Healthy lifestyle
A healthy lifestyle is one which helps to keep and improve people's health and well-being.Many governments and non-governmental organizations have made big efforts in healthy lifestyle and health promotion.
Mental Health
Mental health can be considered a very important factor of physical health for the effects it produces on bodily functions. This type of health concerns emotional and cognitive well-being or an absence of mental disorder.
Public health
Public health can be defined in a variety of ways. It can be presented as "the study of the physical, psychosocial and socio-cultural determinants of population health and actions to improve the health of the population.
Reproductive Health
For the UN, reproductive health is a right, like other human rights. This recent concept evokes the good transmission of the genetic heritage from one generation to the next.
Health
Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
samedi 4 août 2018
I Found a Concealer That Instantly Erases My Under-Eye Bags
When it comes to concealer, I've always had trouble finding a product that truly covers my under-eye bags. Most options crease, come right off, or just don't have enough coverage. Then, a makeup artist applied Lancôme Effacernes Waterproof Undereye Concealer ($31) to my face. I was in total awe. With a few taps of the product, those pesky bags instantly vanished.
The long-wear waterproof formula stays on from morning till night - I never have to reapply. Its silky consistency melts right into my skin for a natural look that isn't cakey or drying. Still not sold? Just check out the amazing reviews on Nordstrom. Of the 375 customers who reviewed the product, almost all of them give it a perfect five stars.
"To date the best full coverage concealer I've found," one buyer wrote. "Does not crease or get blotchy as the day goes on. I have terrible undereye circles and this covers them almost perfectly. I have tried just about every high-end and drugstore brand concealer and this is by far the best."
Consider your hunt over. Once you get your hands on this formula, you'll never want to try anything else again. I promise.
The 1 Beauty Look Princess Diana Always Kept the Same
Princess Diana was known as the people's princess. Before her tragic death in 1997, she was consistent in her work with various charities, her special relationship with the public, and her family.
She also had timeless style and often experimented with her makeup (blue eyeliner, anyone?), but the one thing she never changed was her hair. The late royal even had a sneaky way of cutting it so that the public wouldn't notice: her hairstylist Richard Dalton once said, "we had to do it one-fourth of an inch at a time over several weeks" so that the attention by the press wouldn't take away from her work.
Unlike Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle, who have changed their hair on various occasions and have both refined their signature style since joining the royal family, Princess Diana's approach was much more understated. She preferred to get swept-back blowouts with her pixie cut that had lots of volume, and she kept her hair an ashy blond.
You'll see exactly what we mean ahead.
Drink Up! These 9 Hydrating Beauty Products Are All Infused With Cactus
Think of a desert. Most of us picture open spaces, tumbleweeds, and a cactus. Since they're basically the only plant that can survive the driest climate on earth, it's safe to say they've got serious hydration capabilities. That makes cactus extract the perfect skincare ingredient; it's a natural way to add some moisturizing power into your products. We're not the only ones who think that cactus is a miracle ingredient - shop these nine products infused with cactus extract and get ready for your most hydrated skin ever.
Jo Malone on Her "Warrior" Comeback in Fragrance and Going Back to Basics
There's confidence, and then there's defiant confidence; the kind of rock-solid self-assurance that comes as a result of being put through the ringer and coming out stronger on the other side. Jo Malone, unofficial patron saint of the fragrance world and trailblazing entrepreneur, certainly possesses the latter.
Though Malone has spent 24 years (and counting) with her name at the forefront of the fragrance industry, that impressive span of time hasn't been without its trials. She made her official exit from the Jo Malone London brand in 2006, relinquishing full control of the company to cosmetics juggernaut Estée Lauder. Suddenly, Malone found herself facing a five-year hiatus from the fragrance industry as a result of a noncompete agreement, unable to participate in the world she'd dedicated much of her life to. When she was finally free to return in 2011, Malone jumped head first into her next endeavor: building an entirely new fragrance brand called Jo Loves. "It didn't take an entrepreneur to come back," Malone tells POPSUGAR. "It took a warrior."
From an outsider's perspective, it seems that Malone was battle-ready long before her career in fragrance began. Her struggle with dyslexia and a difficult home life (she's spoken openly about her father's gambling habits and her family's serious financial troubles) meant that Malone's childhood was far from idyllic. But despite those early hardships, Malone credits her upbringing, particularly her mother's work as a manicurist for Revlon, with instilling "an appreciation of creativity" that emanates through the work she produces today. We were able to chat with the fragrance maven, where she shared words of wisdom on creativity, trusting your gut, and the highs and lows of life as an entrepreneur.
POPSUGAR: When did you know you were interested in making a career out of fragrance?
Jo Malone: I didn't set out to make a career in fragrance. I'm very dyslexic, so my sense of smell is very predominant, and it's probably my main sense. I have something called synesthesia, which means my senses are slightly muddled, but I thought at a young age [that] everyone could smell like I could. And then as I got older I realized I actually had something pretty unique and pretty different. I could smell what no one else could smell, and I could create fragrance in my head and make it reality. I don't think you set out to create a global brand; that often happens in time. You just set out to survive in business, and then you set out and create something, and then the world follows you. I think that was very much my story and what has happened to me.
PS: The fragrance industry has changed in the 24 years since you launched Jo Malone London. Do you think today is a better or worse time to be a fragrance entrepreneur?
JM: Has the industry changed? Of course it has. Every industry changes in time. We add good things in it and bad things. It's a bit like politics - you get what you're given, and then you make it the very best that you possibly can. Distribution has changed phenomenally. Social media has changed the way we advertise a product, market a product, PR a product, and the influencers. But if you break everything back down to basics, which is always what I'm about, it's about a good product. It's about an authentic story, and it's about creativity. That for me is what fragrance is about. I don't want gimmicks.
If you look at Chanel and House of Guerlain, they are still so successful because they never moved far from the heartbeat of their founders. Look at Pat McGrath. You can see that woman's heartbeat through her brand. That is a very powerful, strong message. Stay true to who you are. There [are] lots that will come and go and earn millions and lose millions, but people that stand the test of time are the people that listen to the heartbeat of their brands.
PS: How would you describe the heartbeat of Jo Loves, and how does it differ from that of Jo Malone London?
JM: Jo Loves is about delving into my imagination and the "what if." The "what if" of What if I could change the way people make candles? or What if I could change the way the whole world wears fragrance with a paintbrush? Disruptors often walk a very lonely road for a bit, and suddenly the world goes, "That is really clever, and I like that, and I want to be a part of that movement." So [with Jo Loves], I'm going to challenge the way we do everything.
"You have to build something that makes you feel fulfilled as a human being. That's where true happiness comes from."
PS: How do you get your creative juices flowing when you are feeling less than inspired?
JM: Inspiration doesn't land on your doorstep. You have to work at it. You have to activate your imagination, and that's what I do. I might get inspired by other people's entrepreneurial journeys. When I read them, it makes me think, How can I do that? What can I do? I take different industries - everything from tech to interior - and I see how I can lock my world and their worlds together. What can I create out of a twist of those two worlds? That's how my mind thinks. I like to take two different worlds and collide them and create something. But I have to work incredibly hard every day.
PS: Aspiring beauty entrepreneurs look to your story for inspiration. What entrepreneurial advice would you share with them?
JM: I feel very honored that other people look [to me] for inspiration. I think I'm a girl that had nothing but a dream and made it happen. And if I can do it, so can they. I never quit. And I'd say to never quit on a bad day. The reality of that is you never quit on a good day, either. Sit down and take the pieces of your business on the table. Look at the parts that are working and failing, and work it out like a puzzle. Normally, the solution to everything is there if you simplify it. The three ingredients that make an entrepreneur are passion, resilience, and creativity. If you can incorporate those three things into your business and make them the focal point, you will succeed. It doesn't mean that everyone's going to be a billionaire, but you will succeed. Ultimately, it's not just about being successful, it's about being happy. You can make billions and still not be happy. You have to build something that makes you feel fulfilled as a human being, because that's where true happiness comes from.
PS: What was the biggest entrepreneurial lesson you took away from running Jo Malone London that you applied to how you run Jo Loves?
JM: I learned to trust my instincts. I learned the "big boys" - as in, big corporations - don't have all the answers. When I grew up, I never heard the expression "indie brand." Now it's used all the time. Indie brands, your moment is now. Go make it happen. Don't overcomplicate things. The world needs to go back to simplicity and the heartbeat of what things are really about.
"I think of a girl that had nothing but a dream and made it happen. And if I can do it, so can they."
PS: Is there any singular achievement from your career that you are the most proud of?
JM: I've learned to be a warrior of retail and not quit. I felt I came back to this industry for a purpose. I hadn't known what the overarching purpose was, and I think I do now. I'm ready for that challenge. And not just for this business to be successful but to have the courage to go on a new journey. That's what Jo Loves is about - a new journey and a new adventure. This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
vendredi 3 août 2018
20 Things That Women Should Stop Feeling So Guilty About
I am the kind of person who will say sorry upon bumping into a pole. I will also follow up an assertion of my opinion with a "sorry" if someone disagrees with me even slightly. My frequent use of the word "sorry" comes from a deeply rooted fear of being an inconvenience to anyone or imposing myself where I feel like I don't belong. In other words, it comes from guilt.
A few years ago, I came across Joan Didion's essay "On Self-Respect," which changed my relationship with guilt. In her piece, Didion writes, "Character - the willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life - is the source from which self-respect springs." Reading her words forced me to realize that feeling guilty about the things that made me myself was not only self-defeating, but also self-denying.
I am not alone. Countless women express feelings of shame over not meeting up with social expectations when it comes to their careers, looks, relationships, opinions - the list goes on and on. Guilt is a toxic emotion, and much less forgiving than remorse or acceptance. While it's pervasive, you can tame it with self-awareness. From saying no to wearing makeup, here is a list of things that should never make women feel guilty.
Apple Hits a Trillion Dollars in Value - With a Gay CEO Who's More Vocal Than Ever
The Love Loud Fest descended with bravado on Salt Lake City in the final weekend of July. The festival boasted a big-name lineup, including Imagine Dragons and Zedd, with proceeds going to causes like The Trevor Project and The Tegan and Sara Foundation. But there was one impactful and unexpected moment that made perhaps the biggest ripple at the flashy event: a speech by Apple's CEO Tim Cook.
"I stand before you tonight as an uncle, a sports nut, a CEO, a lover of the beautiful Utah outdoors, and a proud gay American," Cook said as he stepped on stage to a roaring crowd, his powerful words echoing through the Rice-Eccles Stadium.
When it comes to his sexuality, Cook's public openness is relatively recent. He came out less than four years ago, via a 2014 essay for Bloomberg. In the time since, he's been relatively quiet about the topic. But at the Love Loud Fest, his message reached 30,000 individuals in the arena alone, and likely millions more across the world.
"I've come to deliver a simple message that I want every LGBTQ person to hear and believe. You are a gift to the world, a unique and special gift just the way you are," Cook said. "Your life matters. Today, I say find your truth, speak your truth, live your truth. My heart breaks when I see kids struggling to conform to a society or family that doesn't accept them, struggling to be what someone else thinks is normal. Let me tell you, 'Normal' just might be the worst word ever created . . . there is nothing wrong with you."
In the days after the event, Apple hit an incredible benchmark. As of Aug. 2, the company reached $1 trillion in market valuation. It's hard to understate the message that having an LGBTQ+ leader at one of the biggest companies in the world sends. With more than 1.3 billion customers globally, Tim Cook has the power to embolden a new generation of ambitious LGBTQ+ pioneers.
Should You Consider an Open Marriage? Ask Yourself These 5 Questions First
Open marriages aren't for everyone, and that's completely OK. But if you've ever felt eager to break away from traditional relationship norms with your spouse, just know that you're not alone. Research published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that one in five Americans has been in an open relationship and open marriages are something that more and more people are opening up about diving into with their partner. So if the idea of hopping into bed with just one person for the rest of your life feels suffocating, but the idea of marriage has always been something you've been gung-ho about, perhaps it's time to sit down and chat with your spouse about keeping things in the bedroom more open. Before you make that joint decision, here are five questions you should ask each other and fully agree on first.
1. What Do I Want This to Look Like?
Just like any major life change, it's best to map out your plan of action when it comes to how you envision your open marriage working. Jotting down instructions and rules might truly be the best way to make sure that you and your partner are on the same page.
"Each partner should consider the fantasy scenarios they have in their head, as well as the nightmare version of what an open marriage could look like."
Saba Harouni Lurie, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in relationships and sexuality, said that people should be really honest with themselves and with their partners about their expectations of the relationship and how it would change if they were to open their marriage.
"Each partner should consider the fantasy scenarios they have in their head, as well as the nightmare version of what an open marriage could look like," Lurie told POPSUGAR. "Too often, we just think about fantasies, and while it's a good idea to consider how we can invite some of that into our lives, it is also wise to consider the other side of the coin and to take that into account while we are making this type of decision."
2. What Are Our Attachment Styles?
While the thrill of an open marriage might get you all riled up inside, Lurie suggested taking a step back and truly thinking about what your attachment style is like.
"Attachment styles influence the ways that we engage in relationships, often subconsciously," Lurie said. "It could be worthwhile for both partners to consider their own attachment styles, how those attachment styles are activated in the relationship now, and how they would manifest in an open relationship."
3. Why Is This Appealing?
If you're going to have a conversation with your spouse about wanting an open marriage, be sure to back up that thought with reasoning. What about it interests you? Why do you want to give it a try?
Stefani Shaffer-Pond, a licensed master social worker and kink-affirming sex therapist, suggests getting down to the root of why an open relationship appeals to you.
"What about the idea of an open relationship appeals to you? Is this coming from a desire to enhance an already-strong relationship or are you trying to 'fill gaps' in a relationship that is struggling? The purpose of an open relationship should not be to resolve unmet needs within the primary relationship," Shaffer-Pond said to POPSUGAR.
4. Is My Relationship Stable?
David F Khalili, LMFT, a private practice mental health therapist, recommended giving the current state of your relationship with your partner a really good look.
"This is a solid place to start so that couples can determine if they feel like they have a strong foundation," Khalili told POPSUGAR. "Opening a relationship can be incredibly exciting, but it can also offer significant challenges which can harm a relationship if your relationship is not strong to start off with. If you and/or your partner feel like you have one foot out the door, it's a good time to go to a couples therapist and work on strengthening your relationship before considering opening up."
5. How Will We Know This Is Working?
If you get to the point where trying an open marriage is what you and your partner agree on, before you head out and give it a try, have a plan in place so that you can check in with each other to make sure your relationship is still strong and both of you are still OK with this decision.
"Ask yourself, how often do we want to check in about what is and isn't working for us? The transition into an open marriage can be difficult, as most transitions are, and it could help the individuals involved to have conversations around how they are feeling and what is or isn't working for them, and to be prepared to continue to make changes as they move forward," Lurie said.
7 Useful Tech Gadgets You Didn't Know Your Home Needed
When it comes to fixing up or perfecting your home, we often look past tech gadgets. This year, don't get stuck behind the curve; instead, make sure you're up to date with all the latest must haves. From Bluetooth light-up mirrors to easy-to-use security systems and the newest garage assistant, we turned to Home Depot. The mega store carries an array of tech-savvy products for the home, and we rounded up our top choices so all you have to do is shop. Ahead, you'll find seven helpful tools that will be sure to make your life easier or more enjoyable in one way or another.
Related: The Best Smart-Home Devices of 2018
Get a Sneak Peek at the Crazy-Beautiful Wedding in the Upcoming Crazy Rich Asians Movie
Ever since we heard that the bestselling novel Crazy Rich Asians was being made into a blockbuster film, we've been dying to see how the over-the-top wedding in the story would be portrayed in the film. Trust us: it's everything you imagined it to be and more.
When Rachel heads to Singapore with her longtime boyfriend, Nick, to attend his best friend's wedding, she learns that he was born into one of the wealthiest families in the country. During their stay, Rachel has to deal with jealous girls, his crazy family and disapproving mother, and a culture of wealth that's totally new to her. The film culminates in a huge wedding with a ceremony (and dress!) that you won't be able to stop staring at and an outdoor reception that will make your jaw drop. Click through for a sneak peek at all of the gorgeous details and advice on how to replicate the over-the-top wedding for yourself. Who's excited to see the film when it hits theaters on Aug. 15?
7 Reasons Every Couple Should Go to Premarital Counseling
If you've recently become engaged, you might already be brainstorming about your upcoming nuptials. With the average wedding costing a whopping $33,391, it's no surprise that the planning process can be a little stressful. And while the seating chart and the flowers are all very important, many couples can get caught up in the wedding day preparations and neglect to prepare for their upcoming marriage. Here are the seven reasons every couple should go to premarital counseling.
1 Pizza Delivery Man Asked to Play a Family's Piano, and What Happened Next Is Music to Our Ears
Hubby ordered Hungry Howies tonight (Which we never do because I’m obsessed with Jets, but I wasn’t home) for the...
Posted by Julie Varchetti on Wednesday, July 25, 2018
Bryce Dudal, an 18-year-old pizza delivery man from Michigan, certainly knows his way around a piano. So when he happened across a gorgeous baby grand in the Varchetti family's home while delivering a pie one evening, he couldn't resist playing it. Thankfully, Julie Varchetti caught the performance on tape - and now the video is going viral.
According to The Washington Post, Bryce spied the piano while delivering pizzas for Hungry Howie's and asked the owners if he could take a look. Before long, he was giving his best rendition of Beethoven's "Moonlight" sonata - and the Varchetti clan was in awe.
"He was just beyond good," said Julie, who admitted that Bryce's rendition was so powerful that her 10-year-old son, Ryan, even stopped playing Fortnite to take in the song.
"When he started playing, I was surprised," Ryan explained. "I thought he was going to break the piano at first."
But the most unexpected part of the whole ordeal? The fact that Bryce is self-taught. For him, playing the piano is more about emotion than anything else.
"A lot of people sit down at the piano and play something slow and beautiful," Bryce explained. "But when I play for someone, I like to go all out." He added that "Moonlight" has been a long-time favorite of his because it's a "flashy, fast, amazing piece."
Now sit back, relax, and take in Bryce going to town.
WHOA - Amazon's Got Gorgeous Party Supplies and They're Seriously Cheap!
Ever purchased a pack of 100 white paper plates for a celebratory get-together only to find out that what you really have is more like 10 plates, each weirdly stuck to a batch of 10 plates? Then you're forced to peel them apart into flimsy things that feel more like single-ply tissue paper than plates. Stop this madness once and for all and pick up your supplies ahead of time. You don't have to spend a fortune, either. We went through Amazon and pulled out 20 things you can use for everything from a chic adult dinner party to your kid's first birthday.
9 Celebrities Who Know "Bouncing Back After Baby" Is BS - and Proved It With Honest Postbaby Pics
A lot of expectations are put on women to "bounce back after baby," but thankfully, of late, so many moms are sharing their real postpartum bodies to end the stigma against sharing stretch marks, extra weight, and cellulite postbaby. Recently, more and more celebrity moms have opened up about their bodies after birth to show that even though they're in the spotlight, their bodies aren't any different than a "regular" woman's and that they too struggle with feeling differently about their bodies after becoming a mom.
The resounding sentiment, however, despite the admittance of struggling with insecurities, is that we all deserve to - and should - love and cherish our bodies for what they've done rather than what they look like. See the celebrities who have bared all postbirth to prove that every body is beautiful.
17 Things That Always Happen When Your Family Finally Sits Down For Dinner
Sitting down together as a family for dinner is one of the most beneficial things you can do. Besides being a great opportunity to bond over a good meal, it's also proven to improve kids' performances in school. But doing something good doesn't mean it's going to be easy. Children, spouses, demanding jobs, smartphones, and Pinterest-inspired dishes can all make for a hectic meal. While we wouldn't trade the experience for anything in the world, sometimes it gets irritating as hell. Keep reading for 17 things that usually always happen when you try and sit down for family dinners.
I'm Thankful For My Worst Breastfeeding Moment, Because It Taught Me a Huge Lesson
It's dark in my bedroom. I don't even know what time it is; maybe 3 in the morning. My 5-week-old son is crying out for me from his bassinet again. We just nursed two hours ago. My head feels fuzzy, and I'm a little disoriented. This is day 39 of interrupted sleep. I have breastfed my baby somewhere around 360 times so far, if you figure he eats about nine times in 24 hours. My sore nipples are pink and blistered. My right breast has a blocked duct. I'm more than a little mentally and physically beat up. I'm broken and vulnerable and honestly, I want to give up on breastfeeding. And motherhood. I'm ashamed to admit it, but I wish I could run out the front door.
Of course I don't. Instead, I groggily pick up my son and a moment later feel him latch on. Sharp pain shoots up my breast, causing me to gasp. My shoulders hunch up to my ears instinctively, and I have to force myself to relax as my little boy suckles furiously on my tender nipple. The tears come easily. I'm just so tired. And worn out. Since I'm exclusively breastfeeding, I never get a break. I try to focus on the faint light coming from the hallway, but darkness is enveloping my thoughts.
This is too hard. I can't do it anymore. I resent my son for needing me so much. I hate my life.
Somehow we get through this feeding session and I put my son back to bed. I doze off, but my mind stays buzzing with self-pitying thoughts, and I sleep only a little until I hear him stirring a few hours later. This time, I open my eyes and see sunlight streaming through my window. My son's bright eyes are open, looking up at me, a little smile playing on his adorable, chubby face. I'm still exhausted and my boobs are painful to the touch, but in the light of day, things feel a little less daunting. I'm not as overwhelmed, and I actually enjoy cuddling for a feed with my baby.
With just a little space, time, and sleep, I realize that wanting to give up on breastfeeding is only natural. Because it's tough as sh*t, and so is being a mom. I'm glad I push through difficult feelings of self-doubt and frustration and get to this rewarding moment, when my baby is warm in my arms, his soft skin on mine, his gentle breath sweetly caressing my breast as he feeds.
Truth: I'm probably going to want to run right out the door of my house again. But I can't let momentary discomfort and exhaustion derail my commitment to breastfeeding my son, which, overall, I enjoy. So, after 362 feeds, here's what I've learned: It's OK if not every breastfeeding moment is beautiful and special. It doesn't mean your breastfeeding journey is forever doomed! But sometimes breastfeeding seriously sucks, pun intended. Here's hoping more moms will talk about those moments so the dark, painful hours spent nursing, alone and broken, won't feel quite so shameful and isolating. Until then, mamas, when the nursing gets tough, have faith there's light and love right around the corner.
9 Books to Get Kids Excited For School
Whether your child has already had their first day of school and still isn't quite on board or is anticipating the big day with equal amounts of excitement and anxiety, you can help ease the transition into the school year with one of the following books. Some will make you laugh, others are tender and sweet, and all are designed to help your child flourish as a successful, happy, and eager student! Here are our top nine picks.
Dear Moms - No, You Do Not Have to Breastfeed
Dear Moms,
No, you absolutely do not have to breastfeed. Take a deep breath and shut out all the noise and advice from everyone else who thinks they know you and your body. Listen to your heart and your gut. You do not have to breastfeed. You can hear "breast is best" as many times as you want, but that doesn't make it true for every individual mother. You do not have to breastfeed.
How do I know? Because I'm one of them.
"You just have to push through it," my friend said a few weeks after my son was born. I was in tears complaining to her about my cracked and bleeding nipples, engorged breasts, and recurring mastitis. I knew my friend wasn't trying to be cruel, but I also knew she didn't understand. Breastfeeding came naturally to her, and she wanted me to be successful at it, too. Only I wasn't. I tried everything, and nothing worked. The toe-curling pain was unbearable. So when she kept telling me to "push through it," it only made me feel worse. And while my physical distress was horrendous, nothing was worse than my mental state.
With so much pressure (from everywhere and everyone) to breastfeed successfully, I was an emotional basket case. I cried every day. I felt so much guilt for wanting to let my milk dry up. I knew that my baby would be just fine with formula, but I wanted to do everything perfectly. Me. But I was failing at the one thing I thought my body was supposed to be able to do. My baby blues began swirling out of control. Not only was I crying every day, but I also started to deal with anxiety.
Instead of soaking up those first few weeks with my new baby, I was drowning in stress. I couldn't sleep during the few hours I actually could because worry would wake me. And my relationship with my husband? Forget about it. He didn't understand what I was going through but knew that something had to change. Finally, with the strength and support of him, my mother, and my best friend, they urged me to stop breastfeeding. And after another bout of mastitis, I did.
The day that my milk dried up, I became me again. I realized that I was still the natural mother I wanted to be, even if that meant no breastfeeding. My baby boy became my greatest joy, and we BOTH became happier. I truly believe that if I would have continued to "push through it," I would have gone into full-blown postpartum depression. The darkness that hovered both within me and all around me was something I couldn't have "pushed through." And we shouldn't expect or encourage other mothers to, either. Our happiness is worth fighting for.
You don't have to breastfeed if you don't want to. You don't have to breastfeed if it hurts. You don't have to breastfeed if it's taking your hormones to a whole new level of depression and fury. You don't have to breastfeed if your milk isn't coming in or you're engorged. And you don't have to breastfeed even if the guilt of not breastfeeding consumes you. You don't have to do it.
The only thing that new mothers should have to "push through" is the awakening that many of them need to do what's right for themselves, their bodies, and their babies. Trust yourself. Trust your baby. You're doing the best you can.
Always,
A Proud and Natural Mom Who Failed at Breastfeeding
Everything Will Be in Its Proper Place Thanks to These Home Organizational Products
Honestly, it feels like we always need to clean our homes. But we'll let you in on a little secret: with the right products, every home can be Kourtney Kardashian-level organized. Think plenty of storage bins, extra shelving, and even shower storage. Yes, shower storage. Having an organized home makes you feel like you can take a breath, because you know everything is in its proper place. Just keep reading to shop our picks.
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The Hard Truth About Getting Our First Periods . . . and What Parents Can Learn
There are a number of formative moments that most women will never forget: their almost-debilitating first crush, being emboldened by their first french kiss, and, of course, their first period. Whether it came as a complete surprise to you or you were the last in your group when you finally started menstruating, chances are reflecting back on that moment - that day - still puts a smile on your face. The awkwardness (and likely the horror) that ensued was a critical experience for all of us.
Because no two period stories are alike, we tapped four POPSUGAR editors to ask them what really went down. Hopefully it'll help parents prepare in all ways for the upcoming school year.
Sure, Breastfeeding Is Natural, but It's Also Really F*cking Hard
Breastfeeding might be considered one of the most natural things in the world, but that doesn't mean it's not also incredibly challenging, both emotionally and physically. Women are constantly told that "breast is best," and while I'm not arguing those facts or telling any other mother what's best for her and her baby (only you know), can we at least recognize that it doesn't come easily to everyone? Actually, for a lot of us, it's the f*cking worst.
When I was pregnant with my son, I had every intention of breastfeeding him for at least his first year. I wanted so desperately to be one of those women who were able to casually nurse their baby in public as if it were as easy as breathing. I wanted to feel that magical bond with my baby boy, knowing that I was the one who created his life and also helped him thrive in his new world. However, what I got was a stark reminder that intentions are often different than reality.
Can we at least recognize that it doesn't come easily to everyone? Actually, for a lot of us, it's the f*cking worst.
Nursing is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, and certainly one of the most consistently painful. Even after meeting with the lactation consultant multiple times, we never got a decent latch. My son fumbled around looking for food, and I, unsure of what to do, couldn't help him find his place.
We resorted to nipple shields, which caused pain so sharp that I can still feel it three years later when I think about it. Beyond the pain, the nipple shield trapped me at home because the last thing I wanted to do in public was whip out my breast to attach it. And no, I was not about to sit in public bathrooms for 25 minutes everywhere I went.
We spent the next couple of months desperately trying to figure out a rhythm. He'd cry, I'd attach the shields, he'd suck, and I'd hope he would be done for at least a moment so I could get some rest - and then cluster feeding happened. Every half hour, he would let out an insatiable cry that demanded more food from my already-dry breast. I felt deflated and drained in every possible way. Combined with frequent bouts of mastitis, I felt like an awful mother and a complete failure of a woman.
While my experience is personal, I don't think it's unique. Considering that 81 percent of babies are breastfed but only 51 percent of 6-month-olds are nursed, many women stop because they either have to or they want to. I was fortunate enough that I didn't have to factor breastfeeding into my work routine since I was taking an extended maternity leave, but for many women, returning to work is one of the main reasons they stop breastfeeding.
So while breastfeeding might be natural, we need to do better in supporting women who struggle with it. Besides home visits for lactation support and acceptance that women can feed in public, let women voice their frustrations about breastfeeding. I'm so happy for the women who felt like feeding came easy to them, but that doesn't mean my experience was any less valid. Telling women to suck it up and just deal with the pain or switch to formula isn't helpful. Let women vent, listen to their concerns, and acknowledge that even natural experiences can be hard.
This Cozy Sweater Is Under $28 - No Wonder It's Up 73,000% in Sales on Amazon!
There's nothing better than a cute, cozy sweater. No matter the weather, it's always good to have an extra layer on hand, and whether you're heading to yoga or running errands with your family, having something that makes you feel pretty and keeps you warm is never a bad thing. Meet this adorable Bdcoco Women's Tunic Sweatshirt ($27); it's going to be your new best friend. It comes in seven colors, and it's got pockets - any sweater without pockets is a no in our book. The high cowl neck adds some style to your lounge look, plus customers are raving about the super soft, comfortable fabric, so much so that it's up 73,000 percent in sales on Amazon! We didn't even know that was possible. The only thing we need help with is deciding whether to get the black or the burgundy.
Accio, Wallet! These Adorable Onesies Will Put Your Baby on the Fast Track to Hogwarts
Any tried and true Harry Potter fan knows the importance of getting more wizards into Dumbledore's army. What better place to start than your mini me? And while your little ones probably can't wrap their hands around a wand or climb atop a Nimbus 3000 just yet, they can certainly look the part. So why not get them started early with some sweet Hogwarts-inspired products.
If you're in the market for some adorable baby clothes with a magical flair that even Snape would give two thumbs up, look no further. We're rounded up a boatload of adorable onesies that are great options for a stroll in the park with Mom and Dad or for nap time. Scroll through to get a peek at some of the sweetest duds Potterheads should add to their carts ASAP.
How Cute Are These Back-to-School Supplies?!
When you're gearing up to go back to school, you shouldn't have to sacrifice your style. Shopping for school supplies is actually really fun, and now there are so many cute notebooks, pens, and planners to buy! We've rounded up a few of our favorite cute school supplies that will let your personality shine through. Just keep reading to shop our picks!
13 Family Halloween Costumes That Will Make You Say, "Dang, I Wish I'd Thought of That!"
Although getting the house decorated for Halloween and doling out tons of goodies to trick-or-treaters are some of our favorite parts of All Hallows' Eve, every Halloween enthusiast worth their weight in candy knows that finding an original costume is the real challenge. But you know what can earn you extra bonus points at your spooky soirée? Coming up with the perfect family costume.
So whether you're angling to dress up like characters from your squad's favorite movie or you're hell-bent on doing something truly unique, there's definitely strength in numbers. Scroll through to get a peek at family getups that will be all the rage this year.
22 Hocus Pocus Party Details That Will Put a Spell on Absolutely Everyone
Hocus Pocus first hit theaters all the way back in 1993, but despite it being an old-school favorite, new generations fall in love with the Sanderson sisters every year thanks to reruns (we already can't wait to watch it numerous times during Freeform's 31 Nights of Halloween). But even if you don't live in Salem, you can still transform your living room into the spooky and historic town for your kids' Halloween party or birthday party (no matter what time of year it is). From the sisters' signature hairstyles to movie quote posters, there are so many fun details from the movie you can add to your party decor to put a spell on your guests (just try to avoid lighting the Black Flame Candle). We wouldn't want the sisters to actually come back, now would we?
Jennifer Aniston on the BS Assumption That Childless Women Are "Damaged Goods"
Jennifer Aniston is tired of reading about her life through salacious, untrue headlines on the front covers of tabloids, though she's gotten better at laughing it all off and focusing on more important things. In an interview for InStyle with Jimmy Kimmel's wife, Molly McNearney, the 49-year-old actress set the record straight over assumptions that she's "sad and heartbroken" because she's divorced and childless and wants everyone to know that she's perfectly happy choosing to focus on "my work, my friends, my animals, and how we can make the world a better place."
"First, with all due respect, I'm not heartbroken . . . Maybe my purpose on this planet isn't to procreate."
"The misconceptions are 'Jen can't keep a man,' and 'Jen refuses to have a baby because she's selfish and committed to her career.' Or that I'm sad and heartbroken," Jennifer said. "First, with all due respect, I'm not heartbroken. And second, those are reckless assumptions. No one knows what's going on behind closed doors. No one considers how sensitive that might be for my partner and me. They don't know what I've been through medically or emotionally. There is a pressure on women to be mothers, and if they are not, then they're deemed damaged goods. Maybe my purpose on this planet isn't to procreate. Maybe I have other things I'm supposed to do?"
However, that's not to say that there aren't kids out there buying Mother's Day gifts for the actress, who admits her dogs are her kids. Molly said that Jennifer is "so genuinely invested" in her friends' kids that they buy her gifts for the May holiday. "You also have a home that kids want to go to. You have really mastered hosting families at your house," Molly said. Jennifer responded, speaking of Molly and Jimmy's kids: "I love those rascals. Also, they're good kids. I have to say, we're lucky. There's not one kid in the group where you think, 'That little brat.'"
In a larger part of the pair's conversation touching on the scrutiny and sexism women face, Jennifer had one thing to say: "F that."
"Women are picked apart and pitted against one another based on looks and clothing and superficial stuff," she said. "When a couple breaks up in Hollywood, it's the woman who is scorned. The woman is left sad and alone. She's the failure. F that. When was the last time you read about a divorced, childless man referred to as a spinster?"
Preach, lady.
1 Mom on Unplanned Pregnancy: "No One Teaches You How to Love a Child You Didn't Plan to Have"
Olivyah Bowens, a 23-year-old mom and doula from Puerto Rico, loves her 2-year-old daughter, Ozara, more than anything. As a woman who takes her role as a mother very seriously, she decided to open up about the challenges that come with having an unplanned pregnancy in a now-viral Instagram post - and her experience is extremely eye-opening.
"No one teaches you how to love a child you didn't plan to have," she wrote. "No one shows you how to traverse the emotional complexity of loving a child you weren't happy about being pregnant with. It's even more difficult at those times when they're having tantrums and pushing you to a point of emotional exhaustion. It's confusing."
She admits that breaking the news to her family was an emotional gauntlet that was hard to navigate. It's poignent and thought-provoking.
"When the same people who told you that you pretty much ruined your life are smiling ear to ear at your baby shower a few months later," she said. "It's hard. Looking at a beautiful baby and being bogged down by the thoughts of how you will take care of them and how much life will change."
"I don't enjoy being a mother all the time, but this child has been the catalyst for major growth."
For Olivyah, having an unplanned pregnancy was an introspective experience. She admits that sometimes she can't help but see her own reflection in her daughter's eyes.
"To project the pain of your wounded inner child onto your baby. It is the lethal cycle of trauma," she confessed. "This stage of motherhood has forced me to look at my reflection in my daughter's eyes and realize that no I don't enjoy being a mother all the time, but this child has been the catalyst for major growth. She is the mirror that allows me to look into my past and see the fears still controlling me now."
But despite the fact that being a mom is undoubtedly hard, Olivyah admits that embarking on her parenthood journey has helped her heal emotionally.
"When we heal our deepest pains we are speaking to our ancestors across the space time illusion and holding a cross-generational conversation within our DNA that heals old wounds and rectifies long lost problems," she explained. "Motherhood hasn't just healed me it's healed the mother's that came before me."
Still, she has her hard days. After all, taking care of a child 24/7 isn't exactly for the faint of heart - just look at the photo. "The reality is I don't want to be a mother every day," said Olivyah. "I don't want to feel held back from chasing my dreams and goals. I don't want to be exhausted. But I KNOW this little girl has brought me face to face with things that would have otherwise been ignored in my bubble of childless freedom."
Olivyah left women who are going through a similar experience with a bit of advice that's worth jotting down.
"Dear mama who is going through an unplanned pregnancy, don't feel guilty, don't feel afraid, don't feel ashamed," she said. "That baby chose YOU to be its mothers at the perfect time. Surrender to the journey of unpredictability and let this new being show you a whole new part of yourself you didn't know was there."
Jennifer Lopez Shares the Only Bit of "Advice" New Moms ACTUALLY Need
Jennifer Lopez offered her two cents on how people can support new moms, and wow, she absolutely nailed it. The singer was asked whether she had any advice to share with new mom Cardi B, and J Lo got real about what mothers actually need. "My advice to anybody is not give advice to new moms. Nobody likes it," she said. "When I was pregnant and everybody was like, 'This and that,' I'm like, 'Please just stop telling me all these things . . . I kind of want to figure it out on my own. I know I'm not gonna be perfect but let me just do me . . .' Everybody has so much advice for you."
So what can you do to help new moms? Pamper them! Jennifer brought up her time working with Cardi B, saying: "See if she needs anything. 'Do you need water?' Like, when we were doing the video, she was preggies, and I was just like, 'Are you good? Do you want to sit down?' That's what they need! They need a little pampering. Take care of them. No advice." Well put, J Lo.
13 Not-So-Scary Halloween Activities Your Toddler Will Adore
When you're a parent, you get to rediscover the innocent fun of Halloween all over again with your kids. From jack-o'-lanterns to candy to witches and spells, everything about it makes for an exciting holiday, even for the youngest of toddlers. And the wonderful thing about celebrating the spooky day (and, let's be honest, month) with toddlers is that every activity can blow their minds. They marvel at the little things that we sometimes take for granted, like making cookies, pretending to be superheroes, and and giving a pumpkin a toothy grin. You can help them celebrate all season long by doing any of the following activities together (yes, you get to be a kid again, too!). Keep reading to see them all now, but be warned: they might put a spell on you.
If You Think You're Living Your Best Life, Wait Till You See Halsey in Her Pink Bikini
It's a widely known fact that anytime Halsey slips into swimwear, the planet goes up by a few degrees. And if you were feeling a little flushed as of late, you might want to reach for a nearby fan before you witness the musician's latest bikinigram. Her off-duty beach style of choice? An impossibly sweet and sexy sugar-pink bikini, paired with a wig and sunglasses of the same candy-colored hue.
While her ab-baring Fourth of July bikini had us convinced that white was her color, we're now swaying toward this unforgettably sexy pastel moment. Read on to see exactly why Halsey captioned the image "pink wig, thick ass, give em whiplash" (she wasn't lying), then shop similar styles for your own closet.
If You Have a Faint Heart, Steer Clear of Rita Ora's Effortlessly Sexy Bikini Snaps
It should come as no surprise that Rita Ora sizzles when in swimwear, but we thought we'd provide you with a warning anyway - her selection of snaps are that hot. Don't stress though, we'll ease you into it.
Let's start with the time she wore a teeny-weeny yellow bikini that had us investing in the exact hue, then take a few minutes for her bold hair-matching swimwear. And if you're feeling ready, inhale deeply, and eye up her high-cut striped one-piece.
Great news: you've passed the test! Now, throw a few ice cubes in that water, because you're going to be breaking a sweat - then read on for all the times Miss Ora slipped into swimwear.
I Finally Found the Perfect Pair of Jeans That's Making Me Give Up Skinnies For Good
For as long as I can remember, I always resorted to skinny jeans. Getting dressed every day used to consist of jumping into the skintight pairs, pushing in one butt cheek at a time. It really started to get old. After seeing cool, straight leg jeans everywhere this season, I was determined to find my perfect match. I discovered these Levi's Wedgie High Waist Straight Jeans ($98) earlier this year and now own them in three different washes.
The search for these Levi's was easier said than done though. I spent so much time shopping for that cool vintage pair, but every time I tried ones on they were so small and never fit my body right. Feeling discouraged, I gave up my search and thought maybe they just aren't for me. Months later I found myself at a Levi's event and a stylist encouraged me to try some pairs on. I insisted that they never worked for me. I was then informed that for this style, I should size up two sizes. I was resistant because I had never been that size in my life. I trusted him and tried them on and to my surprise, they fit perfect, like a glove. I purchased them immediately.
Over the next few weeks, I wore them more and more. I was realizing that I was fading out all my skinny jeans. I then went on to buy a black and also light wash. I love wearing my dark ones with heels and a leather jacket when I go out at night. My lighter washes are ideal for work or weekends when I'm just relaxing with friends. The high-waist silhouette makes it easy to pair with a sexy crop top or just a cozy tee.
Not only are they more comfortable then any other jeans I've ever owned, but I love the way they look and make me feel. For less than $100, I can't stop buying them. Try it out for yourself.
11 Chic Pants That Will Make You Trade in Your Uncomfortable Jeans Once and For All
When it comes to dressing for comfort, there's one fashion must have we always turn to: pants. You won't have to sacrifice on style, either, because these versatile pieces come in variety of styles, shapes, colors . . . the list is endless. Made with soft and stretchy materials, they beat sitting around in tight jeans all day. Need more convincing? We shopped and rounded up the best picks of 2018, so all you have to do is grab your wallet and click buy. From sleek work trousers to sexy leopard-print pairs for date night, you won't be disappointed. Keep scrolling to check out our favorites.
40 Hijab Halloween Costumes That Are Cute, Cool, and Perfectly Modest
When it comes to finding the perfect Halloween costume, Instagram can serve as a great source of inspiration - especially if you're a woman who chooses to wear a hijab. If the plan is to celebrate with something stylish yet modest, we found no shortage of ideas, from Disney princesses to Wednesday Addams to evil Minions and even Harry Potter. Get ready to flex those creative muscles and wow everyone come Oct. 31 once you get a good look at the 40 photos ahead.
Kendall Jenner's Heels Make It Really Hard to Avoid the Obvious "It's Lit" Pun
Kendall Jenner walked on fire without breaking a sweat. The 22-year-old model recently filmed an interview for Keeping Up With the Kardashians wearing an Adidas Originals by Alexander Wang cycling jersey and Off-White jeans. The cornerstone of Kendall's sporty outfit, however, were her hot Prada wedges that had flames jutting out at the back.
While several footwear brands have improved upon the flame print - having any flashbacks to the slip-on Vans of your youth? - Prada has in the past experimented with more three-dimensional flame heels, most notably with the brand's Spring 2012 collection. Kendall would have still been a teenager at the time, so we're glad the flame heels are back for a whole new generation of trend-makers.
Sisters Everywhere Will Relate to Princess Eugenie and Princess Beatrice Fighting Over Shoes
Members of the British royal family very rarely give interviews, but princesses Eugenie and Beatrice recently made an exception. When asked if they would agree to be part of the September 2018 issue of British Vogue, the sisters said yes - but then again, who wouldn't?
As Eugenie is getting ready to tie the knot with Jack Brooksbank and Beatrice is about to turn 30, they thought it would be the right time to share what it's like to be 20-something working women who also happen to be princesses. "It's hard to navigate situations like these because there is no precedent, there is no protocol," Beatrice explained. "We are the first: we are young women trying to build careers and have personal lives, and we're also princesses and doing all of this in the public eye."
Of course, the young royals have always been in the spotlight, but it's safe to say that people are more and more interested in their unusual, protocol-led life. Eugenie and Beatrice, however, seem to be just like everyone else, even occasionally feeling overwhelmed by the ever-growing and ever-changing world of social media. "It's so easy to recoil when you see a perfect image, but it's important that it's real. We're real," explained Eugenie, who officially joined Instagram in March.
But social media isn't the only thing that we all have in common with the princesses. While Eugenie and Beatrice are exceptionally close, the two did admit to the odd argument - and sisters everywhere will be able to relate to this fashion issue: "One of the biggest fights we ever had was about a pair of Converse trainers," Beatrice joked. "We have the same size feet and both of us had identical pairs. One pair got trashed and the other sister may have swapped them."
While we'll probably never know who was responsible for the "trashed" sneakers, read on to have a look at the pair that might have been the subject of the fight, as well as some of Beatrice and Eugenie's most fashionable sisterly moments.
Complete Your Fall Wardrobe With These 19 Pieces Under $100 - We Dare You
Just when we thought we couldn't love Urban Outfitters more, we discovered its Fall clothes. The trendy retailer carries so many fun shoes, eye shadow palettes, and even stylish decor items, but its clothes are what we want to buy right now. As you start prepping your perfect seasonal wardrobe, make sure to do it on a budget so you can get everything you want. We made it easy and rounded up 19 perfect pieces that you can mix and match with all your favorites. From leopard-print picks to mini bags and cozy sweaters, you're going to want it all. Take a look.
Burberry Has Been Rebranded For the First Time in 20 Years, and You'll Love the New Monogram
It's official: Burberry has a new identity. On Aug. 2, Riccardo Tisci took to his Instagram to unveil the brand's new logo and monogram, which features founder Thomas Burberry's initials "TB" interlocked across a honey-colored background. The move marks the first time the British brand has changed its logo in almost 20 years, the previous one having been designed by Fabien Baron in 1999. The move comes five months after Tisci replaced Christopher Bailey as Burberry's chief creative office.
As explained by the 44-year-old designer - who shared the news with email screenshots - the new design was inspired by "a logo from 1908 and a Thomas Burberry monogram," which he saw during a visit to the house's archive. He worked on the new style with Peter Saville, a renowned British art director and graphic designer who most recently worked for Calvin Klein under Raf Simons. As we wait to see more of Burberry's new look, read on to get a closer look at how it all came together.
15 Sale Items From Topshop That Will Have You Running For Your Wallet - They're That Good!
We would need an entire journal to list the number of reasons we're obsessed with Topshop. The trendy retailer carries everything from sexy swimsuits to chic shoes and superflattering denim, and we just can't get enough. You can even shop it at Nordstrom, which is hosting its major Anniversary Sale right now. The sale starts on July 20 and runs through August 5.
To our delight, Topshop is included in the amazing markdowns and we're ready to seriously shop. Even though we're in the midst of the heat, its latest collection is already getting us excited for Fall. Stock up on your coats, sweaters, and more while they're all on sale. We have a feeling things will sell out fast, so don't wait too long. Take a look.
This Blogger Created a Stylish-as-Hell Swimsuit Line Because "They Didn't Make It in My Size"
Chances are you've probably seen Katie Sturino of The 12ish Style on Instagram. The fashion blogger is a proud advocate of body positivity, and she's teaming up with swimsuit designer Bruna Malucelli for a swimwear line that celebrates women of all shapes and sizes. The collection will be available exclusively at CoEdition - an online retailer for sizes 10 to 26 - and it perfectly encapsulates Katie's playful personality.
We chatted with Katie to learn why it was important for her to create this collection. "I wanted to create suits that do not look specifically like they were made for a plus-size woman . . . 'I loved that suit in the magazine, but they didn't make it in my size.' Story of my life!"
The lineup includes nine colorful bikinis and one-pieces that retail for $229. Want to know the best part about this 'grammable collection? You can monogram your name or social handle on the pieces at no extra cost! Keep scrolling to read more from our interview with Katie, and shop the swimwear line ahead.
Wide Feet? No Problem, These 17 Comfortable Shoes Were Made For You
The struggle of finding the perfect pair of shoes is never-ending, especially when you have wide feet. This season, make sure you pick up ones that you actually love and won't be dying to take off at the end of the day. In an effort to make your shopping experience more seamless, we did the hard work and browsed for you. From knee-high boots with a wider calf to chic flats and seriously sexy heels, you don't have to sacrifice on style or comfort. Ahead, you'll find 17 choices that you can mix and match with everything you already own. Take a look.
Bella Hadid's Sexy Jersey Dress Will Make You Wonder Why You've Never Worn 1 Before
Bella Hadid may have just found the perfect transitional outfit. For a night out in New York City celebrating her friend's birthday, the 21-year-old model stepped out in a short, long-sleeved sweatshirt dress by Tommy Hilfiger, which perfectly showed off her toned legs. She finished her simple outfit with silver earrings, a little red handbag, and a pair of mesh mules.
Thanks to the heavier fabric, colors, and oversize fit of her athleisure piece, Bella found a way of injecting some Fall vibes into her summery outfit, almost making us wish for the arrival of the new season. Ahead, get a closer look at Bella's stylish ensemble, then shop similar dresses for yourself.
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