jeudi 18 février 2016
4 Telltale Signs Your Significant Other Is Now Just Your Roommate
The following post was originally featured on Love Sujeiry and written by Sujeiry Gonzalez, who is part of POPSUGAR Select Latina.
Moving in together is one of the biggest relationship milestones. And it changes everything. You're sharing a space together. Your things are now "our" things. You can't just come and go as you please. It's the epitome of "me" versus "we," and "we" must be the priority.
Hopefully, you adjust to life together and find a good balance between romance, partnership and individuality. This way the romance doesn't burn out. If there is a lack of balance, arguments and emotional distance ensue. Soon, your lover feels more like your roommate.
How can you tell if your no longer in love or even in lust? Here are four signs that point to this detrimental relationship shift.
You Feel Alone Even When He's at Home
You are sitting next to each other but there is tension. You don't even eat dinner together or chill! You hardly talk and sit at opposite ends of the couch most of the time.
He Is No Longer Affectionate
Unless you don't like or need sweet caresses, a lack of affection is a red flag in any relationship. That's especially the case if you live with someone and you don't even kiss each other good morning. Couples set routines for affection, like saying "I love you" before bedtime or texting sweet messages throughout the day. If you have both stopped doing all of these things (especially saying "I love you"), this is the beginning of the end.
You Sleep in Separate Beds or Rooms
Sleeping together builds intimacy. That's when pillow talk occurs and you can express your feelings. If he sleeps in the guest room, chances are your relationship is strained. Sure, people get mad and sleep in different rooms, but this shouldn't be the norm. Neither of you should prefer to fall asleep on the living room couch.
You Don't Have Sex
If you're not having sex with your man and you have no interest in sex with him (or vice versa), your relationship is on its last leg. Sex and intimacy are what separates a romantic relationship from a friendship. At this point, he's pretty much there to help you pay the rent or mortgage.
If any of these signs ring true, get help. Talk to a therapist or a counselor at church. Just do something. If you don't, "we" will become "me" for good.
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