heads and necks are protected, as many parents make the mistake of letting their kids face forward too early. "A lot of times they like to see their child, entertain their child, especially if their child might be a little more fussy," said Natasha.
The new guidelines also suggest that once kids finally face forward, they should still be required to sit in a car seat until they outgrow the seat's maximum height and weight capacity (usually around 60 pounds). Once they exceed the car seat's limits, parents should have them ride in a booster seat until they're big enough to use a normal seat belt correctly.
The AAP also took the time to remind parents that kids under the age of 13 should always sit in the back seat of a vehicle.
Can You Prevent Head Lice? 4 Things You Can Do to Keep Nits Away From Your Child
Because I got lice as a child and know what a painstaking removal process it can be, I'm terrified of my son bringing home some nits. Doing things like spending hours combing through my tender hair and having to meticulously clean everything in the house are burned into my brain, just like the smell of the product used to kill the bugs is burned into my nose. It may be a common part of childhood, but I want to do anything I can to prevent my son from having to deal with dreaded head lice. While it will require some serious work, there are things you can do to prevent your child from getting lice.
Teach Them About Space
The first line of defense might be some good, old-fashioned boundary lessons. "Lice spread through head-to-head contact, so without physical boundaries, lice can easily crawl from one child to another," Jackie O'Connell, owner and operator of Disentangle Lice Removal, explained to POPSUGAR. "Hugging, wrestling, and watching tablets together are just a few of the ways it can spread from one child to another." The main thing kids should avoid is directly touching heads with another individual. "Although many people believe that lice transmit through helmets, hats, sharing lockers, etc., this has been debunked in recent years," she said. "Research shows that almost every case is contracted through direct head contact." However, abstaining from those actions entirely is unlikely, and there are products that can help.
Use Preventative Products
"There are a multitude of products available to prevent contracting lice," O'Connell explained. "At Disentangle, we carry shampoos, conditioners, detangling sprays, gels, and mousses that prevent transmission. Most lice prevention products contain a scent that lice find offensive. These scents can range from rosemary, peppermint, citronella, and tea tree oil." And while these kind of products are helpful, they're not perfect. "Although we highly recommend using a preventative product on your child, we also warn that these products are not 100 percent guaranteed. They're extremely effective at masking the natural scent of the scalp, but a bug will transfer to any environment if their survival is threatened."
Consider How They Wear Their Hair
Additionally, a different hairstyle might make a world of difference to whether or not a child contracts lice. "We recommend tying your child's hair up whenever they're at school or in a social setting," O'Connell advised. "Ponytails are great, but braids or buns are even better. Loose or swinging hair offers lice the opportunity to crawl from one person to another, so tying the hair up is the most effective way to avoid transmission."
Education Is Key
"At Disentangle, our top priority is educating our clients about lice while receiving treatment," O'Connell continued. "With all the myths and misconceptions out there, obtaining factual information can be difficult. We recommend that parents educate themselves so they can pass on proper information to their children. It's extremely rare that someone would contract lice from an inanimate object, so simply explain to your kids how important it is to avoid any head-to-head contact. Lastly, we encourage the use of preventative products anytime they interact with other children."
15 Facts About Lice Every Parent Should Know
It's back-to-school time, and while you're busy taking adorable first-day photos and celebrating the return of your free time (see you in seven hours, kiddos!), there's another, less exciting part of sending your kids back to school: the knowledge that along with new friends, homework, and endless crafts, they're super likely to come home with bugs . . . sometimes literally in the form of dreaded lice.
Lice are extremely common and nothing to be embarrassed about (hey, even Jennifer Garner got them!), but that doesn't mean they're not hugely annoying and generally icky. As you send your students back to class, praying they don't ever come home with a letter from the teacher warning of a lice outbreak, here are 15 things to know about head lice in general, including how to avoid them and what to do if they invade your kid's head.
- Lice are nothing to be embarrassed about! Millions of school-age children in the United States get head lice every year, and the bugs infect a cross section of the population. Getting lice doesn't mean you weren't clean or vigilant enough. Simply put, lice happen!
- Head lice live for about 28 days. They develop in three phases: egg (also called a nit), nymph, and louse. Nits hatch in six to nine days and are usually found within a few millimeters of the scalp (they don't survive if they're farther away). Nymphs look like adult head lice but are much smaller (about the size of a pinhead) and become adults about seven days later. An adult louse, which is about the size of a sesame seed, can multiply fast and lay up to 10 eggs a day. It takes about 12 to 14 days for a nit to reach adulthood.
- Lice are not airborne. They cannot jump, hop, or fly. The main way head lice spread is from close, prolonged head-to-head contact and, less commonly, through brushes, hats, helmets, or hair accessories.
- Lice are visible to the naked eye. As long as you have decent vision, you should be able to see the tiny bugs or nits in a child's hair, though it might take some concentration and searching to find them.
- Nits are distinguishable from dandruff. Nits look like small white or yellow-brown specks and are firmly attached to the hair near the scalp. They will not brush away like dandruff.
- Nits have favorite spots on the head. The easiest place to find them is at the hairline at the back of the neck or behind the ears.
- Your child's haircut doesn't matter. Buzzing your child's hair doesn't protect them from lice; they can lay nits on a quarter-inch of hair.
- There's a reason it's called head lice. Head lice do not travel to other parts of the body.
- Your dog isn't the problem. Head lice are spread from person to person, not from an animal to a person or vice versa.
- Dirty hair isn't the culprit. Surprisingly, head lice like a clean head the best.
- They need a head to survive. Lice have very short lifespans and must feed frequently to stay alive. Typically, they only live about two days when they're off the head, which means you don't have to worry about bedding, upholstery, or clothing items your lice-infected child hasn't touched since last week.
- Just because one child has lice doesn't mean the rest of the family will get it, too. Unless you've had head-to-head contact with a child who has been infected with lice or have shared head coverings or hair accessories, you're probably clear.
- Not all schools require you to keep a lice-infected student home. The American Academy of Pediatrics and National Association of School Nurses have discouraged "no-nit" policies, stating that students who still have nits in their hair can't return to school. Check with your school to see what its policy states.
- You don't need to go overboard to remove lice from your home. Every day, wash the clothing, bedding, brushes, and hair accessories your child has used during their lice infestation. Put stuffed animals in the dryer to kill active lice, or simply put them in a bag for a few days, after which any lice will be dead. You don't need to replace furniture or mattresses or wash your child's whole wardrobe. Remember, lice don't live long off heads.
- There are multiple ways to remove lice. Drugstore remedies may work for most people, but there are also natural remedies and many professional services that will do the stressful work of removing nits for around $200-$300, which many parents feel is a small price to pay for the peace of mind that the lice have been vanquished.
The Best Dog For You to Get as a Pet, According to Your Zodiac Sign
Dogs are just the best, aren't they? With their goofy faces, loving personalities, and cuddly natures, they're exactly what this world needs more of. But if you're thinking of adopting, it can be difficult and overwhelming trying to figure out which breed to bring into your life and your home. With so many different dogs out there, it's best to have some kind of guide to help you on your way to canine bliss (I swear, they make life 100 times better). And the zodiac is more than just something to help you match relationships and make life goals - it can also help you find your perfect pup. Each sign has a dog that was destined for them and matches their particular personality quirks. Keep reading to find out which dog is right for your sign, and happy adopting!
20 Things Teachers Want Parents to Know Ahead of a New School Year
The first day of school is always exciting for kids (Reunited with friends! Fresh school supplies! New shoes!), but it also marks the beginning of a stressful period for parents and teachers. From parent-teacher conferences to endless permission slips to packed schedules, it can be hard to juggle it all for everyone involved. And from a teacher's perspective, I can personally say that while we love our work and find tremendous value in it, we get burned out sometimes, too. But in the end, teachers' and parents' goals align - we all want our students to learn and have a great experience while we avoid unnecessary frustration. To help, here are 20 things teachers want parents to know ahead of the new year.
It's Hand, Foot, and Mouth Disease Season - Here's What Parents Should Know
No one likes a sick kiddo. And while colds are obviously bad enough, navigating a bad case of hand, foot, and mouth disease is 10 times worse. So what exactly is this illness? It's a mild - but contagious - viral infection that's common in little kids and characterized by sores in the mouth, a rash on the hands and feet, and a fever.
And unfortunately for parents with little ones running around, kids who spend their days at school or day care are the prime demographic when it comes to coming down with the nasty bug. Think your child might be coming down with a case of HFM disease? Scroll through to get the facts as well as the lowdown on how to treat it.
Related: If You're in Hand, Foot, and Mouth Disease Hell, You're Not Alone
Let Amazon Do All the Work For You - Here Are Its Picks For Top 100 Toys of 2018
With all the major toy releases, trends, and crazes year after year, it can be tough to keep your finger on the playthings best-suited for your kids depending on their ages, interests, and how much you're looking to spend on them. To help you plan out your holiday gifting - or any late 2018 birthdays - Amazon has released its list of top toys of the year, which includes 100 toys of different price points for kids of all ages.
Take a peek through the epic list and make note of the few things you might be interested in grabbing for your kids for the holidays - it's better to be prepped early than to scramble later (and if you're stumbling on this "later," may the odds be ever in your favor)!
Amazon's Selling a GIANT 8-Foot Beanbag, and BRB While We Cocoon in It Forever
Nap time and family movie nights are about to get a seriously cozy upgrade. We just stumbled upon ChillSack, a company that makes enormous foamy beanbags, and its largest option - a circular lounger that's a whopping eight feet in diameter - is quite the comfy sight to behold. It's so effin' huge, you could probably fit your entire family and a friend or two on top - or, ya know, you could just spread out solo, too.
The ginormous piece of furniture is filled with shredded memory foam rather than those tiny Styrofoam beads that fill traditional bean bags, and it weighs a whopping 92 pounds, so lifting it could easily double as an arm workout. ChillSack's sofa-like seat has a removable, machine-washable cover in case any sort of mid-chill-sesh wine spillages occur. Plus, it comes in various colors, ranging from easy-to-match hues like beige, gray, and brown to brighter options like pink, blue, and purple, so you're sure to find one that perfectly fits your living space.
So how does one get their hands - and, more importantly, their derrière - on this dreamy fluff ball? In addition to being sold on ChillSack's website, the lounger is available for purchase through Amazon Prime, so you can get this cocoon of comfort delivered straight to your doorstep in two days. Prices on Amazon range from $322 to $517 depending on which color and material you choose.
Ahead, take a look at a few photos of the ChillSack in all its cozy glory - you'll definitely feel inclined to make some room in your home for one of 'em.
6 Questions You Should Be Asking Before Attempting a VBAC
With the birth of my third baby looming in the not-too-distant future, I've been crossing my fingers, toes, and anything else I can find that I'll be able to avoid a second C-section. My first was delivered vaginally and things went smoothly. My second chose to be the difficult one before he was even born and was transverse (sideways) throughout my entire third trimester. My midwife and doctor attempted an external cephalic version, but when he still wouldn't budge, it was C-section time.
I'm not hating on C-sections; I am beyond grateful that there was a safe way to bring my baby into the world. I would be lying, though, if I said that my recovery wasn't much worse after having a C-section than it was with my first. Going through major abdominal surgery and then immediately being charged with caring for a newborn is no small task. Because of that, I'm really hoping my third child is more agreeable and keeps his head pointing down where it belongs.
Most women who have had a prior C-section are good candidates for a VBAC, or vaginal birth after C-section (the American Pregnancy Association puts the number at 90 percent), but, ultimately, you'll need to work with your care provider to determine if a VBAC is the best option for you. In my case, my practitioner gave me the thumbs up because I've had a prior vaginal birth (which increases your changes of a successful VBAC) and the only reason for my C-section was the positioning of the (stubborn) baby.
After determining that this was the route I wanted to go, I had lots of questions. My first experience giving birth was so close to perfect, but I wasn't sure if it would be the same in a VBAC situation. The problem with questions during pregnancy is that most of them fly out of your brain as soon as you step foot in your doctor's office (please tell me that's not just me?), so I wrote down a list of questions that I wanted to know the answers to before I showed up at the hospital.
If you're hoping to hop on the VBAC train, you'll want to address these questions with your practitioner as early in your pregnancy as possible so that you can make an informed decision and know what to expect when baby time rolls around.
Nicole Kidman Admits Her Daughter "Negotiates" to Watch "Snippets" of Big Little Lies
Some kids pressure their moms to give them a cell phone or stay at the playground for just "one more minute." Nicole Kidman's 10-year-old daughter, Sunday Rose, however, begs to see her mom's movies and TV shows.
"My daughter is always negotiating with me to see Big Little Lies and I'm like, 'No, no, no,'" the actress said at an Omega watch event in Russia. "She sees snippets."
Although she certainly censors out the more graphic and R-rated scenes from her child's viewing, she respects her wishes. "That said, it's really good, I think, for your children to see your work and understand what it is. Then it's theirs as well, so I talk about it."
Her kids' interest in Big Little Lies, however, pales in comparison to another movie she has coming out: Aquaman.
"I have three films coming out, but to my children, Aquaman is the most important film, and the boys at their school are interested in me being in Aquaman, which to my daughter is really important right now," she said. "I said to her, 'I hope I'm in it.' She said, 'I hope you're in it. I told everybody.'"
Talk about kid pressure!
375 Things You'll Remember If You Grew Up in the '90s
We can't help but get nostalgic thinking about growing up in the 1990s. Thinking of those days reminds us of the music, fashion, heartthrobs, toys, and TV shows that made the '90s totally rad. So let's take a trip down memory lane to our '90s girlhood, from Ring Pops, 90210, and Tamagotchis to stick-on earrings, Devon Sawa, and Titanic. Check it out!
Why Do We Love to Scare Ourselves? An Expert on Fright Has Some Surprising Answers
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For some, Halloween is a time for sweaters and pumpkin spice everything. For others, it's a time for gory films and haunted houses. Did you ever wonder if there's a reason some people are thrill seekers and others always choose to sit it out?
Sociologist Dr. Margee Kerr did. She built her research and lecturing career out of a childhood fascination with scary stories: "I was intrigued by the unknown. I knew getting into my academic career I still needed to incorporate some of that adventure, otherwise I would be miserable." That adventure led her to globe-trot for scares to write a literal book on the topic before serving as the researcher for Pittsburgh's Scarehouse, and even appearing as herself in the sequel to the haunted house horror flick The Houses That October Built. Whether fear is your goal or enemy this Halloween, Dr. Kerr has the answers to how and why we react to things that go bump in the night - and how thrill seekers can amp up the scare power.
Dr. Margee Kerr says the "fun scary" kind of fear's physical and psychological effects can be highly rewarding. Photo courtesy of Jake Bradbury.
POPSUGAR: For starters, why do we love haunted attractions so much?
Dr. Margee Kerr: We do love it for the physical high. Our body, when it's thrust into that fight or flight mode, releases all sorts of chemicals. In the right context, mainly one of choice and entertainment, that physiological response can feel really good. We feel euphoric and strong and kind of primal. Also, when we're scared, our brain reprioritizes, so it's focused on all our physical elements. We're not getting caught up in what we have to do in the future. We're grounded more in the present. There's also this big social component. Being scared with friends creates stronger bonds. It enhances the experience. We get a sense of accomplishment. Even though we know we're safe, it feels like we've completed a challenge and made it out the other side. It also can increase our resilience and our tolerance in the moment. When we face something really challenging and intense, everything else is not going to upset us as much.
PS: Do you have any insight into the history of haunted houses?
MK: They have a varied history. A big part of it was Haunted Mansion at Disney. That was actually based off of the Winchester Mystery House after Walt Disney toured it and wanted to create something similar. The Winchester Mystery House was this house that this woman kept building on. After her husband passed, she was the heir to the Winchester estate. She had a house, and she believed all the people who had been killed by Winchester rifles, that she could act as a conduit [to channel them]. And then the Haunted Mansion influenced the creation of modern attractions today. Jaycee groups played a big role in it, too. Then volunteer firefighters started making charity haunted attractions. And so it was the big influence from Disney and then the backyard attractions that started sprouting up. Today you can see that packed history of the sort of DIY backyard attractions and then the big amusement side of it. Now there is that middle type of attractions that do, say, over 50,000 people a year. That's like Terror Behind the Walls or Netherworld.
PS: What separates those who love haunted attractions and those who won't go near them?
MK: A lot of it is our history. Some of it is genetic. Even the way our genes are expressed is so tied into our experiences and our childhood. All the different moments in our childhood when we experience fear go into creating how we give meaning to different experiences. So, if you never had any folder in your mind for "fun scary," then you might not like it too much. I grew up going to haunted houses from a very young age, so my experience with fun scary is very long and rich. I always encourage people to test themselves every few years because we do change.
PS: You helped develop the Basement at Scarehouse, Pittsburgh's premiere haunted attraction. What research was involved there and what trends do you see in immersive haunts?
MK: I haven't been at Scarehouse for a couple years, but in working with Greg Siegle, the cognitive neuroscientist, we set up the lab in the Basement and we were able to measure people['s moods] before and after they went through. Our first year of data collection will be coming out this month in the journal Emotion. But we found that mood did improve and people did feel better. In terms of haunted house trends and what I've been seeing over the past few years, a lot of people are going for more interactivity and more sense of immersion, making it more personal in a scalable way. Like at Terror Behind the Walls, you can opt in with the glow necklace if you want the more interactive experience, but if you don't, you just take it off. But there's been a lot of work in trying to make it more interactive. Incorporating puzzle elements, making it more gamified like escape rooms.
PS: The Basement allows guests to utilize a safe word. Some extreme haunts don't. Where do you think the line should be drawn in extreme haunts?
MK: I think that any commercial business that doesn't have a safe word is essentially violating the law. If they don't allow people to exit an experience, they're essentially holding someone hostage at that point. There's a range: some places don't have a safe word because they didn't think that they would need one, but if someone said, "I have to get out of here," they would respect it and let people leave. The places that don't let you leave - I don't know if they even really exist beyond tall tales and folklore - but any place that doesn't let you leave is violating the law. It's not fun anymore, and your attention shifts to actual survival. The boundaries should be communicated to guests up front. You can do that without giving anything away.
PS: How can those who hate to be scared still enjoy the season, and how can those who love thrills get the most out of it?
MK: For those who don't like to be scared, there are so many cool harvest specials and pumpkin patches. You can feel the nostalgia and the connectedness without any of the fear. And those who are really looking for a good scare, I would recommend taking the approach of saving all your money and trying to get to a really well-known and highly rated attraction, or to mix it up and do a handful of backyard attractions that aren't going to break the bank and compare them at the end of the season. For those looking for something good or new or unique, it's worth doing some research.
There you have it! Whether you'll be scaring yourself silly or playing it safe, now you have some insight on how your brain works when you're afraid . . . and how to make the most out of Halloween.
20 Sexy Movies Hitting Theaters in 2018
It looks like 2018 is shaping up to be a year full of sexy, confident assassins and hot romances in movies. From Red Sparrow to A Star Is Born, we've compiled a list of the steamiest films out this year. These movies will make your body shiver with anticipation with their lurid plots and beautiful casts.
This Romantic Destination Wedding Will Fuel Your Wanderlust
There is something so spontaneous and fun about a destination wedding; guests can relax and soak in the romantic atmosphere, and the bride and groom can share a special trip with their closest loved ones. So, it's no surprise that couple Lauren and Evan's Mexican retreat wedding felt both intimate and relaxed. As the sun set over the Pacific, Lauren and Evan said "I do" in a sweet ceremony that was bursting with fun and color.
The duo planned an elegant destination wedding at Hotel Villas Carrizalillo in Oaxaca, Mexico, and celebrated their big day surrounded by their close family and friends. The bride walked down the aisle in a feminine dress and veil while carrying a bouquet of bright flowers that fit in perfectly with the tropical feeling of the location. The wedding itself featured a ukelele solo by friends, and the party afterwards was full of laughs. The couple spent the rest of their vacation surfing, swimming, and relaxing while surrounded by beautiful blooming flowers and the lush landscape around the resort. See all the beautiful photos now!
375 Things You'll Remember If You Grew Up in the '90s
We can't help but get nostalgic thinking about growing up in the 1990s. Thinking of those days reminds us of the music, fashion, heartthrobs, toys, and TV shows that made the '90s totally rad. So let's take a trip down memory lane to our '90s girlhood, from Ring Pops, 90210, and Tamagotchis to stick-on earrings, Devon Sawa, and Titanic. Check it out!
Why Do We Love to Scare Ourselves? An Expert on Fright Has Some Surprising Answers
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For some, Halloween is a time for sweaters and pumpkin spice everything. For others, it's a time for gory films and haunted houses. Did you ever wonder if there's a reason some people are thrill seekers and others always choose to sit it out?
Sociologist Dr. Margee Kerr did. She built her research and lecturing career out of a childhood fascination with scary stories: "I was intrigued by the unknown. I knew getting into my academic career I still needed to incorporate some of that adventure, otherwise I would be miserable." That adventure led her to globe-trot for scares to write a literal book on the topic before serving as the researcher for Pittsburgh's Scarehouse, and even appearing as herself in the sequel to the haunted house horror flick The Houses That October Built. Whether fear is your goal or enemy this Halloween, Dr. Kerr has the answers to how and why we react to things that go bump in the night - and how thrill seekers can amp up the scare power.
Dr. Margee Kerr says the "fun scary" kind of fear's physical and psychological effects can be highly rewarding. Photo courtesy of Jake Bradbury.
POPSUGAR: For starters, why do we love haunted attractions so much?
Dr. Margee Kerr: We do love it for the physical high. Our body, when it's thrust into that fight or flight mode, releases all sorts of chemicals. In the right context, mainly one of choice and entertainment, that physiological response can feel really good. We feel euphoric and strong and kind of primal. Also, when we're scared, our brain reprioritizes, so it's focused on all our physical elements. We're not getting caught up in what we have to do in the future. We're grounded more in the present. There's also this big social component. Being scared with friends creates stronger bonds. It enhances the experience. We get a sense of accomplishment. Even though we know we're safe, it feels like we've completed a challenge and made it out the other side. It also can increase our resilience and our tolerance in the moment. When we face something really challenging and intense, everything else is not going to upset us as much.
PS: Do you have any insight into the history of haunted houses?
MK: They have a varied history. A big part of it was Haunted Mansion at Disney. That was actually based off of the Winchester Mystery House after Walt Disney toured it and wanted to create something similar. The Winchester Mystery House was this house that this woman kept building on. After her husband passed, she was the heir to the Winchester estate. She had a house, and she believed all the people who had been killed by Winchester rifles, that she could act as a conduit [to channel them]. And then the Haunted Mansion influenced the creation of modern attractions today. Jaycee groups played a big role in it, too. Then volunteer firefighters started making charity haunted attractions. And so it was the big influence from Disney and then the backyard attractions that started sprouting up. Today you can see that packed history of the sort of DIY backyard attractions and then the big amusement side of it. Now there is that middle type of attractions that do, say, over 50,000 people a year. That's like Terror Behind the Walls or Netherworld.
PS: What separates those who love haunted attractions and those who won't go near them?
MK: A lot of it is our history. Some of it is genetic. Even the way our genes are expressed is so tied into our experiences and our childhood. All the different moments in our childhood when we experience fear go into creating how we give meaning to different experiences. So, if you never had any folder in your mind for "fun scary," then you might not like it too much. I grew up going to haunted houses from a very young age, so my experience with fun scary is very long and rich. I always encourage people to test themselves every few years because we do change.
PS: You helped develop the Basement at Scarehouse, Pittsburgh's premiere haunted attraction. What research was involved there and what trends do you see in immersive haunts?
MK: I haven't been at Scarehouse for a couple years, but in working with Greg Siegle, the cognitive neuroscientist, we set up the lab in the Basement and we were able to measure people['s moods] before and after they went through. Our first year of data collection will be coming out this month in the journal Emotion. But we found that mood did improve and people did feel better. In terms of haunted house trends and what I've been seeing over the past few years, a lot of people are going for more interactivity and more sense of immersion, making it more personal in a scalable way. Like at Terror Behind the Walls, you can opt in with the glow necklace if you want the more interactive experience, but if you don't, you just take it off. But there's been a lot of work in trying to make it more interactive. Incorporating puzzle elements, making it more gamified like escape rooms.
PS: The Basement allows guests to utilize a safe word. Some extreme haunts don't. Where do you think the line should be drawn in extreme haunts?
MK: I think that any commercial business that doesn't have a safe word is essentially violating the law. If they don't allow people to exit an experience, they're essentially holding someone hostage at that point. There's a range: some places don't have a safe word because they didn't think that they would need one, but if someone said, "I have to get out of here," they would respect it and let people leave. The places that don't let you leave - I don't know if they even really exist beyond tall tales and folklore - but any place that doesn't let you leave is violating the law. It's not fun anymore, and your attention shifts to actual survival. The boundaries should be communicated to guests up front. You can do that without giving anything away.
PS: How can those who hate to be scared still enjoy the season, and how can those who love thrills get the most out of it?
MK: For those who don't like to be scared, there are so many cool harvest specials and pumpkin patches. You can feel the nostalgia and the connectedness without any of the fear. And those who are really looking for a good scare, I would recommend taking the approach of saving all your money and trying to get to a really well-known and highly rated attraction, or to mix it up and do a handful of backyard attractions that aren't going to break the bank and compare them at the end of the season. For those looking for something good or new or unique, it's worth doing some research.
There you have it! Whether you'll be scaring yourself silly or playing it safe, now you have some insight on how your brain works when you're afraid . . . and how to make the most out of Halloween.
20 Sexy Movies Hitting Theaters in 2018
It looks like 2018 is shaping up to be a year full of sexy, confident assassins and hot romances in movies. From Red Sparrow to A Star Is Born, we've compiled a list of the steamiest films out this year. These movies will make your body shiver with anticipation with their lurid plots and beautiful casts.
This Romantic Destination Wedding Will Fuel Your Wanderlust
There is something so spontaneous and fun about a destination wedding; guests can relax and soak in the romantic atmosphere, and the bride and groom can share a special trip with their closest loved ones. So, it's no surprise that couple Lauren and Evan's Mexican retreat wedding felt both intimate and relaxed. As the sun set over the Pacific, Lauren and Evan said "I do" in a sweet ceremony that was bursting with fun and color.
The duo planned an elegant destination wedding at Hotel Villas Carrizalillo in Oaxaca, Mexico, and celebrated their big day surrounded by their close family and friends. The bride walked down the aisle in a feminine dress and veil while carrying a bouquet of bright flowers that fit in perfectly with the tropical feeling of the location. The wedding itself featured a ukelele solo by friends, and the party afterwards was full of laughs. The couple spent the rest of their vacation surfing, swimming, and relaxing while surrounded by beautiful blooming flowers and the lush landscape around the resort. See all the beautiful photos now!
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I Bought This $23 Strapless Bra on Amazon - It's So Comfortable, I Wear It Constantly
Strapless bras are my worst enemy. I absolutely hate wearing them and avoid it at all costs. As a fairly average C cup, I'm not a fan of the constant tugging and adjusting I have to do without the support of straps. Plus, wires digging into my sides is no fun. Then, I found a godsend. I came across this Lilyette by Bali Strapless Bra ($23-$24) on Amazon - it's the bestselling option on the entire site.
I can wear this bra from morning till night with zero discomfort. It does have underwire for support, but I can't even feel it. There are grippers on the interior of the bra that keep it from every slipping. It also comes with detachable straps and converts four different ways. It's available in beige, black, and white. The design is intended for larger busts, so the sizes range from 34C to 42DD. Basically, this bra is a miracle.
"This bra is the best I've found to support and lift my large 40DD breasts," one buyer wrote. "The band is very thick which serves as extra support as well as being helpful at smoothing back fat. The minimizing effects make me look and feel a cup size smaller. The bra comes with two adjustable straps that you can place along the cup to connect in multiple ways to the band in the back."
If you're picky about strapless bras, you have to give this one a try.
Why Doing a Boudoir Photo Shoot in Lingerie Was the Ultimate Form of Self-Care For Me
I've spent most of my life battling body-image issues and insecurities about my figure. I'm 5'1 and have a naturally stocky build with broad shoulders. One ex-boyfriend and his entire family used to call me Stumps because of my "big thighs." He also once told me I look like a running back because I'm so short and stout. I'm sure you can imagine how I wasn't too pleased to receive that kind of feedback from a guy who was supposed to be my greatest support.
Having been teased at school for many years as well, I entered my adult years with some emotional baggage. But the last few years have helped me regain my confidence, and I owe a lot of that to my dedication to fitness and clean eating.
Self-care practices also played a huge role in my growth of self-confidence and body acceptance. From meditating daily to journaling to attending wellness retreats, I've found all sorts of ways to take care of my mind as well as my body. One unexpected thing I did this year that contributed to better self-care was participate in a boudoir photo shoot.
It sounds strange, but posing in lingerie was an incredible way to heal my past wounds and feel stronger and more beautiful than ever. I worked with Tonhya Wysong, a professional photographer who created the project La Femme Forte, an initiative that's dedicated to helping women feel more confident in their bodies. This is how La Femme Forte acted as the ultimate self-care for me.
15 Things We're Excited to See at the Emmys This Year
Can you believe that award season is nearly upon us? If not, you better wrap your head around it, because the Emmys are going to be here before you know it. The 70th annual award show will honor the best of the best in the TV world - Game of Thrones? Queer Eye? The Handmaid's Tale? - when it airs live on Sept. 17. In case you need a refresher on why you should have this date highlighted in bright red ink, underlined in glitter, and circled in star stickers on your calendar, keep reading.
Snack Smart and Hack Your Routine With These 12 Essentials
Is there anything better than a snack? When you're working hard and on the go all day, that 5 p.m. bite becomes a necessity to end the day on a high note. But not having the right portable containers to transport your snack can make the experience lackluster. You should enjoy the food you're eating, and having the right tools is a critical step. Plus, the snack in question should be nutritious, delicious, and tide you over until dinner. This Fall, we're going to snack the right way, and we've rounded up our snacking essentials so you can have a delicious mini meal, no matter where you are.
Take a Deep Breath, Then Look at These Photos of Ryan Gosling at the Venice Film Festival
For anyone anxious that they hadn't seen a Ryan Gosling appearance in far too long, now is the time to relax. The Blade Runner 2049 actor has arrived at the Venice Film Festival to promote his new film First Man (and ease your stress, no doubt), and let's just say the appearance was worth the wait. The actor looked suave in a burgundy suit and sunglasses on Wednesday, playfully outshining his costars Olivia Hamilton, Claire Foy, and Jason Clark. He then changed into a white for the opening ceremony.
Joining forces with La La Land writer and director Damien Chazelle once again, Ryan takes on the role of Neil Armstrong in First Man, circling the astronaut's extraordinary life and legendary space mission. Now inhale deeply, and read on for all the therapy you need before the film hits theaters on Oct. 12.
My Toddler Used to Hit - This Is How We Stopped It
Toddlers are the worst. OK, actually they're super cute with a little (or a lot) of craziness sprinkled in. Often it's whining or tantrums that put you over the edge, but sometimes it's hitting. Sure, some little ones don't, but getting physical is pretty common for toddlers between twelve months and three years.
My first dabbled in aggressive behavior during the early years, but he was so easily redirected that we didn't spend much time on it before he grew out of it. My second, on the other hand, has a little more trouble restraining himself, and with his older sibling often at the receiving end, we had to tackle the problem head on. And we did it by looking the other way. Confusing, right? Read ahead for five tips we used to get our toddler to stop hitting.
26 Reasons Russell Westbrook Is the Fashion King of the NBA (and Maybe the World)
If you follow the NBA even a little bit, you know that Russell Westbrook's style off the court is just as bold as he is on the court. His life motto is "Why not?," and that certainly extends to his fashion choices. Whether he's on the red carpet, at Paris Fashion Week, or at a postgame press conference, his style leaves a lasting impression. Love it or hate it (but really, you should love it), he doesn't shy away from statement glasses or a wide-brimmed hat, and he's certainly not afraid to mix prints, patterns, and fabrics. As a Fashion Week regular with unique personal style, it's no surprise that Westbrook has collaborated with Barneys New York and Tumi on collections and even has a line of his own, Honor the Gift. Read on to see 23 of his boldest looks and why he's the reigning king of NBA fashion (and my men's style icon).
I Worked in Retail For 5 Years, and These Are the Only Flats I Could Stand In All Day
Since I'm a shopping editor, people always ask me for advice on what's the best of the best. One question I often field is, "What are the most comfortable flats?" I can speak from experience that these Sam Edelman Felicia Flats ($70-$100) are total winners.
In college, I started working in retail. I often spent six to eight hours, at least five days a week, walking in circles around a store, wreaking havoc on my feet wearing heeled shoes or too-flat flats. After what felt like years of trial-and-error runs of every shoe possible, I finally came to the conclusion that the Felicia flats are my favorite.
Aside from the cute, classic ballet style, I was attracted to them because of the cushioned heeled soles and flexible backs. Importantly, it's a flat that offers support and doesn't cut into the backs of my ankles. From leather to suede, metallic, printed fabric, and even calf-hair, the flats come in an array of materials and more colors and designs than I can even count. A number of their classic styles also come in medium, narrow, and wide choices. What could make them even better? They cost $100 - making them the most glamorous pair I could afford during my college days, but they lasted me for years. I found myself investing in new styles and colors anytime I could, knowing this was the shoe I could always rely on.
Do yourself (and your feet) a favor and get a pair for Fall; you won't regret it. Keep scrolling to shop a few of my favorite picks.
Jewelry Designer Gina Nigrelli-Smith Gives Us the Inside Scoop on What Inspires Her Cool Pieces
When curating our POPSUGAR Must Have box for Fall, we wanted to include designers who would effortlessly elevate our subscribers' Fall style. One of the first girl bosses who came to mind was Gina Nigrelli-Smith, the founder of jewelry brand Jules Smith. Gina is known for her bold, boho style that shines through with the pieces she creates.
We included one of Gina's designs, the Jane Cuff ($90), in this season's box. The glamorous bracelet is flawlessly smooth and also adjustable, allowing you to wear it on your arm or on your wrist. It also features a geometric design that's easy to slip on or flip over for a simpler look to complement every outfit.
If the gorgeous cuff itself won't get you excited for the Must Have box, the story of Jules Smith will. Read on to learn more about Gina and the gorgeous jewelry she dreams up.
POPSUGAR: Why did you create Jules Smith?
Gina Nigrelli-Smith: I was living in the Caribbean and became intrigued by the jewelry culture. I lived in St. Thomas, which is a large cruise ship port, so the local economy is very dependent on jewelry. I have a background in merchandising and had always wanted to design a collection. I met a few local jewelers, who taught me enough to get started, and within a few months, Jules Smith was born.
PS: Where did the name come from?
GNS: Smith is my married last name, and Jules is the middle name of one of the jewelers that helped me to get started. We were a fine jewelry collection when we launched, so the play on words "jewel smith" was part of the decision.
PS: You were previously a ballet dancer and fashion editor - how do those experiences influence your designs?
GNS: I have always been a creative person; I stopped dancing after college and knew that I wanted to pursue a career that allowed me to be creative. Going into fashion was an obvious next step, and I spent my time as a fashion editor going to part-time design school at night to learn the technical side of design.
I am obsessed with travel, and a majority of my design inspiration comes from my trips around the world.
PS: What was the inspiration behind the Jane Cuff? How would you style it?
GNS: I love arm candy, and the Jane Cuff is probably my favorite Jules Smith piece. I wear mine every day. I love this cuff because you can wear it alone or layer it. The Jane Cuff is very comfortable and light - it makes a statement but does not weigh down your wrist.
PS: You recently visited Greece and Costa Rica. Do your travels leave you feeling inspired?
GNS: I am obsessed with travel, and a majority of my design inspiration comes from my trips around the world. I try to travel at least once a quarter, as I believe it keeps my perspective fresh, which helps me maintain a consistent but eclectic point of view in my collections. I love buying jewelry and accessories from the places I travel and using them as inspiration for future designs.
PS: What is your go-to daily jewelry look?
GNS: LAYERS. I wear about five to 10 necklaces every day; my fingers, wrists, and ears are stacked. I wear hand chains on both hands. You can never wear too much jewelry.
If you want to get the cuff in your POPSUGAR Must Have box, make sure to sign up by Sept. 1 so you can select the color of your choice. It comes in rose gold, gold, or silver. Don't wait!
I Have 4 Kids and I Stopped Multitasking For an Entire Day - Here's What Happened
As moms, we're always doing a million things at once. I breastfeed my son while catching up on my favorite Netflix shows, answer texts while planning out meals, bathe my daughter while returning phone calls, and make dinner as I'm helping my older children with their homework. I see my fellow moms walking their kiddos to school while they're on the phone with their boss. I sit in bed at night scheduling play dates with other moms, while I talk to my husband about my day. The juggling act never ends.
I know I don't speak for all parents, but constant multitasking leaves me anxious and exhausted. I also worry I'm missing important moments with my kids. How can I really engage in a conversation about the upcoming fun run at school if I'm only half-listening as I respond to an email? Am I really enjoying my goodbye hug before school if I'm also mentally going over that day's to-do list? And ultimately, why am I trying to accomplish so many things at the same time if it's making me crazy?
With the goal of de-stressing and being more mindful, I decided to do one thing at a time for an entire day. This is no small task with four kids, but I was determined to give singletasking a try. If I was breastfeeding, I'd only do that. I'd only help with homework, and so on. Here's what happened, and what I learned, when I did my best to put multitasking in timeout for 24 hours.
1. Breastfeeding
This is how I start my day, but typically I'll flip on the TV or surf the internet on my phone at the same time. Today, I let my son latch on and I spent his feeding session stroking his head, smiling down at him, and just breathing in his deliciousness. It was truly lovely and relaxing . . . the first time. Three feedings later, I found myself picking at his cradle cap and feeling antsy and kinda bored, wishing I could answer the text I just saw pop up on my phone.
2. AM Routine
Rather than racing from room to room making sure my girls are getting dressed while also checking emails or chatting to my hubby on the phone about how the window replacement estimate came in higher than we thought, I attempted to stay in the moment with each of my daughters and block out everything else. Easier said than done when someone else was hollering for me from down the hall, and my baby was spitting up in my hair. But the intention was there.
3. Showering
I usually shower and feel like I blacked out the whole time. My thoughts are so scattered, and I'll get out and not remember whether I applied conditioner or shaved until I feel my legs. Today, I vowed to focus my attention on the hot water and enjoying a little "me" time instead of letting my mind wander to the millions of other things I need to accomplish. I was somewhat successful until I heard my baby crying from his bassinet outside of the bathroom and started singing "Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes" at the top of my lungs.
4. Walks With My Son
While I'm pushing the stroller, I'll return a phone call or draft a blog post. Today, I stowed my phone away and tried to notice what was going on around me; how blue the sky was, how the breeze felt. I engaged in baby talk with my little guy and observed his reactions to a lawn mower starting or a bird's call. I felt really happy and light for most of our walk, but I'll admit it was hard to maintain that mindfulness the entire time.
5. Making Dinner
This was by far the most difficult part of the day to commit to singletasking. My baby was crying out for the boob, my kids were telling me about their days at school, peppering me with questions about whether they should pack chips or pretzels in their lunches for the next day, and my hubby was calling me from his commute. I found it impossible to not get frazzled, and feel like a chicken with my head cut off running around the kitchen.
6. Helping With Homework
I tried to redeem myself for the multitasking mayhem that happened around dinner by sitting down with each of my kids and focusing on homework, distraction-free. To that end, TVs and other devices were off. The baby even cooperated by taking a catnap. Order was restored and my cortisol levels must have gone down by half.
7. Putting the Kids to Bed
This also tends to be a stressful part of the day, because everyone wants my help at the same time. Tonight, I attempted to get one kiddo's needs met at a time, but again, this was a challenge. One daughter's toothpaste exploded at the exact same time the baby's pacifier dropped behind the toilet. Then my other girls remembered something we had to do online before school tomorrow. Bedtime ended up being another frenzied, full-on multitasking marathon. Sigh.
My takeaway from the day is that I owe it to myself and my family to slow down and try doing just one thing at a time whenever possible. But to expect to maintain that all the time is not realistic. Sometimes you simply have to, or want to multitask. I think as long as the intention to not make multitasking a way of life is there, I can cut out some stress and enjoy more moments in the day. I learned it's equally important not to beat myself up when things spin out of control. The best way to move past those chaotic moments when I feel like I'm doing 25 tasks at the same time is to take a deep breath and refocus on the goal to parent one moment at a time.
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