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Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
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Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
Health
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mercredi 2 août 2017
Remembering Princess Diana's Sweetest Mom Moments
In honor of the late Princess Diana, who was born on July 1, 1961, and who passed away in a tragic accident on Aug. 31, 1997, we're taking a look at some of the special moments she shared with Prince William and Prince Harry through the years. Just like the royal baby fever that surrounded Kate Middleton's pregnancies with Prince George and Princess Charlotte, there was plenty of buzz when Princess Diana was expecting.
The world watched as she raised Prince William and Prince Harry, and almost 20 years after her death, we're reliving the sweet moments that were caught on camera when she brought the boys to official events, toted them along on trips, and took them to school. From the princes' first pictures to their later years as young boys, take a look at Princess Diana's adorable public moments with her sons.
Game of Thrones: What Will Jaime Do With Joffrey's Death Reveal?
Diana Rigg's time on Game of Thrones has sadly come to an end, but at least she got to go out with one of the most epic mic drops the show has ever seen. In Sunday's episode, "The Queen's Justice," Lady Olenna downs her poisoned wine like a boss and proceeds to use her last few moments on earth to tell Jaime Lannister that she is responsible for his son Joffrey's death by poison at his own wedding back in season four.
To his immense credit, Jaime digests this news (with emotions playing across his face), but he still lets Lady Olenna succumb to the poison rather than running her through with his sword right here on the spot. But what will he do now?
Take It Out on the Remaining Tyrells
After Mace, Margaery, and Loras are killed at the Great Sept of Baelor explosion, Olenna says that Cersei took away her "future," but Olenna can't have been the very last of the entire bloodline.
In the books, there are many other Tyrell cousins, stemming from several places: Olenna's brother-in-law Moryn's children, Olenna's daughters (Mace's sisters), and Mace's two other children, Willas and Garlan (brothers to Loras and Margaery). These characters have not been mentioned on the TV series, but back in season three, episode four, one of Margaery's handmaidens calls Olenna "Nana," so clearly there are at least some Tyrell cousins lurking around.
Jaime may decide any remaining Tyrells need to pay for the crimes of their grandmother and go on some kind of revenge rampage.
Appeal to Cersei's Better Nature
Will Jaime tell Cersei what he has learned? It's hard to say. What good would that do now? Cersei has moved on from Joffrey's death, plus she doesn't need an excuse to hate on her brother Tyrion - blaming him for Joffrey's death was just the latest in a long line of reasons Cersei hates Tyrion. But maybe Jaime will try to reunite his family anyway, telling Cersei about Lady Olenna's confession in the hope of convincing her to extend an olive branch to their brother and invite him back into the fold.
This seems unlikely, though. We can't really see her forgiving Tyrion, let alone giving him the apology he definitely deserves.
Fight For Tyrion
Jaime doesn't hate Tyrion the way his sister does. In fact, Jaime actually loves his younger brother, so maybe Jaime will tell Cersei about Lady Olenna and won't ask if he can invite Tyrion back; maybe he'll just do it whether his sister approves or not.
Go to Dragonstone Himself
This is most certainly a long shot, but perhaps this revelation about Joffrey will open Jaime's eyes to what monsters his family members are and he'll flee to join up with Tyrion and fight against his sister. Like we said, long shot. If Jaime has not yet realized his family is full of monsters, he never will. Or maybe he has realized it, but he just doesn't care. Either way, it doesn't seem like he's going to leave Cersei's side anytime soon.
Reach Out to Tyrion
This seems like the likeliest scenario. Jaime won't tell Cersei, he won't invite Tyrion to rejoin them, and he won't go to Tyrion himself - but he will at least send a raven to his brother informing him that he knows for sure Tyrion is innocent and that he's sorry for everything that has happened. Jaime is mostly an honorable man, so it would be weird if he does nothing with this latest revelation.
Nothing
It would be a little weird for Game of Thrones to give Lady Olenna such an outstanding send-off then have Jaime do nothing with the information he has just been given, but stranger things have happened. Perhaps he'll just keep the information to himself, seeing it futile to either tell Cersei or try to mend fences with Tyrion. You know, come to think of it, that might actually be his best course of action.
Coldplay Puts Emotional Spin on Linkin Park's "Crawling" in Honor of Chester Bennington
Chris Martin decided to open Coldplay's North American tour in East Rutherford, NJ, on Tuesday with one of the band's most emotional performances yet. He sat down at the piano and began to play a soulful, stripped-down version of Linkin Park's Grammy award-winning "Crawling," which no doubt struck a chord with all the band's fans in the stadium still mourning the loss of lead singer Chester Bennington.
The longtime Linkin Park frontman and 41-year-old father died by suicide in late July. Since then, both his wife and his bandmates have released statements about his death. "Our hearts are broken. The shockwaves of grief and denial are still sweeping through our family as we come to grips with what has happened," Linkin Park wrote in a letter on their official Instagram. "You touched so many lives, maybe even more than you realized."
Listen to Chris Martin's beautiful rendition of "Crawling" above.
The Celeb Crush of Kate Beckinsale's Daughter Has a Crazy Connection to Her Dad
Kate Beckinsale is one of the coolest moms in Hollywood, but she's not above completely embarrassing her daughter on TV. During an appearance on Jimmy Kimmel Live! on Tuesday, the actress told the host that her 18-year-old daughter Lily has a huge crush on him. Of course, the situation is a little tricky seeing that Lily's dad Michael Sheen (who is Kate's ex) is actually dating Jimmy's ex, Sarah Silverman. "It's very twisted," the actress joked. "It's a sort of horrible, Human Centipede-y vibe." To make things even more awkward, Lily was actually sitting in the audience during the whole thing. Don't worry, though, she smiled her way through it and handled it like a pro.
On a Budget? Never Splurge on This Home Item
Custom shades can be shockingly pricey, but you shouldn't blow your decorating budget on expensive window treatments, especially if you're renting. If you prefer the polished look of curtains, these affordable curtain hacks will save you hundreds. If you like the tailored look of blinds, you can still find great deals, even if it requires a little more digging to find the right size. Designer and Little Green Notebook blogger Jenny Komenda relies on Lowe's for finding crazy-chic options at prices you wouldn't believe. She's had luck scoring affordable white cotton roman shades and tortoiseshell bamboo blinds that look like they cost a small fortune. Love Grows Wild blogger Liz Fourez can't get enough of these bamboo roman shades from Home Depot. If you're choosing bamboo shades, you can also try layering them underneath curtains to add texture, warmth, and even more light and privacy control.
Coldplay Puts Emotional Spin on Linkin Park's "Crawling" in Honor of Chester Bennington
Chris Martin decided to open Coldplay's North American tour in East Rutherford, NJ, on Tuesday with one of the band's most emotional performances yet. He sat down at the piano and began to play a soulful, stripped-down version of Linkin Park's Grammy award-winning "Crawling," which no doubt struck a chord with all the band's fans in the stadium still mourning the loss of lead singer Chester Bennington.
The longtime Linkin Park frontman and 41-year-old father died by suicide in late July. Since then, both his wife and his bandmates have released statements about his death. "Our hearts are broken. The shockwaves of grief and denial are still sweeping through our family as we come to grips with what has happened," Linkin Park wrote in a letter on their official Instagram. "You touched so many lives, maybe even more than you realized."
Listen to Chris Martin's beautiful rendition of "Crawling" above.
Kendall Jenner Got the Most Out of Her Summer Dress With This Simple Styling Hack
If you're trying to figure out how to get the most out of your Summer wardrobe, look no further than Kendall Jenner's recent outfit. The supermodel used an amazing transitional season styling hack while wearing an off-the-shoulder dress by Zimmermann.
Rather than wearing a pair of strappy sandals, Kendall styled the mini dress with a pair of black suede boots by Alexandre Vauthier. By wearing knee-high boots that offered more coverage, the model proved that you can easily wear your floaty dresses into the cooler months. Try this simple styling hack for yourself with a similar pair of boots.
Jennifer Lopez's Metallic Dress Is Far From Basic Thanks to This 1 Detail
Jennifer Lopez loves bringing the drama with her outfits on World of Dance. If she isn't channeling her inner flamenco dancer emoji, she's showing off her legs in a miniskirt. The woman knows how to have everyone sitting on the edge of their seats waiting to see what she's going to show up in next.
Her most recent outfit is one we won't forget because it's a classic. Jennifer wore a metallic pleated midi dress with a deep v-neck and a front slit. What really caught our eye was the belt around her waist that brought the whole look together. She finished off her look with some sparkly pieces of jewelry and a pair of simple yet chic heels. If you aren't able to buy the exact same pieces, shop similar options ahead to channel your inner Jennifer Lopez.
Shaun T Will Make Your Abs Shake in 8 Minutes and All You Need Is a Chair
We have a special treat for your core from directly from Shaun T. He's a Beachbody super trainer and creator of Insanity and Shaun Week, and he knows how to strengthen and sculpt abs. This workout is short but specific, and the only equipment you need is a chair. Yeah, leave it to Shaun to find an exercise that will make your midsection quiver while sitting down. If you want more, check out Beachbody on Demand.
This Real-Life Rapunzel Has Hair That's Probably Longer Than You Are Tall
When you think of "princess hair," the first thing that comes to mind is probably Kate Middleton's effortlessly chic blowouts. Turns out there's another kind of princess hair out there - and it comes straight from a fairy tale.
It all started 14 years ago, when Russia-based Daria Gubanova had a friend who bet her that she couldn't grow out her hair. Well, Gubanova sure showed her, because the 27-year-old's hair is now almost six feet long. According to Gubanova, she #cantstopwontstop growing her mane out until it touches her toes. It currently reaches down to her ankles, so she's well on her way.
Gubanova's decision not to visit a hair salon for almost 15 years has paid off in Instagram followers (she currently has over 22,000). We're impressed, even if this won't stop us from hitting up the salon regularly. Gubanova's just doing her thing, and we applaud the commitment. Ahead, see her most breathtaking looks. (PSA: watching Gubanova brush her hair in slow motion is the most weirdly calming thing you'll see all day).
1 Pakistani-American Reveals Her Family's Best DIY Beauty Secrets
I will be the first to tell you I wasn't always appreciative of my Pakistani heritage and its rich and beautiful culture. As a first-generation Pakistani-American kid who was born and raised in Sugar Land, TX, I was often confused when my family had a different way of doing things than some of my other friends. For example, if there was a dinner party on Friday night, I had to come home from school and change into traditional Pakistani clothes - I couldn't leave on my favorite jeans. I never understood why my parents drank at least six cups of chai tea daily. And in particular, I was puzzled by the beauty rituals of my family.
My mom, grandma (Ammi), and great-grandma (Amma) passed on their beauty tips and tricks to me so I could take advantage of them, but for years, I did so hesitantly. I often thought to myself, "Why can't we just go to Target or Sephora like everyone else?" As I started growing up, though, I became fascinated. I remember being in awe at the stories my grandma would tell me as she whipped up a lip scrub or a face mask. I started realizing how many generations before me had made the same recipes we still use today, and I formed a new respect for my own identity and where I came from. Now, I'm grateful to have serious love and appreciation for my culture.
For me, the best part of these tips and tricks is that they have been passed down in my family. But others will love that most of the recipes are simple and made with affordable ingredients from your pantry. Read on to discover a few of the lessons I've learned from my very own Pakistani beauty queens - my amma, ammi and mama!
What Is Seat Pitch and Why Does It Matter When Flying?
Seat pitch isn't just desirable - it can be necessary for your safety on a plane. The term "seat pitch" essentially describes how much legroom you have and is measured by the distance between a point on one seat and the same point on the seat in front of or behind it. Obviously, we all want as much as we can get. Unfortunately, seat sizes on planes really are shrinking, and it may not just affect our comfort as travelers, but also our safety in the event of an evacuation or other emergencies.
American Airlines is reportedly cutting down seat pitch in the economy class of its Boeing 737 Max jetliners, and United Airlines is expected to follow suit. Seat pitch can vary widely depending on the airline you fly with and the type of plane your flying on. Budget airlines like Spirit can sometimes have seat pitches as low as 28 inches, while JetBlue, Virgin, and Southwest boast larger seat pitches (30+ inches of legroom per seat in economy).
Just this week, the FAA had to face the problem of the "shrinking seat." A judge ruled in favor of the Flyers Rights advocacy group who filed safety concerns about the decreasing seat pitches. The case deals with "whether smaller seats and larger passengers could have an impact on emergency egress," which is a valid concern if the distance between seats and the amount of legroom continues to shrink.
Websites like SeatGuru can help passengers figure out what amount of seat pitch the plane they are flying on will have, so if legroom is a big concern for you, consider comparing airlines before booking your flights!
This Week's Game of Thrones Calls Back to the First Episode (and You Probably Missed It)
Poor Jon Snow is the wolf that cried White Walker. On this week's Game of Thrones, Jon and Daenerys finally meet for the first time, but he's left disappointed when Dany doesn't immediately spring into action when Jon tells her about the impending White Walker apocalypse. Later, when he and Tyrion are having a brood-off on the bluffs, he vents his frustration about how nobody believes him, saying "It's hard for me to fathom, it really is. If someone told me about the White Walkers and the Night King. . ." then he takes a long pause, seeming to realize the truth: someone did tell Jon.
If you remember back to the very first episode of Game of Thrones, Ned executes a man who deserted the Night's Watch after witnessing a White Walker attack. As Jon, Robb, and Bran look on, the ranger begs that Ned spread the word about what's coming, saying, "I know I broke my oath. I know I'm a deserter. I should've gone back to the Wall and warned them, but I saw what I saw. I saw the White Walkers. People need to know." After the beheading, Bran asks his father if the man was lying and Ned replies, "A mad man sees what he sees."
As Jon seems to recall this memory, he tells Tyrion, "You probably don't believe me." Because now he's the guy who left the Night's Watch to warn people about the White Walkers, and he's the one who sounds like a mad man. It's a full-circle moment, but hopefully Jon will meet a better fate than his fellow believer.
We Would Love to Know What Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck's Mom Are Laughing About
Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck may be divorcing, but that doesn't mean she also had to break up with his mom. The actress enjoyed some quality time with her soon-to-be former mother-in-law, Christine Anne Boldt, in LA on Tuesday, and it's almost too cute to handle. The mother of three was her usual smiley self as the pair strolled down the sidewalk and shared a few laughs. Aside from chit-chatting like two best girlfriends, Jen also pulled Christine in for a sweet hug. Since Ben has moved on with his girlfriend Lindsay Shookus (whom Jen also reportedly confronted), we would love to know what these two are talking about.
If Only Daenerys Knew This Info About Jon in This Week's Game of Thrones
This week's Game of Thrones featured a meeting we've been waiting our whole lives (OK, seven seasons) for: the one between Jon Snow and Daenerys Targaryen. Though they're not immediate BFFs at first - their family histories make them uneasy about each other - Tyrion helps Daenerys to strategize in her partnership with Jon by giving him dragonglass. The funny thing about all their interactions, though, is that they're related, and if they had this info, it would change everything.
Not only do these two seem destined for each other (A Song of Ice and Fire . . . hello!), but they are also related by blood: Rhaegar Targaryen is Daenerys's brother and Jon's father, making Daenerys his aunt. I'm not being gross when I say they should get married; I'm just going along with Game of Thrones custom. (It's a whole lot better than the old Targaryen custom of brothers and sisters marrying.)
What's most interesting about their being related are all the offhand references in this episode - Daenerys saying she's the last Targaryen (nuh-uh) and the scene where they talk outside, with Jon admiring her dragons. "I named them for my brothers: Viserys and Rhaegar," she says, and obviously the name Rhaegar means nothing to Jon now, but it will very soon, hopefully . . . if he finds out who his parents are this season.
Obviously, if Jon knew Rhaegar was his dad, all of his interactions with Dany would be very different - especially that whole bending-the-knee conversation. Can't wait until they really find out.
No more freebies: India plans crackdown on marketing by drugmakers
India, one of the world's largest markets for pharmaceuticals, is drawing up its first set of marketing rules for drugmakers, draft proposal suggests.
The Depressing Reason Kate Middleton Always Packs This Outfit When She Travels
There's only one outfit we know Kate Middleton always packs, and that's something black. This is on purpose, because according to The Independent, the royal family is required to pack a black outfit for mourning. The strict rule's in place in case anyone in the family dies while they're away. That way, he or she can change into the spare attire upon arrival in England. As morbid as all this sounds (who wants to think about this while traveling?), you have to admire the royals for being so prepared, especially since Prince William and Kate are often abroad.
My Mom Was Latina, My Dad Isn't - 10 Annoying Comments I'm Tired of Hearing
As a multiracial woman with a Peruvian-born mom and a white American dad, I can say life can be a little bit complicated. Growing up, it definitely wasn't the "cool" thing to be multiracial, especially in small-town Oregon where I spent my high school years, so I didn't really start to embrace the Peruvian part of my identity until I got to college. And while I have always taken pride in being Latina - it certainly has come with some built-in perks, like being fluent in Spanish by preschool - the whole thing comes with its fair share of eye-roll-worthy moments. Cue that time customers at my high-school waitressing job assumed I didn't speak English because of the way I looked.
If this story sounds familiar, chances are this roundup of other annoying comments and struggles will be too. Keep scrolling for the most frustrating moments I've faced.
If Only Daenerys Knew This Info About Jon in This Week's Game of Thrones
This week's Game of Thrones featured a meeting we've been waiting our whole lives (OK, seven seasons) for: the one between Jon Snow and Daenerys Targaryen. Though they're not immediate BFFs at first - their family histories make them uneasy about each other - Tyrion helps Daenerys to strategize in her partnership with Jon by giving him dragonglass. The funny thing about all their interactions, though, is that they're related, and if they had this info, it would change everything.
Not only do these two seem destined for each other (A Song of Ice and Fire . . . hello!), but they are also related by blood: Rhaegar Targaryen is Daenerys's brother and Jon's father, making Daenerys his aunt. I'm not being gross when I say they should get married; I'm just going along with Game of Thrones custom. (It's a whole lot better than the old Targaryen custom of brothers and sisters marrying.)
What's most interesting about their being related are all the offhand references in this episode - Daenerys saying she's the last Targaryen (nuh-uh) and the scene where they talk outside, with Jon admiring her dragons. "I named them for my brothers: Viserys and Rhaegar," she says, and obviously the name Rhaegar means nothing to Jon now, but it will very soon, hopefully . . . if he finds out who his parents are this season.
Obviously, if Jon knew Rhaegar was his dad, all of his interactions with Dany would be very different - especially that whole bending-the-knee conversation. Can't wait until they really find out.
Unicorn Macarons Might Just Be the Most Effing Magical Dessert We've Ever Seen
If you fangirled over unicorn chocolate bark, prepare to fall head over heels for the latest magical dessert trend that's stealing our hearts: unicorn macarons! These petite pastries are just like any other macaron - crisp on the outside yet chewy and creamy on the inside - except they've gotten a colorful makeover that any Lisa Frank fan would appreciate.
There are many variations of this swoon-worthy dessert trend, as some are simply multicolored macarons covered in sprinkles while others are adorned with horns or cut into the shape of the mystical creature. No matter what route you choose, you can easily DIY them at home by starting with a basic French macaron recipe (or our Fruity Pebbles macaron recipe), which calls for ingredients like almond meal and egg whites, then decorating the treats however your unicorn-loving heart desires. If you prefer sticking to a tried-and-true recipe, the baking extraordinaires behind Loving Creations For You have the perfect unicorn macaron recipe, complete with custom-made templates for cutting out the animal shapes. And if baking isn't your forte but you still want to get your hands on one of these bite-size goodies, take a road trip to Georgia for the adorably decorated unicorn macarons at Mac Lab Bakery & Cafe!
Ready to DIY these and in need of some inspiration to get you started on your baking journey? Keep reading to see how different pastry-lovers have prepared this picture-perfect dessert.
Ellen DeGeneres Designed a Baby Collection, So BRB While We Add It All to Our Carts
It isn't often that a collection of items from one designer comes along from which every single item needs to be added immediately to a cart, but Ellen DeGeneres's lifestyle baby collection is just that. The ED Ellen DeGeneres collection, which is available now in BuyBuy Baby stores nationwide and online at buybuybaby.com, features everything you need for baby - cribs, sheets, onesies, socks, hooded towels, diaper bags, and so much more - with a hint of signature Ellen flair (think happy prints and words like "kind" and "love" printed all over).
"Babies love to be swaddled and should always be surrounded by love and kindness," Ellen said in a press release. "I created my baby collection with that thought in mind. Each piece has a message of love, and the line is filled with whimsical and fun pieces. I don't have a baby, but I love to be swaddled, and you will too!"
Ahead, some of our favorite pieces from the ED Ellen DeGeneres collection (seriously, though; it was hard to even attempt to narrow it down to a few picks!), which were all made in conjunction with some of your other favorite baby-gear brands, such as Aden by Aden + Anais and Peg Perego.
Everything You Need to Know About the Action-Packed Ant-Man and The Wasp
Are you ready for more Paul Rudd? Because we are most definitely ready for more Paul Rudd. Luckily we don't have too long of a wait before the titular star of 2015's Ant-Man returns to the silver screen as Scott Lang, a thief with one very interesting suit hanging in his closet. New details about the sequel, officially titled Ant-Man & The Wasp, have started to pour in, so let's take a look at what we know so far, from the star-studded cast to the release date.
Everything You Need to Know About the Action-Packed Ant-Man and The Wasp
Are you ready for more Paul Rudd? Because we are most definitely ready for more Paul Rudd. Luckily we don't have too long of a wait before the titular star of 2015's Ant-Man returns to the silver screen as Scott Lang, a thief with one very interesting suit hanging in his closet. New details about the sequel, officially titled Ant-Man & The Wasp, have started to pour in, so let's take a look at what we know so far, from the star-studded cast to the release date.
This Italian Model Floated Down the Aisle in a Cloud of a Wedding Dress You Have to See
It's no wonder Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana designed Bianca Balti the most beautiful wedding dress - the Italian supermodel made her industry debut with the Milan-based brand. But since then, Bianca's gone on to walk the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show in 2005, nab the 2017 Rookie of the Year Sports Illustrated title, and create her own swimwear. Needless to say, her nuptials to Matty McRae, which took place at The Ranch at Laguna Beach, attracted most of the fashion industry.
The setting was lovely, and Bianca got ready for her ceremony in an off-the-shoulder, floral-print dress. She celebrated her surprise bachelorette in a tulle skirt and tee that read "Bride." But it was her romantic pouf-sleeved wedding gown that stole the show. Stitched with ivory lace, the number was instantly recognizable as a classic Dolce & Gabbana look, as was the lemon motif that could be spotted throughout the reception. Read on to soak up every dreamy detail.
6 Ways to Thrive as an Introvert in an Office Made For Extroverts
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Open-plan offices. Group brainstorming sessions. Back-to-back meetings. If these things make you shut down inside, you just might be an introvert struggling to thrive in an office environment made for extroverts. Despite a recent uptick in awareness of the differences between introverts and extroverts, many companies are still painfully slow to adapt to these findings by accommodating introverts in the workplace. According to The Economist, "If anything, the corporate approach to introverts has been getting worse." Ugh.
Before you retreat to the bathroom for some silent screaming at an indifferent universe, check out a few ways to adapt to a work environment that doesn't entirely suit your temperament.
1. Take alone time whenever possible.
Of course, one of the greatest differences between extroverts and introverts is that extroverts feel energized by interacting with others, while introverts often feel depleted by human interaction and require alone time to recharge. Office layouts - especially open-plan offices that are meant to stimulate communication - can make you feel like there's no escape, so you have to plan your own getaways. Finding some space or an empty conference room for even 15 minutes of quiet alone time can make a huge difference, or take your lunch outside to escape the chatty vibe of the break room.
2. Suggest a change in the ways meetings are conducted.
If you feel you're being steamrolled in meetings, suggest that the team adjusts how meetings are run. Amazon has adopted a tactic of beginning each meeting in silence while everyone reads a six-page memo on the subject of the meeting. All attendees must finish reading the memo before even opening their mouths, which shifts the focus directly to the discussion at hand and away from people's behavior in the meeting.
Introverts can also thrive more in smaller groups, so breaking a large meeting into groups of two or three could help quieter folks feel comfortable expressing their thoughts.
3. Make your personal workspace as comfortable and safe as possible.
What comforts you when you're feeling anxious? If there's desk space for it, place some soothing greenery in potted plants or tack up images of your favorite calm locales. Another introvert decor tip for book-lovers: lining or stacking up your favorite books can make you feel tucked-in and comfy, like you're inside a little library, and it creates a sort of makeshift boundary line between you and your neighbor.
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4. Use headphones and soothing sounds to retreat into your own head.
Part of the power of introverts lies in their ability to focus and work diligently and independently on their tasks. If office noise and chatter is making it impossible to concentrate, don a pair of noise-canceling headphones and cue up some white noise, or use an app such as Brain Wave, which combines binaural programs with ambient music or nature sounds to suit your specific needs (stress relief, promoting creativity, concentration, etc.).
5. Don't forget the buddy system.
It worked on the school bus during field trips and it still works today with full-grown workmates. Find a buddy! Since one-on-one interaction is much easier for introverts, make a meaningful connection with one co-worker who can help you navigate some of the more anxiety-inducing situations. Even just one friendly presence by your side will ease the discomfort of large groups or work-sponsored social events where you'll need to show your face.
6. Fake it sometimes.
There's no need to quash your natural instincts or gifts, but if you're in an environment where extroverted sensibilities are most dominant (and most rewarded), it can help to just fake it sometimes. One introverted CEO set himself the goal of "acting like an extrovert five times a day." If five times a day seems too ambitious, start by putting forth one effort per day to socialize with co-workers or perhaps even lead a small meeting. Eventually (if you continue to give yourself plenty of recharge time), extroverted behavior will feel more natural.
What Your Child's Preschool Teacher Wants You to Know Before School Starts
Preschool is a big step - up until now, your child probably hasn't spent too much time (or any at all) in a classroom with a large number of children, and likely hasn't spent too long being away from you or away from a nanny or daycare that they feel comfortable with. Along with leaving you for the day, they are also expected to behave and act differently than they do at home - and if this is your first child going to school, you might have a lot to learn as well.
We spoke to real preschool teachers and gathered up some tips on the most important topics, such as potty training and behavior, to get you and your little preschooler ready for the fun-filled year of learning ahead.
Can You Spot the Kid Drowning in This Public Pool Before the Lifeguard Does?
A day at the pool isn't all fun and games - and no one knows that better than the lifeguard.
Drowning can happen in the blink of an eye and even when people are within arm's reach of the victim. As much as we think we might notice someone struggling in the water, drowning is often a silent killer.
Thankfully, in this real-life video taken at a public wave pool, a boy is spotted drowning within seconds by a resourceful lifeguard - likely well before anyone watching this footage, even knowing what to search for, could spot him.
The lifeguard sounds her whistle, swims out to the boy who lost hold of his floating ring, and carries him to safety.
One important factor to note is that this video includes sound, but you never hear the boy's cries for help. That's because when someone is drowning, contrary to what many assume, they can't call out - there isn't time to inhale or exhale. Often, they aren't able to wave their arms, which was a lucky ability for the child at this particular pool.
So can you find him?
Rock Your Abs: 5-Minute Workout
Work your abs while standing for a functional workout that actually strengthens your core for activities in your life. Plus, you'll create a sleek midsection with these moves that also work your entire body. We've added some weight to this workout, too, to make it even more effective. We suggest a dumbbell between three and eight pounds - yep, you only need one!
Directions: Perform each exercise for 30 seconds, then repeat for a second round.
1 of Obama's Top Aides Reveals a POTUS Story She's Never Told Before
As President Obama's former deputy chief of staff for operations, you better believe Alyssa Mastromonaco has some stories to tell. In her new memoir, Who Thought This Was a Good Idea: And Other Questions You Should Have Answers to When You Work in the White House, she shares a moving, funny, and sometimes heart-wrenching look back at the years she spent in politics and by POTUS's side. We caught up with Mastromonaco to find out what it was really like to be one of the youngest people - and one of the few women - to ever hold her position in the White House, discuss sexism's impact on politics, and get her to share her personal hopes for what's next for Barack and Michelle Obama. She even told us a pretty charming story about President Obama's meddling in her romantic life she's never told anyone - and that includes her husband.
POPSUGAR: It's pretty clear from your book that you have a deep admiration and respect for Obama. Is it fair to say working for him made you a better person? Better at your job?
Alyssa Mastromonaco: I would say that Barack Obama not only made me a better person but made me better at my job. He's one of the most intellectually curious people you'll ever meet and really brings that out in other people. When I first got to the White House, I was super anxious all the time about not knowing the answer to every question. And Obama was actually the person who let me be me. He was like, "Alyssa's not the person who wears the Ann Taylor suit. She's not the kind of person who always says the exact right thing." And I'm a bit of a wild animal. I brought a different perspective and I was a little bit more irreverent and casual.
PS: I teared up when I got to the end of the book and read the passage about him calling you after your beloved cat died. It was well after you'd resigned from your White House post.
AM: Just so you know, I had to reread that portion of my audiobook three or four times, because I cried every time. I, more than anybody, saw all the things that were on his plate every day. I felt other people maybe didn't realize how much a note meant that he wrote them or a phone call. But I saw his thought process behind the few moments of free time he had and how he used them. So, I knew that him taking the time to call me meant he really cared and really deeply understood how upset I was. That's what made it so meaningful.
PS: I love the anecdotes about Barack trying to set you up. It happened more than once, if I recall!
AM: There's a story I tell [in the book] about leaving Iowa, when he's telling me to email a guy that he said was into me. There was a thunderstorm, and we ended up having to drive from Ames, IA, all the way back to Chicago. So Gibbs [then Obama's senior adviser] and I were in the backseat of the PT Cruiser, and Obama kept turning around like, "Email him. Email him right now. He was not a bad-looking guy."
PS: So wait, you were driving Senator Barack Obama around in a PT cruiser?
AM: He was in a PT Cruiser. It was gray.
PS: What's the biggest way you saw the presidency and everything that comes with it - the responsibility, the celebrity - change Barack and Michelle?
AM: I think the external perception made them much more aware of making sure they stayed themselves. We win and it's super heady, and then a couple months later you are awarded the Nobel Peace Prize, but the one thing that we all believed - and that the president believed - is that you can never really buy into your own hype. Because as much as the world loves you one minute, they can be way down on you the next. I think that you would say if you looked at both of them, they kept it pretty even-keeled throughout the eight years, and he expected the same of us.
Someone on the campaign came to me and said, "You better get in line, because the people in South Carolina are just going to think you're a real bitch."
PS: Do you keep in touch?
AM: Oh, yeah. I saw them both in Chicago [on Jan. 7], and I saw the president at Marvin Nicholson's wedding down in Florida [on Jan. 10].
PS: I know a lot of people are very excited to see what he and Michelle do next. What do you hope to see them do?
AM:There are so many kids in the world who have only grown up knowing that an African-American first family is a part of life. I think the next couple of years are going to be pretty hard to get through, so I hope that they're super visible and that FLOTUS keeps up all of her work with young women.
PS: You explicitly say part of your motivation in writing this book was to get more women interested in pursuing political careers. What in your own experience proved the need for that?
AM: I didn't have a ton of role models back in 1998. So, when I was looking to get in, it was really just looking up at all the men who were out there. When you're not seeing women - when you're breaking into anything - it's like, "Well, this is what the men do and how they act, so we're going to just emulate that behavior." I wanted young women to know that I was very lucky that I worked for people who literally let me be me. If I had ever been anyone other than me, I would have come off as a fake, a phony, a fraud, and never would have gotten where I ultimately ended up. You can be yourself and be in politics, and they should know that. That was kind of why I wanted to do it - because I didn't see any freaks in politics like me.
PS: Was there a particular moment you remember facing blatant sexism in the political world? How'd you handle it?
AM: There was a moment. It was the very beginning of the Obama campaign in January or February of 2007. I was asserting myself and someone on the campaign - who wasn't David Plouffe or Axelrod or anyone like that - but someone came to me and said, "You better get in line, because the people in South Carolina are just going to think you're a real b*tch." It was a man. I was just like, "Wow." I didn't say it, because I was so stunned, but in my head I was like, "Wow, and you're a real d*ck." That's the one moment I can really think of where I was like, "I don't think anybody would have said that to one of the guys." I wasn't even being aggressive. They were just wrong and I told them they were wrong.
I think that what you saw during those eight years, and in those last few weeks, was that the Obamas love people and they are going to miss them.
PS: I'm sure you have a fascinating perspective on how sexism impacted the 2016 election and Hillary Clinton- who you worked alongside when she was Secretary of State.
AM: I don't think that Donald Trump treated Hillary any differently than he treated Ted Cruz or Marco Rubio. He is a deeply disrespectful person who didn't have enough reverence for the office he was running for to act humane. I never like to oversubscribe to sexism. I'd love to say "Donald Trump is just sexist." And I do believe he's sexist, but I also believe that he also treats anyone who is his opponent in a very insane and disrespectful way. Saying "lock her up!" - which is insane - and calling him Lyin' Ted and him Little Marco . . . it's all really bad.
PS: What was it like from your perspective to witness the entire election cycle, this time from the outside in? Did you have FOMO?
AM: It was really hard. But the whole time, I think that we all thought that she was really going to win. So, you didn't feel that kind of FOMO like, "Oh my god, I should be there because I could make such a difference." I think we all kind of thought it was handled and then, when she didn't win, I did feel like, "Oh, god, now I really need to be an activist." I want to be out marching all the time. I want to wear "Feminist AF" t-shirts.
PS: How did the Obamas seem in January when you saw them? I know Michelle Obama has been pretty open about feeling a sense of relief about being able to step away from the White House.
AM: The times I saw them, they were pretty nostalgic. I'll tell you two things: if you look at the video of the farewell speech the president gave on Jan. 10 in Chicago, and you look at the very end, you can tell he's taking in the moment. The thing that I think is so depressing, fundamentally, about Donald Trump, is that he doesn't appreciate what's happening right now. He doesn't seem to think it's an honor. He doesn't seem to understand why we're actually super blessed to have the government we have. I also don't ever get the sense that he loves Americans. If you look at POTUS [Obama] - and I will always call him POTUS - I think that what you saw during those eight years, and in those last few weeks, was that they really love people and they are going to miss them. And that they deeply appreciate the opportunity they were given.
Most women will want to only give their opinion only when it's almost fact in their mind - whereas dudes will pontificate a lot more. And I will tell you, I've started pontificating a lot more.
PS:What's your advice for young women who might be interested in getting into politics, but are feeling deterred - whether it's because it's still a male-dominated field, or they just don't know where to start?
AM: Find someone who you really believe in - that can be at a state level. The one thing I can encourage women to do the most is to start at the state level. It is the biggest reason that the Democratic party is behind. Women generally have to start building the bench, and right now our bench is a little thin. If I were to ask you who you think will run in 2020, we're like, "I don't know. Maybe Elizabeth Warren? Maybe?" Because there aren't five or 10 people. I would encourage young women to find that person, give it your all, and leave it all on the field. The one thing I have found is that, if you are sitting at a table, most women will want to only give their opinion only when it's almost fact in their mind - whereas dudes will pontificate a lot more. And I will tell you, I've started pontificating a lot more, which is very satisfying. They should not be afraid to speak.
PS: What's a piece of advice, or something Obama said to you over the years, that really stuck with you?
AM: Here's something nobody knows. When I had been dating my husband for a while, the president said to me, "When is he going to put a ring on it?" And I was like, "Oh, come on. We are so busy. We don't need to think about that." He said, "He needs to put a ring on it because you're worth it." And the thing is, I'm not even kidding you, it was about a week or two later that we got engaged. I've never told that story to my husband, either. It would be news to him. Also, what, are you going to go back to your boyfriend and say, "The president told you to put a ring on it"? The lamest thing ever.
Get an Exclusive First Look at Ergobaby's Newest Carrier, Which Literally Has It All
Parents who love to wear their babies, rejoice! Parents who have found it difficult to find the right carrier for them, lean in! Ergobaby, a fan favorite (and POPSUGAR editor favorite!) when it comes to baby-wearing products is releasing its best carrier yet: the Ergobaby Omni 360.
The all-in-one carrier ($180), which will be available for purchase on Aug. 3, is designed with both baby's and parent's comfort in mind and, unlike strappier carrier models, is super easy to adjust and get baby in and out of. As the name implies, baby can get a 360-degree view of the world thanks to the carrier's multiple positions - including forward-facing - just like past Ergobaby models you know and love. The best feature of all, though, is that the Omni carrier grows with your child from birth (up to 33 pounds), which means there's no need to purchase an adapter to fit inside during those fleeting infant months.
Hands-up-in-praise emoji, amirite?! Check out the new carrier ahead, and add it to your cart on Thursday, Aug. 3.
DIY Warming Rub For Sore Muscles
After a long day or a hard workout, soothe sore muscles with an all-natural rub that gently warms and releases muscle tension. Made with ingredients you have in your pantry and a few essential oils, the sore-muscle salve also makes a nice massage lotion. And it smells a whole lot better than the kind you can buy at the store.
What You'll Need:
- Small saucepan
- Small heat-safe bowl
- 1/4 cup coconut oil
- 1/4 cup olive oil
- 1 tablespoon beeswax
- 1/4 teaspoon ground pepper
- 1/4 teaspoon ground ginger
- 20 drops peppermint essential oil
- 20 drops eucalyptus essential oil
- 20 drops clove oil
- Coffee filter
- Strainer
- Small bowl
- Small sealable container
Directions:
- Start by filling a small saucepan with water and finding a heatproof bowl that will fit inside the pan. You can also use a clean can for this step. Measure and add the coconut and olive oil to the bowl, along with the ground pepper and ginger. Bring the water to a simmer, and then let the mixture warm in the hot water for 20 minutes.
- Black pepper and ginger are more than just spices! Both are warming ingredients and help with circulation, soothing sore muscles. After 20 minutes of steeping in the oils, add the beeswax, and heat until melted.
- Place a stainer over a small bowl, and add a bit of extra help with a coffee filter. Carefully remove the melted mixture from the saucepan, and pour over the strainer. This keeps the ginger and ground pepper out of your smooth salve.
- Now add the peppermint and eucalyptus essential oils. Both add a deep, soothing tingle to the rub and smell fresh and invigorating. We made our own clove-infused oil, which was added to the mixture, but you can find clove essential oil at most health food stores.
- Carefully pour the warming rub in a small sealable container, and let set at room temperature for a couple of hours. Cap, and use when your muscles are in need of some soothing.
The recipe makes two ounces of warming rub that will keep in a cool spot for as long as it lasts. This sore-muscle salve offers a gentle tingle and is made for topical use only. Avoid using on the face and wash hands after application to avoid interaction with eyes, nose, and mouth.
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This Heated Rooftop Pool in Switzerland Is Everything We Could Ever Dream Of
Even though I love to ski and hike (kind of), I would much rather stare off into the distance at tall mountains rather than climb them. And if we're going to stare at some beautiful scenery, Swiss mountains are unparalleled in their beauty and grandeur. Throw a heated pool in the mix, and we're never leaving.
Hotel Villa Honegg is a boutique hotel in the heart of Switzerland with a heated outdoor pool that overlooks a lake, mountains, and a valley below. If you're looking for peace and quiet, and quite possibly the best Instagram photo of your life, then add this stunning hotel to your bucket list. Check out the photos and videos of the pool ahead.
Each and Every Star Baring It All on Instagram This Year
If there's one thing stars love more than dressing up, it's stripping down. There's no doubt that last year had its fair share of steamy moments, but this year has been pretty hot thanks to a select number of celebrities. Lea Michele kicked off the new year by baring it all, while Chrissy Teigen unabashedly ditched her bikini to pose nude during her Sports Illustrated press day. And who could forget Ashley Graham's supersexy topless photo? Be sure to have a cool drink nearby, because it's going to get hot in here.
Drug monitoring won't address causes of addiction, front-line worker says
The provincial government is working on the second phase of its long-awaited New Brunswick prescription monitoring program, aiming to give pharmacists the ability to see who may be misusing prescriptions for addictive drugs in real time.
Don't let the hype around Lyme disease lead to unnecessary treatment, warns U of A researcher
An infectious disease specialist at the University of Alberta Hospital says the risk of contracting Lyme disease from a tick bite is overblown.
More Canadians living alone and without children, census figures show
Childless couples and empty-nesters growing at faster rate than couples living with children, 2016 census figures show.
How I Turned My Ikea Couch Into a $10,000 Designer Sofa
I don't believe you grow out of Ikea past the age of 25. I love the Swedish brand's minimalist aesthetic. And since I like to mix things up, the price point works for a design commitment-phobe like me. Despite my Ikea love, after three years, my Karlstad sofa started to look a bit sad. Since the low-profile sofa fit perfectly in my open living room, I decided to give it a designer-couch makeover instead of replacing it.
This Raleigh Sectional from Design Within Reach (pictured above) served as my inspiration. The walnut frame matched the midcentury vibe I strive for, and the light fabric color would add to the airy look in my bright living space. That sofa retails for as much as $10,000. I knew I could DIY the look for less. Read on for how I did it.
I'm Not as Passionate About My Job as I Once Was
Have you ever gotten up in the morning simply dreading the idea of getting out of bed and going to a workplace that made you feel like a hamster on a wheel? Well, it happened to me, and I am sure I'm not the only 30-something professional that has an acute sense of being lost on their career path.
As a mid-management executive, I believe in numbers and facts, so I did a little digging. It turned out that, according to research by Gallup, there are millions of people out there who feel completely dissatisfied with their jobs, while only 13 percent of respondents said they were truly and wholeheartedly engaged in their careers. So I was a small dot in a huge statistical cloud, feeling unmotivated, less productive, less purposely driven, and less passionate about my job as I once was.
Don't get me wrong; I wasn't the type of woman who didn't know what she wanted or who chose a profession out of lack of better opportunities. I wanted my mid-management position. I chose a college major that would send me right to this position because I just loved finances. I went up the promotion ladder over the years, and I was hell-bent on getting this exact job in this exact company. So, in my first three years, I was a rock star, impressing everybody with my skills, wits, and expertise. Because, of course, the next big dream was to end up on a high-management chair, in an office one floor above.
But somehow, I got lost. There was no more joy in juggling with decisions, tasks, people, top managers and low managers, projects, budgets, and challenges. Sitting there at my desk, working for a company that essentially was good to me, I was torn. That fight was between my loyalty to an entity that offered me everything I wanted and the inescapable feeling that leaving the company would drop a huge burden on my ménage's ability to smoothly swing through bills. It also included matters such as hobbies and parents to take care of. And all of that was under the enormous dark cloud of unhappiness that hung over my head and turned me into a not-so-efficient employee.
The easiest and most logical choice was to get unstuck and find something else to do. Change the job, though? Go on a completely different career path? At 34? Let's get our facts straight: You don't leave a mid-management position that pays for vacations abroad when you expect to be promoted to top management just because you feel bored with your daily routines. Not if you are a woman. Not in this economy. Not if you still love the finance field.
So, I decided to devise a plan to get back on track. My theory was the following: since I can't change the job (yes, I am an opportunist who loves the industry, the company, and its people), I will change the way I do the job. This idea was given to me after reading an article on professional burnout and means to regain your energy and motivation levels.
After listening to professionals in psychology and human resources, I understood that people aren't robots that don't need maintenance. We do need to get out of our own heads and take a step back to take a breather no matter how busy we are. Besides plunging into some pretty cool workplace relaxation techniques, this is what I did big:
- I fully redecorated my office.
Out with the neutral tones of gray, mahogany, pale neutrals, and stainless steel; in with whimsical patterns, brightly colored accessories, some potted plants, cute framed pictures, and a vintage armchair for my personal use only. It may sound like a no-brainer, but changing the physical look of your working environment can lift up your spirit, put a smile on your face, and make you feel less stressed, less pressured, and quite cool. - I took plenty of breaks during the day.
Well, it wasn't easy, caught by the torrent of work, but I stood my ground. Research shows that taking a break every 90 minutes improves focus by 30 percent and the feeling of well-being by 46 percent. So a few times a day I would sit in my retro armchair and watch some Steve Harvey sketches and shows. I simply love the man and always found inspiration in him and his story. After learning that he is a college drop-out and putting this information together with how much he's worth, it makes you feel like there is no limit to anything - not even boosting your own passion for work out of the grave. It took a month, but I felt the benefits of these breaks. I felt my brain disengaged, rested, and up for new challenges. - I changed the way I worked with my team.
I moved our weekly department meetings in the park in spring and summer, and downstairs at the cafe in the cold season. I let one of my team members work from home, by rotation, one day a week, and I also offered myself the same privilege. I gave up on certain bureaucratic ways of getting things done and used some money from my department's budget to invest in cloud storage and a few time/task management tools. I organized two team-building events in the wilderness to spice up some teamwork and communication. It took me half a year, but when you see people loving to work with you, you also start to love working with them. And the job suddenly doesn't seem so boring, repetitive, or useless. - I made sure there was a clear separation between church and state.
Once I opened the door to my apartment, the job was left outside. No emails, no phones, no repetitive and mind-grinding useless browsing of social media, no distractions. I cooked, watched movies, and did my manicure, spent time with my partner and our friends. You know, things that make you laugh, and things that remind you that you are a silly human who needs to unwind and have some fun. - I got a new lifestyle routine.
It includes exercising, getting more sleep, and learning a new language (I was always good at it and it landed me a new work project involving a foreign partner, which comes with cultural challenges and some work travel I can't wait to experience).
Sometimes it's not the job that makes you miserable. At least, this is what I've learned. It is your own perspective of the job that makes you miserable. The tasks are the same, and the routine will probably become the enemy over and over again. That is a given. But you can change a few things here and there and push some fun, a laidback attitude, and some personal discipline into it. Change the job when absolutely nothing works, but in the words of Jean-Luc Picard, "There is a way out of every box, a solution to every puzzle." Don't be afraid to try them all and invent some of your own as well.
50 Photos From the World Bodypainting Festival That'll Blow Your Mind
Just when we thought July 29 (aka National Lipstick Day) couldn't get any better, the World Bodypainting Festival happened.
During the event, contestants from over 50 countries stripped naked and turned their bodies into canvases, displaying art that took up to six hours to apply. Some of the artists' palettes included psychedelic color schemes that made us question our own sobriety. Others took a darker route with spooky, bloodstained costumes that we're totally bookmarking for when Halloween comes around.
Just about every picture from the event was perfect, but we've found our favorites. Ahead, see 50 pictures that will make you want to rip off your clothes and slather your body in colorful paint.
Jennifer Lopez's Monokini Is So Sexy, We Don't Even Know Where to Begin
Jennifer Lopez has been vacationing with her new beau, Alex Rodriguez, in France, and the pair made time for a yachting adventure in Antibes. Suffice it to say, J Lo couldn't have packed a sexier swimsuit. The star opted for a crochet monokini by Mer Culture, which features plenty of cutouts and tasseled ties on each side.
Gold hoop earrings and aviator sunglasses were all she needed to make a statement. But really, with Jennifer's finesse and ability to pull off striking silhouettes, we can't say we're entirely blown away by her look. J Lo looks comfortable enough in her one-piece that it seems just right for a gal with daring style. If you're on board, you can shop the exact suit and similar designs ahead.
Why You Shouldn't Teach Your Kids to Share
One of the principles of early childhood education is teaching children to play well together, which usually translates into teaching them to share. If you've ever seen three preschoolers playing in the sandbox, you know that even if there are 10 toys in there, they'll all want the same one, and there's usually a meltdown when one child doesn't get it.
But maybe sharing shouldn't be the goal of early childhood education. There's a new movement discouraging parents from teaching their kids to share, and it's gaining traction with parents and preschools alike.
Don't Teach Your Children to Share
"Forcing children to share doesn't teach the lessons we want them to learn," Dr. Laura Markham, author of the just-released Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings, said. "Let's agree that the goal is for our children to grow into generous people who are able to notice and respond to the needs of others." In early educational settings, kids are learning to be able to meet their own needs, which, at this point in their lives, includes working and playing in their communities. "We don't want our kids to feel they should interrupt what they're working on to 'give' something to another child just because the other child asks," she added.
According to Dr. Markham, rather than teaching kids to speak up for themselves, forced sharing teaches them:
- If I cry loud enough, I get what I want, even if someone else has it.
- Parents are in charge of who gets what when, and it's arbitrary, depending on their whim and how dramatically I beg for my turn.
- My sibling and I are in constant competition to get what we need. I don't like him.
- I guess I'm a greedy person, but that's what I need to be in order to get what I deserve.
- I better "play fast" because I won't have this item for long.
- I won! But soon I will lose again. I better protest loudly when my turn is up to get every minute I can. And then start protesting again as soon as it's my sibling's turn. If I make my parent miserable, I'll get more time with the toy.
Give Them Tools Instead
So what should they be taught? Dr. Markham said they need to be given the tools to handle these situations. "We do want our child to notice when another child would like a turn, and to ensure that child gets a turn," she said. "And when someone else has something that our child wants, we hope that she'll be able to control her impulses so she doesn't grab it, but instead will use her words to work out an arrangement so that she can use the object in the future."
By teaching kids to advocate for themselves and not immediately share their toys, they aren't waiting for someone to tell them their time is up, and they can therefore play more freely with them. "The conventional approach of forced sharing undermines the ability of children to lose themselves in play, as well as undermining the sibling relationship by creating constant competition," Dr. Markham explained. "Neither child gets to experience the generosity of having their fill and giving to the other."
So What's a Parent or Educator to Do?
"I encourage self-regulated turns, where the child decides how long to use the toy so she can fully enjoy it, and then can give it up to the other child with an open heart," Dr. Markham said. She believes that doing so will help the child experience the feeling of satisfaction that comes with making someone happy while ultimately teaching generosity. In turn, she believes the experience is more educational, teaching kids:
- I can ask for what I want. Sometimes I get a turn soon, and sometimes I have to wait.
- It's OK to cry, but it doesn't mean I get the toy.
- I don't get everything I want, but I get something better. My parent always understands and helps me when I'm upset.
- After I cry, I feel better.
- I can use another toy instead and really enjoy it. I'm getting better at waiting.
- I don't have to whine and cry to my parent to convince them to get me a turn. Everybody has to wait for their turn, but everybody gets a turn sooner or later.
- I like the feeling when my sibling gives me the toy. I like her.
- I can use a toy for as long as I want; nobody will make me give it to my sibling at a moment's notice. When I'm done with the toy and give it to my sibling, I feel good inside - I like to give her a turn. I'm a generous person.
The end result is a child who learns patience and empathy and may be better equipped to handle bigger situations in the future.
This Student Wrote 127 Pages in Response to an Infuriating Catholic School Assignment
I go to a Catholic high school, and they wanted me to write a paper on why gay marriage is "wrong and dangerous", so instead I wrote this 127 page paper. from lgbt
One Catholic high school student in Missouri is going viral for sharing the details of their shocking religion class assignment - along with the epic way they responded to it.
Reddit user averagesmurf recently shared the above photo, showing the cover of their latest morality class assignment. The student's teacher allegedly assigned the high school students to write a paper about why gay marriage is "wrong and dangerous," but this teen had a little something different up their sleeve. Instead, they cranked out a whopping 127 pages about why gay marriage is actually "fabulous," backed up with Bible references and historical quotes.
The post garnered more than 900 comments from people who offered up both positive and negative reactions. Some praised the student's work, with one user saying, "Good job :) hope you got an A." Yet others were suspicious that the photo was a fluke, with another user writing, "This smells like bullsh*t to me, 127 pages is stupidly long and I doubt any school would assign an essay about the dangers of gay marriage."
So, the student shared a few now-deleted snapshots of supposed pages from the assignment to prove its validity. The typed pages incorporate multiple Bible quotes and citations to support the student's argument that gay marriage should not be frowned upon by the Church. On top of that, the student offered up an in-depth explanation of what the assignment entailed.
Though we may not know for sure whether this student's assignment was real, we sure hope it is, because it looks like some people in this world still need to broaden their viewpoint on this hot topic.
Stop, No! 10 Ways You're Using Your Clarisonic Totally Wrong
Dermatologists, beauty editors, and celebrities alike swear by the Clarisonic cleansing brush ($199). We had a chance to talk to Clarisonic cofounder Dr. Robb Akridge and discovered something horrifying . . . we've been missing some crucial steps in our daily Clarisonic routine! Sure, we know how to clean it, but these tips will help you get the most out of your favorite skin-care device.
Once You Work Your Abs Standing, You'll Never Go Back to Crunches
It's time to the give up crunches to do some ab exercises that really work. Skip lying on the ground and give this 10-minute ab workout a whirl. Adding a dumbbell to the workout makes it even more effective. Grab your weight, between five and 10 pounds, then press play, and get ready to work!
Baking Basics: 10 Tips For Beginner Bakers
Every baker must begin somewhere, yet the calculated science behind baking is not always simple and intuitive for some, especially cooks who prefer to improvise in the kitchen instead of following a recipe verbatim. If you're new to baking or have had rough (aka messy or burned) experiences in the past, here are 10 tips every beginner baker should peruse before firing up the stove.
20 Candid Parenting Quotes From Shakira That'll Have You Nodding in Agreement
Ever since Shakira became a mom to Milan and Sasha, you can find her talking about being a parent and how much her life has changed in interview after interview. The Colombian singer likes to share advice on balancing being a mom to two toddlers and staying sane while following a busy work schedule - it does have to do with her longtime partner and the father of her children, Gerard Piqué, always being by her side and sharing parenting responsibilities.
No matter what is going on in life, Shakira always makes time for her 4- and 2-year-olds and even admits to being a bit of a "tiger mom" - just more proof that the 40-year-old isn't afraid to keep it real.
Emily Ratajkowski Is Sitting Pretty in Summer's Hottest Bikini Color
Emily Ratajkowski's 2017 trip to Italy looked like quite the dream, and she's got the stylized snaps to match sitting pretty on her Instagram feed. (What do you expect? She's a model with posing prowess after all.) It seems like Emily can't stop sharing bikini shots even though she's left town, and we're A-OK with that, as they're giving us plenty of inspiration to shop for the swim season ahead.
Emily teased her Reformation millennial pink triangle bikini by sharing a few angles of her LPA floral cover-up first. The oversize silk button-down is an easy throw-on-and-go getaway staple, and its peach shade complements a pastel two-piece most perfectly. If, like us, you're feeling inspired by Emily's entire ensemble - both suit and breezy top - you can shop plenty of similar essentials ahead.
9 Ways to Travel With Zero Plans When You're an Overplanner
"Winging it" is a foreign an obscene concept to an overplanner. Showing up to a place you've never set foot in when you've scraped together that precious time off work and saved all your pennies with zero plans in place? Insert anxiety here. I should know, on account of the fact that I am one. As a regular traveler and overplanner, I can often be found creating more stress for myself than necessary. Like most humans, I have a major case of FOMO that shines through even more when it comes to travel. I don't want to miss out on anything in the epic locations I'm exploring. In fact, I'd like to know each option, every nook and cranny, and plot out as much as possible to maximize my time in seeing ALL. THE. THINGS; please and thank you.
What if I couldn't find a place to sleep? What if I whizzed right past a rare gem of a place and was none the wiser? What if I had walked just a touch further and found an even tastier restaurant? What if, what if! These are just a sampling of the lovely thoughts constantly darting around my noggin. I mean, we all agree that it's great to have a back-up plan, obviously. And learning the ins and outs of a destination to maximize your experience sounds reasonably reasonable, in theory. But, as smart as it feels to plan your trip to the Nth degree, it can actually hinder your overall travel takeaway.
Overplanning closes you off to opportunities that spontaneous travel will potentially give you.
Making a conscious change happens differently for everyone, and for me, it happened because I was exhausted. Nearing the end of a five-month jaunt to 17 countries, I was tired, tired of overplanning and researching. So, I showed up to New Zealand, my last big stop, for a two-week road trip around the South Island with only the first night in a hotel and a car rental booked. I did everything else on a whim and it was a whole new way of absorbing a place that I hadn't truly allowed myself to do yet. It was a bit like skinny-dipping. Hesitant at first, but then liberating and enjoyable once you dive in.
Go on a trip with zero plans? Sounds like a cruel joke to us overplanners, one that is enough to fuel our nightmares for the next month. But it could actually be a good thing, if we let it. Life-changing, even. Although it's a constant work in progress, these smattering of two cents tips on relinquishing control in a manageable way are a good jumping-off point. If all else fails, we can start an overplanners anonymous group.
1. Let go.
This is likely the most difficult aspect. Control feels like a luxurious security blanket, but with travel things can still go wrong, and they will. We should take a page from Frozen's book and just "let it go." Easier said than done, Elsa. In all seriousness, giving up that need to control will loosen up some tension in the long run. Keeping an open mind will open you up to experiences you can't read about on review sites and will ultimately end up being your most meaningful memories.
2. Prioritize.
We can't just quit our overplanning ways cold turkey. Make a list. Prioritize what you absolutely must do/see/eat on your trip, and then leave the rest up to the travel gods and spontaneity. Limiting yourself is the key here. Top 583,295 priorities sounds reasonable, right?
3. Balance.
Although there's a time and place for everything, it's all about balance. I mean, you don't want to show up to Santorini, Greece in August with no place to stay booked in advance. It's the high season and a popular destination. But you could show up and not have done hours of research or planned an itinerary and get recommendations from the locals, which is a more authentic way to travel anyhow.
4. Break the cycle.
You have to take the first steps in breaking the habit of overplanning by, well, not overplanning. So the next time you find yourself elbow deep on TripAdvisor, walk away. Then come back and rip up that second-by-second itinerary that you've photocopied for all parties in your group into a million pieces. And highlighted. And laminated. Then burn it.
5. Timing.
Timing does not always, if rarely, line up perfectly, in travel and in life. No matter what Google Maps says for driving distances, it certainly didn't factor in the herd of sheep blocking the main road in Norway. Or the Italian train taking a midday siesta for no apparent reason other than it's Summer. Or that the restaurant you had your heart set on for the perfect dinner actually closed on Mondays.
6. Perfection.
It doesn't exist. Besides an overplanner, I'm also a self-proclaimed perfectionist. Adorable, right? We tend to obsess over making everything "just so" and pore over review sites researching the best of the best for our ventures. We have too many choices at our disposal in general, and as overplanners, we have a fear of making the wrong decision. Researching, the little unassuming demon that it is, becomes addicting. We think if we just look into it a little more, read a few thousand more sites, there has to be something better. Stop trying to constantly find the unequivocal best, and just pull the trigger already. Be savage and decide in the moment even.
7. Test it out.
Take your newly minimal-planner bad self out for a test drive on a smaller trip. Working your way up to it will be less of a shock to your system. Swallow your panic that the trip will be a disaster, leaving you sitting in your hotel room without a clue as to what to do, so you might as well do nothing, and push yourself and you'll see how freeing it feels. You may not ever want to go back to your previous ways.
8. Be present.
I am 100 percent guilty of this and something I struggle to focus on when I travel. I find myself getting so caught up in the next thing and planning for my next move that I'm not actually taking in the moment I'm living in real time. This might be the most golden of benefits from not overplanning. If you want to stay longer somewhere, you can, or if a location is a bust, you can leave. You won't be tied to your pretrip planning decisions you made before arriving, and you'll thank yourself after for being so smart. You want to remember the essence of a place, not the essence of your stress figuring it all out.
9. Roll with the punches.
With travel things will, undeniably at some point, not be smooth sailing. Take a risk. It's all well and good to say "just go with the flow!" but the reality is, that's not super easy to do when you're in an unfamiliar place and things go wonky. You've just missed the last bus, you don't have access to a WiFi connection, and it just started raining . . . hard. Oh, and this morning's breakfast burrito is staging an all-out revolt in your stomach with no bathroom in sight. I may or may not be speaking from experience, but these things really happen, and it's easy to get overwhelmed. The trick is to tackle each issue at a time, and although I'm not telling you how to live your life, I highly suggest attending to the most latter problem first. Just sayin'.
Flight Attendants Reveal the Most Annoying Thing You Can Order on a Plane
You might think that one of the most popular refreshments would be the easiest for flight attendants to grab - they'll have lots on hand and endless practice pouring it. However, it turns out that although a refreshing glass of Diet Coke is a one-ingredient drink to prep, it's possibly the most annoying think you can order on a plane.
In a 2013 post on the flight attendant blog These Gold Wings that has since gone viral, an anonymous flight attendant named Jet explained why pouring a can of Diet Coke is more difficult for the airline crew to serve you.
"As you may know, the aircraft cabin is not pressurized to sea level, but rather to the equivalent of about seven or eight thousand feet. This means some passengers might feel a little lightheaded or that alcohol affects them almost twice as much as it would on the ground. It also means soft drinks foam up a lot more when poured out of a can. The worst culprit for this is Diet Coke. I literally have to sit and wait for the bubbles to fall before I can continue pouring. If all three passengers ask for diet coke I'll often get them started, take another three drink orders, serve those, and then finish the diet cokes. As the infomercials say, 'There's GOT to be a better way!'"
Heather Poole, an American Airlines flight attendant, shared this sentiment with The HuffPost UK as well in her book, Cruising Attitude: Tales of Crashpads, Crew Drama and Crazy Passengers at 35,000 Feet. "[Diet Coke is] the most annoying beverage a flight attendant can pour for a passenger in flight, because in the time it takes us to fill one cup, we could have served an entire row of passengers," Heather wrote. "I've actually had nightmares about frantically trying to finish a never ending Diet Coke beverage service before landing."
A spokeswoman for Coke told HuffPost UK that the extra ice enhances the extra bubbles but declined to explain why the altitude affects this beverage differently than the brand's other products. "The amount of bubbles across different sparkling beverages is related to the specific recipe versus the altitude in which they are poured," the spokesperson said. "Generally, when sparkling beverages are poured at room temperature from a can and over ice, the fizz is increased."
The 1 Item a Home Editor Says You Should Always Buy at Ikea
Tackling closet chaos has been an ongoing problem for me. With limited space and lots of clothes, I've tried many different types of hangers over the years. Some had a narrow profile - great for saving space - but couldn't stand up to the weight of my clothes. Others were sturdy but slippery, which caused my blouses to fall off and get lost in a giant heap on the closet floor. Then there were the expensive hangers I finally decided to spring for because they looked so beautiful that they must work well, right? Wrong. They worked terribly. And don't forget about the flimsy wire hangers mixed in from the dry cleaner (oftentimes with the clear plastic garment bag still attached). The net result of all these failed hanger experiments was a lot of money wasted and a hodgepodge of mismatched hangers holding up the garments in my closet.
Enter the Ikea Home Tour Squad. They recently came to my house to help me overhaul my entire clothing storage situation with a customized Pax Wardrobe. One of the biggest highlights of my new wardrobe was the hanging clothes section. The Bagis hangers the squad used were everything I had been looking for but could never find: strong and slender, sleek and attractive, textured enough to keep clothes from slipping (but not so sticky it's difficult to remove them), and even complete with indentations for spaghetti-strap tops. And, perhaps most shocking and most wonderful of all, they're dirt cheap. They're sold in packs of four for $0.39. Yes, you read that correctly. At that price, you'll never have to double up on hangers again.
I've since headed to my local Ikea to store to load up on these hangers, swapping them into every closet in my home. You could say I'm going a little overboard, but now that I've found the perfect hanger, I don't want to my clothes to rest on anything else ever again.
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