Healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is one which helps to keep and improve people's health and well-being.Many governments and non-governmental organizations have made big efforts in healthy lifestyle and health promotion.
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Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
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Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
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samedi 14 juillet 2018
Thanks For Asking, but No, I Will Not Be Traveling to Cuba
The questions started two or three years ago, when news broke that relations would begin to open with Cuba after more than 50 years of extreme sanctions against the communist government. "So, when are you going to go to Cuba? You know, now that you can." People were shocked to hear I had yet to book a ticket. My family, staunchly against it, made their feelings very clear. I, on the other hand, felt conflicted. After all, I tell everyone that I am Cuban, and I truly feel like I am. Yet I have never set foot in the place I identify so strongly with.
One day, I sat down with my grandmother, who came to America in 1962 as a refugee, and asked her why she forbade her children (all of whom were born in the states) and grandchildren from going to her home country, despite having said she wants to be buried there when she dies. The answer shook me. She said she would allow us to travel there when Cubans are allowed to travel freely to the United States.
You see, the softening of relations was a one-way street, which gave American citizens access to a curated experience of Cuban life. The vintage cars, the colorful architecture, the sparkling ocean views - all of it shying away from the harsh realities that people living in the dilapidated buildings knew to be true.
All of my family on my mother's side lives in the states; my paternal grandparents, however, travel to Cuba frequently to visit family I've never met. For this reason, I understand why they would welcome the change, making it easier for them to enter the island despite essentially risking their American citizenship the moment they step onto Cuban soil. My quandary deepens with those top-of-the-line cruises departing every weekend from Fort Lauderdale. The photos and stories people return with - of tropical greenery and an infectious spirit - just don't match up with the memories shared by family who has recently arrived.
It is advertised as a hidden paradise, but I can only think of the lost land where even hospitals aren't provided with basic sanitary means. Unfortunately, my tourism dollars will not raise the standard of living (as perhaps in other popular Caribbean vacation destinations) due to the centralized government. While the Cuban people do not want my pity and make the best of their situation, I will not fund the government who put them in that situation in the first place.
When I am met with shock that I do not want to visit Cuba, I give the same answer every time: I've seen what Cuba has to offer in Miami, where all the exiles rebuilt the beautiful culture that once lived on the island. I feel connected to mi gente through Saturdays spent in Domino Park with my grandfather, having a pastelito and cafecito after church at Versailles Bakery, and wearing the official garment of the Cuban people: the guayabera. Companies that were founded in Havana are now headquartered in Miami, such as the greatest beverage known to man, Ironbeer. The language, its slang, and its culture has evolved in Miami. The South Florida town was co-opted by an exiled community who found each other and built a city for their children and grandchildren where Cuban culture would never die. My grandparents sacrificed so much for my freedom, so I will honor them by keeping my promise and holding my breath until Cubans can breathe easy once again.
How to Know Your Partner Might Be Cheating Based on Body Language
When it comes to relationships, cheating is pretty much a no-brainer offense. While some people might have different ideas of what cheating really is, such as a flirting over text with another person or watching porn, when it comes to physical touch with someone else, its pretty clear that that's NOT OK. Luckily, cheaters often possess the same body language traits, so it could be somewhat easier to spot if you've been suspicious. Here are a few clues that your partner might be up to some no-good behavior.
They're Protective of Their Phone
If your partner is crazed about you peeping at his or her phone, it could be a sign. "The cheater will have guarded body language when on their mobile devices," says David Bennett, counselor and relationship expert with Double Trust Dating, to POPSUGAR. Your partner might choose to hold the phone in a clear way so you can't see it, or even suddenly lock the screen and put their phone out of reach when you are around, he says. There's probably some secretive stuff in there.
What's more, your partner might pull away and freak out when you do happen to see something on their mobile device, he says. "If someone is using their phone for honest reasons, they have no reason to act surprised and/or jerk their phone away if their partner happens to see what's on the screen. However, if they are cheating, this reflex reaction is going to happen automatically and subconsciously, and their body language will suggest they just got 'caught,'" he says.
Related: 7 Honest Reasons Women Cheat
They Get Nervous When Discussing the Other Person
If the other person happens to be in your partner's life regularly or you know of this person, your partner could tense up upon hearing the name from your mouth. "They might show signs of nervousness when you talk about the suspected "other woman" or "other man," says Bennett. "Signs of nervousness include speaking more quickly, tension in the face, and stroking their forearms gently or touching their chest area (men may adjust their ties - these last two are called 'pacifying behaviors' and help a nervous person feel more relaxed)," he says. Be on the lookout for these warning signs when in conversation about your partner's relationships with others.
What's more, let's say you're in front of the other man or woman, where you see them together. "Body language is ultimately subconscious, and many cheaters will feel the desire to be physically close with the person they are cheating with," he says. For example, if your partner is cheating with a coworker, and every time you see them together, they are barely inches apart, sitting extremely close, making significant eye contact, and touching each other, something's going on.
Related: My Ex Cheated, Told Me on Our Anniversary, and Left Me on Our Vacation
They Smile at Their Phones
Cheaters will sometimes flash a full smile while looking at their phones, says Bennett. Of course, this could be harmless, so don't assume the worst if there aren't other signals of cheating behavior. "If you see your partner doing a lot of typing, which they may claim is work related or something along those lines, but they flash a full, genuine smile (called a Duchenne smile, which involves the eyes and cheeks), this may be a sign they aren't exactly focusing on work," he explains.
They're Openly Closed Off to You
Cheaters will have closed off body language toward their partner. "Many cheaters ultimately feel bad about their cheating and/or like the other person better, so they will stop having open and happy body language around their partner," he says. The cheater will likely keep physical distance, touching less and less, smiling less, and crossing their arms when they are around their partner, he explains. This could also be indicative of other marital problems and not just cheating, too.
15 Signs That You've Found Honest-to-Goodness "True Love"
How do you know when it's true love? You just know. OK, beyond that answer, there are certain signs that make it completely obvious that you and this person are just meant to be. It's that feeling in your bones that you know this person makes your life inexplicably better, even during the rough times that every couple experiences over the course of their relationship.
Whether it's that comfortable silence or the complete feeling of trust, true love is such a gift that one must never take for granted, abuse, walk away from, or disrespect. Because if these signs ring true for you . . . you're one of the lucky ones.
Related: 50 Pieces of the Best Marriage Advice We've Ever Collected
30 Breathtaking North American Natural Wonders You Have to See Before You Die
When it comes to traveling, Americans often feel like they haven't seen enough, despite the number of foreign countries they may be lucky enough to have already visited. You might be determined to visit the famed Seven Wonders of the World, but did you know there are actually dozens and dozens of natural wonders to see right here in North America? From the Old Faithful Geyser in Yellowstone National Park to Hubbard Glacier in Alaska and Canada to Baja California Sur, you could easily take a road trip (or two or three) across our great continent, never ceasing to be impressed. Have a look at this gallery and start planning your next semilocal vacation.
Every Woman in a Relationship Should Do This 1 Thing Alone
Before I met my current boyfriend, I used to love going out to eat alone. I took pride in it. It was both empowering and relaxing, knowing that I didn't need a friend or a partner to sit at a table with. I could dine solo, order exactly what I wanted, and savor a good meal while sipping on Cabernet Sauvignon.
Though there are plenty of exceptions to the rule, many women in relationships relinquish their grasp on alone time when they get into serious relationships. Becoming girlfriends, wives, and mothers can take up so much of our attention that we forget to be the people we were before we had those roles. But being a good partner (and mom) means taking care of ourselves, and one of the best ways to do that is by connecting with ourselves as individuals. My favorite way to do that is to reserve a table for one.
A lot of women are used to having conversations over dinner, so they don't know what to do with themselves when they're out for dinner alone. Here's my advice:
Bring a Book: When you don't know what to do with yourself, having a book on hand is a great way to avoid feeling awkward. Bring that book you've always wanted to read but haven't had the time to.
Order Something Delicious: When you're conversing with someone over dinner, it's usually the conversation that takes center stage, rather than your senses. Eating alone is the perfect opportunity to eat mindfully. Eat slowly, close your eyes, and savor every bite. If you want to get really serious, bring a notepad and write down your thoughts on the meal.
Have a Drink: Another thing to add to your notepad? Wine-tasting notes. Having one or two drinks is a great way to feel more comfortable dining out alone. And - bonus - it may spur your creativity as you read or write.
Chat With Your Waiter: Making small talk with someone you don't know is a lost art. Ask your waiter or waitress what dishes they recommend, address them by their name, and ask about their day (if they're not too busy).
Don't Sit at the Bar: Unless you're really in the mood to socialize, don't sit at the bar. A real table makes it clear that you're here to enjoy a meal on your own.
Going out to eat alone is increasingly celebrated, but many of us (especially women) often feel embarrassed doing it for the first time. I promise: Once you get used to it, you will feel like a badass. It can be hard to feel like a badass when you're covered in baby poop or picking up your significant other's laundry. It's the little things - like doing something alone, for yourself - that help you reconnect with yourself.
This Affordable Design Service Helped Me Solve My No-Storage Crises
As a former home editor and interior design junkie, I'm rarely stumped by decorating decisions, but my 2-year-old son's bedroom has been trapped in decorating limbo since we moved into our home last year. Finding a solution for toy storage, let alone a system for keeping clothes, books, and baby gear organized, felt too overwhelming to deal with, so I avoided it.
It wasn't until I discovered Modsy that I realized a handy shortcut existed. While digital interior design services aren't exactly a new phenomenon, Modsy takes it a step further. Like most digital design services, it creates a design plan based on answers gleaned from questions about your taste and where you like to shop. What really sets it apart is its custom 3D renderings, which offer a 360-degree peek into the possibilities of what your revamped room could look like. You can actually visualize how to rearrange a room to make it more beautiful and efficient - something I desperately needed help with.
This Dad Had the Most Inspiring Message After a Stranger Told Him to Make His Daughter With Cancer "Walk"
Brent Gehring knows that people mindlessly scroll through their social media feeds each and every day. And while there are often multiple stories on the web about children who get cancer, it's really hard to imagine what the experience is like until it happens to you. In a now-viral Facebook post, Brent explained that despite the fact his 6-year-old daughter, Emma, has brain cancer, he's always trying to make other people's lives better - even if they make rude comments about her in public.
"Today, I am going to do this by telling you a story. A story that I have only shared with my wife and my daughter, Emma, who was with me," wrote Brent. "The same daughter that was told earlier today that she will soon start her 7th, yes 7th, round of chemotherapy for a brain tumor."
The trouble began when Brent and Emma left Union Oyster House, a restaurant in Boston, after dinner one night. As he was carrying his daughter - who can't walk without a walker - he was heckled by an intrusive stranger.
"When I crossed the street carrying her, she can't walk without the use of her walker," he explained. "A man yelled at me from 30 feet away: 'What the f*ck?' He yelled. 'Make her walk. That's what is wrong with kids today.'"
"Can I make myself feel better by screaming at him or can I teach him something about life?"
Although Brent was understandably furious, he decided to take the high road by calmly explaining Emma's situation to him, rather than flying off the handle.
"I had a choice to make at that time," said Brent. "Can I make myself feel better by screaming at him or can I teach him something about life? I won't lie to you and tell you that it was an easy choice but I got inches from his face, with my daughter in my arms, and quietly asked him if he was referring to my daughter. 'Hell yes' he said."
Then Brent gave the man some important details about Emma's condition - and what he had to say will bring tears to anyone's eyes:
I responded with "My daughter has been carrying my faith and my strength for the past five years since she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. She can't walk but I am happy to carry her because of all the amazing things she has taught me through the years. So I would advise you not address my daughter in any way other than respectful."
As you can imagine, the stranger in question immediately realized the error of his ways.
"I won't tell you the rest of the story but it ended with two grown men with tears rolling down their faces," said Brent. "One that needed to have his eyes opened to what real life and real love is and one that is always needing a reminder that good can come from any situation."
Although Brent was eager to set a good example for his daughter in the moment, he hopes his message will serve as a reminder for people to think before they judge others.
"You have the power to make people's days better or worse," he wrote. "What did you do today?? What will you do tomorrow??"
The Most Adorable Baby Clothes Are All on Sale at Nordstrom Right Now!
If you haven't heard by now, early access to Nordstrom's Anniversary Sale is in full swing. With deals on everything from stylish maternity clothes to necessary baby gear (even the popular Bugaboo stroller is deeply discounted!), it's a great time to stock up on baby clothes too. Whether you need a onesie because your newborn has already outgrown theirs, more cute sleepwear, or a sleepsack because you're about to stop unswaddling, check out the best of what's available right here. You'll need a Nordstrom card to shop early; otherwise, the sale opens up on July 20.
Related: There Are Some Major Deals Happening on Kids Clothes at Nordstrom
Chuck E. Cheese Just Announced a "Pay Your Age Day" in the Wake of the Build-A-Bear Slip Up
Has the Build-A-Bear news got your kiddos down? Chuck E. Cheese is here to help! The popular kids' hangout posted on its Facebook page that it would be offering a "Pay Your Age Day" on July 13 only.
The post reads: "Didn't get to Build A Bear? Come in on 7/13, pay your child's age, and they will get 30 minutes of All You Can Play. Offer available Friday, 7/13 only in participating US locations where Chuck E.'s Play Pass is available. (Maximum $9 for 30 minutes)."
The announcement was made within 24 hours of Build-A-Bear canceling its highly anticipated "Pay Your Age" sale that came to a screeching halt after stores across the US quickly became overcrowded - with some parents waiting up to five hours for a bear.
If your family isn't able to capitalize on the savings, no worries! Chuck E. Cheese also recently rolled out a new "All You Can Play" gaming model - which extends well-beyond July 13 - where parents finally get to ditch the tokens and opt for buying time slots instead. Hallelujah!
How Cute Are These Back-to-School Supplies?!
When you're gearing up to go back to school, you shouldn't have to sacrifice your style. Shopping for school supplies is actually really fun, and now there are so many cute notebooks, pens, and planners to buy! We've rounded up a few of our favorite cute school supplies that will let your personality shine through. Just keep reading to shop our picks!
This Insanely Discounted Crock-Pot Will Leave You Asking Yourself, "Is This Real Life?"
If you're still finding yourself sweating over the stove when you get home from work, trying to whip up dinner with your right hand while simultaneously entertaining your little ones with your left as though you were a one-man band, it's time to free up your hands and get yourself a slow cooker. Not only can you prep meals ahead of time, throw everything in, and set it on low for hours, but once you put the lid on, you can walk away and do other things with your time. Whether that's spending precious moments with the family or focusing on yourself, with a slow cooker, you don't have to stand tethered to the stove or oven. And if what was keeping you from getting one was the price, we have a huge surprise for you. Amazon just unveiled a huge deal on a Crock-Pot 6-Quart Cook & Carry ($19, originally $44) that's just too good to pass up.
Dreading Camping With Your Kids? 23 Things You Need to Make Roughing It Feel Pretty Nice
The idea of camping is often much nicer than the reality. You envision yourself in a peaceful setting, surrounded by nature, and connecting with yourself and your family. But unfortunately, leaving the comforts of home behind can make the experience less than enjoyable, especially if you're spending more than a few days in the wilderness. Rather than completely turning your back on camping and the chance to spend time with your kids, turn your tent game up a notch. With some fun, sometimes luxurious, additions to your usual camping gear, you won't have to sacrifice your own comfort, and you'll be giving your kids the camping experience they've waited all year for!
This Toddler Saved Her Dad's Life Using FaceTime - Thank God For Technology
Molly, a 3-year-old from Winchester, VA, knew her father, Trevor McCabe, was in trouble when he collapsed on the floor on July 4. Although Molly didn't quite understand that her dad was having a stroke, she still managed to use his iPhone to FaceTime her mom in hopes of getting help.
Devon McCabe was working at her nursing job at a nearby hospital and admits she initially missed her daughter's call. "I actually missed her first FaceTime call," she told The Winchester Star. Thankfully, Molly called her again 15 minutes later. "She was sobbing, crying, [saying], 'Look at Daddy, look at Daddy,'" adding that she "was immediately aware that something was wrong."
Without wasting another second, Devon alerted emergency services to her husband's condition. Once Trevor arrived to Winchester Medical Center - the same hospital Devon works in - it was determined that a blood clot traveled to a major artery in his brain, causing the stroke.
As for how little Molly knew how to FaceTime? That still remains a mystery - even for her mom.
"We FaceTime with her grandparents every other day, but I'm the one doing it," explained Devon. "The only thing I can think is that maybe she has seen me do it so many times that she remembered what to do. Five days later, it's still stunning to me that she was able to put it all together. There is no doubt that she saved her father's life. She was working really hard to get a hold [of] me."
To make matters even scarier, by all accounts, Trevor led a healthy life, so the blood clot was completely unexpected. He was flown to a nearby hospital to undergo emergency brain surgery.
Devon was later told that Trevor's particular type of stroke kills 85 percent of people - so her husband is one of the lucky ones. "The first few days I thought he was going to die," confessed Devon. "I was afraid to be optimistic."
Now, Trevor is recovering in critical care and has a long road ahead of him. However, his wife knows the situation could be far worse if it weren't for Molly's nimble fingers. "The only reason he's doing so well is because he was able to get intervention so quickly."
These Are the Wine Gadgets You Didn't Know You Needed
Honestly, hearing the sound of a cork pop is sometimes the best part of our evening. Whether you're partial to red or white, having a glass of wine is a relaxing way to cap off the day. There are so many gadgets available to make your wine-drinking experience a more cohesive one, and we're excited to stock up. Just keep reading to shop our picks!
16 Fun Beach Reads For Kids to Keep Them Nice and Cool in the Shade
Summer has to be the best time for reading. Curling up with a good book at the pool or sitting in the shade of a tree is one of those magical experiences that everyone should get, especially little kids. Sure, big kids have all the fun with their neat chapter books and assigned-reading lists, but babies, toddlers, and preschoolers need books, too. These 16 reads are the perfect way for young children to get excited about Summer. Each book featured is meant for 0- to 5-year-olds and will be an enchanting addition to their personal libraries.
Parents Let Their 5-Year-Old Write His Own Obituary Before Dying of Cancer - His Funeral Request Will Gut You
A 5-year-old boy lost his battle with cancer this week, but little Garrett Michael Matthias (aka "The Great Garrett Underpants") has managed to make those he left behind laugh through their tears with an obituary he composed himself.
"We really tried to use his words and the way that he talked," his mom, Emilie, told the Des Moines Register, adding that she and her husband, Ryan, compiled answers to questions they'd asked him as he received treatment for alveolar fusion negative rhabdomyosarcoma. "What I really didn't want was for his obituary to be ordinary and to have a really sad funeral."
Neither did Garrett. In the obituary, Garrett noted that "funerals are sad" and that instead, "I want five bouncy houses (because I'm 5), Batman, and snow cones." He also said that he wanted to be "burned (like when Thor's mommy died) and made into a tree so I can live in it when I'm a gorilla."
"I want five bouncy houses (because I'm 5), Batman, and snow cones."
Emilie and Ryan plan to honor their son's wishes, even down to the symbolic "Asgardian" burial ceremony of Marvel fame.
Within the obituary, his parents noted, "A private burial of Garrett's ashes will be held at a later time once his parents figure out how the hell to get his ashes made into a tree and locate a nature preserve, so his tree resides in a protected area."
The moving obituary also included Garrett's likes (thrash metal, playing with his sister, and Legos) and dislikes, namely "dirty, stupid cancer" and needles. He even revealed his posthumous plan to "be a gorilla and throw poo at Daddy!"
But before readers got too tearful over this young boy's autobiography, he signed off in a way that surely left friends and family laughing: "See ya later, suckas!"
Read the full obituary here, and consider donating to the family's GoFundMe page.
Build-a-Bear CEO Apologizes For "Pay Your Age Day" Chaos - and Offers a Silver Lining
It was an epic marketing fail: on Monday, no one could say enough amazing things about Build-A-Bear, which was poised to offer an epic "Pay Your Age" deal that had parents racing to their nearest mall to claim a deeply discounted stuffed animal. By Friday, the company has become engulfed in a PR nightmare, with angry customers - and disappointed children - demanding answers.
In an interview on Today, Build-A-Bear's CEO, Sharon Price John, did her best to explain what caused the company to shut down its one-day promotion - which drew such a massive response that some shoppers reported waiting in line for nine hours - due to "crowd safety concerns" at stores across the US and in Canada and England.
"It was beyond anything we could've ever imagined. I am sorry that we were not able to provide the service that we wanted."
"There was no way for us to have estimated the kind of impact, those kind of crowds," she said. "It far surpassed anything we ever could've known. We did see it wind up on social [media], and we did put a notice out for people that we thought the lines could be long, and we worked with the malls, but it was beyond anything we could've ever imagined."
She acknowledged that they were "fully stocked" and "fully staffed," but if she could do it over?
"If there was a way to extend the day to just make sure that we service everyone, I would've loved to have seen everyone be able to get a bear," she said. "But it was the sheer amount of crowds and how much time we had in the day . . . we couldn't possibly move everyone through the process."
For those who didn't get to take advantage of the deal, John said the promotion will continue in the form of a $15 voucher. The company apparently distributed them to those customers who were turned away, but anyone who joins Build-A-Bear's rewards program can log into their account or go to a store to pick one up. That voucher will be valid through the end of August so shoppers can come in at their leisure. Plus, ongoing, stores will allow shoppers to still pay their age on a "birthday treat bear" during their birthday month.
"I am sorry that we were not able to provide the service that we wanted," she said.
Although her apology is certainly appreciated, is it really her fault? Could the company have truly expected such an unprecedented turnout for a promotion of stuffed bears, which retail for, at most, $35? Build-A-Bear had hoped to bring a little extra happiness to children with a well-meaning idea, and although the "road to hell is filled with good intentions," is it possible that we all could have managed our expectations a bit better? That we could have seen this kind of chaos coming as much as they could have?
The CEO said that as a mom of three herself, she knows "that the most disappointing moment is when a kid is superexcited and something doesn't happen." It's truly a shame that thousands of children had their hearts set on a toy and didn't get it, but perhaps that's an opportunity for parents - a teachable moment and a valuable lifelong lesson we can all learn. That's at least worth the cost of a stuffed bear, no?
5 of the Absolute Best Sunscreen Sticks For Kids
Ah, summertime. The kids are having a blast swimming in the pool, building a sand castle at the beach, and flagging down the ice cream truck for a sweet treat. While all of these fun activities are different, they do have one thing in common: they're under the sun's scorching rays. And one great way to protect your child's skin from the sun is to apply sunscreen.
According to the American Pediatric Association, the sunscreen must have an SPF of at least 15. And while you may automatically grab the sunscreen lotion off the shelf at the store, you may want to consider switching to sunscreen sticks. They've been growing in popularity lately, and it's no wonder why - they're easy, not as runny or messy, don't run when mixed with water, and don't drip into your kids' eyes. If this sounds like something you need (and it definitely is), keep reading for the top five sunscreen sticks for kids (all of which have an SPF well over 15).
Target's New College Collection Is So Good, It'll Make You Ask, "Am I Too Old to Go Back to School?"
When we were in college, shopping for back to school was, well, let's just say it was a little uninspiring. Sure, there were fuzzy blacklight posters and stackable wire cube shelves that you could showcase your creative prowess with by building them out either horizontally or vertically (the options really were endless!), but any imagination you did have was immediately eclipsed by all of the dreary wood furniture the school dumped in your room. And even if you managed to procure something like a whimsical throw pillow, everyone in your hall probably had it too, ripping you of your talent. Shopping for back to school now, however, is like a gift from the decor deities.
We just had an exclusive first look at catalog images from Target's 2018 Back to College collection, and it's basically making us ooze with jealousy. It's rife with whimsical color - think macramé, pom-poms, and tassels - and fun graphics. There's a novelty cacti print that we're already sold on. As adults.
Just announced this morning on the brand's blog is a thorough description of the collection, which includes Target-owned brands like Room Essentials, Opalhouse, Project 62, and Heyday. Dedicated to helping students find everything they need, the retailer wanted to make it super easy for people to shop this season. "With our curated mix of Target-exclusive must-haves and national brands, guests are sure to find everything they need to start the school year feeling confident and prepared," said Mark Tritton, executive vice president and chief merchandising officer at Target. "And we're making the shopping experience easier than ever, with fast, convenient ways to help families shop on their terms, from new College Order Pickup and 360-degree shoppable dorm rooms on Target.com to School List Assist and more."
The collection is currently available to shop in stores and on Target.com.
This Mom's Rant About the "Itsy-Bitsy" Shorts For Girls at Target Will Have You Clapping in Agreement
Carolyn Moore, a mother and writer at Assignment: Mom, took the time to get real about the struggle that is trying to find her 9-year-old daughter a decent pair of shorts. And while she's the first person to dub Target her happy place, she admits that their selection of shorts leaves a lot to be desired. Carolyn detailed her frustration in a Facebook post, and by the looks of the comments section, dozens of other parents share the same sentiment.
"Dear Target, You know I love you . . . but we need to talk about tween girls for a minute. More specifically, we need to talk about what you're offering them in the athletic wear department these days. It's ridiculous."
She explained that the unbelievably small shorts on display aren't going to cut it for her active kiddo.
"I have an almost-10-year-old daughter who, next week, is going to basketball camp. As they do, my tween is growing like a weed - which means she's outgrown her old pairs of more 'little kid' feeling shorts," she wrote. "No problem, I thought. I'll grab her a new pair at Target while I'm picking up the eleventy billion other things this family needs to function. You know what I found instead? Teeny-tiny, itsy-bitsy, way-too-short shorts. That's it."
"Where are the mid-length shorts? The approaching-knee-length shorts? The shorts that don't require built-in underwear she'd undoubtedly find uncomfortable?"
While Carolyn certainly gets the concept of shorts, she's not exactly sure why it has to be all or nothing in the length department.
"I get that shorts are, by definition, short. But where are the mid-length shorts? The approaching-knee-length shorts? The shorts that don't require built-in underwear she'd undoubtedly find uncomfortable? The options girls my daughter's age have seem to be limited to these or skin-tight leggings (which she cannot stand)."
Carolyn adds that even though she's OK with her daughter showing a little leg every now and again, it doesn't have to go to extremes.
"I don't fancy myself a prude, but neither do I take the responsibility to teach my daughters about modesty and appropriate dress lightly," she said. "We live in a culture sexualized enough as it is; I wish I could go shopping for my tween and not have to worry about her backside or her underwear showing in a pair of athletic shorts."
Carolyn also explained that she already scoured the women's section for a pair or two, but unfortunately, there weren't any solid options there, either. So what's her only saving grace? The boy's department.
"I'm raising three daughters, so I feel well-qualified in saying this about girls: they are fierce and strong and 100 percent deserving of athletic wear that underscores exactly that. Until I can find that on the racks of your girl's department, I'll be shopping for shorts for my disappointed tween daughter in the boy's section. In the meantime, consider the challenge issued: it's time to do better by our tween girls."
The First Thing I Did After Giving Birth Was Not What I Expected, but OMG, Was It Amazing
After women endure the marathon of labor and delivery, some of us tend to do some unusual things. Whether it's checking our phones, taking a long, hot shower, going right to sleep, or doing our hair and makeup to feel somewhat human again, no ask is weird or bad. We did just perform a miracle, for crying out loud, so whatever it is we choose to do, get us a break. For me, after I labored for two straight days, all I wanted to do was eat . . . a LOT.
Shouldn't hospitals have indulgent, five-star meals for women who just pushed a human out of their vaginas? Didn't I deserve the best?
The labor of my daughter seemed to never end. I remember my midwife telling me, "Angela, no one has been pregnant forever." I didn't believe her. I pushed for three-and-a-half hours until I finally had my beautiful baby girl laying on my chest. We sat together in euphoria, me stroking her thick black hair. And after those first glorious moments of bonding, the nurses stitched and cleaned my daughter and I up. Once things finally quieted down in the room, my nurse asked me, "Can I get you something to eat?" To be honest, eating hadn't even occurred to me. I had a terrible case of dry-heaving during labor, and now I was so distracted by what I had just created that food was pushed to the back of my mind. But when I finally thought about it (and realized how freakin' hungry I actually was), the heavens opened and a light shined down on my nurse. She was my actual angel.
"Hell, yes," I said. My daughter was born at 3:30 a.m., so the downstairs cafeteria and restaurants weren't open. "Because it's the middle of the night, all we have are some sub sandwiches in our refrigerator. How does that sound?" she asked. "Sounds like perfection," I told her.
Honestly, the turkey sandwich and small bag of potato chips she brought me soon after didn't look that great, and I'll admit I was a little disappointed. Shouldn't hospitals have indulgent, five-star meals for women who just pushed a human out of their vaginas? Didn't I deserve the best? But I quickly realized that no, there was no after-labor prize meal. But I graciously accepted the food and inhaled it in about 20 seconds. Despite not looking like anything special, it was the most delicious sandwich and bag of chips I'd ever had. But I was still hungry. I mean, I hadn't eaten in days.
"Um, can I have another one?" I asked. The nurse laughed and said, "Absolutely!" She strolled in and brought me another sandwich and bag of chips, and again, I devoured it like a ravenous lion. And you better believe I didn't even leave one potato chip crumb for my likely starving husband (sorry, babe).
I pretty much pigged out in the hours after my daughter was born, so I certainly don't judge other mothers for whatever it is they choose to do after delivery. You're tired, happy, sore, and so many other things all rolled into one, so if you want to eat a feast of mediocre hospital sandwiches or look at social media, you do you, mama. You deserve it all.
CDC Issues Warning About Kellogg's Honey Smacks: "Do Not Eat This Cereal"
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has released a statement about popular Kellogg's cereal Honey Smacks that has been linked to a serious salmonella outbreak, and parents will want to check their pantries as soon as possible.
On Thursday, the CDC tweeted, "Do not eat this cereal" after it was confirmed that 100 people were infected in 33 states. At least 30 of those people have been hospitalized. The agency found salmonella in samples of the sweetened puffed wheat cereal, which has been subject to a voluntary recall by Kellogg since mid-June.
OUTBREAK Update: 100 Salmonella infections in 33 states linked to Kellogg's Honey Smacks cereal. Do not eat this cereal. https://t.co/G5WyEiWp5A pic.twitter.com/Fa8EF3izUu
- CDC (@CDCgov) July 12, 2018
Regardless of the cereal box's expiration date, the government agency implores parents to throw it away or return it to a retailer for a refund.
The CDC also warns that salmonella infection often involves the development of a fever, cramps, or diarrhea within 12 to 72 hours of being exposed to the bacteria, and it can last up to seven days. Although most healthy individuals recover without intervention, infants and those with weakened immune systems are at a heightened risk of serious complications.
This Dad's Reaction When He Sees His Baby Being Born Is Why Most Men Don't Dare Look
There's a reason many men opt out of watching their baby actually come out of their partner's body, and one new dad's facial expression upon watching the mother of his child push a human out of her vagina is that reason.
"This is what happens when you see your baby's head pop out."
When Tiarra Kemp was in labor, her partner Steven Mason was as active a participant as can be expected when the mother is essentially doing all the work. Once it came time for her to push, Steven grabbed a leg to help support her. He also got a front-row seat to the action, and miraculously, someone snapped a photo of his expression the moment he saw the baby's head emerge.
"This is what happens when you see your baby's head pop out," he wrote in a Facebook post alongside the priceless image of his wide eyed, dare-we-say horrified reaction. "When I tell you I was stuck, here's the picture to prove it."
The photo, which has been shared nearly 33,000 times, is hilarious and will likely serve as a cautionary tale to other men in the delivery room.
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Chuck E. Cheese's New "All You Can Play" Option Is an Early Christmas Gift to Parents
Ask a parent, and they'll agree that one of the most frustrating aspects of taking kids to Chuck E. Cheese's is the tokens. You shell out for 150-odd coins, and either your kid uses them all up in a matter of minutes playing some pricey game or you leave four hours later with a good $40 in unused, nonrefundable tokens clanging around in your pocket.
Good news, folks: Chuck E. Cheese's has just launched a more affordable, first-of-its-kind "All You Can Play" gaming model in which you can buy time instead of tokens, or play points. And it works on every single game any day of the week.
This is a huge step up from the current token system - which is still available if you, for some reason, prefer it. Traditionally, games require varying amounts of tokens to play, and they range in price from 20 cents each for 150 tokens or 25 cents each for 40. Doing the math to figure out how many to buy at the best value is next to impossible.
Yet starting at just $9 for 30 minutes, parents no longer have to worry about running out of tokens or emptying their pockets to buy more. Plus, they get the certainty that comes with being able to plan how long the family experience will last. (Translation: you won't have to cut your afternoon activity short because your kids used up their tokens too soon.)
Perhaps the coolest feature of the "All You Can Play" program? Users can also "pause" their time up to two instances for meal time - that pizza is worth it! - or those drawn-out restroom breaks.
"All You Can Play provides a rewarding way to infuse more play into everyday by limiting the restrictions caused by budgets and busy schedules," Ashley Zickefoose, the chief marketing officer of CEC Entertainment, told POPSUGAR in a statement. "At Chuck E. Cheese's, we believe in the power of play."
This Couple Is Considering Getting Divorced Just to Pay Their Daughter's Medical Bills
When Maria and Jake Grey, a couple from Sanger, TX, took their wedding vows nine years ago, they meant it when they said til death do us part. But their troubles began when their 6-year-old daughter, Brighton, got diagnosed with a rare chromosomal disorder, Wolf-Hirschhorn Syndrome, at birth. Despite having private insurance, the Greys still pay about $15,000 out of pocket annually for Brighton's healthcare costs - which is why they're considering getting divorced.
Jake, an army veteran and father of two, told ABC affiliate, WFAA, that he can no longer afford to put more than 30 percent of his $40,000 salary toward his daughter's medical bills. Now, divorce seems like the most plausible option for the couple.
"We've just struggled and struggled with it, and I don't know, I guess now we've gotten to the point where we feel it's a real possibility," he said.
Because of Brighton's diagnosis, she will likely need full-time care for the rest of her life. According to WFAA, she has "hearing and vision impairment, seizures, heart and kidney problems, and more," so the fact that Jake's salary makes him unable to qualify for Medicaid leaves the family with very few options.
"I feel like what's happening to us is morally wrong."
As a single, unemployed mother of two on paper, Maria would be able to get Brighton the care she needs and qualify for Medicaid - though Jake doesn't feel good about that choice.
"It's morally wrong, I feel like, and I think it's conflicting for me too because I feel like what's happening to us is morally wrong," said Jake.
But when push comes to shove, the Greys will do anything for their daughter to have a decent quality of life.
"We promised to each other and to her that we'd do whatever we could do to make her life, however long she's going to be with us, as good as possible," said Maria.
The Greys don't wish their situation on anyone and are still hoping for another solution to come their way.
"For someone to kind of make you choose between your marriage and your child is just - it's just a really weird spot to be in," Jake said, adding that, "I can't imagine going through what we've been through with anybody else."
There Are Some Major Deals Happening on Kids Clothes at Nordstrom
If you're trying to get ahead of back-to-school shopping while also taking advantage of this year's massive Nordstrom Anniversary Sale (which you can shop as early as today if you have a Nordstrom card), then you've come to the right place. We went ahead and did the hard work for you, and pulled out some classic, long-lasting pieces that your young one will get good use out of.
The First Thing I Did After Giving Birth Was Totally About Me, and I'd Do It Again
You may have heard rumblings about a mom blogger named Constance Hall who was shamed for staring at her phone instead of her baby right after giving birth. No judgment here, but her story got me thinking about exactly what I did after giving birth to my son a few weeks ago. And I realized it was actually quite selfish, but I wouldn't take it back for one second.
So the very first thing I did after I gave birth was adore my baby. But a few minutes later, I wanted to shower. No, I needed to shower.
You see, during labor, I sweated like I'd been trekking across the desert in a snowsuit. Also, TMI alert, but I pooped on myself during birth. And bled a lot. Then there was the added joy of my new baby having his first poop on my belly. All of this to justify that I was in such desperate need of a shower, it was literally all I could think about. Other than how cute my baby was, obviously.
"I fantasized about showering bodily fluids off of my person. The warm water. The suds. I had to get in the shower ASAP."
It was about a minute after my doctor left the delivery room when I turned to my labor nurse and asked her if I could shower yet. She laughed and said I'd need to wait at least an hour before I got up. OK. Longest hour of my life. While I cuddled with my son and listened to my husband read out responses to his group text announcing the birth, I fantasized about showering bodily fluids off of my person. The warm water. The suds. I had to get in the shower ASAP.
Once my nurse gave me the green light, I couldn't hand my son over to the hubs and hightail it to the bathroom fast enough. I stripped off my blood-covered hospital gown right in front of the nurse like she wasn't even there. Modesty was out the window when I got under the water stream and let out an orgasmic sound. A few minutes in the shower, and I was a new woman! Then I took my damn time applying lotion and detangling my hair. After the nurse helped me put on those awful half-pantyhose things and a maxi pad the size of a couch cushion.
Look, maybe I shouldn't have cared how I looked, sweaty hair and all, after giving birth. But I cared. I also wanted to not smell. Sure, my shower took some time away from bonding with my newborn. I'd like to think he was pleasantly surprised when his mommy came back to bed fresh and clean. He probably didn't care; I mean, he sits around in a dirty diaper and doesn't even seem to notice. So in all honesty, the shower was for me and me alone, but I would never change having taken that time because spoiler alert: now that we are home, me time is nonexistent, and showers are even harder to come by!
No Shocker Here: Build-a-Bear's "Pay Your Age Day" Was an Absolute Frenzy - See the Photos!
It looks like Build-a-Bear may have bit off a tad more stuffing than it could chew. On July 12, the toy retailer hosted (or rather, attempted to host) its first-ever "Pay Your Age Day," and - *spoiler alert* - it caused an absolute frenzy. The lines were up to seven hours long in some locations, and ultimately, Build-a-Bear had no choice but to end the one-day-only deal early due to the "extreme crowds and safety concerns."
Needless to say, social media was completely flooded with evidence of the chaos. Some disgruntled parents shared photos of the endless lines and expressed their grief over the failed promotion, while others, who dodged the bullet and skipped "Pay Your Age Day," simply sat back and tweeted about how it was a disaster waiting to happen. Ahead, check out a sampling of behind-the-scenes footage from jam-packed Build-a-Bears across the US and UK, and you'll likely be left wondering, "Sheesh, who knew people were willing to go such great lengths just for a flippin' discounted stuffed animal?"
8 Reasons Every Parent Needs to See Eighth Grade With Their Tweens and Teens
It's pretty rare to find a movie that will genuinely entertain both kids and parents alike. Sure, most moms and dads love the latest heartfelt Disney flick as much as the next kid, but finding a serious, nonanimated film that both parties can relate to? That's an entirely different story altogether.
But Bo Burnham's superbuzzy first feature film debut is the exception to the rule. Eighth Grade, a dramedy that follows Kayla Day (Elsie Fisher) through her last week of eighth grade, hits on everything from how hard it is to make friends to what it's like raising a daughter as a single father. Pair that story arc with a memorable soundtrack and characters you just want to hug, and you have a recipe for success.
The movie, which first appeared at the Sundance Film Festival, kicks off by introducing viewers to 13-year-old Kayla Day through a deadpan camera angle. From there, we get a bird's eye view of a week in the life of a quiet girl with big dreams for her high school career.
And although you may initially think a teen's crush on the popular kid at school or her love-hate relationship with her dad is nothing to write home about, Eighth Grade puts a refreshing and relatable spin on the challenges anyone who's survived puberty has experienced - and that your tween will soon go through themselves.
Eighth Grade hits limited theaters on July 13 in the US, and full-disclosure: you're probably going to want to buy tickets ASAP. And if you still need a few more reasons to see one of A24's latest projects (the company that brought you Moonlight and Lady Bird!), take a peek at the highlights below.
1. Your kids will be able to see themselves in Kayla, regardless of their gender.
From the outside, Kayla Day is just your average eighth grader who's trying to get through another day, but kids will be able to totally relate to her wavering self-confidence and her determination to stand out for all the right reasons. Parents will love her challenging journey toward self-improvement: she's desperate to shake her shy reputation and really pushes herself out of her comfort zone in an effort to make more friends. The bottom line is that Kayla's social struggles are universal to the teenage experience - and that makes her an especially captivating character.
2. It will transport you back to your most self-conscious teenage moments - and that's OK.
From the opening credits, viewers are immediately bombarded with an awkward monologue that screams "teenager." But oddly enough, there's something poetic about the hundreds of times Kayla utters "like" to get her point across. And anyone who's ever struggled to make friends will identify with her bashful attempts to chat with the popular girls at school, often to no avail. Will you cringe as a parent during these moments? Yes. But your kid will definitely feel less alone watching Kayla regularly navigate social settings she feels less-than-comfortable in, something they're likely familiar with.
3. You see just how much kids rely on their phones, and frankly, it's a little scary to witness, but valuable in understanding your own child's tech habits.
One of the biggest themes of the movie was just how much time every single character spent on their phone. In fact, it was rare to see Kayla without her phone in her hands. Whether Kayla was texting, listening to music during dinner, or scrolling through her Instagram feed, the movie alarmingly illustrated how most tweens use their phones as crutches in uncomfortable social situations and how much they're missing out on in the process. What's more? We also witness firsthand all of the issues courtesy of growing up the digital age, like underage kids sending naked photos to each other - bringing up topics you can address with your kids using the film as a reference.
4. It normalizes that fact that every person on earth has body image issues at some point.
Kayla's insecurities about her own body ripple through the movie, but painting a candid picture of them makes the film refreshing. Like most girls her age, Kayla is experimenting with makeup and isn't exactly jumping for joy when she has to sport a bathing suit at a pool party. But who can blame her? We've all been there, and unfortunately, your tweens might be starting to feel a similar way due to societal pressures to look a certain way.
5. The soundtrack is amazing and totally adds to the movie-watching experience.
Getting a hard blast of EDM music in the first few minutes will definitely catch you off guard, but as the movie goes on, the soundtrack proves totally fitting. Remember what it was like laying eyes on your middle school crush in the hallway? You're going to wish this spot-on soundtrack was around to play in your head during those very moments.
6. It will make you realize just how intense active shooter drills have become for our kids' generation.
Eighth Grade strives to give the audience an accurate depiction of what it's like to be a teen in the US, and in this day in age, that includes disturbingly lifelike active shooter drills. If you haven't experienced one of these simulations firsthand, you'll definitely be taken aback at how true-to-life they are - from a man entering the building dressed in all black and with an automatic weapon in hand to the fake blood.
7. Parents with older kids will completely relate to Josh Hamilton's character.
Kayla's dad, Mark (Josh Hamilton), and his portrayal of a single dad struggling to understand his tween daughter will resonate with anyone who's dealt with teenagers. Throughout the film, you'll see Mark trying to connect with Kayla over meals and in car rides, but like many girls her age, Kayla is generally agitated by any and all words her father utters. Mark and Kayla's relationship is hilariously honest and shows how important it is for parents to try to reach out to their kids when it seems like they've totally shut down. After all, teenagers tend to open up at the most unlikely times.
8. There's a near-sexual encounter that will make your stomach sink but will open up the line of communication between you and your tween to talk about sex.
Sure, budding romantic relationships are an important part of teenage development. But unfortunately, sometimes so is peer pressure that may or may not involve the back of an older kid's car. If you've ever been in a similar situation or, God forbid, your own kid has, you won't be able to stop cringing until the scene is over. Although it's painful to watch, there are takeaways for both kids and parents alike (check out our handy guide to talking about sex with your kid at any age if you want to prep before seeing the film together).
PetSmart Is Handing Out Free Ice Cream to Pups This Weekend and We're Basically Screaming
Whether you have your own little fur baby or find yourself lurking at city dog parks dreaming of the day when you can bring home your very own Frenchie, you're going to want to sprint to PetSmart this weekend. In honor of National Ice Cream Day, the chain is serving up free, dog-friendly ice cream at its PetSmart PetsHotel locations across North America.
All day during store hours on July 14 and July 15, dogs will get to indulge in a four-ounce complimentary serving of dog-safe ice cream. And if you don't have any idea about how pleasing it is to witness dogs intensely using their snouts and tongues to eat ice cream, let these adorable photos convince you.
Hey, Mamas - Shop These Cute Maternity Pieces at Nordstrom's Anniversary Sale
If you're a proud Nordstrom card carrier and have circled today on your calendar as a big shopping day, then consider yourself a smart consumer, because the Anniversary Sale kicked off this morning and it's overflowing with cute maternity wear. While the sale doesn't officially start until July 20, you can start making purchases now if you have a Nordstrom card! So whether you have a growing bump or are at the tail end of pregnancy and thinking about grabbing a few versatile nursing pieces, we went ahead and rounded up the best items for mamas-to-be. It's all so good!
22 Lunchboxes That Will Actually Get Your Kids Excited to Go Back to School
For both children and parents, going back to school in the Fall can be bittersweet. After months of trying to keep your kids occupied and entertained, it's nice for parents to get back into a routine, but it can be hard to say goodbye. And after a Summer full of adventures, your children will be looking forward to getting back to friends they haven't seen since the school year ended . . . but may not be all that interested in the actual school part. If your children are less than excited about the prospect of getting back to the daily grind, there are ways to cushion the blow short of full-on bribing them. Having school supplies that look cool and are tough enough to last all year will surely satisfy both of you, and these lunchboxes will help get the year started on the right foot.
If You're in Line For a "Pay Your Age" Build-a-Bear, We Have Some VERY Bad News For You
If you have been patiently (or not-so-patiently) standing in line outside your local Build-a-Bear Workshop, anxiously awaiting your opportunity to snag a supercheap stuffed animal thanks to the store's first-ever, one-day-only "Pay Your Age" event, we applaud your dedication. But, we've got some bad news for you.
In a statement released by Build-a-Bear in the early afternoon of July 12, the retailer announced it can no longer accept any additional shoppers:
"The response to our 'Pay Your Age Day' event has been overwhelming and unprecedented in our 21-year history, and the safety of our guests and associates is our top priority. The crowds have greatly exceeded our expectations and, per local authorities, U.S. stores cannot accept any additional guests for this event and are limiting lines due to extreme crowds and safety concerns. We understand our affected guests may be disappointed, and we are working to address the situation. We will reach out directly to our valued guests as soon as possible."
So, aside from getting on the next flight to Canada, where Build-a-Bear stores are also running the deal, it seems that those hoping to snag their 5-year-old kiddos a $5 plush toy will have to pack it in and wait to see just how the company plans to "address the situation."
WHOA - These Popular Baby Products Are All on Sale at Nordstrom Right Now
If you consider yourself a shopping professional, then you likely think about the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale as the Oscars of the consumer world . . . your big moment to puff your chest and showcase the discount skills you really have. This year, if you have a Nordstrom card, you can get ahead of the game and start shopping the big Anniversary Sale eight whole days before everyone else. Since it's a bit overwhelming even for an expert like yourself, we went ahead and rounded up the best baby products that are currently on sale. From play mats to strollers and everything in between, it's all right here.
I Regret Giving My Kid a Unique Name
When I was pregnant with my baby girl, I didn't look through any baby name books or search online for baby name inspiration. I knew well before I was even pregnant that if I had a daughter someday, I would give her the most beautiful name I had ever heard: Giuliana (Pronounced "Joo-lee-ah-nah").
My family is Italian, and we are very proud of our heritage. I could have spelled my daughter's name the American way (Juliana), but it was important to me to give my daughter a proper Italian name. My mom did the same for me. Instead of spelling my name the American way (Christina), she gave me the Italian spelling (Cristina). So I suppose it's a family tradition.
Of course, I didn't account for many people not being able to pronounce my daughter's name correctly (you'd be surprised at how often this happens). At doctor appointments, it's very common to hear the nurse call out "Gweelyana." It makes me cringe! Teachers have also done it when reading the roster on the first day of school. This always produces giggles and name teasing from my daughter's classmates, making her feel embarrassed and ashamed about her name. And that's the thing that breaks my heart: she didn't ask for this. It was my choice, and when she comes home upset from school, I ask myself if I chose wrong.
And when we're at places like malls and amusement parks, my daughter is never able to pick out a keychain or bracelet with her name on it like her friends are easily able to do. This, of course, makes my daughter feel left out. Any items like that need to be customized and cost a lot more money than the premade ones. It also takes longer to get the item, and we all know how great children are at waiting.
Hopefully, my daughter will grow up to appreciate her unique name and be proud of her Italian heritage, just like I am. I hope my daughter knows how much I've loved her name all my life and how she fulfilled my dream of having a beautiful and amazing daughter named Giuliana.
How a 16-Year-Old Note in a Man's Wallet Helped Save His Marriage
Nicole Johnson, a mom and writer at Suburban Shit Show: Tales from the Tree-Lined Trenches, knows that every marriage has its ups and downs. In a recent Facebook post, she shared how discovering a simple piece of paper in her husband's wallet from 16 years prior reminded her that even the worst days are completely worth it.
"My husband has kept this number with him since the night we met 16 years ago," wrote Nicole. "It sits in his wallet - with all the other receipts. I would attribute it to laziness, but he (unlike me) cleans his wallet out often."
When Nicole first saw the scrap of paper, she couldn't deny how romantic it was.
"For some reason, he has held onto this piece of our history," she said. "The first time I found it, I knew that no matter how far we've moved away from the first days of new love, how far we journeyed from our beginnings, how far from romance, date nights, us - this is still there. This piece of who we were and where we started remains with him. He carries us around wherever he goes."
"It won't keep our marriage going. But it's a reminder and it's a help."
Nicole opened up about how 16 years can bring about a boatload of life changes, but clearly, her husband's love for her never wavered even though they've recently hit a rough patch.
"We haven't had the easiest time lately. I've been very open about that. But I also want to share this - we are trying," she confessed. "We've talked. We've worked. We will keep working. Because it's work. It's kids. It's baggage. It's anger. It's love. It's all of the stuff that life is. And that shit is hard."
And sometimes when you're really in the thick of a row with your partner, it's helpful to go back to the early stages of your relationship to figure out why you fell in love in the first place.
"And when it gets hard, like really hard - the sort where it seems easier to walk away than to stay - look for those things in your beginning," she wrote. "For us, this old receipt tape, worn and battered, is ours. It won't do the work. It won't keep our marriage going. But it's a reminder and it's a help."
Nicole signed off by urging other struggling couples to go back to the beginning, just like she did.
"So if your marriage is in a rough patch, look for your beginning - that place where your US started - before the kids and mortgage and start there. Good luck. I'm rooting for all of us!"
After Her Baby Dies of Meningitis, Mom Issues Impassioned Plea to All Parents
Alex Dempsey and her fiancé Gabriel Schultz, a couple from Chesterfield, VA, are mourning the loss of their 4-month-old son, Killy Schultz, after he tragically passed away from meningitis on June 30 within 24 hours of his first symptom. Now, Alex is doing her best to warn others about meningitis and the importance of getting vaccinated regardless of your age.
According to his mom, Killy's symptoms appeared totally out of the blue. "He had just eaten his bottle for the afternoon," she told CBS affiliate WTVR. "He was a little warm but we figured it was a warm day so [we] get him home and let him cool off."
Alex decided to give her son some Tylenol, and when that didn't bring his temperature down, she took him to the emergency room at St. Mary's Hospital. After being admitted to the pediatric intensive care unit, Killy's condition worsened by the hour.
"He was still trying to make little sounds, but he had a hard time opening his eyes and his blood pressure was very low," said Alex. "He wasn't doing well at all."
Coincidentally just two days after getting his 4-month-old vaccinations, doctors confirmed that Killy had contracted meningitis - a deadly disease where the brain and spinal cord membranes become inflamed usually due to an infection - and would likely not survive.
"The moment they said meningitis I knew there was a really strong possibility that we were gonna lose him," said Alex. "They told us we were going to hit the window if he was going to make it or not but being he was only 4 months old he didn't really have an immune system to help us with that."
"We want people to be aware that vaccinations can prevent things like this."
Soon, Killy's heart rate began to drop and his parents knew that the end was near.
"They started to do CPR, and after 10 minutes of CPR, you don't come back from that, so we had to tell them to stop," explained Alex.
After speaking with medical experts in Virginia, the grieving parents learned Killy most likely contracted the disease from a person who wasn't vaccinated.
"Health officials we've spoken to who have been trying to track this down, that's just their best guess that an unvaccinated person was carrying it around and my child happened to be the one who came in contact with it," said Alex.
At the end of the day, Alex doesn't want anyone to go through the same thing she did. Now, she's begging others to get vaccinated.
"If anything comes out of this, we want people to be aware that vaccinations can prevent things like this," she said. "Vaccines aren't just for kids, they're for adults too. He was just a baby, so he really didn't have much of a chance."
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends that kids should receive the meningococcal vaccination at 11 or 12 years old and get a booster shot at age 16.
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