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lundi 10 septembre 2018

Your Costco Membership Just Paid For Itself! You Can Pick Up These 13 Keto Snacks There

We all know Costco is the place to go for 48-count rolls of toilet paper and vodka ice pops, but the superstore can also keep you stocked up on all your keto diet necessities.

Before heading to the store, you might need a little keto refresher on all the foods you can and cannot eat (and a few tips for dealing with the dreaded keto flu), but don't worry about your list of snacks to buy. Load up the car and head to the nearest Costco so you can get these 13 healthy picks.

In Defense of Reading Spoilers Religiously

By bolhaw 16:46 Celebrity No comments

Spoiler alert: This article will have spoilers for shows and movies that you should have already seen by now, so get over it.

I've never seen Citizen Kane, but I know exactly what "rosebud" means; I knew Bruce Willis was dead the whole time I was watching The Sixth Sense; and I was mentally and emotionally prepared for the Red Wedding long before Catelyn Stark's throat was slit on Game of Thrones. Final confession: I frequently flip to the last page of a book to read the ending. I hate surprises.

I religiously seek out spoilers and have since I was a kid. No, I'm not the jerk who posts things on Facebook and ruins your favorite show for you. I do, however, firmly believe that reading spoilers can enhance our viewing and reading experiences tenfold. Don't believe me? There's a method to my so-called madness.

Have you ever found yourself not able to focus on the details of a TV show, movie, or book because you're too caught up in the bottom line? Have you missed artful subtleties (arguably the best part of it all) because you just had to know if your favorite character was going to live or die - and that's all you could focus on?

Spoiling the plot by no means ruins the beauty of the work, as long as there is beauty beyond the "bottom line."

I don't miss a damn thing. Why? Because I already know the answer to the bigger questions and usually way before all those spoiler-averse fans out there. In knowing the end game by actively seeking out the major plot points, you're able to admire and enjoy the wonderful intricacies of the art with more attention. You can dissect the clues you would have missed if you didn't know to be looking out for them. Sure, you can always go back and rewatch or reread the story, but I'm already two steps ahead of you by then and on to the next spoiler.

More importantly, if you're watching or reading something that's entirely plot-driven, is it worth investing your time in anyway? A truly good work should have layers to it so that even if you strip away one aspect, such as the element of surprise, there's still so much more to be explored. Stories that only focus on plot twists to move the narrative along are rarely worth getting sad about being spoiled on. Spoiling the plot by no means ruins the beauty of the work, as long as there is beauty beyond the "bottom line."

For me, the path characters take to get to those big moments is where the true artistry lies and what I take the most interest in. Reading about those moments doesn't spoil anything for me; it only makes me more excited to see how the person develops in the way that leads them there.

A study by UC San Diego psychology Professor Nicholas Christenfeld supports my claims; it found that spoilers can actually make a story more enjoyable. Christenfeld's research showed that having extra information about artworks can make them "more satisfying," as can the predictability of an experience; for example, the more you go to Disneyland, the more memories you make there and the more you love it. You know what to expect, and you like that.

In Christenfeld's initial experiment, two groups read three short mystery stories. One group was "accidentally" spoiled on the endings, the other was not. "Across all three genres spoilers actually were enhancers," said Christenfeld. When he tried a variation of the experiment, spilling the beans on the story in the middle of it rather than at the beginning, the results were the same. "It turns out even halfway through a story, you enjoy a spoiled story more, before you get to that spoiled ending," he said.

"If you know the ending as you watch it, you can understand what the filmmaker is doing. You get to see this broader view, and essentially understand the story more fluently," Christenfeld explained.

In the episodes leading up to the Red Wedding, the process of picking out all of the clues that led up to the massacre was so much more fun for me than if I had gone in blind to the event.

Reading spoilers didn't detract from the haunting piano music that played as Cersei Lannister's plot to destroy the High Sparrow and all those who've wronged her unfolded at the end of season six in Game of Thrones. Each note still sent chills down my spine even though I knew what was coming. Watching her savor her victory while her son threw himself out the window was no less jarring. The anticipation of all that I knew was on the way and the expectation for how it would play out only made the story that much more satisfying to see. And if Jon Snow and Daenerys Targaryen are actually going to get married, I'm going to need to know way beforehand so I can collect myself and find a sturdy seat (and some smelling salts) before it all goes down.

This Simple Pyramid Shows You Exactly How to Lose Weight and Build Muscle

By bolhaw 16:40 Fitness No comments

You want to lose body fat and gain muscle definition at the same time. Is it possible to do both simultaneously? Yes! This pyramid designed by personal trainer Dimitri Peskin from @evolvetrainingsystem breaks down what it takes to lean bulk, which Dimitri described as "putting on muscle while keeping fat gain extremely low." Here are the five thing you need to prioritize.

Queer Eye, RuPaul's Drag Race, and More Shows Have Already Won Emmys - See the Full List!

By bolhaw 16:31 Celebrity No comments

The 2018 Emmy nominations hinted at some spectacular actors and shows taking home important awards, and now a few of them have already won big at the Creative Arts Emmys. RuPaul Charles took home numerous awards for his hit reality show, RuPaul's Drag Race, while Netflix darling Queer Eye also picked up a few statues. In terms of acting awards, Samira Wiley's heartbreaking turn in The Handmaid's Tale earned her an Emmy, as did Ron Cephas Jones's role in This Is Us. And let's not forget John Legend finally completing his EGOT! See the full list of winners ahead before the big event airs on Sept. 17.

Best Interactive Program
Last Week Tonight with John Oliver

Best Structured Reality Program
Queer Eye

Best Unstructured Reality Program
United Shades of America

Best Variety Special (Live)
Jesus Christ Superstar

Best Variety Special (Recorded)
Dave Chappelle: Equanimity

Best Short Form Nonfiction/Reality Series
Anthony Bourdain: Explore Parts Unknown

Best Short Form Variety Series
Carpool Karaoke: The Series

Best Reality Casting
Queer Eye

Best Choreography
Mandy Moore, So You Think You Can Dance

Best Cinematography (Nonfiction)
Jane

Best Cinematography (Reality)
Life Below Zero

Best Costumes (Variety/Nonfiction/Reality)
RuPaul's Drag Race - "10s Across the Board"

Best Directing (Documentary/Nonfiction)
Jane

Best Directing (Reality)
RuPaul's Drag Race - "10s Across the Board"

Best Directing (Variety Series)
Saturday Night Live - "Host: Donald Glover"

Best Documentary/Nonfiction Series
Wild Wild Country

Best Documentary/Nonfiction Special
The Zen Diaries of Garry Shandling

Exceptional Merit in Documentary Filmmaking
Strong Island

Best Informational Program
Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown

Best Hairstyling (Multi-Camera)
RuPaul's Drag Race - "10s Across the Board"

Best Reality Host
RuPaul Charles, RuPaul's Drag Race

Best Creative Achievement in Interactive Media Within Unscripted Program
Conan Without Borders

Best Lighting Design/Direction (Variety Series)
Saturday Night Live - "Host: Kevin Hart"

Best Lighting Design/Direction (Variety Special)
Jesus Chirst Superstar

Best Makeup (Non-Prosthetic, Mulit-Camera)
Saturday Night Live - "Host: Tina Fey"

Best Motion Design
Broad City - "Mushrooms"
Wasted! The Story of Food Waste

Best Music and Lyrics
Saturday Night Live - "Come Back Barack"

Best Music Direction
Tony Bennett: The Library of Congress Gershwin Prize for Popular Song

Best Narrator
David Attenborough, Blue Planet II

Best Picture Editing (Nonfiction)
Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown - "Lagos"

Best Picture Editing (Structured or Competition Reality)
Queer Eye

Best Picture Editing (Unstructured Reality)
United Shades of America - "Sikhs in America"

Best Picture Editing (Variety)
Last Week Tonight with John Oliver - "Border Patrol (Segment)"

Best Production Design (Variety/Reality Series)
Saturday Night Live - "Host: Bill Hader"

Best Production Design (Variety Special)
Jesus Christ Superstar

Best Sound Editing (Nonfiction)
Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown - "Seattle"

Best Sound Mixing (Nonfiction)
Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown - "Lagos"

Best Sound Mixing (Variety)
Jesus Christ Superstar

Best Technical Direction (Movie/Mini/Special)
Jesus Christ Superstar

Best Technical Direction (Series)
Saturday Night Live - "Host: Donald Glover"

Best Writing (Nonfiction)
Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown - "Southern Italy"

Best Writing (Variety Series)
Last Week Tonight with John Oliver

Best Children's Program
The Magical Wand Chase: A Sesame Street Special

Best Commercial
"The Talk" (P&G)

Best TV Movie
USS Callister (Black Mirror)

Best Comedy Guest Actor
Katt Williams, Atlanta

Best Comedy Guest Actress
Tiffany Haddish, Saturday Night Live

Best Drama Guest Actor
Ron Cephas Jones, This Is Us

Best Drama Guest Actress
Samira Wiley, The Handmaid's Tale

Best Short Form Actor
James Corden, James Corden's Next James Corden

Best Short Form Actress
Christina Pickles, Break a Hip

Best Character Voice-Over Performance
Alex Borstein, Family Guy

Best Animated Program
Rick and Morty - "Pickle Rick"

Best Comedy Casting
The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel

Best Drama Casting
The Crown

Best Movie/Mini Casting
The Assassination of Gianni Versace

Best Cinematography (Single-Camera Series, Half Hour)
Atlanta - "Teddy Perkins"

Best Cinematography (Single-Camera Series, Hour)
The Crown - "Beryl"

Best Cinematography (Multi-Camera Series)
Will and Grace - "A Gaye Olde Christmas"

Best Cinematography (Movie/Mini)
Genius: Picasso - "Chapter One"

Best Contemporary Costumes
The Assassination of Gianni Versace - "The Man Who Would Be Vogue"

Best Fantasy/Sci-Fi Costumes
Game of Thrones - "Beyond the Wall"

Best Period Costumes
The Crown - "Dear Mrs. Kennedy"

Best Hairstyling (Single-Camera Series)
Westworld - "Akane No Mai"

Best Hairstyling (Movie/Mini)
The Assassination of Gianni Versace

Best Creative Achievement in Interactive Media Within Scripted Program
Westworld - "Chaos Takes Control Interactive Experience"

Best Original Interactive Program
NASA JPL: Cassini's Grand Finale

Best Main Title Design
Counterpart

Best Makeup (Single-Camera Series, Non-Prosthetic)
Westworld - "Akane No Mai"

Best Makeup (Movie/Mini, Non-Prosthetic)
The Assassination of Gianni Versace

Best Prosthetic Makeup
Game of Thrones - "The Dragon and the Wolf"

Best Main Title Theme Music
Godless

Best Music Supervision
The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel - "Pilot"

Best Music Composition (Movie/Mini)
March of the Penguins 2: The Next Step

Best Music Composition (Series)
Game of Thrones - "The Dragon and the Wolf"

Best Picture Editing (Multi-Camera Series)
Will and Grace - "Grandpa Jack"

Best Picture Editing (Single Camera Comedy)
The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel - "Pilot"

Best Picture Editing (Single Camera Drama)
The Handmaid's Tale - "June"

Best Picture Editing (Single Camera Movie/Mini)
USS Callister (Black Mirror)

Best Production Design (Narrative, Half-Hour or Less)
GLOW - "The Dusty Spur"

Best Production Design (Narrative, Period/Fantasy)
Game of Thrones - "Dragonstone"

Best Production Design (Narrative, Contemporary)
The Handmaid's Tale - "June"

Best Short Form Comedy or Drama Series
James Corden's Next James Corden

Best Sound Editing (Half Hour Series)
Atlanta - "Teddy Perkins"

Best Sound Editing (One Hour Series)
Stranger Things - "Chapter Eight: The Mind Flayer"

Best Sound Editing (Movie/Mini)
USS Callister (Black Mirror)

Best Sound Mixing (Half Hour Series)
Barry - "Chapter Seven: Loud, Fast and Keep Going"

Best Sound Mixing (One Hour Series)
Game of Thrones - "Beyond the Wall"

Best Sound Mixing (Movie/Mini)
Genius: Picasso - "Chapter One"

Best Special Visual Effects
Game of Thrones - "Beyond the Wall"

Best Supporting Visual Effects
The Alienist - "The Boy on the Bridge"

Best Stunt Coordination (Comedy/Variety)
GLOW

Best Stunt Coordination (Drama/Movie/Mini)
Game of Thrones

Governor's Award
Star Trek

I Was a 9-Year-Old New Yorker on 9/11, and It Changed Me Forever

By bolhaw 16:13 news No comments

As a native New Yorker, my experience on 9/11 was both similar to - and unique from - the 9/11 all Americans experienced. I was a third-grader at school in Manhattan when the principal tapped on the door and motioned for my teacher, Ms. Delgado, to step outside. When Ms. Delgado came back, she looked pale. Her voice kept going in and out as she told us the school was calling our parents and we were all going home.

The rest of my classmates and I were excited to go back home, but I could tell something was up based on how my teacher was acting. It was 8:45 a.m. and we had just started the school day. My mom's assistant came to pick me up and when I got home, I found my mom watching TV, holding her chest with her eyes wide open. I ran over and asked her what was going on, but she didn't say a word. She just pointed at the screen.

My dad volunteered to help with the clean-up efforts for a few days. He would come home exhausted, covered in grayish dust, but never spoke a word about his experience.

I saw "Avión Estrella Torres Gemelas" in big white letters: "Plane Hits Twin Towers" in English. At this point, only the North Tower had been hit. Just a few short minutes later, as we sat in front of the TV, we watched the second plane hit the South Tower. I immediately felt a wave of sadness and anger. My mom grabbed my hand and held it so tight. I started thinking about how many people were going to die because they wouldn't have enough time to escape, all the people on the plane who wouldn't see their loved ones again.

After the second tower fell, my mom called my dad. He was working as a building superintendent on the Upper West Side, so she just wanted to make sure he was OK. She called and called but wasn't able to get a hold of him. I remember my little brother and I waiting by the door that day until he walked in. My dad made it home eventually, having biked five miles after the trains stopped running. As soon as we saw him, my brother and I ran into his arms and started crying because we were so relieved to see him. My mom ran over to him too, they kissed, and we all just embraced each other in a big hug.

The rest of the day was a blur. We watched the news for more details and found out it was a terrorist attack, how four planes had been hijacked, how high the death toll was. The city completely shut down while we watched the TV in horror. My mom made me stay home from school for the rest of the week because she felt it wasn't safe. I was so glad - I was terrified to go outside. I kept thinking about what else could happen. Were there plans to attack other parts of NYC? But my fear started to dissolve in the days that followed, as Americans showed the world just how united we could be. People came together to mourn those we lost but also to help in any possible way we could. My dad volunteered to help with the clean-up efforts for a few days before returning to work. He would come home exhausted, covered in grayish dust, but never spoke a word about his experience. To this day, he doesn't talk about it.

Image Source: Getty / Andrew Burton

Being in the city on a day that no one will ever forget changed my life. At just 9-years-old, I learned I had to be more vigilant and mindful of my surroundings. The words "See something, say something" are always in the back of my mind now. For the first few weeks after 9/11, our lessons at school became about learning what terrorists and terror attacks were. My mom or my dad picked my brother and I up from school every day. They wanted to make sure we felt safe at all times.

A few years later, I remembering walking to my new middle school when a kid from the school across the street walked up to me and said "I'm going to bomb your school today." My first instinct was to run to my school, tell the security guards what had just happened, and call my mom. School officials got involved, asked me for a description of the kid and tracked him down. I found out later he was suspended from school because of what he said. After 9/11, I became more fearful and wary of everyone around me. I just didn't know who could be the next terrorist. But I also found an inner strength that is still strong within me today.

Ten years later, when the 9/11 Memorial opened in the Financial District, I avoided the place at all costs.

Ten years later, when the 9/11 Memorial opened in the Financial District, I avoided the place at all costs. It just didn't feel right to visit the epicenter of such a horrific event. It wasn't until a friend from college was visiting NYC for the first time and begged me to take her that I went. I felt so much anxiety walking through security knowing I was getting closer to the pools with all the names of those who died. The memorial features a slew of swamp white oak trees with two square reflecting pools in the center, where the Twin Towers once stood. The pools are surrounded with the names of people that died that dreadful day. The minute my friend and I got to them, I started crying.

I didn't lose anyone in the attack that day, thank God, but as someone who was born and bred in Manhattan, I felt like it was an attack on me, too. I haven't gone back to the memorial since the day I visited the museum. Going there just made me think about 9-year-old me watching the towers fall on TV, not being able to get in touch with my dad, and feeling so helpless. It's a memory I liked to keep buried deep down - but it's also a reminder of how strong I am and how important it is to still have faith in humanity.

What I've Learned From My Own Experience Dating While Disabled

By bolhaw 16:13 news No comments

Every day millions of people all over the world are being diagnosed with an incurable illness. As the population grows and more illnesses are being discovered, those afflicted may wonder what that means for their dating life. In 2008, I was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos syndrome, a connective tissue disorder affecting my collagen. Collagen is the glue that keeps your body together. I can dislocate every joint in my body because of the lack of collagen in my body. Newly diagnosed in 2008, no one could tell me what this illness meant for me long term. Since they didn't have the answer for that, then they certainly didn't have the answers for what my dating and relationship worlds would look like post diagnosis.

At 25, being diagnosed with an illness that has no cure isn't an easy pill to swallow. But I was determined to still be able to live my life to the best of my abilities. Of course, this didn't happen right away. A lot of soul searching and unfortunately, a lot of alcohol consumption happened during those first few years of my diagnosis. I can't even tell you what my Summer of 2010 looked like. It definitely was a whirlwind blur of dancing, clubs, and alcohol. But with anything, if you do it too much, things get old. So in 2011, I set upon documenting my dating life as a disabled person.

Telling any potential new partners you are disabled or have an illness, but you look completely healthy, isn't easy. Most, if not all, assume I am exaggerating about my illness and its symptoms. Ehlers Danlos syndrome, being a newly diagnosable illness, didn't have a lot of research to back up what I was saying that my body was doing to itself. Some guys I dated thought I was lying, but, hey, scars don't lie. I have had 59 surgeries, I have 12 more pending that I have put off so I can try to live a life without seeing an operating room every few months. Dating over the years has been interesting to say the least. You never know how someone is going to react when things get really real. I've had many surgeries where the guy I was seeing, who supposedly loved me, was MIA. Most of the time, I prefer to do things alone, but I wouldn't have minded one of those guys I dated to be there for the after.

There is no training manual for dating with an illness or disability. Self-help books claim to help you through the dating process, but none of them will be based exactly on you personally. You can take certain tips and mold them to apply to your situation, which can be helpful. Since there aren't many books on dating with an illness, I set upon writing one myself, Dating While Disabled. I know this book won't help everyone out there with an illness, but I am hoping it can be a guide on the good things I have done in my dating life and things you shouldn't do.

If you are single when you are first diagnosed, I highly recommend you take some time for yourself. Learning about your illness needs to be a priority, a bigger priority than dating. You have to learn to accept that this is your life now. And that will take time. It took me four years to accept my illness and learn to embrace EDS and all it has done for me and against me. Learning to accept your illness isn't something that happens overnight. There will be tears, frustration, and depression. But you will get past that period in your life and then it will pop back up in the most inconvenient time.

Dealing with your illness will be a lifelong love-and-hate journey. But I beseech you to look past the negatives of your illness and the side effects that can cripple you. If you do not learn to accept that you have this illness, no one else will be able to see past it either. I've learned over the years that if I continue the poor-me mantra, everyone else around me will only see my illness and the other parts of myself that the illness has nothing to do with, will no longer be there for them to see. I call this TMI, Too Much Illness. If you're having a bad day, absolutely vent and do what you need to get through the day. But if you are seeing more bad days than good, it's time to re-evaluate your thought processes. I used to be consumed by EDS and what it was doing and some days even when my symptoms weren't that bad, I still only focused on it. Which caused my brain to think about the pain, which of course then amplifies the pain you are in. Making it much worse than it actually is.

Now that I am 10 years post-diagnosis, I still have bad days, but they aren't as consuming as they were before. I've learned to accept that some days I want nothing to do with the world. And on the days I do want to be involved, I make sure I am completely present in the moment. Sometimes, you have to just be present. Thinking about all you've been through in the past on a daily basis will not help your state of mind. You literally make yourself stuck in the past and constantly wondering what your future may look like because of your past struggles. By doing this, you are allowing yourself to forget what you can do for yourself today, whether that's dating or just living your best life.

The 1 Simple Thing My Husband Does to Show Me He Cares Every Day

By bolhaw 16:13 news No comments

Marriage is hard. For many of us, when we're engaged, we picture marriage to be blissful and peaceful. But after you become newlyweds, you quickly discover that marriage can be strenuous. You learn that your husband ticks you off because he can't seem to land his dirty laundry in the hamper. My husband and I are no different. We just celebrated our 10-year anniversary, and while I'd love to report that it's been smooth sailing, that would be a mammoth lie. Yes, we've endured a lot this past decade: cancer-stricken parents, job loss, and adding two children to the mix. But the one thing that has kept us strong is how we show the other person that we care, that they're appreciated every single day - no matter what.

The one thing that has kept us strong is how we show the other person that we care, that they're appreciated every single day - no matter what.

Believe it or not, the one thing that my husband does for me that means the most is simply making the coffee every morning. Regardless of what's going on in our lives, it's he who always takes the time to make that glorious caffeine brew. And while he drinks a little of it in the morning, too, he does it for me to show me that he cares.

Yes, making the coffee is a simple task. You pour the water, dump the coffee grounds, and press the "on" button. Voilà. In minutes, you have caffeine ready to circulate through your veins to help wake you up. But because I am a stay-at-home and work-from-home mother, my husband understands that this coffee is vital for me before the rowdy children wake up and wreak havoc on our home. He knows that I relish in my solitude during the early hours of the morning to kick-start my day. And he understands that I need that warm mug between my hands while I'm nuzzled on the couch to really help ground myself for all that the day will bring.

Between settling sibling fights and writing articles, juggling the day's responsibilities can be tough. My husband leaves home to go to his office every morning. So, while he doesn't really get the pressure of working from home with little terrors trying to rule the home, he does appreciate what I do inside of it. He gets that working from home with the kids also means scrubbing toilets, making three meals, and cleaning . . . all day long. My husband and I do our best to thank each other for the different roles that we take on within our family. No one is better than the other. No job is more difficult. And we appreciate it all.

No, our marriage is not perfect. We argue weekly about both the big and small things, from not refilling the Brita before it goes back into the fridge to not understanding my feelings on a heated subject. But when I wake up the next morning after an altercation and see that the coffee is made, my heart softens. Yes, the one thing my husband and I always try to do is show each other that we care. Because if we stop showing each other that we appreciate each other, what will we have left? So, while making me coffee each and every morning is a small task, I sure hope that my husband continues to do it when our skin is wrinkled and the hair on our heads turns white. Because not only does it revitalize my day, but our marriage, too.

Our Style Director Pulled the Best POPSUGAR at Kohl's Collection Pieces, So All You Have to Do Is Shop

By bolhaw 16:12 Fashion No comments

The lineup for our POPSUGAR at Kohl's Collection is loaded with fresh takes on live-in basics, live-in being the operative word for our editors who have been test-driving the collection ahead of the Sept. 13 launch. So, if you were looking for real-life reviews from the women who've been up close and personal with the collection, you'll want to tap our style director, Dana Avidan Cohn. From the line's inception, Dana's worked closely with the Kohl's team to dream up pieces that would carry you effortlessly through all the events in your day to night. Now, she's sharing all the highlights - inside Dana pulled her favorites, all you have to do is shop.

I Was a 9-Year-Old New Yorker on 9/11, and It Changed Me Forever

By bolhaw 16:07 travel No comments

My dad volunteered to help with the clean-up efforts for a few days. He would come home exhausted, covered in grayish dust, but never spoke a word about his experience.

Image Source: Getty / Andrew Burton

Ten years later, when the 9/11 Memorial opened in the Financial District, I avoided the place at all costs.

What I've Learned From My Own Experience Dating While Disabled

By bolhaw 16:07 travel No comments

Every day millions of people all over the world are being diagnosed with an incurable illness. As the population grows and more illnesses are being discovered, those afflicted may wonder what that means for their dating life. In 2008, I was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, a connective tissue disorder affecting my collagen. Collagen is the glue that keeps your body together. I can dislocate every joint in my body because of the lack of collagen in my body. Being newly diagnosed in 2008, no one could tell me what this illness meant for me long term. Since they didn't have the answer for that, then they certainly didn't have the answers for what my dating and relationship worlds would look like post diagnosis.

At 25, being diagnosed with an illness that has no cure isn't an easy pill to swallow. But, I was determined to still be able to live my life to the best of my abilities. Of course, this didn't happen right away. A lot of soul searching and unfortunately, a lot of alcohol consumption had happened during those first few years of my diagnosis. I can't even tell you what my Summer of 2010, looked like. It definitely was a whirlwind blur of dancing, clubs, and alcohol. But, with anything, if you do it too much, things get old. So in 2011, I set upon documenting my dating life as a disabled person.

Telling any potential new partners you are disabled or have an illness, but you look completely healthy, isn't easy. Most, if not all, assume I am exaggerating about my illness and its symptoms. Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, being a newly diagnose-able illness, didn't have a lot of research to back up what I was saying that my body was doing to itself. Some guys I dated thought I was lying, but hey, scars don't lie. I have had 59 surgeries, I have 12 more pending that I have put off, so I can try to live a life without seeing an operating room every few months. Dating over the years has been interesting to say the least. You never know how someone is going to react when things get really real. I've had many surgeries where the guy I was seeing, who supposedly loved me, was MIA for. Most of the time, I prefer to do things alone, but I wouldn't have minded one of those guys I dated to be there for the after.

If you are single when you are first diagnosed, I highly recommend you take some time for yourself. Learning about your illness needs to be a priority, a bigger priority than dating. You have to learn to accept that this is your life now. And that will take time. It took me four years to accept my illness and learn to embrace EDS and all it has done for me and against me. Learning to accept your illness isn't something that happens over night. There will be tears, frustration, and depression. But, you will get past that period in your life and then it will pop back up in the most inconvenient time.

Dealing with your illness will be a lifelong love and hate journey. But, I behoove you to look past the negatives of your illness and the side effects that can cripple you. If you do not learn to accept that you have this illness, no one else will be able to see past it either. I've learned over the years that if I continue the poor me mantra, everyone else around me will only see my illness and the other parts of myself that the illness has nothing to do with, will no longer be there for them to see. I call this TMI, Too Much Illness. If you're having a bad day, absolutely vent and do what you need to get through the day. But, if you are seeing more bad days than good, it's time to re-evaluate your thought processes. I used to be consumed by EDS and what it was doing and some days even when my symptoms weren't that bad, I still only focused on it. Which caused my brain to think about the pain, which of course then amplifies the pain you are in. Making it much worse than it actually is.

Now that I am 10 years post diagnosis, I still have bad days, but they aren't as consuming as they were before. I've learned to accept that some days, I want nothing to do with the world. And on the days I do want to be involved I make sure I am completely present in the moment. Sometimes, you have to just be present. Thinking about all you've been through in the past on a daily basis will not help your state of mind. You literally make yourself stuck in the past and constantly wondering what your future may look like because of your past struggles. By doing this, you are allowing yourself to forget what you can do for yourself today, whether that's dating or just living your best life.

The EGOT: 26 Stars Who Are Almost There

By bolhaw 16:04 Celebrity No comments

With award season coming up, more celebrities are one step closer to joining Hollywood's most prestigious club. The EGOT - an acronym for Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, and Tony - is Hollywood's grand slam of awards, and only a handful of celebrities (like Audrey Hepburn, Whoopi Goldberg, and Mel Brooks) have made the list. John Legend just took home an Emmy, making him the latest star to receive the honor. Veteran actress Jessica Lange only needs a Grammy, while stars like Taylor Swift, Adele, and Sam Smith are halfway there. Wondering who else is making progress?

Penn Badgley Didn't Initially Want to Star in Lifetime's You - Here's What Changed His Mind

By bolhaw 15:42 Celebrity No comments

Penn Badgley may be known as Dan Humphrey to many, but pretty soon, fans will see him in a completely different light. Nearly six years after wrapping his hit series, Gossip Girl, the actor is returning to TV with Lifetime's thriller You (based on Caroline Kepnes's 2014 novel of the same name). While the series has already gained attention for its similarities to the hit CW show, be warned that his character, Joe (a bookstore employee who uses social media to stalk a girl he becomes infatuated with), is a far cry from Lonely Boy. In fact, Badgley almost turned down the role because of the character's dark nature.

During You's premiere event in NYC, the actor told POPSUGAR that he was repulsed by the character when he first read the book. "I was compelled by the project but ultimately turned off by Joe himself," he explained. "Because I don't get to play anybody else, I don't get to do anything else in the show, but be Joe. And I really didn't like him." Even when he got the role, he wasn't too concerned with bringing the book version of Joe to life for one simple reason: "He scared me."

So, what ultimately changed Badgley's mind about playing Joe? The show's producers, Sera Gamble (The Magicians) and Greg Berlanti (Riverdale). "It was my conversations with them that really allowed me to see into what we were doing," he said. "And then it continued to be an exercise and trusting Sera and the others, a lot of the women - the directors, the writers, the producers - because I was like, 'Why are we letting him do this?' Ultimately, it was a really enriching experience for me, personally. I hope some of that is in some way part of the viewer's experience."

While the show is super relevant with the use of social media and themes of privacy, it also feels incredibly timely with the Me Too movement, something Badgley is definitely aware of. "It's funny because now that we're here, I wouldn't want this show to come out at another time," he said. "I wouldn't want people to not be willing to have this kind of conversation around it, because then I think it would be really toxic and desensitizing. Now it seems people are thinking and saying all the right things, so I'm down for it. Like even right now, I'm mostly interacting with women when it comes to this show. Like my publicist, my agent, my wife [Domino Kirke], the writers of the show, the creators of the show, the directors, the producers, the cast members, and everybody seems to be really encouraging and supportive of this project."

You premieres on Lifetime on Sept. 9.

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle Just Released a Ton of Details About Their Upcoming Tour

By bolhaw 15:42 Celebrity No comments

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle are embarking on their first royal tour as a married couple. In June, Kensington Palace announced that the newlyweds would be visiting Australia, Fiji, the Kingdom of Tonga, and New Zealand, and now we finally have more details about their upcoming 16-day trip. The pair will arrive in Sydney on Oct. 16, before heading to Dubbo, in New South Wales, a day later. From there, the two will visit Melbourne before returning to Sydney for Harry's Invictus Games, the event where they made their first debut as a couple in 2017.

The two will also visit Suva and Nadi in Fiji and Nuku'alofa, Tonga, during their trip before wrapping things up in New Zealand. "The program across these four Commonwealth counties will focus on youth leadership, environmental and conservation efforts - including the dedication of several new Queen's Commonwealth Canopy projects - and the recovery and rehabilitation of servicemen and woman through the Invictus Games Sydney 2018," the couple's office at Kensington Palace said in a statement.

Not only will it be Meghan's first royal tour, but according to Elle, the trip will double as a special reunion between Meghan and her former Suits costars. Harry and Meghan reportedly have some free time during their visit, so they'll be staying with actor Gabriel Macht and his wife, Jacinda Barrett, at their home in Noosa, Australia. We can't wait for even more royal appearances. See their full schedule ahead.

Tuesday, Oct. 16: Sydney, Australia
Wednesday Oct. 17: Dubbo, Australia
Thursday, Oct. 18: Melbourne, Australia
Friday, Oct. 19: Sydney, Australia
Saturday, Oct. 20: Sydney, Australia
Sunday, Oct. 21: Sydney, Australia
Monday, Oct. 22: Fraser Island, Australia
Tuesday, Oct. 23: Suva, Fiji
Wednesday, Oct. 24: Suva, Fiji
Thursday, Oct. 25: Nadi, Fiji and Nuku'alofa, Tonga
Friday, Oct. 26: Nuku'alofa, Tonga and Sydney, Australia
Saturday, Oct. 27: Sydney, Australia
Sunday, Oct. 28: Wellington, New Zealand
Monday, Oct. 29: Wellington and Abel Tasman, New Zealand
Tuesday, Oct. 30: Auckland, New Zealand
Wednesday, Oct. 31: Rotorua, New Zealand

Gigi Hadid's Clear Handbag Only Has a Champagne Bottle in It, and We're SHOOK

By bolhaw 15:37 Fashion No comments

Gigi Hadid has been one busy girl during New York Fashion Week. After walking countless runways for designers like Prabal Gurung and Ralph Lauren, the model was seen at the Business of Fashion 500 gala. For the event, Gigi walked the red carpet in an ethereal yellow dress from Brandon Maxwell's SS '19 collection. (Gigi actually just walked in the designer's runway show with her sister Bella.)

While Gigi's canary yellow dress was eye-catching, to say the least, it was what she was carrying that stole the show. She finished her look off with a clear handbag, also from Brandon Maxwell's collection, that had a bottle of champagne in it and nothing else. The designer sent models down the runway carrying the same style as well. Read on to get a closer glimpse and Gigi's interesting bag and shop similar versions at the bottom if you want to give the trend a try too.

All 13 Hollywood Stars Who Have an EGOT

By bolhaw 15:24 Celebrity No comments

Few clubs in Hollywood are as exclusive as that reserved for EGOT winners. The acronym refers to winning the grand slam of all four major entertainment awards in a competitive category of the Emmys, Grammys, Oscars, and Tonys. That means the immensely talented individual will have displayed excellence in television, recording, film, and theater - clearly picking up an EGOT isn't an everyday occurrence.

While it took some winners their entire careers to nail all four corners of the entertainment industry, some (like musician John Legend) were able to knock out an EGOT before they turned 40. Read on to see who's been blessed with this exclusive honor (and the first awards that got them there), then check out all the Hollywood stars who are *this close* to getting their own EGOTs.

I'm a Trainer, and These Are My 15 Favorite Dumbbell Exercises For Building Muscle

By bolhaw 15:21 Fitness No comments

What I'm about to tell you is no secret: lifting weights will help you decrease your fat mass and increase your lean muscle mass. There are many ways to build muscle, and the consensus is that lifting weights and incorporating compound exercises - moves that work multiple muscle groups at once - into your routine is the way to go.

As a trainer, I completely agree with this method, and I wanted to share some of my favorite dumbbell exercises with you. Some are specific to muscle groups, like the triceps extension, and others are compound exercises, like the 3-in-1 squat, curl, and press.

This is is not a workout - you can find a a bunch of them here. Instead, let these exercises inspire your next workout. Select three to five moves and add them into an existing program, or create a new workout with these moves.

Lady Gaga, Queen of Being Extra, Wore 4 Dresses In 1 Night at the Toronto Film Festival

By bolhaw 15:07 Fashion No comments

Lady Gaga might have a totally pared down look for her role in A Star Is Born but her outfits (yes, that is plural) at the Toronto Film Festival certainly didn't follow that dress code. In fact, we were in for a treat with Gaga serving us four looks throughout the evening.

First up for the 32-year-old star's day of incredible looks was a one-shoulder, red velvet gown by Ralph and Russo, which she wore to the A Star Is Born conference and paired with black heels. Next up in her epic dress line-up was her red-carpet look consisting of an Armani Privé black gown, which she accessorized with a black veil, matching embellished hat, and Chopard jewelry. We're sure Morticia Addams would have been proud of this look, which instantly had us itching for Halloween season.

But that's not all. After all, it's Lady Gaga we're talking about, so two looks weren't enough. Later in the night, she changed into a silver Giorgio Armani slip dress for the public screening of the film, but kept the same black hat and heels. She then changed one last time for the afterparty, opting for another velvet number by Ralph and Russo, which consisted of a black and pink gown with a ruffled neckline. Phew! That's a lot of outfit changes, but we couldn't expect anything less from the ever glamorous Lady Gaga. Ahead get a closer look at all of her dresses.

The 1 Simple Thing My Husband Does to Show Me He Cares Every Day

By bolhaw 15:06 travel No comments

The one thing that has kept us strong is how we show the other person that we care, that they're appreciated every single day - no matter what.

I Quit Netflix For 1 Week, and Here Are All the Things I Had Time to Do Instead

By bolhaw 14:40 Latina No comments

I love the fact that nowadays we can simply type in a show or movie title and be able to stream it just minutes later. Gone are the days of trekking to Blockbuster to rent films or waiting for your Netflix DVDs to come in the mail. However, having so much access to shows and movies through streaming sites such as Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Prime has become maybe a bit too convenient.

According to research, on average Netflix users binge-watch up to five hours consecutively in one sitting. I personally can vouch for this as I pretty much watched the whole series of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel in one day earlier this Summer (amount of time glued to the screen aside – it is SO good!). You always think that the next episode will be the last episode you watch, until, before you know it, you're on the last season and it is 2 a.m.

So this got me thinking: What would I have time for instead if watching any form of television was not an option for one week? Well, the answer is a lot. Read on to see.

I Quit Netflix For 1 Week, and Here Are All the Things I Had Time to Do Instead

By bolhaw 14:38 living No comments

So this got me thinking: What would I have time for instead if watching any form of television was not an option for one week? Well, the answer is a lot. Read on to see.

This Minimalist Store Is a College Student's Dream

By bolhaw 14:38 living No comments

School is in full swing, and jelly pens and spiral notebooks are flying off the shelves in the dozens. However, heading back to college is an entirely different beast than grade school. Not only do you need writing utensils, you need like actual, real eating utensils. Interior decorating a space that is 1) tiny 2) not yours for longer than eight months, and 3) ugly is a real challenge. Sure, you could hang up fairy lights and Polaroids of your friends and call it a day, but not everyone wants their room to look like it was pulled out of a John Green movie set.

Enter MUJI. This minimalist store is full of the basics every dorm dweller needs without sacrificing quality for price. From stackable storage units and a stapler to a colander, this Japanese company has mastered the clean, simple, utilitarian vibe that will make your space look organized no matter how much of a mess your life may be.

In Case You're Confused, Here's EXACTLY How The Nun Connects to The Conjuring

By bolhaw 14:26 Celebrity No comments

Image Source: Warner Bros.

Warning: spoilers for The Nun are in this post!

Going in to see The Nun, there's no real mystery as to how it connects to the rest of the films in The Conjuring's expanding universe. After all, the demon Valak appears as the habit-donning monster in The Conjuring 2 and even shows up during a postcredits scene at the and of Annabelle: Creation. The real mystery, of course, is how. How does a terrifying nun monster from the 1900s come to haunt Lorraine Warren? Luckily, we do get an answer by the end of The Nun; not only does it connect back to the universe, but it also gives us a supercool full-circle moment that lands right back in The Conjuring's first film. Last chance to turn back before I spoil some things!

OK, so, I'm not going to spend a lot of time talking about the end of The Nun. The basic, basic gist is this: Father Burke (Demián Bichir) and Sister Irene (Taissa Farmiga) think they've vanquished the evil Valak with the help of a local farmboy who calls himself Frenchie, née Maurice. But in the last moments before we leave Romania for good, we realize it's not Irene we have to worry about, because Valak has actually possessed Maurice!

Image Source: Everett Collection

Cut to a scene that actually appears in The Conjuring: about 40 minutes in, we're at some kind of college lecture that Ed and Lorraine Warren are giving on possession. Carolyn Perron, whose house is plagued by some kind of presence, is in attendance. Ed and Lorraine play footage from an old case in which a man named Maurice was possessed by a demon. In the footage within the scene, we see the actor who plays Maurice (Jonas Bloquet), and he's clearly succumbed to the evil inside him. At the very last moment, he lets out an inhuman howl and looks directly at Lorraine. Lorraine screams.

And there you have it! Though Valak doesn't really appear until the second film in the Conjuring series, we get to throw it all the way back to the beginning to connect another thread. What's interesting is that "Maurice," who originally appeared in The Conjuring, is different, meaning they must have reshot that scene to tie it back into The Nun. Even so, it's cool to see how the creators found a way to throw it back. That's pretty awesome, right?

Pop Culture Halloween: 50+ Costume Ideas For BFFs

By bolhaw 14:26 Celebrity No comments

You know what's better than going to a Halloween party with your best friend? Dressing up with your best friend as best friends from a movie or a TV show. (Did I just blow your mind?) In preparation for the spooky holiday, we've rounded up some classic pairs from popular films and shows to inspire your pop culture Halloween. Click through and let us know who you and your BFF will be styled as come Oct. 31! If not of these strike you fancy, we have plenty of other ideas.

You'll Forget All About Fancy Weddings When You See This Couple's City Hall Nuptials

By bolhaw 14:12 news No comments

Many envision having a grand wedding ceremony and reception where all their friends and loved ones are there to witness a union. But Alva and Bo's intimate nuptials might convince you to downsize your guest list to two. The couple decided to have their own destination wedding in San Francisco to tie the knot at the gorgeous City Hall. The five-day trip included just them and their wedding photographer, exploring the city and Alcatraz.

"Alva had her dress custom designed with her favorite accent color, pink, and added fabulous pink patent-leather heels for her big day styling," said their photographer. "These two are so clearly in love and they do know how to have a good time, and it shows in all the photos."

See the pictures ahead!

12 Women Share What They Fantasize About When Masturbating

By bolhaw 14:12 news No comments

There's nothing wrong with taking some much needed "me" time for a solo session. In fact, masturbating is actually really good for you, as it's teeming with health and wellness perks! Plus, it obviously feels amazing, and as you come to learn more about your body and what gets you off, you're in for some mind-blowing orgasms. No matter how great your partner might be in bed, it's really nice to be alone with your own thoughts and hands, where you can control your own pleasure.

Yet, sometimes you run out of visuals or life's circumstances change. Perhaps you don't really want to think about your ex who crushed your heart into a million little pieces. Here are some fresh ideas from real women who know how to get that "O" every time.

This Sleep Mask Is Also a Pair of Headphones

By bolhaw 14:12 news No comments

I love listening to music or podcasts to help me quickly drift off into sleep. Most nights I spend a bit of time before bed to set up a soundtrack of relaxing or inspirational music, something that will help me sleep better and allow me to wake up refreshed. According to a study done by the Sleep Foundation, 45 minutes of relaxing music before bed is shown to help people fall asleep faster and sleep better.

But you know what I don't love so much? All the discomfort that comes along with lying down with headphones on. I usually wake up in the middle of the night with my headphones thrown across the bed, the wires wrapped around my arms, and the music still playing. Yes, it does look as awkward as it sounds.

So when I found out about this awesome Music Sleep Mask ($35) from Urban Outfitters I became very excited. Not only does its thick lining block out any light, but it also has headphones integrated into the actual eye mask. This means that you can lie down or relax without having to worry about any headphones poking into your ears. It also comes complete with audio cable and volume controls so you can truly customize your experience.

Convinced this multipurpose eye mask will help you comfortably doze off to dreamland? Shop it ahead.

You'll Forget All About Fancy Weddings When You See This Couple's City Hall Nuptials

By bolhaw 14:06 travel No comments

See the pictures ahead!

12 Women Share What They Fantasize About When Masturbating

By bolhaw 14:06 travel No comments

This Sleep Mask Is Also a Pair of Headphones

By bolhaw 14:06 travel No comments

Convinced this multipurpose eye mask will help you comfortably doze off to dreamland? Shop it ahead.

This Minimalist Store Is a College Student's Dream

By bolhaw 13:30 Latina No comments

Skip That Cup of Coffee and Eat the Following 15 Foods For All-Day Energy

By bolhaw 13:20 Fitness No comments

If you're in need of a boost in energy, it can be tempting to reach for another cup of cold brew or fizzy soda (we've all been there). While caffeine and added sugar will certainly perk you up, they can quickly lead to a surefire crash later. That doesn't mean you are doomed to a life of 2 p.m. fatigue! Luckily, there is an abundance of healthy food out there that will naturally raise your energy levels without the crash. The next time you're feeling sluggish, skip the sugary drinks and hit the recharge button with the following 15 healthy and energizing foods.

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