Healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is one which helps to keep and improve people's health and well-being.Many governments and non-governmental organizations have made big efforts in healthy lifestyle and health promotion.
Mental Health
Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
Public health
Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
Health
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The 7 Words My Kids Hear Every Night Before Bed
My kids mess up. We apologize, forgive, and together decide what to do differently the next time. But then, we move on. I made a conscious choice a few years ago not to belabor their shortcomings.
Here's why.
Our kids have so many masters. Add to that a child who is incredibly eager to please, and even I am exhausted thinking about a goal of daily perfection with countless peers, teachers, coaches, parents, grandparents, and more. My eldest daughter is that kid; a capital P pleaser. (It takes one to know one.)
I wish I could fast forward her to where I am now - with a very small handful of people whose opinions matter to me - beyond one that's divine and those living under my roof. It is my and my husband's job to help her get there, but realistically, the urge to impress is likely to increase before it wanes.
When she was 7 years old, I started to notice a recurring theme at bedtime, one of worry, a fear of failing and falling short of expectations. She suddenly used the words "overwhelmed" and "scared" a lot and seemed to have the weight of the world on her shoulders. My heart sank at the familiar feeling.
First, I was angry that she had such an intense need to please at such a young age. But then, I was the same way, especially with my parents. I remember falling asleep on nights after I had disappointed them or we'd exchanged harsh words, wondering if they'd be proud to call me their own.
Every night, I tell her in seven simple words: I am proud to be your mom.
Funny that unconditional love, which was never in question, alone was not enough. I wanted their approval too. This flashback inspired a habit I hoped would help my daughter turn off and truly rest. Every night, I tell her in seven simple words: I am proud to be your mom.
Behind the words is a silent mantra. It varies but generally includes these musings: The day is done. Flaws are expected. Mistakes teach us. The score is settled. The details don't matter. You are forgiven. You are loved. You are mine. And every single night, despite hard stuff, my head hits the pillow with immeasurable gratitude that I get to be yours.
I say the seven words to all three of my kids, but it was my eldest who made me realize it was necessary.
If I'm honest, 17 years into a career, 12 into a marriage, and nine into parenting my own children, there are still few things that give me the same zing of encouragement or punch of deflation than my parents' response to me or my choices. I don't know if one ever outgrows that. As a teenager, I occasionally heard my grandmother criticize my mom and imagined how much it must've hurt.
I'd like my kids to care less what others think, and we talk about it a lot in our house. But while we navigate that together, I never want them to question where they stand with me. My hope is that our routine bedtime exchange will remind them, no matter how many not-so-awesome choices they made or how harshly I reacted when they poorly handled a situation with a friend, disrespected an adult, or even lost an article of clothing (AGAIN), they have my unconditional love and no-strings-attached approval. Maybe, just maybe, it will make them less likely to overdo it when it comes to seeking approval from others.
One night, about a year after I started using the seven words, I heard a "Hey Mom!" in the darkness and paused pulling the door shut just in time to catch a sweet third-grade voice saying, "I'm proud to be your daughter, too!"
"Thanks, honey!" was all I could muster before I feared she would detect the ugly, happy cry brewing.
Now, on days when I feel like I am failing at this parenting thing, that memory reassures me. And I can rest better too.
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What Mister Rogers Did For This Young Fan in a Coma Will Make You Ache That He's Not Here Anymore
The following story by Beth Usher was originally published on her Facebook page.
When I was five years old, I suffered up to one hundred seizures a day. During my seizures, I would often fall and bang my head on the floor or whatever hard object presented in my descent, and the only way for my mom to shower and dress for work without worrying was to prop me up with soft pillows and place me in front of the TV. One time she turned on Mister Rogers' Neighborhood, and I didn't have a single seizure for the entire duration of the show. Something in his voice calmed the electrical circuits in my injured brain and allowed my body to rest.
Mister Rogers, my friend, called to ask me about my brain surgery.
My mother and I performed this ritual every work day for two years with great success. I quickly began to consider Mister Rogers a real friend, and would talk back to the TV screen, saying things like, "Yes, I will be your good neighbor!" So it came as no surprise that my sweet mother called Mister Rogers' TV studio in Pittsburgh in preparation for my upcoming brain surgery. My neurologists had determined that I had somehow contracted a very rare brain disease called Rasmussen's Encephalitis. They theorized that a slow growing virus was killing brain cells in the left side of my brain, causing life-altering epileptic seizures. The only cure was an operation called a hemispherectomy, or the removal of one half of my brain. My mother told Mister Rogers' assistant that the show was a sanctuary for me and that I believed Mister Rogers was speaking directly to me when he sang his song, "Won't You Be My Neighbor." She explained about my seizures and upcoming surgery and the fact that that the seizures would subside during his entire show. My mother hoped that Mister Rogers' assistant would send an autographed photo of my TV friend, or even a note from him assuring me that I was going to be OK.
One week before my surgery, the telephone rang. My mother spoke for a few minutes and told me that a friend wanted to talk to me. I remember feeling excited that someone calling themselves a friend was calling me (friendships were difficult for me at the time). I said hello, heard a familiar voice, and immediately felt at ease. Mister Rogers, my friend, asked me about my brain surgery. I told him that I was scared but wanted the seizures to go away; I told him that I wanted the kids in my class to like me and play with me; I asked him about the members of his neighborhood who I had come to love - King Friday, Lady Elaine Fairchild, and Daniel Striped Tiger. We talked for nearly an hour. Before I hung up the phone, I said, "I love you, Mister Rogers."
During our seven-hour drive to Johns Hopkins Childrens' Hospital in Baltimore, my mom and I listened to the many cassette audio tapes sent to me by Mister Rogers a few days after his call. His soft voice discussed so many topics that concerned young children. My favorite cassette was the one where he sang, "I like you just the way you are." While in the hospital, I endured back-to-back medical tests to determine if my body could survive the 12-hour surgery to remove my entire left hemisphere. I was confused and scared, but believed my doctors and parents wouldn't do anything to hurt me. In between the tests, I was able to spend time with my beloved brother. We played games and watched movies. I didn't realize it at the time, but my older brother was worried he might never see me again. He was only ten years old.
The very last thing I said to my parents as I was wheeled into the operating room was, "No more seizures."
My surgery went well, and my doctor told my parents they could see me in the recovery room. I lay swollen with tubes and wires in and all around my head and body. My parents had faith in my surgeon and neurologist, but later that night, for reasons that have never been explained, I fell into a deep coma.
Mister Rogers gently placed his clarinet case on my bed, opened it, and took out King Friday, Lady Elaine Fairchild, and Daniel Striped Tiger. For the following hour, I was the star in his neighborhood.
With the sounds of life-support machines beeping, IV fluids being pumped into my body, nurses and doctors running in and out of my room, and my parents softly sobbing, you could hear Mister Rogers singing "I like you just the way you are" from a cassette player in my ICU room. My mother was called from the room to the nurse's station where she was handed the phone. It was the Mister Rogers, and he wanted to know how I was doing. My mom gave him the bleak news that although the surgery went well, I suffered severe brain stem swelling and was in a coma. They talked a little more and he told her that he would pray for me. What we didn't know was that Mister Rogers was an ordained Presbyterian Minister.
For the following two weeks, Mister Rogers called every day to ask about my status and to pray with my mother. One morning he called and asked her if it would be OK if he visited me the next afternoon. My mother told him that sadly I was still in a coma and wouldn't know he was there. He said he would come anyway. He asked that she not tell anyone he was coming because he wanted it to be a private visit and didn't want the press to be there.
The next afternoon, Mister Rogers flew from Pittsburgh to Baltimore with only a clarinet case in tow. A minister friend from Baltimore picked him up from the airport and drove him directly to the hospital. My parents, brother, grandparents, and many other family members took turns keeping vigil by my bedside, each trying in their own way to wake me from my coma. They immediately recognized the tall man with the kind face as he stepped inside my room. Mister Rogers gently placed his clarinet case on my bed, opened it, and took out King Friday, Lady Elaine Fairchild, and my favorite, Daniel Striped Tiger. For the following hour, I was the star in his neighborhood.
I'd love to end this story by telling you it was in that moment that I emerged from my coma, but that wasn't the case. After his visit with me and several more minutes with my family, Mister Rogers' minister friend drove him back to the airport and he flew back to his hometown in Pennsylvania, taking along an empty clarinet case. What I can tell you, though, is that when I did wake up, Mister Rogers became my real friend and not just a TV friend. We remained close and shared many conversations, birthday wishes, and milestones for the following twenty years until his death on February 27, 2003.
7 Ways to Help Your Relationship After a Miscarriage
This post written by Lianne Avila was originally featured on YourTango.
Anger is a natural feeling to have.
The dreaded news, that you didn't want to hear - a miscarriage. Yes, this really happened to you. Maybe, this was your first time being pregnant.
The first stage is, "I can't believe this is happening to me." This is actually exactly how you should feel. There is nothing wrong with your feelings.
Now, the anger is setting in, "WHY?! WHY?! WHY?!"
Anger is a natural feeling to have after miscarriage. Everyone has it. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. You can't sweep everything under the carpet.
You ask yourself, "What could I have done differently?" This is a normal question to ask after a miscarriage. It's important not blame yourself or others for a miscarriage. It's natural to want to place blame, but in the long run, this will only make things worse.
This is also known as the grieving process.
I have found that after a miscarriage, your relationship can grow stronger or it can make it worse. Sure, you have had problems. But, the question is, do you want this to help create a stronger bond between you and your partner? And, do you want to try again?
Here are 7 ways to help your relationship after a miscarriage:
1. Make a commitment to healing together.
Everyone heals differently and at a different pace. If you need some time for yourself then take it. If you choose to work extra hours at the office to heal, then go for it. Just don't overdo it.
It's important that you both heal before you decide if you want to try again.
2. It's alright to cry.
This is also known as emotional transparency. This is important in a relationship. There must be safety in the relationship for this to happen.
This means you express empathy towards your partner when expressing an emotion, even if it's not the way you would express an emotion.
3. Don't turn to substances for support.
I know you are in pain. But, going out and getting wasted won't change anything. And, it could actually make things worse.
If you find you can't stop, then it's time to seek professional help.
4. Talk to each other about it.
For some, this is difficult. You fear it will be a difficult conversation, or that it will bring up bad memories. Something we have found in therapy is that talking about it is helpful. It's when you don't talk about it, that you stay stuck.
If it helps, write out what questions you have for your partner or what you would like to say.
5. Breathe in, breathe out.
Take it one day at a time. I know you want the pain to stop, but it won't happen overnight. Take a few days off from work or go away for the weekend.
You need to give your body and your mind time to recover. Even if it's just 10 minutes of deep breathing, take some time for yourself.
6. Stop worrying about what others think.
If you want to talk about with friends and family, then give yourself permission to do so. And, if you don't, then give yourself permission to not. You don't have to return anything if you bought some stuff. If it's too hard to see it, then go ahead and return it.
Don't base your decisions on what others think you "should" do.
7. Accept that your relationship might not be strong enough to make it after a loss like this.
Maybe, your partner wasn't there for you the way you needed him to be there for you. This may make you realize how different the two of you really are. All relationships go through ups and downs. What's important is how you recover. This also means you have a good understanding of one another's inner world.
If you aren't there by now, you may never get there. Don't look at it as quitting. Look at it as having a better understanding of what your needs are in a relationship.
If you'd like, this can be a time to develop a deeper understanding of one another. It's also a time to review your priorities. Make sure you have some conversations about it. Talk about how you feel about it and what you would like to do, moving forward.
Lianne Avila is a Marriage & Family Therapist, in San Mateo, CA. She has helped many couples grieve a miscarriage and come out on the other side. For more information, please visit Lessons For Love.
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A Passionate Open Letter to the Person Pushing Their Dog in a Stroller
Dear Dog Owner,
I'll never forget the time I began reversing my car out of a Starbucks parking lot and, true story, nearly hit a woman pushing her baby in a stroller. My heart, and the world around me, stopped. "What have I done?" I thought, panicked, but then relieved when I realized I'd seen them just in time. Understandably, the woman was upset and began yelling and gesturing at me far more kindly than I would have if I were her. But as she walked around toward the front of my vehicle, I saw that instead of a baby in the stroller, it was a dog. Now, do I go around trying to run dogs over with my car? Of course not! But I have to admit I felt deceived that even for a moment, I thought a baby's well-being hung in the balance because I hadn't seen the "mom" and her stroller behind my car.
I was pissed. Yes, I should have been more careful (people can also look where they're going more carefully), but this was a deception. Babies belong in strollers, not your four-legged friend. And if you can't (or don't want to) let them roam on a leash to explore the world around them because you think they're too special or good for such a simple task, then maybe you shouldn't have a dog in the first place.
Until science proves that things like grass and cement are too harmful for their precious paws, I'll expect them to be on the ground.
Look, I get being totally obsessed with your pet. I love my dog just as much as the next person. She's a cherished member of our family, and we can't imagine life without her. We do, however, treat her differently than our three children . . . because she's a dog. She eats dog food out of a bowl on the floor, poops outside, and sleeps in a dog bed. She also walks on a leash, both for exercise and because she. is. a. dog.
I understand there are some situations that warrant a dog being pushed in a stroller, like a broken leg or serious illness. But if they're perfectly healthy and you just choose to treat them like a pampered princess, they're probably dying to get down and run around. Again, they're animals. And I assure you they won't think you don't love them if you don't push them in a stroller or buy them expensive sweaters. In fact, I like to think they look a little bit embarrassed when they're seen in strollers. Like, "I'll never live this down at the dog park" embarrassed.
But hey, if pushing your dog in a stroller makes you really happy, I'm not mad at you. I just don't think it's necessary. I know you're living your life and not hurting anyone (except maybe your dog's pride), just don't be surprised if you get a few eye rolls or deep sighs en route to wherever it is you're going. Because yes, your dog can be considered your "baby," but until science proves that things like grass and cement are too harmful for their precious paws, I'll expect them to be on the ground.
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Every mom has been there. You're out in public, maybe getting groceries, mailing a package, or waiting to board your plane at the airport, when your child decides to flip the f*ck out. You start by trying to sweetly soothe the beast, praying that the tantrum will be short-lived. When it keeps going, you do your best quiet-yell voice (also known as the extremely firm whisper) combined with the hard stare, letting your kid know you mean business.
When that still doesn't work, you start to sweat and weigh your options: attempt to physically restrain your flailing child, knowing that will only escalate the situation; abandon your task and tend to your kid in a less public space, even though you really need those groceries; or just sit down and cry. Somehow, you survive, finding the alchemy that defuses the meltdown, deciding you'll return to the post office another day or relying on the kindness of strangers who help get your kid on that plane. But from that day on, you know your child has the potential to torpedo any public outing, and you just pray it never happens again.
Every mom has also been on the other end, watching a mom struggle with a child who's decided to save their worst behavior for a time when they could show it off to an audience. You probably felt that mom's pain and wanted to do something to help. But what? And is getting involved even appropriate? Here are the dos and don'ts for helping a mom who's struggling with her kid in public.
Dos
- Do evaluate the situation to see if your involvement would actually be helpful or just add to their stress. If you're not sure, ask. Extra points if you ask if you can do something specific instead of just asking if you can help in general. Even if she says no, she'll still appreciate the offer.
- Do engage in small kindnesses like opening doors or returning her grocery cart as much as possible.
- Do give her as many sympathetic looks and short words of encouragement and reassurance as you'd like. Compassion is never appreciated more than in moments of struggle.
- Do feel free to buy her coffee when you see how hard it's been for her to get through the line. She really needs that coffee.
- Do identify yourself as a grandma, mom of three, or uncle of 12 if you're trying to help. She wants to know that you're experienced and not just a weirdo who wants to engage with her kid.
- Do intervene if her child is putting themselves in danger (i.e., running into the street).
Don'ts
- Don't attempt to approach or touch a child without the parent's permission. You have little information about what's really going on. Don't assume you know how to handle the meltdown better than the parent does.
- Don't offer advice about how mom could be better dealing with the situation. She's doing her best.
- Don't start unloading grocery bags or approach a car without asking first. Stranger danger is a thing for adults, too.
- Don't offer the child candy or any other kind of treat. Just don't do it. You're only making Mom's life more difficult.
- Don't stand and stare. No one wants spectators for their child's worst moments. Tantrums happen, so if you can't help, offer a sympathetic smile and move on.
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Can We All Agree That Participation Trophies Should Not Be Given to Kids?
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The day of the race, I wished my son good luck and told him that it's OK to be upset if he were to lose. I'm no engineer, but I was confident that simply putting red paint on a wooden car would not increase the speed. My son typically excels in school, his chess program, and soccer, so I wanted to prepare him for his impending letdown. I stressed to him that it's important to understand how he could improve so that he could have a better shot next time. When he returned from the race, he told me that his car was the slowest and that it didn't even have enough oomph to cross the finish line.
My son didn't do anything to deserve such recognition. He wasn't passionate about it, put in minimal effort, and wasn't fazed by his lack of success.
Fast-forward to the end-of-the-year awards ceremony. My son received pins and badges for activities he completed, then the den leader pulled out a trophy that honestly shocked me. As he described the person who matched the qualifications to receive the trophy, my son's face beamed with pride. Then he said it, "The Slowest Car Award goes to . . . " My son giggled and raced to the front of the room to collect his trophy. I looked around, and parents and other scouts were clapping for him as if he had done something notable to receive an award.
As we walked to the car, I asked him why he was so excited. He told me that he felt he deserved an award because other people got them. Before I knew it, I went on a 20-minute rant explaining how his trophy diminished the win of the child who had the fastest car. My son ignored the requests from his dad and me to get started, and he wasn't interested in attending the car preparation workshop. He simply showed up, was surprised that he didn't win, and then actually ended up with an award. I've never been a fan of participation trophies, but this one in particular is an example of overstating effort. My son didn't do anything to deserve such recognition. He wasn't passionate about it, put in minimal effort, and wasn't fazed by his lack of success. What kind of message is that sending to the child who spent hours making their boxcar the best it can possibly be?
As the school year ended, my son brought home more and more trophies that were awarded for actual talent and skill. I noticed the slowest car trophy became less visible on his nightstand to make room for his real accomplishments. When I asked why, he stated that his other awards made him proud because he knew he worked hard to earn them.
The whole experience taught me that kids don't need to be babied when it comes to participation. They shouldn't be celebrated just for showing up and doing the bare minimum. They should be recognized if and when they work hard, go above and beyond their duties, and excel at something they put their minds to. My son works very hard at many things, and those are the trophies I'm proud to see him earn.
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When I'm getting snippy with our toddler or silently cursing about the baby's unrelenting fussing, I do feel a little sorry for myself. But then I remember I'm not the only one whose partner works crazy hours, and that there are moms who have it much harder than I do (all hail the single parent). But I'm talking about being a unit, one-half of a married couple, one-half of a parenting duo, yet finding myself alone . . . a lot.
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I'm talking about being one-half of a married couple, one-half of a parenting duo, yet finding myself alone . . . a lot.
When my husband and I were dating and living together, the schedule was tough to get used to. I worked a regular job, and I was home for dinner every night. He worked 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. one week, then 4 p.m. to midnight the next week, and that's not counting overtime shifts (which is how a lot of shift workers make most of their money). Doesn't sound too crazy, right? Well, we wouldn't see each other every other week because I would be asleep by the time he got home and he wasn't awake when I left in the morning. And while my weekend was Saturday and Sunday, his could be Tuesday and Wednesday one week and Sunday and Monday the next.
Every other week, I ate dinner by myself every night (but, on the bright side, also had full control of the television remote). There were nights our friends would go out, and I'd either go by myself or not at all because he'd be at work. Everyone got used to me coming to functions and holidays celebrations alone, and I started seamlessly living the life of a single, taken person.
While I generally didn't mind it, I did wonder what it would all mean when we had kids. Would he miss soccer games and ballet recitals? Would he be able to help with homework or attend a science fair? Would I feel alone in parenting? The answer to all of those questions is yes and no. He often misses seeing our daughter for more than a day or two because he'll get home from work once she's at school, then be asleep or back at work when she gets home. But on his days off, he takes her out for daddy-daughter dates, he spends time with the baby, and we all sit down for dinner together. He tries his best to be around for important things by switching his shifts for birthday parties and holidays the kids will remember. He does the best he can, and so do I.
But I, like my friends who are also married to shift workers, can't help but long for the routine of Daddy coming home for dinner, us putting the kids down together, and enjoying a full weekend of family time. I'm always so thankful that he works so hard for our family, and I've accepted our version of traditional family time. Would I like him around when I'm wrangling two slippery kids in the tub? Yes. Would he probably be better at calmly reading bedtime stories? I think so. But it makes the time we do manage to spend together that much more meaningful. And isn't that what marriage and families should be about? A bunch of meaningful moments that, when combined, make up your family story? Because no matter how different the chapters are each week, I really love our story.
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If my kids were both the same sex and they never complained about not having their own space, I'd keep them there until they went to college.
My husband and I are done in the baby-making department, so whenever my kids are ready, they can each have their own room again. But for now, the fact that they want to be together makes my heart burst. Studies have shown that, for many children, sharing a room with their sibling or siblings is more about inclusion than anything else. Before they reach the age when they want their own space, kids just really love being together, which is definitely true for my little ones. At night, we usually have to remind them to stop chatting because it's time to go to sleep, and they definitely get into mischief if they get bold and close the door. It makes me smile thinking about their imaginations bouncing off each other as they talk under the covers and the cute little memories they make together when we're not there. It's a pretty cute gig, but when will I have to, or should, move one of them out?
Honestly, if my kids were both the same sex and they never complained about not having their own space, I'd keep them there until they went to college, but I have a feeling things will get a little dicey in a few years as they head toward puberty. To curtail this potential awkwardness, I plan on separating their rooms before the onset of puberty - around the time my son is 11. I assume they'll both be ready for a little privacy by then anyway. But if one of them expresses a desire to have their own room before that time comes, I'm open to that too. I don't plan on forcing them to stay together if they don't want to, because what makes their current setup so special is their equal happiness in being there.
Before separate rooms (and puberty, ah!) needs to be a concern of mine, I'll sit back and watch my kids grow . . . together. So far, their shared room has created so many more good memories than bad. Sure, they fight sometimes like all siblings do, but they're also incredibly close. They share better, are able to solve conflicts easier, and don't tattle on each other to Mom and Dad as quickly anymore. Their tastes and interests are different, but their room reflects each in a perfect balance. Nobody is upset about a certain toy being on a shelf or a certain color on their bed sheets. So unless they ask to be separated, they'll share a room for the foreseeable future. Because it's been an experiment that I don't want to know the outcome of yet.
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Chrissy Teigen Definitely Knows She's "Slayin' Alive" in Her Glittery Date Night Dress
It was a "Friday night fever" kind of date for new parents of two Chrissy Teigen and John Legend, and, oh boy, the temperature sure did rise when they started sharing pics on social media. The duo served head-to-toe glamour for their date night, and I cannot stop staring at Chrissy's whole shimmering ensemble.
I mean, her glittery white dress catches the light even without a Kira Kira app; what magic is this? Plus, the gown's high slit gives her plenty of room to pop the perfect three-second pose - even if she'll be sore all week. She paired the stunning dress with a bold and beautiful headband, strappy heels, and a matching clutch. Read on for more peeks at Chrissy's angelic outfit, then check out her other chic maternity outfits that will surely stun you.
10 Cute and Comfortable Bras You Won't Believe We Found on Amazon - Starting at $6
Shopping for a new bra is one of those tasks we often put off. If you're looking for a more seamless experience, try browsing on Amazon, because the mega retailer has so many options to choose from. Whether you're looking for a sexy lace pick or a comfortable cami, we found it all. The best part is they're delivered right to your doorstep and cost less than $30. Shop these affordable finds.
So, Reformation Just Dropped New Swimwear, and We Give Up on Trying to Save Money
There are too many reasons why we're obsessed with Reformation. From its sustainable approach to fashion and ever-evolving collections to all the size inclusive options, we're already sold. Not to mention its clothes are insanely cute and spotted on celebs left and right. Last year, the popular retailer started selling swimwear, and it just dropped its latest line. So whether you're on the hunt for a sexy lace-up one-piece or smocked bikini, check out our top picks. We have a feeling they won't stay in stock for long, so shop before they disappear.
YES, Please! 15 Sexy Swimsuits to Play Up Your Curves, Because F*ck Hiding Them
We'll say this repeatedly: curvy women, don't be afraid to rock your favorite swimsuit. The trick is to find a style that gives you the most flattering fit, whether it's a high-waisted bikini bottom or printed bustier top. Your swimsuit should play to your curves, not hide them, and we're here to help with some shopping options. Ahead are carefully curated one-pieces and bikinis ranging from the trendy gingham print to your basic solid colors. The next time you doubt how you look, slip on your favorite swimsuit (hopefully one from here) and remember your curves are what make you you.
- Additional Reporting by Marina Liao
Puma's Latest Designer Shoe Collab Is What Summer Dreams Are Made Of
There's no better way to step into Summer than with the ultimate eye-catching shoes. Whether you're looking for the perfect slides or bold sneakers, Puma has you covered. The global sports brand just dropped its second wave of products in collaboration with British fashion designer Sophia Webster.
Sophia Webster is known for playful and feminine shoes and accessories, and the designer brought that aesthetic to the sporty label. Inspired by the concept "Princess Puma," the line features bold metallics, pretty pleats, and fun glitter accents.
The comfortable shoes are covered in kiwi, watermelon, and dragon fruit-inspired prints, preparing us for some sunny days ahead. We have a feeling you're going to want everything here, and sizes are already selling out fast. Keep scrolling to view the collection and find your perfect match.
OMG - This Bollywood Actress Wore So Many Amazing Outfits at Her Wedding, We Lost Track
One of Bollywood's biggest stars, Sonam Kapoor, is officially married! The actress and entrepreneur Anand Ahuja tied the knot in a star-studded wedding in Mumbai. Since Sonam is known for her bold fashion choices on and off the red carpet, everyone was waiting to see what the gorgeous star would wear for her big day, and let's just say she didn't disappoint.
While getting her bridal henna done, Sonam wore a stunning pink and gold Anuradha Vakil outfit styled with a pair of statement earrings. She then switched into an ivory and gold lehenga by Abu Jani Sandeep Khosla for the actual Mehendi celebrations.
For her big day, the bride chose a gorgeous red lehenga also by Anuradha Vakil. The breathtaking bridal outfit was covered with intricate gold embroidery. She finished off her look with a pearl headpiece, a vintage choker, and tons of bangles. She accessorized her bridal style with a pair of Jimmy Choo heels.
At the reception, Sonam wore a graphic-print Anamika Khanna lehenga while the groom paired his bandhgala with a cool pair of Nike sneakers. Keep reading to have a look at the amazing wedding.
With Just 1 Look, You'll Fall in Love With These 15 Off-the-Shoulder Swimsuits
If you take a look at your swimsuit collection, chances are you'll probably find a classic triangle bikini and a black one-piece. While these pieces are staples, there's one more style you should be adding to your collection: an off-the-shoulder swimsuit.
This style allows you to show off just the right amount of skin and it's super 'grammable, aka it's a win-win. Whether you're planning a vacation to a tropical island or simply hanging out poolside, there are plenty of off-the-shoulder swimsuit styles that fit the bill. Ahead, we've gathered 15 pieces we are lusting over. Have a peek, and shop some for your swimwear rotation ahead.
PSA: Nordstrom's Having an Insane Sale on Designer Bags - From Prada to Tory Burch!
If you love Nordstrom, you know one of its best perks is shopping its insane half-yearly sales. The megaretailer just dropped its latest edition, and it did not disappoint. If you've been daydreaming about splurging on a new bag, right now is the perfect time to get the best deal. In case you need help navigating the best steals, we did the hard work for you. Ahead, you'll find the hottest finds from brands like Prada, Fendi, Rebecca Minkoff, and so much more. It will be hard to leave empty-handed. Grab your wallet, and shop our top picks.
We're Seeing Spots Over These 9 Adorable Polka-Dot Swimsuits!
One of the hottest trends this Summer, polka dots has successfully made its mark on swimwear. While there's always something adorable about an itsy-bitsy polka-dot bikini, this season we're seeing modern takes on the classic print, from sexy one-pieces to bold colors and new bikini silhouettes. We could always use a new swimsuit, so just keep reading to shop our favorite polka-dot picks!
Kaia Gerber's Little Black Bikini Is the Most Flattering Swimsuit Style on the Planet
Kaia Gerber may be Cindy Crawford's daughter, but the model is proving she has a knack for fashion, too. The 16-year-old supermodel showed that she's ready for the warm weather by posting a shot off herself in a bikini on Instagram.
Kaia rocked a black string bikini top with matching side-tie bottoms from the brand Bondi Born. She accessorized with a '90s-inspired plaid bucket hat and a pair of tiny sunglasses by Prada. The model finished off her beach-ready look with a couple of delicate gold chain necklaces and tiny hoop earrings. Keep reading to get a closer look at her flattering bikini, and buy similar versions ahead.
We Want to Be Wearing Jennifer Lawrence's Lingerie-Inspired Dress Next Time We Run Into an Ex
Whether the breakup was amicable or awful, everyone always wants to look smokin' when running into an ex (it's just human nature). Well, Jennifer Lawrence just experienced our fantasy in real life at the BAM Gala in New York City, where she crossed paths with ex (and Mother director) Darren Aronofsky while rocking a white-hot slip dress.
Truth be told, both the encounter and the outfit were, most likely, not left up to chance - Aronofsky was actually one of the evening's honorees, so Jennifer could be sure she would be seeing her old flame. Even though there seems to be no bad blood between the two, if she's like the rest of us, she dressed to impress anyway. Her satiny, corset-style slip dress was the kind of sexy frock that leaves a lasting impression - just the type you'd want an ex to have.
Whether you want to send that "eat your heart out" message to someone in particular or you're just after a jaw-dropping LWD for Summer parties, check out Jennifer's look for inspiration ahead. Then, shop some look-alikes of your own - and get ready to sizzle.
We're Freaking Out Over These 20 Chic White Dresses - All Under $20 on Amazon!
Sick of everything in your wardrobe? We feel it. This Summer, treat yourself to a pretty white dress. You can wear these cute and comfy picks everywhere like the beach, work, date night, and beyond. Don't stress about shopping, either! We did the hard work for you and unearthed 20 chic choices - and they're all under $20. We're not kidding. Keep scrolling to shop our favorite finds.
Princess Eugenie's Outfit Would Have Been Totally Different Without This 1 ADORABLE Detail
Princess Eugenie's never been afraid to make a fashion statement, having worn her fair share of avant-garde fascinators, interesting pumps, and fabulous prints over the years. However, the 28-year-old bride-to-be still manages to surprise us, and that's exactly what she did when she attended a Garden Party at Buckingham Palace on May 31.
For the occasion, Eugenie wore a navy coat dress, which featured bell sleeves and an asymmetrical hem - but it was her headgear that once again caught our eye. The princess's statement hat, which was wrapped with spotted veil, featured the word "Love" embroidered in silver beads.
Made by the London-based brand Misa Harada, it turned her chic yet simple outfit into something more exciting and modern, making us even more excited for Eugenie's wedding look. Read on to get a closer look at her ensemble, then shop similar hats for yourself.
Olivia Wilde's Swimsuits Are Sophisticated and Sexy All at Once, and Man, We Can't Stop Staring
Whether she's vacationing with partner Jason Sudeikis and their children in Hawaii or just sharing a bikinigram with her Instagram followers, Olivia Wilde's swimsuit game is always on point. Olivia has rocked many bikinis, but it seems she prefers slick maillots on the beach when she's paddleboarding or taking a walk. Regardless of her whereabouts, Olivia's swimwear choices always make a statement - one that sticks with you. Her toned physique might contribute to the image, but if you read on for some styling tips we've gleaned from the awesomely witty actress, you'll find that you too can rock a suit like Olivia during swim season.
I Finally Found a Pair of Black Jeans That Don't Fade - And They're Only $68!
Wearing black jeans on repeat has always been my go-to look. The only downfall is constantly having to purchase new ones because they always end up fading. Earlier this year, Everlane launched its affordable denim line, and it didn't take long for me to purchase the Modern Boyfriend Jean in black ($68).
The brand touts that the jeans are made with a "Stay Black dye" that helps them remain darker for longer. They come in three different fits: high- and mid-rise skinny and the modern boyfriend. I decided on the boyfriend style because I have a ton of skinny jeans and wanted to try something else. In my usual size, they ended up looking a bit baggy, so I sized down - they fit me more like the perfect straight leg as opposed to a loose-fit pair, which I liked even more.
Months later, these are my favorite everyday pants. Not only are they comfortable, but the material is soft. The have a lot of give, but they don't stretch out throughout the day. I wear them with everything from heels on nights out with my friends or sneakers to work. I've washed them a handful of times (even in the dryer!) and the color looks the same as the when I first bought them. I'll probably end up treating myself to a skinny pair ($68) too.
They also come in white ($68) and classic denim shades ($68) if you'd like to give a few different pairs a try.
Who Wears Short Shorts? You Do, With These 9 Pairs From Amazon!
Warm weather is here, and it's time to put away your pants in favor of Summer shorts! Whether you're hitting up a pool party or heading into casual Friday's at the office, there's a cute pair of shorts - available on Amazon (!) - that you'll love rocking all Summer long. They're fun, comfortable, and just a little playful. Keep reading to shop our picks, just in time for the weekend!
15 Simple Things Stylish Women Do Every Day
Contrary to popular belief, really chic women aren't superhuman - they're just well-prepared. If you don't see them running around with week-old coffee stains on their blouses or hobbling in painful heels, it's not because those things just don't happen to them. It's because they know how to deal.
In fact, they're dealing on a daily basis. Truth is, the fashionable friends you envy have some very helpful habits that make looking polished, confident, and cool a daily reality. It's not about a total wardrobe overhaul or dropping tons of cash on the season's biggest trends. Real style starts at home the moment you wake up. We've done the research - all you have to do is read on for the takeaways you can start practicing right now.
11 Curvy Swimsuits That Are Sexy, Flattering, and Totally Affordable
All our favorite brands and designers are releasing hot new swimsuits faster than we refresh our browsers. If you're on the hunt for something on the sexier side this season, we have you covered. From sheer cutout one-pieces to flattering off-the-shoulder bikinis, it won't be hard to find one (or five) that you love. Take a look at our favorites.
25 Stunning Beauty and the Beast-Inspired iPhone Cases
If Beauty and the Beast was your favorite movie growing up, then you're probably as excited as we are about the live-action remake starring Emma Watson. Bring out your inner Belle everywhere you go with a gorgeous iPhone case inspired by the Disney fairy tale and movie. From magical rose petal details to stained glass art, these cases are so stunning, you'll want them all.
This Heartbreaking Theory Might Explain Why Snape Was Mean to Neville Longbottom
It's no secret that Severus Snape picks on Neville Longbottom a lot. However, while some fans of the series might've dismissed it due to Snape's overall sour attitude, one fan theory suggests a darker and sadder reason for why Snape acted the way he did.
The theory starts with the prophecy made by Professor Trelawney, which was revealed in Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix. The prophecy boils down to either Neville or Harry being the chosen one to "vanquish the Dark Lord." Voldemort chose the Potters, killing Lily, the one person Snape loved. The theory, posted by Reddit user OrgasmicSarcasmic, suggests that Snape treats Neville so poorly because he's a reminder that Alice Longbottom is alive (though tortured into insanity) while Lily isn't. You can read it ahead.
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A thread on Quora suggests something similar. Quora user Sahil Juneja believes that Neville represents Snape's "living embodiment of guilt" and everything he did to unintentionally cause the death of Lily.
Pretty sad, right? Oh, Snape, your love of Lily was so much bigger than any of us knew.
We're Not Even Sure If Adults Could Solve This Kids' Puzzle
Every now and then, we come across a puzzle that's meant for children but is still incredibly difficult. This new puzzle, from Highlights Magazine, is one that we think is harder than any hard math problem.
The puzzle, created to promote 44 Pages, a documentary about Highlights Magazine, was posted to Facebook on March 6. It looks like a fun illustration, until you realize you need to find 14 hidden objects in it. Try it for yourself below.
We're celebrating the premiere of 44 Pages, a documentary following the creation of our 70th anniversary magazine, today...
Posted by Highlights for Children on Monday, March 6, 2017
Did you find them all? We couldn't, and we're starting to wonder if we need to check our eyesight.
Staring at Screens All Day Is Damaging Your Eyes - Here's How to Protect Them
In the words of Madonna, "I'm a digital girl in a digital world." Digital devices have allowed us to connect with people all over the world, but there are a few downsides to consider, like digital eye strain. If you've ever suffered from discomfort after using a digital device for longer than two hours, chances are you're experiencing digital eye strain. The Vision Council found that more than 83 percent of Americans report using digital devices for more than two hours a day, with more than half of the same group using two devices simultaneously and experiencing digital eye strain. If completely disconnecting is not an option, here are some tips to consider to protect your eyes from strain.
Remember to Blink
"When you look at a screen you're so involved that you forget to blink. The blink rate goes from 15 times a minute to five or seven times per minute," said ophthalmologist Dr. Matthew Gardiner. Blinking helps keep the front of your eye surface moist.
Follow the 20-20-20 Rule
The 20-20-20 rule is easy to implement daily. Take a 20-second break from your screen every 20 minutes and look at something 20 feet away.
Adjust Your Workspace
The Vision Council recommends positioning yourself at arm's distance away from your computer monitor. Another tip is to lower your monitor. You want the center of the monitor to be about four to eight inches below eye level and around 20 to 28 inches from the eyes. Position your monitor to avoid glare from overhead light and windows.
Increase the Text Size
Another quick fix is to increase the text size on your devices, as this will help define the content on the screen.
Reduce Glare
Using softer lighting on your devices and matte filters will reduce the glare on tablets, phones, and computers.
Check Your Prescription
Discomfort could be caused by not having the right prescription for your glasses! Be sure to get a comprehensive eye exam every one to two years.
You Know You're One of These Types of Texters
Whether you want to own up to it or not, we are all a certain kind of texter. Some of us use an absurd amount of emoji, and others are fans of ending every single. Sentence. With. A. Period. We thought it was about time we defined these types of texting and discuss some of their virtues and cons. Take a look ahead and see who you identify as!
These 14 Fitness Studios Will Make You Wish You Lived in New York
The gym can get a little, well, boring after a while. And why limit yourself to just the basics when there's a city of endless workout studios out there? It can be tough to narrow down all of the options, which is where we come in. New York is the epicenter of fitness, and knowing the hot trends happening in the Big Apple is often indicative on what's to come in your own city. From the Upper West Side to even Brooklyn (and everything in between), we've found the hot spots that are a must try for fitness buffs and beginners alike.
These Are the 9 Texts Harry Potter Would Totally Send Late at Night
We've all sent that late-night text we dread in the morning. Don't deny it. Instead, take comfort knowing your favorite literary character, Harry Potter, has the same affliction. A series of photos posted by Imgur user seagul999 show what happens when Harry's had a few too many butterbeers and starts typing. When you're done reading, check out Harry Potter as told through texts.
Which Badass Harry Potter Witch Are You?
We've all got a favorite Harry Potter character (or five), but that doesn't mean that they match our personalities. After all, if every person who adores the Weasley twins shared their affinity for practical jokes, the world would be filled with whoopee cushions and cling-wrapped toilets. But using this addictive personality quiz from Playbuzz, you can find out which witch from the series you're most like. Thanks to the wide variety of badass ladies in J.K. Rowling's magical novels, there's no disappointing result - except Dolores Umbridge, of course! Take the test below to discover your witchy soul mate, then find out which hybrid Hogwarts house you belong in.
16 Unique and Cool Negative-Space Tattoo Ideas
Coming up with a unique and personal tattoo idea isn't easy. You want to pick something that's meaningful but that no one else will have either. That's why we're bringing you an idea you might not have thought of: negative-space tattoos. It's a tattoo concept that uses your skin to make shapes or other images - and is something you might need to see to understand. Check out some examples ahead, and don't be afraid to combine this concept with something you love, like Harry Potter.
15 Romantic TV Shows You Can Stream on Netflix
If you're in the mood for a romance-fueled TV show, Netflix has got you covered. There's nothing better than a little love to keep a series interesting. Whether you want to laugh, cry, or both, we've rounded up the best romantic shows that are streaming right now. Get ready to press play!
- Additional reporting by Stacey Nguyen
A Professional Mermaid in Hawaii Finally Got Her Dream Wedding Photos - See Them Here!
Stephanie and Paul are a real-life couple who've been married for about a year. While they love living in Honolulu (Stephanie is professional mermaid on the island of Oahu!), they wanted to redo their wedding photos as they hoped they would've turned out the first time around. So, a team of amazing vendors in Hawaii came together to make the couple's dream come true.
To match the whimsical and elegant nature of a mermaid, Stephanie wore a stunning lace-sleeved dress and remained barefoot throughout the shoot. Instead of a traditional garter, she wore a floral Hawaiian lei around her leg. The couple's sunset photos were just gorgeous!
See them ahead.
Disney Fans Are Going to FREAK Out Over This Bride's Shoes at Her Disney World Wedding
Three years after meeting at work, Sean proposed to Vanessa on Valentine's Day. The holiday wasn't a big deal to either of them, so Sean popped the question in their new home with a dozen red roses. As you can guess by now, she said "yes."
As huge Disney fans, the couple planned a semi destination wedding at Disney's Yacht Club Resort in Florida, where they live. They wanted to make the trip worth it to their 130 guests, and Disney World was the perfect place that could double as a family vacation for everyone. To play up the resort's beach and nautical themes in the Spring, Sean and Vanessa incorporated details like seashells and rope with a color scheme of mint, light blue, and coral - and, of course, Disney!
To keep costs down, the couple also tackled many DIY projects. They created their own table numbers and holders, "lobster trap" card box, menu, thank-you cards, guestbook, and even the flower girl's Minnie Mouse-shaped bouquet.
One of the most memorable moments at the wedding was when Mickey and Minnie made a surprise appearance. "It was hard to keep the surprise, but we knew a Walt Disney World wedding would not be complete without Mickey and Minnie - it was our one nonnegotiable!" Vanessa told their photographer. "The look on our guests' faces - both adults and children - made it very much worth it."
See their beautiful photos!
25 Stunning Beauty and the Beast-Inspired iPhone Cases
If Beauty and the Beast was your favorite movie growing up, then you're probably as excited as we are about the live-action remake starring Emma Watson. Bring out your inner Belle everywhere you go with a gorgeous iPhone case inspired by the Disney fairy tale and movie. From magical rose petal details to stained glass art, these cases are so stunning, you'll want them all.
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